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I'm Emily
I'm 18 years young
I can be a bit straight forward but it comes from the heart
I'm moving to Florida next week!
I have a Jeep and it is very sexy.
I'm a little short for my liking
I am an aspiring model
I'm going to college for massage therapy, but am hoping to get into the entertainment business.
I used to be on my highschool's fencing team, and I miss it a whole lot ::sigh::
I used to fence with a sabre.
Art is my life
Andy Warhol is AMAZING!
I'm obsessed with tattoos and piercings
I am a guitarist, a photographer, a painter, and an artist.
I'm a loner, I'm a loser but I like it that way.
My friends and family mean the world to me.
I have 3 dogs.
I've been through more than I should.
I've been told I'm too adult for my age.
I'll answer your questions if you need it [=



Words of advice on love:
- Don't ever let someone tell you that you are not in love.
- If you say that you THINK you're in love, then you aren't. If you really feel it, then you are.
- Never let someone judge your relationship unless they know FACTS.
- To me, age is not an issue. If you are 13 and dating a 30 year old, then it's a big deal. If it's 5 or 6 years, not a big deal.
- If you are being abused mentally/physically GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Don't give the excuse that he apologized. If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you.


I'm not a fan of answering questions that are listed in the FAQ. If it's a question you can look up on Google then please, look it up on google. Don't be lazy.


I do not like when people have issues with typing.

iif u typ3 liik3 thiiz iit piissesz m3 0ff. Alot.

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ok well there has been a lot of things going on and i've gotten really depressed. im on medicine for it but it doesnt seem to be working anymore. its like the 5th kind of pill that i've tryed. im always crying and thinking about the bad things but i can't help it. i used to be able to write about it in my poems but now i just kinda can't. i really need help and i dont know what to do. i dont want to cry myself to sleep everynight.
~depressed

i had major depresson for nearly 2 years and trust me it sucked! i never took any medication for it... i went to therapy and i would tell her all of my problems and i always wrote down my feelings... i'm actually shocked it's not working for you anymore because all the people i've talked to with depression always felt better after writing! the only thing i can say is just go out and live life to the fullest! listen to happy music... dance around your room like a maniac! do whatever makes you happy! you have dysthymia... it's a type of depression... at least from what i'm reading that's what it sounds like. just live likfe to the fullest... that's all i can possibly tell you right now. if you have any questions feel free to drop one in my box and i'll gladly respond! FEEL BETTER!

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(I'm 14) I've been going out with my bf for awhile, and I always knew that he USED to smoke pot, and stopped like 6 months ago,and sometimes drinks a lot because of family problems...Well about 3 weeks ago he left a voice message saying he wouldn't be able to call because he got grounded because he "got caught doing something...very bad" and wouldn't tell me what it was, well his parents disconnected his phone and I found out yesterday from his friend justin (i had to practically beat it out of him...because he was afraid i'd go off killing my bf or something...) that his parents caught him smoking (which explains why he cant run 2 miles anymore) and that he used to have a big stash of cigs in his room, but that he quit after his parents caught him...then he asked if i was gonna break up with him, i said "i have no idea" And i haven't talked to him because he's grounded, and as selfish as it is, it pisses me off..

I dunno what to do, should I break up with him or not? I know all my friends will say I should, because I'm in the "good" group of friends, a lot of them go to church and have very strong beliefs and have never done any of that stuff,(we live in a small town in farmersville u.s.a so that stuff is a big deal) I'm in with them...but barely (my family is screwed up) it's like i'm teetering on the edge of good and bad...and i always fall for the messed up guys, and I know my bf is messed up..but i love him, and I don't know...he's never pressured me or ANYTHING, he's not like that, but I know dating someone with that many problems isn't good and will lead to problems, because drugs and alcoholism run in MY family too..but no matter what he does i can't hate him

Any advice would be lovely, and I rate =)

i've been stuck in that same situation. but it wasn't with a boyfriend. there was this guy that i liked alot his name was dave and he liked me alot, at times he would always tell me that he was in love with me. he was really a great guy and i cared alot about him and i still do but if you really care for him you should help him get over the drugs and whatnot because it's really not healthy and it's disgusting! i helped dave with it. he's been clean for about 6 months now. i hope you can help him out! if he loves you, and you love him you can help him! and once he's clean you two can have a nice and healthy relation ship. i think you just need to help him get clean before you start dating one another again. hope i helped! good luck hun!

