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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Alright, so me and my boyfriend have been into it last night and pretty much all of today. The thing is, I think I really get jealous too easy when he talks to other girls. Heres the thing. It may be long, but I need help. Alright he kinda cheated (what I consider cheating) on me with some girl at his church and I asked him last night if he had talked to her since we had gotten into it about that. He said that last SUnday she asked him a question in front of the sunday school class, and he didnt want to seem like an asshole to everyone, so he just answered her and carried on a conversation. The thing is, I just wanna know if I have a reason to be mad about that. Part of me just wants to think he was just being nice, but then again, why wouldnt he just ignore her or say "why do you care?" I really need help... and I rate 5s! Thanx


On the one hand, you need to be honest with both him and yourself about how you feel. If something like this bugs you, you can't pretend it doesn't. However, I think perhaps you should take a step back and try to look at it more objectively. Your boyfriend is at least being very honest with you, even when he knows that you aren't going to be pleased. That's a good thing, which shows that he respects you. It would have been very easy for him to just shrug it off and say "no, we haven't spoken", but he was honest and explained the circumstances to you. As an objective bystander, it also seems his explantion is reasonable. He's respecting your wishes about not talking to her generally, but when it couldn't be helped was polite but no more than that, and then was honest about what happened to you when you asked.

Talk to your boyfriend honestly about how you feel. If you can be honest with each other, you can agree together how you think it would be reasonable to deal with this girl given the past. Good luck.

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Thanks~ that really helped me out a lot with the situation. I realize that it isnt the worst thing he could do and your advice made realize that I should be happy that he was being honest with me and I respect him all the more for it!! Thanks a ton!
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