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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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My friend Harmony is always telling me that I need to let God into my life and look to him as a source of comfort. I believe that God exists, but I have doubts about whether he really cares or not. I feel like she trying to force me to believe like she does. I respect the fact that she is strong in her faith, but I don't neccesarily want to talk about it with her. She gets really offended when I say something that she doesn't think is right. When I told her that I didn't want her to tell me to go to God for guidance, she got angry and told me that at least she knew that she couldn't be open with me anymore. Am I wrong for asking her to not talk about this? How to I tell her that I would rather not talk about God without offending her?



It sounds like you have a very mature and sensible attitude. Faith is very personal, and you need to disccover and explore your relationship with God yourself. Questioning your faith and exploring your religious beliefs are good things. This may be tough to explain to your friend, but be firm with her the next time the topic arises: tell her that you respect her faith, but she needs to respect yours too, even if it is different. If she can't respect your beliefs, then perhaps you aren't destined to be friends. After you've had this discussion, then tell her (again, be firm) that seeing as talking about God seems to cause a lot of friction, perhaps you shouldn't talk about it. Good luck!

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That's a great idea. Faith is very personal and she makes me feel like I'm wrong for questioning God. Hopefully if I say what you said she will understand. Thanks!



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