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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



I am very busy at the moment, attempting to fund my life as a postgraduate (that's grad school to the Americans). I do still stop by quite a lot to help out with the admin stuff, but my column is pretty lame and inactive. Boo-hiss. I will however still endeavour to answer any questions that are sent my way, so feel free to send questions to my inbox.





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i have this one friend of mine who whenever other people are around, especially guys, she gets really obnoxious. She become loud and annoying trying to be the center of attention. She put on her annoying girly act, and its just frustrating because she never acts this way when its just me. How can i show her obnoxious she's being without her screaming at me?


If you think she's likely to overreact about you confronting her directly (e.g. "You know, you're really very different around guys") then you could try starting a conversation on the topic where she ends up talking about it and therefore thinking about it for herself. You could ask her what she thinks guys like in general, or what they like in her. If she says something about her bubbly, confident personality, you could then use this as a way in to discuss what annoys you about the way she behaves. Tell her you wonder if sometimes being loud is overwhelming for guys, and that your real personality is probably even more attractive. Hopefully this will make her think about her behaviour around guys without her feeling like she's being accused of something (which will make her defensive). Good luck!

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thank ytou so much your advice actually makes alot of sense and it sounds liek a good way of telling her w/o her getting mad but also to be able to express my feelings to her. thanks so much!
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