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"I need advice on me and my mom
look me and my mom fight all the time cuz i back talk her i need help to stop i don't want to drift away from her plez help me asap
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I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes my mom is just really irritating and it's so tempting to be snarky or sarcastic back to her. You just need to take a deep breath, think about what you're going to say and the consequences of it, and bite your tongue. I know the temptation is there, but it's not worth it in the long run. It might feel good for a few seconds after you say it, but you know your mom is going to get mad at you and you're going to be fighting again. If you just think about what you're going to say before you say it, you can limit yourself.
Good luck!
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Your solution is simple. Don't talk back to her.
When your mom yells at you, listen to her. And when she's done, say what you have to say. If you can get things into good terms by discussing them, you won't have arguments that much, and you won't drift away.
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A LOTof teens fight with their mums. And i cant say to you stop back talking to her because it is one of the hardest things to do when YOU want a say. The way I see it, is you need to see the signs of when a fight is about to accur and stop it. For example, if before the fight, your mum raises her voice, you still need to be calm and talk in a gentle tone. Ask her if you could speak like adults to eachother, and treat eachother like adults.TRY not to argue back. Say what you want to say in your mind. And even if you arent in the wrong, apologize to her to calm the situation. After a fight, go up stairs, breath! Count to ten. Write in a diary or blog! Do something to take your mind off it so you dont hold a grudge. Im sure your mother dosnt want to fight either. So stop everything you can do from making the fight occure just remember to
* keep a gentle tone
* speak in a happy and confident voice
* listen to your mum SHE ONLY WANTS WHATS BEST
*apologize
*Tell her you dont want to fight BECAUSE YOU LOVE HER
hope i helped xx
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Hey,
I'm going through the same exact thing as you are. Sometimes I feel tempted to just say everything that's on my mind just to get her to see things my way. The problem is, is that parent's don't necessarily listen all the time. However, I noticed when I agreed with her and didn't talk back, she was nicer to me the next time [Example: If I wanted to go out to the mall with my friends]. I was recently grounded for 'having an attitude' aka back-talking. The only way to learn is to make your mistakes, and proceed from them.
Message me if you need more help.
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