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i used 2 live in north carolina nd i had a great boi friend. then i moved nd we broke up because he was cheating on me.. well now i'm moving bac nd i still love him nd he loves me nd he said he never cheated on me, but wen we 1st went out he was cheating on dis otha girl w/ me. sp should i go bac out w/ him or not? plz help me
-confused

once a cheater always a cheater... they don't change even if they say they will. if they've had a wondering eye before he's still got a wondering eye now. you don't deserve to be hurt like that. no one does.

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For blonde hair and blue eys what is usually the best color to wear in clothes .. i just want a little adive because my school starts tomrorow and i need some ideas .. THANKS

honestly... i think blondes look really pretty in pink and in blue and aqua colors the aqua normally brings out your eyes (in my opinion) for make up on your eyes to really make them pop use like a brownish color... not too dark! hope i helped!

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I need to know the song title or artist for a song... all I know is that in the lyrics it has "We're both such magnificant liars, so crush me baby I'm all ears." It's on the tip of my toungue and has been bothering me for awhile. Thanks!

that is sooooo taking back sunday!!! you know how i do!

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ok well i went out with this guy for like a year, but the down part were went out off and on, like we broke up 10 times...stupid i no....but like every time i talk to him, i start to like him again, but i dont want to go back out....i dunno what to do...HELP!

oh that happened to me! it was a period of about 6 months though... after a while he just got on my nerves and i told him i didn't ever want to see him again and i caught him cheating on me. just try not to talk to him that much look around and find other guys that are really cute and start to flirt a little bit, hang out with friends, go to the mall check out guys! it'll get your mind off this other guy

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I'm going into 9th grade, and I have red hair, freckles, and light skinned. What would you suggest I should wear? My school really doesn't have much of a dres code either. THANKS :) [I rate good =)]

okay my friend has red hair freckles... the whole thing... the color that look absolutly great on her is green, then black, pink, and blue. so if you find anything green mostly it will look great on you

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I've been friends with this girl heather for about a year or so now...she's a good friend, dont get me wrong, but all summer she has been ditching me and my other friends for her family..i know she's busy with diving and everything but whenever we ask her to hang out she usually says sure and then blows us off to go hang out with her family. she was rude to her boyfriend and drug him out to visit her relatives whenever they were supposed to have alone time and it interfered with their relationship and they are now just "friends" I really don't know how to tell her she needs to come out with us instead of the family without hurting her feelings... what should i do?

okay well even though alot of people say that family in friends are a top priority... family always comes first. bottom line there's nothing you can do about that

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Hey

I was wondering - do you think eyeliner looks better if you put it directly under your eye or where your eyelash like is?

it's not that it looks better it's just the fact at how much you put. if you have a really thick line under your eye it's going to look kind of scary but if you do it thin it will look really nice. and if you put it on the top too could could make that thicker because it give the illusion of longer lashes... just don't do it too thick! hope i helped!

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One of my friends said that her parents thought people who attempted suicide or thought about killing them selves were crazy- and i said that i thought that to, and then my friend said that when people have depression they cant help it so they just kill them selves..i didnt believe it..but is it true that you cannot control ur self when ur depressed? i mean isnt there something u can do about it --HelP * i RaTe hIgH

yes, it's true. i had depression for 2 and a half years and i attempted suicide many times i didn't care what i took i was miserable while being alive and i wanted to do nothing but die. i took pills slit my wrists... the whole nine yards. there is something you can do about it. get help... i got help i'm doing okay now but i still have the scars that remind me of what i did and how stupid it was. although sometimes the cases of depression aren't that bad. there are 3 types.. there's major depression also known as clinical depression which you feel sad empty guilty anxious worthless irritated or hopeless, tired fatigued or slowed down, yo lose intrests in hobbies activities and relationships, bipolar also known as maniac depression which means you just have mood swings and dysthimia which is like major depression but not as bad it's kind of like you live life almost as if you're going in slow motion. most teens have dysthimia for a year.. it's chronic. if you have any more questions about this just drop one in my box!

