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Did you ever wake up and wonder when your life became a soap opera? A bizzare mixture between 'Dawson's Creek' and 'Days of our Lives'?



I know I've had that feeling - that it's just all too dramatic and ridiculous, and wouldn't it be nice to go and under a nicely-furnished rock for a while? So, whilst I do not promise or claim to be an expert on how teenage boys minds work or how you can uncode your best friend's baffling behaviour, I'll always attempt to empathise and offer some honest words of advice.



I am 21, with a fairly dysfunctional life as a artsy student type. I've recently graduated with a degree in Philosophy, and am spending time working in the law before returning to university for further study. I still don't know what I want to do with my life, but I like where I am at the moment. I like shoes, bad television, chocolate cheescake and pretty things.



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my friend pat just told me my friend jessica hates me. she hates me cuz i told pat something she did while she was sleeping over my house. well pat says she was so mad she was swearing and stuff. i feel really bad and want to call and say sorry but pat says she will probably yell at me and hang up. whenever jessica and i have fights they are usually easily resolved, and im hoping pat is exaggerating, he does a lot. im mad that pat told jessica he knew, but i know im mostly to blame. so what should i do now? please help me, i hate losing friends :(



Apologising is best, even if you don't think Jessica will take it well immediately. You need to show your friends that you are genuinely sorry rather than just sorry that she found out. Hopefully in time Jessica will see that you ae remorseful and will value your friendship once again.

It's also worth examining how this managed to happen. You told a friend (Pat) about what another friend (Jessica) did, an action Jessica obviously thought was a betrayal of trust. Ask yourself some questions: has this happened before? Has it caused probolems before? Would you be annoyed if another friend did the same to you? etc. Hopefully some reflection on your part will help you see where things went wrong, and will stop similar upsets happening in future. I hope you manage to talk successfully with both Jessica and Pat about things. Good luck!

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thnx soo much



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