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Well im 16 and i have been with my boyfriend for 4 years. We are both gonna be senior's this year. I know its weird cause im only 16 but i skipped a grade. We are both very popular. He is the best football play and im the captain of the cheerleading squad and the whole nine yards. Well we had sex for the second time a week or two ago. I was suppose to start my period two days ago and I took a test and im pregnant. I am so scared. I dont know how to tell him or my parents and i dont know if i want to keep it. Someon please help
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First of all, make sure your parents are in a good mood. Get them both together and have them sit down. Maybe you could try saying this, "Mom, dad, you know I love you and respect your decisions for my life, and I know you are there for me every step of the way. Well right now is a time when I am really going to need you there every step of the way." Then explain to them that you are pregnant. The good thing about that speech is that 1) you acknowledge that you respect and love them, and 2) you make it clear that you need their help. Your parents may not be happy with you-they may be furious. But they will cool down. You could perhaps ask them to take a "week cooling period". Suggest that during this week they think about what they are going to do-and what you should do. My suggestion on what to do, however, is to not abort the baby. The baby is a human being whether inside of you or out. You will be destroying a precious human life. You may hate the thought of having a baby now, but as you grow and mature, this child will mean more to you than you could ever imagine. Good luck with this! Leave any more questions you may have in my inbox! I am always happy to help!
-Amy
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Well, you need to start with something like this:
"Mom, Dad, I'm telling you this because I love and respect you and I hope you would understand and I trust you will treat me with respect and not yell at me for this, because only God is perfect, and I'm asking for advice from the two people in this world I trust most but..."
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fool ur srcrewed haha well go get somebody that looks like ur mom and take u to get a aboration hurry beofore ur 3months is up :) sorry
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Go to Planned Parenthood (hopefully with your boyfriend) and have a counselor talk with you about different options. It will not be an easy decision: adoption, abortion, and motherhood all have negative aspects and the decision will affect you for the rest of your life no matter what you end up deciding to do. A large influence on your decision will be how supportive your boyfriend and parents choose to be, though, so you've just gotta sit them down and tell them. I wish you the best...
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I know someone who went the that planned pregnancy group thing, and she took these pills and got rid of it. Everyone says abortion is a bad thing...but in the case of a teenager fucking up...its a good thing. Everyone makes mistakes, but some are more than others. Just stay strong and if you do tell your parents warn them saying its really important. Don't look for sympathy b/c thats the last thing you'll get at that point in time. My aunt had a kid when she was 15, and she moved out...maybe your parents will want you to do that? And think of the highlights...at least you love this guy (i think) and it wasn't just a one night stand. I'm sure since you've been together for 4 years he'll be there for you through thick and thin....have you told him yet? Maybe you should...and maybe you should go to your doctor before talking to your rents...But stay strong, and I'm here for ya if you need anything just leave a message~
-Zero
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okay, how sure r u that you are pregenat? cuz sometimes those stupid tests can be wrong and you tell your parents and every one 4 no good reason. and n e way if its rite you have to tell your parents and your bf maybe he'll be very supportive, and every thing ill be alrite, but for the last one, i d keep it . i am very againest abortion and kinda againest putting it up for adoption unless there was no way to take care of it, good luck!!!
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okay well i'm not one to be asking about how to tell your parents so take everyone else's advice on doing that... but please PLEASE do NOT get an abortion. i am SO against that. to me, abortions are legalized murder. even if you don't want to keep the baby at least put him/her up for adoption! you can't take an innocent child's life because of you're decision to have sex at such a young age! you don't know what that kid could be! that kid could be the one to cure cancer and if you were to have an abortion you would have never known what that kid could be capable of! don't risk a life because of your mistake, don't even give me the whole "it's my body i'll do what i want with it" well you have a child growing in you now. you have to think about that.
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This is pretty serious so I wil get right to the point. You need to get over your fear and tell your parents and him. Probably your boyfriend first. If that is too much you could get a friend to do it with you to tell one or both of them. Have you thought about abortion? Adoption? You have your whole life in front of you and a child probably isn't what you need right now. Tell your boyfriend and your parents...you can't worry about how they will react because there are things more important than that you need to get done. Hope I helped!
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i mite understand how much pressure and anxiety this put s on u but i do no pressure and anxiety. u deff hav 2 tell ur parents and ur bf. to keep the baby or abort it is your choice but first just listen to this. wen a woman gets an abortion they r scared 4 life. they will never 4get the baby. its like murdwer only worse. ur taking a life away b4 its even started. just do wat u think is rite.
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You have to tell someone either him and deffenately your mom. Its your choice to keep it. You should go through with having it atleast dont ruin its life and if you cant take care of it than set up for adoption. XoXo Nini
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I know its def. gonna be hard to tell ur bf and parents but i think u should tell ur bf first let him know whuts goin on ! say u and him really need to talk .. then let him know that your pergnant but don't forget to tell him how u feel [ that ur scared ] u should also ask him how to tell your parents u both can decide that part together.. but as much advise as i could give u is tell ur boyfriend how u feel [then] u guys should decuss how ur gonna tell ur parents ! im sorry this may not be the best advise but remeber follow ur heart ! Good luck !
britt .:.
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hun..first of all yuh need to calm down..take another pregancy test juss to be sure...explain to yuhhr parent`z what happend..and why. yuhh should go over all of yuhh optionz what to with the baby if you DEFINATLY are pregant..talk to your boyfriend..and figure thingz out..good luck hun..<33`
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You should tell your boyfriend gently... Telling your parents is the hardest thing ever to do. Either you could get an abortion if you don't want the baby.
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You Really ought to tell him and youR paRents. TogetheR [with the two families] you can come up with a decision on what is best foR you. I wish you the veRy best of luck!! Hope I helped!! =D
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