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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I met this guy 4 years ago. I am in my late 20's and he is in his early 30's. We hit it off. He was everything I was looking for; attractive, charming, sweet, succesful, and loving. 3 months into it he changes into a cocky, disrespectful person. Apparently he had another girlfriend. I suffered as the other woman for almost 3 years. I knew what I needed was to leave, but I didn't. Actually throughout those 3 years, we were on and off. It is now into the 4th year and he has made some changes. I think and feel like he is only seeing me. When we're together, we are deeply in love. We laugh, we enjoy each others company, We are so happy together. And I mean literally "together". He is a very busy guy, so when we're apart...we do not get along. Because I already have trust issues considering he disrespected and cheated in the part, I would think that he would try his hardest to communicate. Of course, he doesnt. Some nights he simply doesnt return my calls. His excuse the next morning is he had a long day and he was tired. I really think that he is not cheating, but I feel like I deserve to be communicated with. Would counseling be worth our time? Is our relationship savageable? I am deeply in love with him. Please help.

If this guy has cheated before, what makes you think he won't do it again? Just because he acts like he's changed (chances are, he hasn't) doesn't mean that he has and that your relationship is going to be wonderful. In all honesty, you have what I call a relationSHIT. He doesn't call, or make an effort to call. Then when you question it, he makes up some lame excuse. He doesn't even put effort into it. Honestly, the relationship is only good when you're together. I had a boyfriend like that, and after a week I couldn't take it so I told him to fuck off.

Seriously though, once a cheater - always a cheater. Kick him to the curb and go date someone who treats you like a queen. You can do better & you know it. You just settle for shit guys because that's what you only think you can get.

fallout boy - "this aint a scene its a god damn arms race" - i love it, but i dont understand the lyrics...can anyone help me out?

FOB has lyrics that are hard to read. I agree with you there.

Try this:

i have a piece of jewlery that has two G's on it that are crossing like the chanel C's

http://www.piercemattie.com/blogs/chanel.gif

it's not gucci though because those G's cross from the open part of the G. Anyone know what brand this is??

I would search the designer brands. And search their symbols when you know their names.

Well I hooked up with this guy and found out he has a girlfriend the next day so what should I do, what should I say to him? does this make me a slut I feel disguisted with myself that I affilated myself with him.

If you didn't know he had a girlfriend, you can't really consider yourself a slut. That's his fault for leaving something like that out. But then again - he's a guy so of course he'd leave that out because he knows if he doesn't, he'll never get that piece of ass.

Just don't say anything to him. It'll just create unncessary drama & it's not worth it. If you make him mad, he'll probably slander your reputation & cause you tons of problems. Just have better judgement next time.

Alright i know this is a weird question but i really would like to know.

okay so i'm ALWAYS hungrey i dont know why tho
when i'm bored i wanna eat when i'm watching tv
i wanna eat; I ALWAYS WANT TO EAT EVEN IF I JUST GOT DONE EATING. i'm not over weight or anything
i do cheerleading so i stay fit it's just i dont understand why i always want to eat.

if you know the reason why please let me know.
thank you xoxo

You just like eating. That's normal, but try to keep it under control. Only eating because you're bored can lead to weight gain - whether you work out or do sports or not. Don't eat til you can't eat anymore. Eat until you know you're satisfied.

whats so great about the superbowl?

Nothing.

Everyday my crush flirts with one of my friends.Everytime I see them flirting I get so hurt because this boy used to flirt with me before she got here and now Im so mad.I thought this boy liked me but I guess I was wrong.And also he bothers me all the time.But I dont know if he bothers me because he likes me or because he doesnt like me.IM SO CONFUSED!

Honestly, boys are going to flirt whether they like you or not. You can't really get upset over it, even if he is your boyfriend. Boys have the tendency to be flirting and not know it, and since he technically isn't yours, you can't be upset.

He's probably not doing it to piss you off. He probably doesn't even realize he's doing it. Just don't let it bother you. It's not a huge deal and it's way out of your control.

okay. long story. okay. so yesterday "thursday" some kids dared me and this girl to kiss. so we did. and so someone convinced me to tell my b/f. and so did. and he got really pissed. but he "said" he got over it and he wasn't pissed anymore [[yesterday]] so today, i went to this thing after school. and so i got these 3 guys to call him and say "dude, your girlfriend is a really good kisser" and hang up. but i NEVER made out with any of them. and he got really mad. and he left a comment on my profile. it says. "I will never trust you again.You broke my heart.I trusted you with everything now that is shattered.you meant everything to me now you mean nothing i will remember you but hope i will forget.you were my life,but thats now over. I HATE YOU" i don't know if he means it. and i don't feel bad for getting them to call him. but i do feel a little guilty because i hurt him. but i don't really care about him. or i don't want to. because everyone i've ever dared to love has gone. and. i just need to know if i should care. i mean. we've been through alot. and i do think i love him. but i don't want to. i mean. i care. but. what should i do. i don't wanna loose him. i really don't. i can't afford to. i mean. he's been there for me through all my bullshit. and i think i hurt him really badly. and. i really just need to know what to do.
i don't know what to do without him. and i guess i do care. but i dont want to [[sorry for the repitition]] please help. everytime me and him have gotten in a huge fight i started cutting again or i've attempted suicide. i really need him in my life. i can't lose him.

Why don't you feel bad for what you did? Unless [and even if] your boyfriend was being an asshole, there was no reason for you to do the things you did. Cheating is cheating, and stupidity is stupidity. You need to remember that.

Just because everyone you've ever loved has gone away doesn't mean he will. Some people stick around forever, but because of what's happened in the past, you can't write him off as someone who'll do the same. That's making a faulty judgement, and that's bad on your part.

