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Laura/22/England



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about 1 to 2 weeks ago i took two pregnancy tests and they were both negative, but then i didn't have my period last month. Does this mean i'm pregnant or just all mest up? i want to get another test but i dont want my parents to find out until i know for sure and last time was hard enough. plzz help me!!

It's impossible to tell. I know pregnancy tests are supposed to be accurate, but sometimes, they aren't.
Make a doctors appointment. Your parents will never have to know, I promise. Don't waste any more time, okay?

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I REALLY hate my stupid mom right now!!!!!!!! Ok, well I wanted to spend the night at my friend (g's) house. Problem is, she has 2 cats and im allergic to them. And everytime I ask to go over to her house, she says no she has cats! And all my friends have cats!!! so I can never spend the night any where because my mom is stupid!! Help *sniff*

She is doing her job as a mother.
It must be worrying for her knowing you're being exposed to cats which trigger your allergies. Not to mention the cat hairs, as they get everywhere. So even if the cats aren't in the room, it can still trigger yur allergies.
It depends how bad your allergy is. You can try to reason with your mum. Tell her the cats aren't allowed in the room you will be staying and they never have been. and if you start to feel your allergies coming on, you will come home asap.
but if she doesn't accept and reasons with you, unfortunately, there's not really much you can do. and going behind her back will just make the whole situation worse and make her lose trust for you.
Good luck with trying to convince her though. and remember, it's not the end of the world. :)

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for a while now i have been seeing my bday everywhere "312" the number and this boys name i used to like everywhere i look at the clock and it says 312 or i see it online or anything it happens everyday what is this?

It happens to me too. I always look at the clock at the same time etc and it's really weird. but I can tell you it's just a coincidence. Unless you'd like to believe something different.

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Ok I got 'Garnier Nutrisse Nourishing Multi-Lights"
you can put highlights in your hair.
and my hair is a dark brown, and yeah.


okay, if i do this, can i still straighten my hair?
and i just straighten the back of it, but i'm going to put highlights in theback too.
can i still straighten my hair?
and it's JUST highlights.

thanks!

Course you can straighten it. When I had them, I straightened my hair daily. Although once I had bleach parts put in and they practically burnt out due to excessive straightening. So do be careful, but you shouldn't really worry about it.

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I get $9 a week for allowance. I feel like I should be saving money for college, but even if I put half my allowence in each week, i will have only a tiny bit of money by the time I graduate, (im a freshman) so should i begin to save now, or just enjoy my allowence each week?

I totally agree with the previous columnist.
You can easily get a job when the time comes, so don't worry about saving as of now.. although if there's nothing you want, don't spend it for the sake of it. It's always nice to know you have a little bit of money for when you need it. :)

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I just made a peoject out of jello and now I realized that it will melt in school! what do i do? i can't do it over :[ and it is due tommorow! ahh! help :(

Sit it on top of ice packs and put it in a cooler if you have one. Just incase it starts melting, make sure you take plenty pictures of it in all it's glory!

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so theres this guy that i like, but he has a girlfriend. well, we talk everynight and he tells me how he wants me and how he doesn't like the other girl. well , we have talked a lot about doing stuff with each other. so i just wanted to get an honest opinion on what people feel about this .. and he says he would date me if he wasn't taken so what are some ways i can step up my game a little ?? thankss.

My advice? Don't do it. Don't even think about doing it. If he doesn't like his current girlfriend, he would break up with her - end of.
He's just a jerk who wants a foolish girl to be his bit on the side. Don't let that girl be you.

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does any female care to tell me what makes a wife cheat and is there help out there for this?????

It will vary depending on your relationship.
There's no excuse for cheating, although the following may drive her to do it:
*She's just generally grown tired of your marriage
*Her feelings for you are disappearing
*The marriage has lost it's spark - she needs something new and exciting
*You aren't there for her
*You don't give her attention
and of course there is help for it. If you both genuinely want to save you marriage, you can work at it alone, or see a counselor.
I hope things work out for you if you are going through it at the moment.

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does anyone poke their ear with a stick to get junk out? or is my family just weird. it hurts so much!

