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well I'm 14 and I just had a baby and I don't know what I should do like should I keep braist feeding or sumthing I'm so confused I'm only going in 9th grade and it's really hard for me to take care of my baby when my parents aren't around I love my little girl so much her names Zoé but the father doesn't love her or want anything to do with her what should I do I need help??
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I think you should breast feed her until shes about 1 year..I did, it bonds you and your child, and your milk is way better than other milk..it gives them more nutrients an w/e... fuck the father, same thing happened ta me, make tha bastard pay child support.
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CONGRATULATION OF YOUR BABY GIRL ZOE. IT MOST BE HARD TO GO TO SCHOOL AND TAKE CARE OF A BABY BUT IT SEEM WORTH IT AT THE END IT CAN GET HARD AT TIMES I KNOW. DON'T MIND THE BABY DAD HE'S PROBABLY AN ASSHOLE. AND YES KEEP BREAST FEEDING UR CHILD IT DEPEND HER AGE. BUT JUST REMEMBER UR LITTLE GILR IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN UR LIFE. DONOT DROP OUT OF SCHOOL JUST KEEP WORKING HARD. IF U EVER NEED TO TALK EMAIL ME WWW.LACHICHI188@AOL.COM. I KNOW AM 17 AND EXPECTING A BABY AM OLDER BUT IT STILL HARDIF U NEED TO TALK OR SOMETHING JUST EMAIL ME.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!
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Oh, if I could hug you right now, I would.
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It's wonderful that you love your baby girl so much, and because of that, I'm sure that you'll come to your own right decision.
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For now, though, check out some information on child health and care. You might want to consider buying a good breast pump -- that way your baby can have breast milk even when you can't be available to breastfeed!
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Try to set up a whole circle of support for your baby; even if her dad is being ... difficult, her grandparents on his side -- as well as your own parents -- will probably be willing to help you. Get support from other family, close friends-of-family, etc.
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Look up teen parenting benefits, like child-care, training, etc.
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Giving your baby up should be a last resort, and if at all possible, you could aim to give her to someone in the family -- that way you could still have contact and know how she's doing.
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Whatever you do, think about Zoe's well being the most, because she depends on you to make sure she gets the best she can. Again, you care about your baby, and that's wonderful; just make sure to apply that love and devotion to your actions, and everything will work out. :)
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the people who are telling u to give the baby up for adoption are disgusting no one can love a child as much as the mother can ...... dont give her up ...Ever she needs u as much as u need her right now.....maybi she was a mistake and u might wanna give her up but then nothing good came out of what happened.....im sure u consider her a wonderful part of your life as much as u may hate it sumtimes u of course love her....im 16 and i love kids and i use to babysit a 2 month yr old and if i lived near u id babysit for free....well anyways i think u should find sum1 to watch her wen u cant or there are certain schools for teen mothers with children where u can take ur baby to school but it might be hard finding one ....talk to ur parents aboutit tho and try to forget about the father i kno its hard but maybi hell come around sum day and maybi he wont but right now ur all thelil baby has so just love her and shell love u bak and maybi u cant give her the best lifein the world but in the end shell be happi that u stuck with her the whole time and gave up things u wanted to do for her.... i wish u lots of luck and zoe is such a cute name .....not sure if i helped but i tried
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its guys like that that give my gender a bad name. i couldnt immagine leaving my girlfriend after getting her pregnant. studies have shown that the longer a child is breast fed (within reason) the smarter they grow up to be. where are your parents? are you living somewhere by yourself? you really should try finishing high school, the job aspects for a high school drop out arent exactly promising. do you have any family that would be willing to help? i really wish i could help you more if you have anything else you want to ask and if you can give me more details on what i asked drop a question in my box id be happy to help.
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I think this is a joke. Becuase first of all, a 14 year old mother would be way too busy to go on the internet, let alone advicenators.
