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The caption for this pic on facebook says "innapropraite."
Why?

Did they put the caption as inappropriate? If so, it's probably an inside joke.
If Facebook did it (I'm not very familiar with facebook despite having one!) then it's a mistake? Why don't you ask the owner. ;)

15/f

alright so this is the 2nd time this is happened.
this weird aching pain on the front right side of my stomach like below my belly button and to the right.
this has happened once before a couple weeks ago and it was probably for about 7 hours and now i have it again and its been about 3 hours, does anybody have an opinion on what this could be?

"Abdominal pain is caused by inflammation (e.g., appendicitis, diverticulitis, colitis ), by stretching or distention of an organ (e.g., obstruction of the intestine, blockage of a bile duct by gallstones, swelling of the liver with hepatitis), or by loss of the supply of blood to an organ (e.g., ischemic colitis). To complicate matters, however, abdominal pain also can occur without inflammation, distention or loss of blood supply. An important example of this latter type of pain is the irritable bowel syndrome (IBS). It is not clear what causes the abdominal pain in IBS, but it is believed to be due either to abnormal contractions of the intestinal muscles (e.g., spasm) or abnormally sensitive nerves within the intestines that give rise to painful sensations inappropriately (visceral hyper-sensitivity)."

As you can see, it can be a number of things. It could be nothing but on the other hand, it may need treatment. Visit your doctor for a thorough diagnosis.

When a guy feels you up, does he actually go inside your bra or just on the outside? And if he goes on the inside...what if your nipples get hard? Is that like not supposed to happen? Will the guys be like um....eww

Thanks in advance =P

You can do it either way. Do what makes you feel comfortable.
and no, a guy wouldn't be like "eww", because them getting hard's a good sign.

I've been active on Advicenators since like March, and I am a moderator, and I answer and ask and rate questions like crazy, but I am STILL not a featured user? What do I have to do???

Visit the site as often as possible and carry on giving fantastic advice!
Give it some time. It may be your turn next, you never know. There's alot of people on here don't forget.

okkay well lets see, friday i was with my bf and we were talking about what we were going to do saturday. && he was like im not doing anything, and i was liike okkay well then maybe we should do sumthinn together. and he was like yeah sounds good. so that nite he called me and he was like okay i am sure i can do summthin tomorow and i was like okay and we just decided i should go to his house. so i called him when i woke up and he said he will call when he gets about to leave from breakfast so i was like okay sounds good. so he calls and says hes about to leave so i get ALL READY and btw his parent LOVEE ME! and i was like are you sure i can come. and hes like POSITIVE. so he calls when im on my way to his house and hes like okay well im back from breakfast but my parents saaid no to you cumming over. i was like whyy? what happpened? and hes like nuttin idk but noone can come over today. SOO that nite i went to a friends house and she were like i talked to your bf today and he went to his X's (kori) house, and him and kori hung out. and hes having a big party 2nite with all his friends. so i was like WAIITT. he was with kori? && having a party 2nite AFTER HE SAID NOONE CAN CUMM OVER. and so i called him and when i said i HAVE to talk to him he was like well i have to go. talk to you tommorow. bye. and i was like WOAHHH.. and he hungg up. now i have been told that he still likes kori. so that made me more mad. so if all this is ture, should i give him a 2nd chance? or is that bad enough what he did? helpp! && thannks. sorry so longg. thanks for reading! =]]

Noone in their right mind would put up with that.
You shouldn't be asking us whether you should give him a second chance. Follow your heart. but I know if I were in your position right now, he could go to hell.

I got my tongue pierced yesterday about 2pm. then Then about 7pm that same day i was hanging out with a friend and i was drinking a soda and i went to the bathroom and the piercing was almost out. The ball came off and the bar was more the half way out. I tried to get it back through but i couldnt get it through. Do most piercing places redo it for within a certain amount of days or do you have to pay for it all over?

Some will offer to repierce it for free when something like that happens. It really does depend on the piercing studio.
Go back and explain what happened. It was probably their fault for not screwing the ball on tight enough. It shouldn't have come out that soon. Hopefully they will remember you.