If it hurts, DON'T DO IT. You can get nasty infections.
If the stick you're referring to is a cotton bud/q tip, then alot of people use them. They shouldn't be used too often, however. and they definitely shouldn't be pushed too far in the ear canal.

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so this kid that i like tells me he wants to be single, then i hear from someone that he likes someone and then i see him hanging out with this freshman girl (we're juniors) and this girl is pretty slutty but then he gives her a hug. this kid doesn't know i like him but i REALLY like him so i'll do almost anything for him to like me without getting too desperate. we have a lot of classes together and i talk to him a lot because i'm trying to get to know him and from what i know so far, he's perfect and extremely sweet. so does he want to be single or not? if you want to be single why would you bother liking someone?

Only he knows the true answer to this question.
There's a number of reasons, though:
*He does want to be single and he's just being friendly with that other girl
*He told you he wanted to be single because he knows you like him but doesn't feel the same
*Having fun without the commitment - staying single but hooking up.
If you've already asked him, why not ask for his reasons? Who knows, he may have changed his mind since telling you he wants to be single - and now he wants to date.

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Okay, Might Be a Little Long-ish, SORRY!

15/F

i've been with my boyfriend for 9 months so far, and what we have done includes:
making out
feeling up
handjobs
fingering

okay, so i told him that i was going to give him a blow job for his birthday which is on tuesday :) haha. so i was planning on it for tomrrow, and we were gonna go to a football game at school and go somewehre for a while :D
BUT, last night i was hanging out with him and he tells me that NO, he thinks we shouldnt do that!
i was like, wtf. i thought you wanted it.

problem: HIS PARENTS.
his parents don't really trust him, and they randomly check his phone for texts, and read his emails, and actually took away his laptop. they are nice to me whenever i come over, but i know that his mom thinks i'm a slut. HA!

anyways, he says we should stop doing ANYTHING for a while, since he's paranoid and his parents know a lot more than he thought they did about what we've done.

so what do i do about this situation? i'm a very horny child (LOL) and don't want to stop doing stuff with him, and plus this is making him unhappy and i don't like that!!

sry, it's long, but please help if you can.

You should respect his decisions. He said it would only be for a while, so in that time, just spend quality time together and have fun without the sexual side. When he's ready to get intimate again,
it will make it more exciting and worth it because you have been waiting.
Think how he is feeling for a minute - I bet he's not exactly best pleased about the situation either!
Also, if his parents did find out about everything you've done and don't appreciate the fact their son is getting sexual at that age, they could put the whole relationship to a halt. So in a way, you should feel lucky you still get to be with him.
Good luck. :)

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Okay.
So I have a boyfriend (but besides the point, I'm kinda crushing on another guy.)
Anyway,so me and my friend we're always together, and we're always hugging and just touching.

So today we were goofing around, and he was hugging me, and hehheh, I felt that he had a boner, cuz well I could feel it on my leg, ha.
So I don't really know about that stuff, does that mean he likes me?

Guys can get boners at any time. Maybe he just happened to get one when he was fooling around with you.. but if you're always hugging and touching.. it does seem like a good sign. :)

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my horoscope for tomorrow says: (when i was gonna ask to start over...)

Today, you're less concerned with how you come across than the contents of your message. As long as you convey your feelings, you've accomplished your mission. If the other person rejects your behavior, they're not right for you anyway.

what does this mean--do all signs point toward yes or no---o and by the way i added you as a friend---

That's kinda freaky! All sings point to yes, but if he doesn't accept, he's not worth it.
(which is true! :))
and cool, I will add you back!



P.S, yes I do live in England =]

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okay i am going out with a guy named alex and i used to call my last boyfriend jeremy, jer. so i was wondering is there any thing like AT ALL that i can get from alex. and i kno i can call him babe and baby. but i want like something for his name (alex!). like i had for jer. (jeremy!) mmkay. thanks in advancee! :D

Al
Lex
Lexxy
Alexxy
Play around with his surname, too.

