Okay, I was at this party last night and it was with a bunch of my guyfriends/friends. The thing is, my boyfriend was with me. These two guyfriends of mine are particularly touchy-feely types, and they like to pick me up and toss me around and all that...I'm small, lol. This one guy, Aaron, dipped me back like he was about to kiss me, and my boyfriend was glaring daggers at him. He was doing that to both Aaron and Kevin through the whole night. He already doesn't like Kevin because he's my ex, but I think he dislikes him more now. My boyfriend isn't usually the jealous type. I talked to both guys and told them to lay off with the touching me, and I told my boy that it doesn't mean a thing, that they're just my friends and they've always done that to me, but I don't think it helped.
Okay, basically, what I'm asking is, is there anything I can tell him besides what I've already said to make my boyfriend stop with the jealousy?
On the one hand, it's good to keep reassuring your boyfriend. However, it is possibly to over-egg the point, as if he already feeling jealous, he might read in to your keeping mentioning it as meaning that there is, in fact, something going on there. It's a case of balance - if he still seems annoyed and jealous, reassure him some more about how they do it to everyone, and it is just a friendly thing, and have another word with your friends without him there about toning it down in future. If he seems to be over it, then don't mention it again, but if a similar situation arises, when your friends are being a bit too touchy-feely for his tastes, any time they are being over the top return to your boyfriend and give him a hug or a kiss to subtly reassure him that, although they do play about with you, he's the only one who's your boyfriend and gets you that way.
Good luck!
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