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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Ok..Im 13 ((almost 14))..and Im 5 foot 10 inches and like REALLY skinny..Is being tall like a turn off to guy..

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A turn off? No. If you are tall and slim then you undoubtedly have a figure that many men find very attractive. You may however find that some men, particularly at your age group when boys are typically quite insecure about their own bodies, find you intimidating because of your height, particularly if you are taller than they are. They may well fear that they would look foolish standing next to your or dancing with you, and this may make them reluctant to be as forward with you as they otherwise would be.

This is naturally difficult to deal with, and to a certain extent can only really be remedied with time and guys growing up and becoming more secure. For the time being you may have to deal with immaturity, but you must learn to ignore these people and focus on the positive, such as your lean figure and the type of clothes that your height allows you to carry off. Having confidence in your own skin and holding your head high will let your natural attractiveness shine through. There may be a few intimidated by your height, but if you are happy and confident in yourself there will be many who will see past this one small part of you. The best thing to do is to learn to love your body as it is. Don't assume or fear that guys won't be attracted to you because you are tall, as this can become a self-fulfilling prophecy. Instead be confident, smile, and never ever slouch, as this will make you look closed and unapproachable.

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thanks..that was a BIG boast in confidence!
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