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i have a really good friend but i'm not sure if she is interested in our friendship anymore. i'll call her and ask her to hang out and she almost never calls back. I don't know what to do and if i should be mad or confront her or whatever. it hurts my feelings a lot... what should I do? thank u so much
-jane-
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I don't like the word confrontation, as for me it conjours up images of yelling matches and somebody slamming the phone down with nothing resolved. You don't want to storm in and make an accusation that will just get her riled up and defensive. You do however need to talk to her. If you are upset and value your friendship, then simply, you need to do something about it, and an honest discussion is the best way to go. You do however have to be careful not to make lots of sweeping generalisations ("You never call me!") and accusations which will put her on the defensive. Explain to her gently that you would like to talk to her, because you are feeling hurt because you feel you make more effort with your friendship than she does. Give her a chance to talk and explain and voice any concerns of her own, and hopefully you should sort it out. Good luck.
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