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wut where u thinkin!? thats is wayyy 2 young this is for ur own good put it up for adoption! i kno u love it but thats way tooo young! ur still a kid!! <3
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Most women stop breast feeding their baby when it's 10 months old. You should have a family member who can take care of your baby. I f not you should hire a trustable baby-sitter, that doesn't charge much.
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omg honey what were u thinking when that boy layed u down?? you cant have a kid at 14. ur still a kid. u need to put it up for adoption, as much as u dont want to u have to, if ur parents arent around how are u gonna do this by urself?? putting it up for adoption is the best thing to do, u have ur whole entire life ahead of you, wait until ur married to have a child.. please take that advice. its for your own good hun.
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honey... what are you doing goin out and having sex at 14?? i'm happy for you that your little girl is healthy and whatever but if she seems to be too much of a responsibility and you're stressed out put her up for adoption. you can talk to the people and still stay in contact with them. it's crazy having a kid at 14! what were you thinking when you layed down with that guy? you have your ENTIRE life ahead of you and you're not gonna be able to do shit because of the fact that you have a kid. you're still a kid. kids can't raise kids. that's not how it works! do what's best for you and for your baby. you can't raise a child at 14 by yourself!! you still need to go to college you need to get a job to support this kid. my suggestion is even though it's gonna hurt, put the baby up for adoption, a 14 year old girl who is JUST going into highschool should not be raising a child.
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umm well first of all why did u have a baby and have unprotected sex i mean not to be rude but HELLO here i mean u were prolly only lyk 13 when you had sex. i mean how stupid can you be (no offense) but thats just so wrong. and for the baby you should consider adoption. esp if your parents always aroung to help..but then again you shouldnt rely on your parents...its your own gfault for having unprotected sex so you need to take care of this baby 100 percent and i think your way to young to be caring for a little girl so if i were you i would consider adopting her.
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well first of all congradulations on the baby :) and as 4 taking care of the baby well its not goin 2 b easy. u every spend every possible moment w/ her and give her all the attention she needs. im sry bout the father but u 2 made a decision and not a very good one at that. if he duznt want 2 ttake responsibility 4 his actions then hes a scumbag and i wud a few more words but i mite get kicked off the site. neways hav ur family members help in ne way they can and w/ eva u do dont give the baby up cuz it will haunt u 4 the rest of ur life. Well Goodluck to u and Zoe';)
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If your sure thats the father he needs to take responsibilities of her. Your parents will grow to love her. It will all work out you'll see. Tell your parents how you feel also. XoXo Nini
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Hey Sweetie..I know what your going through.. I'm 17 and have a 1 yr old daughter named Raeliegh.If you are breast feeding you want to keep breast feeding her... How old is Zoe? I never breast feed.. But your doctor will tell you when you can start giving her milk.... But dont do so until then.. Talk to your mom.. She's done this before and she can help you. and for the dad.. My baby's father doesnt want anything to do with my baby either. But.. Look at is this way.. he's missing out on a great child.. but what you do need to do... Is take this guy to court for child support. You didnt make this baby on your own.. and he needs to atleast pay for the things Zoe needs even if he doesnt want to see her. But in the long run he will be disappointed because he didnt see his little girl grow up...
I hope I helped.. If you need anything at all.. you can email me.. Or drop one in my inbox.. I'm on AIM all the time... you can even get ahold of me there... I hope I helped a little..
Good Luck with the little one.
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Breast feeding is healthier for your baby, and it's free - unlike formula. But you need a lot more help than I or anyone on this website can give you. Find services in your area that help out teen moms. There are classes, daycare, support groups, etc.
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oh gosh girl. You should not have started braist feeding her in the first place so yes you should stop. Im sorry that its hard but you are gonna have to put your baby first. Dont drop out of school or anything. You should make the father pay child support and he should have to take the baby every weekend or during the weekend however u decide to work that out. If he doesnt want to then u need to take him to court. Just talk to him and to your parents. Good luck
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