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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Hey there's this sophmore girl that I like... she's going to be 17 in Jan... (I'm a 14 yr. old freshman male) well anyways we've hung out and stuff, and with our other friend, but yeah I guess I kind of like her... and my friend was speaking to her and then I said what and then she's like oh... well I would probably like you if you we're older than me... and I was like oh... ok and I was kind of sad... I mean she just like told me this out of the blue haha... but anyways, my question is how can I get her to like me more??



To be absolutely honest, there's a lot of difference between the maturity of a 14 year old and a 16 year old. This girl probably doesn't want to date somebody who's much younger and presumably less mature than her. You can either accept that and move on, or try and show her that, although you are young, you aren't immature. One assumes that this girl finds you sufficiently mature to be on the same level as her as a friend, so perhaps you don't have to convince her of all that much to convince her you could be boyfriend material. Don't attempt to act like you are much older than you are, but just try to be chilled and generally on top of things and hopefully she'll see the older guy inside of you. Good luck!

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