How much time does it usually take to get over a broken heart? Its been one and half months, two other guy's kisses later, and I still can't get my cheating ex out of my mind. Its getting mentally exhausting to trick myself not to think about him.

The amount of time varies for everyone. Some people are over it within weeks, whereas it takes months for others. It's horrible, I know. but eventually, you WILL get over it, I promise. Perhaps you weren't ready to move on and get with other people.

http://www.wikihow.com/Get-Over-a-Break-Up

Im almost 15 and i mastrubate about 1 a day i can keep an orgasm for about a minute do you have any suggestions to keep it longer i do not have toys or anything thanks

You're lucky to keep it for a minute, considering the average is around 10 seconds.

I just did a quick search for you and these are what's recommended:
*Do Kegel pelvic floor exercises (contract your muscles 30 times a day)
*See if you can find your G-spot, as opposed to clitoral orgasms.
*When you feel like you're about to have an orgasm, stop, then start again. Keep going until basically you can't take any more and you'll have a more powerful longer lasting orgasm.

Everyone's different. but practice makes perfect, so if you want to see what works best for you, keep experimenting.

i'm trying to grow my hair long
therefore i'm not straightening it alot
and i'm using leave in conditioners and stuff
what i wanna know is, is putting moose and gel in ur hair bad for it?

and does anybody have tips how to grow hair faster?

i have really fine, thin, frizzy hair haah (nightmare)

Might sound odd, but trim the dead ends around every 2 months. It shocks the hair into growing more.
Make sure you have a good diet and are eating/drinking well.
Putting products in your hair won't damage it, no.. but try not to put so much in because it will clog it up and make you wash it more often. It's not good to wash your hair daily if you do that already.

I use Q-Tips a lot, because I don't like to think that there is any gross stuff in my ears, and I heard that if you use Q-Tips too much, you can get ear infections. How often is too often to use them? How many times a day should I use them? Once? Twice? I use them once to twice a day, and I'm afraid that I'll get an ear infection if I use them too much, but I don't know when I shouldn't use them.

I'd do it every other day if you HAVE to. Removing it too much can cause damage. and removing it not often at all is unhygienic. Be gentle and don't go prodding it in deep!

15/f

this so gonna sound really weird but how do girls orgasm? or like how do u know if youve gotten an orgasm? help?

Every woman is different when it comes to how they achieve an orgasm. Some get it through sex, whereas others can't. The most common way to get one is by stimulating the clitoris.
and when you get one, you will definitely know.

"For most women, you usually know when you have an orgasm if you feel a tremendous buildup of muscle tension, and then have a big release of that tension, along with by a pleasurable feeling and (usually) muscle spasms of the vagina, uterus, and anus/perineum (the perineum is the area between the vaginal opening and the anus)."

If you aren't sure you've had one.. you probably haven't.

What are the signs of pregnacy I need all of them because I might be pregnate

The earliest signs of pregnancy are tender breasts, headaches, fatigue, mood swings, dizziness, feeling faint, higher body temperature. These can happen before the obvious missed period.
Your best bet is to wait to see if you have your period. If not, take a test.

my family LOVES hot pickled okra and we eat it all the time at family dinners and stuff. well it always takes me forever to get the burning out of my mouth, and i read this story where this girl ate one of the hottest peppers in the world, and she started chugging glasses of milk.

will milk really help the burning, or will it just make it worse?

-shelby,13/f

Milk will definitely help, yes.
Water won't, because capsaicin (a molecule found in most hot foods) isn't soluble in water.
If you are old enough, wine and other alcohols can help, too.
After eating, rinse your mouth with mouthwash. Since mouthwash is around 20% alcohol, swishing it around your mouth will ease the burning sensation.

Ok I hope this isn't weird, but do you think it's ok to get nail clippers and clip your eyebrows

i just want to clip one, cause there's one under my right eyebrow, and it's annoying, and it looks weird.
but would it grow back?
do you think i should get them waxed?
i mean, i thought it'd be ok cause people PLUCK them, but i can't do that, i know its going to hurt, but if i hafe to, i guess i will.
but if i hafe to do that, can someone give me a site, to explain how to do it.

or is it just simple, grab the hair and pull it?
thanks a bunch.