If you need him in your life so bad, my truthful & nonsugarcoated suggestion to you would be to wise up, get your act together & when you apologize - mean it.

How do i put pictures into my myspace captions?

You should probably use Tinypic.com for the pictures considering anywhere else you get the url from, it'll be a long URL and won't fit into the caption slot.

When you get the code, put it into:

I'm completely miserable and pretty much want to die now. I can't stand the winter weather anymore. I can't sleep anymore. I'm really sick with a sore throat and fever that won't go away. Things with my boyfriend which were going perfectly, my family loved him and he was living at my house are totally ruined because my dad walked in on us having sex and kicked him out and he's "not welcome in our home anymore". So things are awkward between me and my whole family and him now. I'm doing badly in school and still fighting with my sister. I hate my job. I'm completely miserable. So should I just say f*** it and like kill myself or something?

I'm sorry to hear this.

Although things are going bad now, they will eventually get better. See a doctor about being sick. Get some bed rest in, and drink lots of fluids & take some medicine. It doesn't have to be a pill, you know.

Try to get extra help after school so you can catch up and get your grades back. Letting your problems at home bother you isn't helping, so you need to suck it up during the day.

Also, I realize being walked on in while you have sex can lead to problems, but you need to talk to your dad. He just doesn't want to picture his daughter having sex, so that's why it bothers him so much. I'd just sit him down and talk to him about it. You don't really have it that bad and you need to consider how good you have it because most people have it much, MUCH worse than you.

am mother of two girls grown up n in love with a boy younger to me he loves me alot n wan to have relation for ever will it stay after he gets married will go mad wit out him am 37 female am from india he loves me vvery much dont wan to leave him.

If you love him, marry him.

look me and my mom fight all the time cuz i back talk her i need help to stop i don't want to drift away from her plez help me asap

Your solution is simple. Don't talk back to her.

When your mom yells at you, listen to her. And when she's done, say what you have to say. If you can get things into good terms by discussing them, you won't have arguments that much, and you won't drift away.

I am a reader. I enjoy reading about drug/alcohol abuse, childhood problems, demented things as my librarian puts it. I have read A Child Called "it" and also The Lost Boy by Dave Peltzer. I have read Crank, Burned, and Impluse by Ellen Hopkins. If you have read those books then you know exactly what I am talking about.
I also like books about vampires.

Any book suggestions?

I'm not sure of the authors, but you'll like books like this:

Breaking Point.
Nothing To Lose.
Define Normal.
Breathing Underwater.
Speak.
Go Ask Alice.

What does "popped the cherry" and "cunt" and "bumblef*ck" mean?

thankss

Popping your cherry is referring to breaking the hymen.

Cunt is just an insult to a woman, but it also means vagina.

And, bumblefuck can be used to refer to a stupid person. But where I'm from, we use that when we're referring to the country, a farm town or the middle of nowhere.

ok so i just found out im pregnant. and im only 15. DONT JUDGE ME I JUST NEED ADVICE.

i have to tell my parents. but i dunno how. any help on that?

also, the father doesnt know im pregnant, either. how can i tell him and my parents?

and please please please dont tell me to get an abortion cause im so against that.

so yeah just gimme advice on how to tell my parents and the father.

I'm not trying to be rude or judgemental, but...

Are you slow? You wanted to TRY sex to see how it would be? Sweetie, that's a bad idea. Don't try sex because you wanna know what it's like. Have sex because you love that person and because you know it's the right decision. Not only that, but you're 15. You're know enough to use protection, so why didn't you? Saying "He didn't have a condom" isn't an excuse. He could've bought one, or the easier solution - don't have sex! There's no way you were ready, and you getting pregnant proves just that.

Anyways, call him one of these days and ask him to come over. Tell him it's important and he needs to brace himself. Then when he gets there, tell him the truth and don't hold back. Discuss every option you can think of with him. I'm also against abortion, and since you knew what you were doing but didn't protect yourself so in all honesty, you should keep it whether you're against abortions or not.

You have two options since you're against abortion:

[A] Have the baby & keep it.
or
[B] Have the baby & give it to a family who needs it.

As to tell your parents...Who is more likely to understand & comfort you? Go to them first so you can conquer the other parent together. Your parents can also help you choose options that'll help you.

You didn't make a wise decision, and I hope you learned your lesson for next time. Use a condom if you're not ready to reproduce.

I'm getting a monkey but i dont' know what kind. which kind is the smalles and stays small?what kind do you recommend? which kind is the nicest if there is one?

If I could have a monkey, I'd get a chimp. They're smart, easy to train & cute.

But I'm not sure they stay small. You might want to research this instead of asking a bunch of teenagers who know just as little about the topic as you do.

http://photobucket.com/mediadetail/?media=http%3A%2F%2Fi236.photobucket.com%2Falbums%2Fff177%2Ferinleighcrowley%2Fgoooodly.jpg&searchTerm=hot%20emo%20guy&pageOffset=14

his pictures are all over the internet :P

His name is Alex Evans, and he's one of the cutest boys I've ever seen.

Google him.

what song has these words in it? and who is it by?

hey dad look at me, sit back and talk to me, did i grow up according to, plan?

i know people look it up on google and stuff, but i don't know what to type in. Please help!!!

It's called PERFECT, and it's by Simple Plan.

im thinking of buying some thongs. do you think they're comfortable?

At first, they're not. But the more you wear them, the more you get used to them, so over time they become comfortable.

How do you make all your pictures on myspace private as in no one can view them not even your friends and so that only the display picture can b viewed when viewing your profile?

Go to edit photos, and it should be in there. It'll ask who you want to see them, so click that no one can see them, not even your friends.

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