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well I'm 14 and I just had a baby and I don't know what I should do like should I keep braist feeding or sumthing I'm so confused I'm only going in 9th grade and it's really hard for me to take care of my baby when my parents aren't around I love my little girl so much her names Zoé but the father doesn't love her or want anything to do with her what should I do I need help??

honey... what are you doing goin out and having sex at 14?? i'm happy for you that your little girl is healthy and whatever but if she seems to be too much of a responsibility and you're stressed out put her up for adoption. you can talk to the people and still stay in contact with them. it's crazy having a kid at 14! what were you thinking when you layed down with that guy? you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you and you're not gonna be able to do shit because of the fact that you have a kid. you're still a kid. kids can't raise kids. that's not how it works! do what's best for you and for your baby. you can't raise a child at 14 by yourself!! you still need to go to college you need to get a job to support this kid. my suggestion is even though it's gonna hurt, put the baby up for adoption, a 14 year old girl who is JUST going into highschool should not be raising a child.

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15 female

i meet this bout a week ago and he came over to my house on Saterday and meet my parents...and he asked me out when he came over...the best thing is that he was the 1st guy to come to my house meet my paretns and ask me out in person...so i was pretty happy bout that...well i really really like him alot...i maen i know its not to the point of love...but he says that he mite love my but it's to soon to tell..n i think the same thing...but we never get to see each other cuz we go to diff skools we...but we both see each other almost every weekend...would say its going to be a good realtionship...??

he sounds like a great guy. and it sounds like you like him alot! my boyfriend and i love eachother... we are honestly IN love with eachother and we've been together for 3 months on sunday. the relationship is totaly gonna work. my boyfriend lives a half an hour away from me but i see him every weekend. distance doesn't mean anything. it's just how much you both care about eachother that is going to determine the outcome of starting your relationship

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Well im 16 and i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are both gonna be senior's this year. I know its weird cause im only 16 but i skipped a grade. We are both very popular. He is the best football play and im the captain of the cheerleading squad and the whole nine yards. Well we had sex for the second time a week or two ago. I was suppose to start my period two days ago and I took a test and im pregnant. I am so scared. I dont know how to tell him or my parents and i dont know if i want to keep it. Someon please help

okay well i'm not one to be asking about how to tell your parents so take everyone else's advice on doing that... but please PLEASE do NOT get an abortion. i am SO against that. to me, abortions are legalized murder. even if you don't want to keep the baby at least put him/her up for adoption! you can't take an innocent child's life because of you're decision to have sex at such a young age! you don't know what that kid could be! that kid could be the one to cure cancer and if you were to have an abortion you would have never known what that kid could be capable of! don't risk a life because of your mistake, don't even give me the whole "it's my body i'll do what i want with it" well you have a child growing in you now. you have to think about that.

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ok this is gonna sound sort of weird but lately i feel like i cant control anything really i cant control my heart or the way i look or the way i feel or any of that but i can control how much i eat im 5'6 going into 8 grade and i weigh 102 pounds and i just want to weigh 98 idk why but 2 me thats how i feel i should look so i just stopped eating basicially i mean its 2 and i havent had anything to eat today ill probally eat a little bit but not alot and i always feel like im getting fatter and stuff i just dont want to look like me anymore... i hate the way i look but idk why i feel like this i have the best boyfriend i could ever ask for great friends great family i guess i just feel like i have to be perfect for everyone and i think thats how everyone wants me to look so thats what im going to do i guess should i weigh less than 98? how much weight should i loose?

you are like freaking anorexic... no offence or anything but if you want to weigh freakin 98 pounds you're insane... absolutly insane. i weigh 125 and i'm 5'3" and i'm a size 3 in pants which is really good. you need to get help. you're hurting yourself being that thin! you should weigh about the same as i do! that is insane that you weigh 102!

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we did use protection, HELLO condoms can break there smart one!

yeah it's also called "double wrapping" and also called WAIT UNTIL YOU'RE FUCKING MARRIED!