If it's just one hair, pluck it. Pull the skin taught and quickly pinch it with the tweezers and pull. It doesn't hurt and it won't grow back as quickly.
If you want to keep the rest of your eyebrows in shape, you can use either plucking or waxing. I feel waxing should be done by a professional, though. The good thing with plucking is you can take your time to shape them etc.
Read:
http://beauty.about.com/od/allaboutyoureyes/ht/groombrows.htm
If you have a very low pain tolerance, you could even ice the area. Applying vaseline will make it easier, too.
Plucking really isn't as bad as it seems. :)

im dating this guy, and hes really nice, but i dont really like him much anymore. and i know this other guy, and hes really nice. but we met online and i barley know him, and i think im falling for him. me and my guy have been fighting alot, and me and the other guy live in totally different states....what do you think i should do?

If your current relationship isn't working, or you've lost feelings for him, the best thing to do would be to end it and not leave it any longer. The longer you leave it, the more hurt he'll be.
I doubt anyone here can tell you what to do with the other guy. But personally, If I were you, I wouldn't bother. I don't mean to sound harsh, but long distance relationships are really hard work. Not to mention you don't know him in real life. People are different in real life to what they are online.
If you don't want to salvage your current relationship, perhaps you should try being single for a while to see what you really want. Don't go from a relationship and jump straight into a long distance one. It's not wise.

i cant over the fact that so many people in my grade have boyfriends and girlfriends. i am a freshhmen and there are girls in my grade going out with juniors. im not saying that i want that but i dont want think im so ugly. i dont know if there is anything i can change to maybe make myself more attractive or what to do :( please help!

Noone should be made to feel ugly as everyone has their own type of beauty.
Hopefully soon, you will learn to appreciate what you have and make the most of it.
To make yourself feel better, pamper yourself. Get a new haircut/colour, makeup, do your nails, buy a new outfit etc etc. If you don't have the money to make those changes, simple things will help too, like run yourself a bubble bath, relax, apply face masks etc.
and remember things like eating and drinking healthily/exercising will help you along the way.
PS:
It doesn't matter if most people have boyfriends and girlfriends at your age. There's plenty of time for that. For now, focus on yourself/friends/school work.
Hope you're feeling better about yourself soon!

Hey ive been having all symptoms of being pregnant, and ive been pretty stressed over it and scard about it.. could i just be getting these symptoms because im stressing over it? or are you really only going to get dizziness and tender breast because your pregnant? please help =(

Stressing over it won't help. You can even fool yourself into thinking you have the symptoms.
The earliest signs of pregnancy are tender breasts, headaches, fatigue, mood swings, dizziness, feeling faint, higher body temperature. These can happen before the obvious missed period.
Your best bet is to wait to see if you have your period. If not, take a test.

i want to know if the birth control pills are more effective than morning after pill and how long it is effective for after you take it. Some people told me to take birth control pill AND morning after pill just in case as a back up.

Use birth control. Your doctor will explain everything you need to know about it. If you want extra protection, use a condom too.
Morning after pills shouldn't be taken regularly - only in emergencies.

i think there is thomething wrong with me. ath you can thee from my typing, i have a thlight lithp. i want to know if there ith anything i can do to make this lithp go away. it ith really embarrathing!

pleathe help me! i need all the help i can get!

Just because you have a lisp doesn't mean you can't type properly ;)

"Try to be conscious of when you say the letter “S.” Everytime you do, keep your teeth clenched and feel your tongue hit the back of your teeth and listen to the hissing sound it makes."

"Use tongue twisters to help get rid of a lisp"

I strongly suggest going to a doctor. They'll refer you to a speech therapist.

on your about me, how do you put a picture on the left, then all your words starting from the side of the picture, on the right.

i'm so confused.
i hope anyone knows what i'm talking about.
i don't know how to explain it

text here

If you want to do it the other way, put "right".

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