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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



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well i have this friend who i really really like..well we've dated before..and everytime i try to open up to him it seems like he pushes me away..i always tell him i want to tell the guy i like that i like him..yet he know that i'm really talking about him..and everytime he always says go for it and tell him how you feel what do you have to lose..i always say well he hates me and he'll always say "who could hate you?"..yet i still think he does..and i want to know if he feels the same way about me as i feel about him..what can i do? i really need help on this one..it's very hard. please help!

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You need to talk to him openly or you'll never really know if you are understanding each other on the same level. You say he must know your talking about him when you mention this guy you like, but there's a chance he doesn't or doesn't know how else to respond than "tell him you like him" because he's not sure if you are talking about him or somebody else.

Be plain with him. Avoiding overwhelming him by gushing that you really really like him, just put your cards on the table and say you'd like to go on a date with him. You say he pushes you away sometimes, so raise the subject gentley and be prepared for the possibility that he might be suprised that you have feelings for him and need some time to think things through.

Good luck.

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thanks for the advice



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