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well im 14 and for some reason i just think its totally pointless to have a relationship before you can drive. dont get me wrong i have nothing against people who do have relationships but is this like totally wrong? i feel weird cause my friends are all like OMG he is sooooooo hot! and im just like whatever doesnt matter to me

It's not wrong at all. I wish there were more people like you. I was. I thought it was really pointless dating before 16 years old (even though I still did, but nothing huge came of it and I wouldn't ever have pushed myself to do things).
It's better you aren't interested at the moment. There is PLENTY of time for boys. They only mess things up at your age anyway. Focus on yourself, school and your friends until you're ready to start dating.

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okay well see my friend told his mom that he told me and i didnt know about it and im mad about it too,,,,,but tomorrow i was gonna make sure he got the point that i had nothing to do with it and that we got off to a rough start so could we start over....do you think i should?? i mean im one of those people who cant hold something in about liking someone because if i dont tell them then i will never be satisfied...i go to the beat of my own drum you could say..all my friends say they could never go up to their crush and tell them they like him...i like having my own beat but i just dont want to screw it up with him...so do you think i should!?

I admire the way you think. and the way you act upon getting what you want. I definitely think starting over seems like a great idea. It's true, if you don't tell someone how you feel, you could be left not ever knowing how they feel about you.
You don't have anything to lose at this point, because you are the one putting yourself out and confessing your feelings etc. I guess it's just up to him whether he listens and accepts what you have to say - which I hope he does!

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okay there is this guy and i told him i liked him and all but he told me he was gay when he really wasnt.....so like one month goes by and i finally get over him...that was two days ago..but today he is all nice to me and looking at me and smiling...hes is so confusing....can you help me figure out what is going on in his lil noggin?? my cousin said that when you stop likeing them they start liking you....i dont know what to do!?

Thankyou for your question.

There's 3 reasons I can currently think of which could be why he is acting this way:
**Your cousin could be right and he actually does like you now he's got to know you.
**He misses knowing you like him. So now he's trying to be flirty with you so it will give him the satisfaction of knowing someone fancies him.
**He could just be friendly and you are mistaking it for something more.

If I were you, I'd smile back when he smiles at you and talk to him as much as much as possible. It will be easy to find out if he really does like you from there.

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What would you get your boyfriend for christmas ?

Here's a few ideas from the top of my head of things you can do/buy, as everyone's ideas will be different depending on their budget and what their guy actually likes:

Cd's
Clothes
Aftershave
Computer games
Electronics
Jewelry
DVD's
Something if he's musically inclined. (drumsticks etc)
Grooming products
Take him out
Boys toys
Something if he's into sports (mini football table etc)
Make him a scrap book
Teddies
If he drives - something for his car
Novelty gifts


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i have a problem wiht my crush!i like this guy in grade 11 and i am in grade 10,and so i wrote to him that i like him and he said that he doesn`t date grade 10 girls! why did he say no when he likes me?

Thanks for your question.

Well, are you sure he likes you? Do you have evidence of him actually saying it? If so, he *could* be playing hard to get. I suggest you talk to him about it. Afterall, grade 10 and 11 is hardly a big difference. Ask him why he doesn't date girls in 10th grade. He must have reasons. and if he doesn't, it could just be his excuse of letting you down gently.
You've made the biggest step forward of telling him you like him etc, and now if I were in your position, I'd definitely talk to him and ask him why he said what he did. You deserve to know. :)

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My girlfriend wears clothes that are pretty revealing, which I like, but she also wears them to school in front of other guys (I don't go to her school)
She's very attractive and I don't want other guys staring at her when im not around. What can I do?

I'm sensing jealousy here.
I know it's not what you probably want to hear, but she can dress how she likes. Sure, you can have a talk with her and explain to her it makes you uncomfortable knowing other guys may be looking at her, but at the end of the day, if she doesn't want to change her fashion sense then so be it.
Remember, YOU are her boyfriend. Not the other guys.
You should trust her. A relationship without trust won't work.
If anyone starts flirting, she should tell them she has a boyfriend (if they don't know already)
I reckon you just need reassuring here, so have a few words with her.
It's really nothing to get worked up over.
She may be having the same problem too - meaning she's worried about girls noticing you.
It happens. It's life. But you two are together so don't let something like this ruin your relationship. If anything, you should be happy knowing a girl like that is yours.

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