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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Today during school, I realized one of my "Not friend/Not enemy" was wearing a unflattering shirt. It is one of those shirts that mothers wear when they are pregnant, so naturally it made her look pregnant as well. I happen to be sitting in class when I noticed this and said it out loud. I knew people heard me because they laughed when they realized it too. I specifically told one person in the day and she laughed and said hah yeah she does. Later in the day, I found out that person I told, told her. I'm pretty upset. Not like I care if my "Not friend" doesn't like me, I just kinda of hate having people mad at me, you know? Should I be upset? Not RAWR upset, just not happy about it


If you are annoyed with the girl you told for telling other people, have a quick word with her. You honestly can't take the moral highround and tell her off for spreading rumours, but you can be honest and say your comment wasn't meant to be taken seriously or to get back to the girl, and that if you make a similar comment in future, she should understand that it is just a comment, and not something that should go further than that.

As for the girl in the unflattering top, it might be worth apologising to her if you feel bad about your comment getting back to her. Don't make a big deal out of it, just be honest and say that you know it wasn't a nice thing to say, but it wasn't supposed to be a bitchy thing or something that you intended to be spread around. She probably still won't be delighted with you, but at least you will have stood up and taken responsibility for your actions. Good luck.

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wow- thanks a lot..



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