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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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Gender: Female
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Age: 21
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ok heres my story...

My boyfriend and i just broke up on Saturday. I talked to his brother and he told me that he doesnt want to be with me and he doesnt like me. Yesterday io tried calling his mom and no one answered. Well i found out y. They have caller ID and knew i was calling. No one answered. What dod i do? He doesnt even want to be friends with me or talk to me. All weekend i knew something was going to go wrong. Well something did go wrong. I lost my baby. I seriously can Not live without him. I miss him so much. I tried talking to him about it but he said just recently he stopped liking me. He didnt dump me becuause he didnt want to hurt me. Grrr... What am i supposed to do? Yesterday i went spotting with my friend and when i ccame home everyone IMed me on aol and told me they were pissed at me. I have no clue y tho. Can you plz help me??



Do you really want to be with somebody who doesn't want to be with you? It's never going to go anywhere if he doesn't feel the same way as you do. As sad as that is when you still have strong feelings for him, you shouldn't dwell on it. Leave him be and concentrate on yourself and enjoying yourself without him. Maybe at some point he'll change his mind, but unless that happens there really isn't anything you can do. Even if you could somehow manipulate him into getting back together, such a relationship would be shallow and meaningless if he didn't have real feelings for you. There are much better guys out there who will be ready to treat you with more respect - I suggest you try and find one of those instead of concentrating so much on your ex. Good luck.

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thanx you've really helped me...



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