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what should i do?
I've been friends with this girl heather for about a year or so now...she's a good friend, dont get me wrong, but all summer she has been ditching me and my other friends for her family..i know she's busy with diving and everything but whenever we ask her to hang out she usually says sure and then blows us off to go hang out with her family. she was rude to her boyfriend and drug him out to visit her relatives whenever they were supposed to have alone time and it interfered with their relationship and they are now just "friends" I really don't know how to tell her she needs to come out with us instead of the family without hurting her feelings... what should i do?
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Just tell heR you miss heR. Let heR know that she spends so much time with family.. and you completely undeRstand, but you'd Really appReciate if she found time to SQUEEZE IN heR fRiends!! I'm shoRe she'll Respect youR wishes!! Best of luck!! Hope I helped!! =D
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tell her you want some alone time, or maybe just plan a surprise date on a day u know she doesnt have plans
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You should talk to her. And tell her whats bothering you. Include why her and her ex are just friends now. Maybe she'll understand. If not, keep bringing up things to do with her: swimming, going to the mall, going dancing, or just hanging out.
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You should tell her when you are talking with her that this is bothering you. Tell her that it is good to have family time, but to keep your friendship, she has to spend a little time with you. You only have so long that you will be able to talk to her.
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Well family is important but friends are very important. If you think about it even family are your friends. What you need to do is tell her that you need to talk and also get all of your friends that are also friends of hers and get together and talk this whole thing out. Cause everyone in life needs friends...and if she doesnt figure that out her life could crumble cause she could figure out that she has no more friends. I would talk it out with her and her friends at the same time basically have the conversation with you and her first and then have people come in at different times so she can notice the people in her life. Well i hope i helped a lil.
~Dom
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HEY! i think your friend heather feels more comfortably with her family! i mean if shes hangin out with them alot and blows you guys off thats not cool but if she wants to hang with her family let her! but here's an idea: just sit or call her and tell her that you guys HAVE to talk! tell her that she should make time with you AND her fam and dont scold her or criticize her for hanging with her fam more just be open to her opinions and yawl have a really LOONG talk! hope i helped!
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I think heather eathier loves her family more then anything in da world or she just hasnt seen them for a long time and she wants to spend time wit them but u shud tell her or at least ask her to go to da movies wit some of her rele good friends instead of always being with her family family is great don get me wrong on this 1 but friends are important 2 and i think she rele needs to know that
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Well...sometime...she has to spend time with her family. I don't think you really understand that. I think it's really really cute how she let him go with her to see her relatives..but I mean if it did interfere with their relationship, because one time they didn't get alone time. They weren't meant to be. Maybe there is something go on in her family..that you guys don't know. You need to let her spend that time with her family, because It's Family. Maybe...if you feel really really strongly about it, you need to tell her, hey...can we just have like a day together. Try that, and see if you can figure out something that might be going on. Either way, be there for her as much as you can, and respect what she does...because she probably respects what actions you make.
I hope I helped...Have a great night sweetie! <3 Good luck!
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okay well even though alot of people say that family in friends are a top priority... family always comes first. bottom line there's nothing you can do about that
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