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ok my best friend and i are friends with benefits and for a while it's been working out but now i'm hugely late on my period and i don't know if it's stress or not. if i am pregnant i can't get am abortion because my best friend will never talk to me again, but i'm not sure that i'm ready to be a mother. what should i do??

if you're 100% positive that you're not ready to be a mother and you know for a fact that you're pregnant talk to your friend about it. tell him you're not ready. the best thing to do is put the baby up for adoption. i do not believe in having an abortion unless you were raped and you have scars and bruises to prove that. other than that (no offence to what i'm going to say) it was your own fault that you didn't use a condom and got pregnant. if you do decide you want to keep the baby then do so. you're parents might be a little dissapointed because of the fact that you aren't married to this guy but just talk to them. but whatever you do do not get an abortion! if you do... like you said you have the chance that your friend might never talk to you again and if you really think about it having an abortion is killing the baby. you don't know what that kid could be. that kid could be the one to find the cure for cancer. he could be a president. that kid could be a superstar and have all young teens and kids and even adults looking up to him or her saying "i wish i could be like that" you don't know what that kid could be. don't waste a life because of your bad judgement on not using a condom... hope i helped and i didn't mean to offend you if i did in any way.

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What are some things that me and my boyfriend can do to spend time together that doesnt cost money or at least is cheap? ...he lives like 40 min away so he comes over or i go over there and we meet half way. Either that or we go to the mall, movies, bowling, KD, and stuff like that. Anymore ideas? please help! :o)

that's the same situation with me and my boyfriend... he lives a half an hour away from me and we do the whole meet half way thing. my suggestion is if you live anywhere near a park pack like snacks and a blanket and go and eat at the park... bring bug spray though (i have problems with the bugs) and of course bring strawberries and chocolate... feed eachother and stuff like that. if there's a lake near by maybe rent a boat and go out into the middle of the lake and talk... or do other things ;-) lol go for a walk somewhere... walk your dog or his dog (if either of you have one) go hiking in the woods... i'm kind of into doing things outdoors with my boyfriend because that's just how we both are. or have him over at night for dinner. get out a blanket and sit under the stars... its a little cliche but it's super romantic!! and it costs nothing! hope i helped!!!

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well i broke up with my ex boyfriend twice. reason being we didn't really go anywhere with eachother or have the chance to. well after the second time we broke up, we were talking online and he was saying some pretty rude, mean things to me. i told my friends about it and none of them really like him for what he said. then a few days later, he asked if we could get back together saying how he would be a better boyfriend and stuff like that..

i have been thinking and i really do like him still, but do u think i should give him a THIRD chance?? and if so should i care what my friends say..

thanks..

2 chances is too much..... i'd know because me and this guy went out 9 times before because i was ignorant and i thought he loved me but finally we broke up and i've found better... plus he couldn't keep a relationship and he didn't know how to treat me... don't give him another chance if he was saying things to you. you don't deserve it.

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how do you know when you are truly in love with a guy and how do you know when it is the right time to tell him?

well if you're asking when you'd know if you're truly in love with a guy then you're not in love. when you are in love you feel it all over. it's so extreamly hard to explain but it's the best feeling in the world to be in love. you're happy all the time, you smile constantly when you think about your guy, and you just are really giddy it's such a great feeling to be in love. the right time is whenever you feel ready to tell him. just sit him down and say i'm begining to have my feelings grow very strongly towards you and i think i'm in love with you... you could use different wording. if you dont get much of a response from him just be like i've had this bottled up inside of me for a little while and i had to tell you. it's okay if you don't love me too right now but i just wanted to tell you that i really think i love you and i don't want to lose you.

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alright me n mai boyfriend broke up about a week ago cuz he cheated on me. i really love him n im hurt soo bad. he says he still cares n he wants to be w/ me, but now hes w/ sumone else. i think hes tryin to make me jealous but i dont really kno. i cant live w/o him, he means the world to me even after what he did. i really wanna be w/ him but im scared to tell him how i feel cuz im not sure if he cares or not. should i give up on him or take him back if he feels the same?

sweetie you should definately give up on him. if he really loved you and cared about you then he would have considered your feelings before going out and doing what he did. my ex did that to me and i'd never take him back no matter how sorry he was. no girl or guy for that matter deserves to be cheated on. if you would never do that to him and he's done it to you then he's a jerk and he doesn't deserve to be loved if you're hurting and he feels sorry it's still his fault it was his mistake to let go of something that good. you seem like a nice girl and you don't deserve to be treated like that. no one does. my ex boyfriend cheated on me with a 17 year old girl (he's 14) they had sex and from what i hear from his friends she might be pregnant too. don't risk getting hurt again with that guy. hope i helped if you need anything drop one in my box, email me or IM me


..::..emily..::..

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