Bare with me, this could be long. Ok well it starts off about 3 years ago, I was involved in a roll over car accident and it knocked out 2 of my teeth because i wasn't wearing a seat belt, and I was partially ejected from the car and i was stuck and yadda yadda yadda, it was horrible, and it screwed up my knee so now i've had 2 sugerys no my knee, the last one puts me in a leg brace. Anywho, Then earlier this year, i was involved in another accident(yea i know, if i didn't have bad luck i'd have no luck at all) where the driver and I and all the other passengers were looking at a murder scene when we smashed into the back of a cadillac and the airbags were deployed, and my foot was screwd up so i missed like 3 days of school, blah blah blah, so now it being early october and all this happend 3 years ago and the other one happend near the end of last year, like a year ago. So now we get to my problem. Now whenever I get into a car, I start freaking out because i think what would happen if the driver were not paying attention, so every time I see brake lights, I grab onto something and start to make noises, not quite a scream, and stuff like that, so i was wondering if that was normal after things like that have happend to me?, oh yea, by the way, my dad like to scare the crap at me by going full speed towards a wall, then my whole family laughs as i try to keep the tears in, but i dont want u guys to feel sorry for me, anywho, i was wondering if you guys think i sould seek therapy or something to get over this problem? Because these incedents have made me never want to drive. Should i try to get over my fear by seeking therapy, that is what im asking, if you could help me it would mean alot to me and i will rate you high if i like your advice, thanks in advance
Your reaction to these traumatic accidens sounds perfectly normal to me. It's normal and completly understandable to feel shaken and frigtened by a traumatic event such as an accident even years afterwards. Therapy would undoubtedly help you to come to terms with what happened and become better at managing your fears. If this is an option for you, I would recommend exploring it. Therapy isn't an instant cute for anything, but it may well help you.
The way your family respond to your phobia is deeply insensitive, and this is something that needs to be combatted. Talk to the most sensitive member of your family about how the "jokes" your father play frigten and upset you. It's easier to talk to your dad when you have somebody who understands your viewpoint with you for emotional support as you talk about it.
I'm sure you will eventually overcome your fear, but I wish you luck for the process, as it may well be a tough ride.
ETA: In response to your feedback - no, I don't know what's best for you. I don't claim to. I merely offer advice based on the information you've given me. I don't quite understand what was so offensive about my answer.
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wtf, i don't think you know whats best for me
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