about

I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

So my boyfriends birthday is tomorrow.He's turning 19.I already got him a shirt && shorts from AE.Personally, I don't like it, But my mother picked it out.I told him I already got his gift and he kept trying to get me to tell him what I got him.For example.. "Is it used or new" "Can I use it over and over again" ..etc. I told him I wasn't going to tell him though.Then I went on to asking.. well what DO YOU WANT?.. that I would consider whatever he wanted.And he wanted me to ressure him that I would.And he said.. "BOW CHICA WOW WOW" meaning.. (sex) It's been 4 months and it would be our 5 month on the 9th.Anyways and I was like SCUSEEE MEE? haha and he said he'd put that off the list.He's been wanting that for awhile now, But obviously it hasn't happened.I'm still a virgin and I'm not even trying to consider it right now.I'm 16.. i'd be 17 in a couple months.Soo, I don't know if I'm wrong for not giving it to him or what.I know if he was a good boyfriend he'll wait.. yeah I know that, But the thing is I tease alot and he recently has too.. I guess it seems unfair on my part for kind of leading him on.. does that make sense?? I don't mean to do that though, just I like doing it.Is it wrong of me to do that?We did all the other stuff and what not, But seems like it's not enough I guess.Sooo any suggestions to what to do.I know only I can decide to what to do and what not.I just want some opinions that's all.Thanks again whoever answers. :]

Well, you are right that if he is a good guy he will wait, and that only you can decide if you are ready or not.
Giving him sex as a birthday present is not something I would do, personally. I just can't envision sex as a gift, when it is supposed to be an act of love.
If you are feeling that you are being unfair to him by leading him on (which I would agree with you, myself) then just stop doing it until your intentions aren't merely to tease. Make sense?

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I'm going to be a freshman on monday, and i dont know anyone at the highschool cause I moved. I realllly want to make a good first impression, so this is what I was thinking.
-My fave blue jeans from hollister
-A cute tanktop with an undershirt
-flip flops
-and then the bag ill probly carry is like a tote from hollister.
is that ok? is it too dorky or what? I need your opinions =]

That sounds like a fine outfit, but remember: first impressions aren't so much what you are wearing, but is more based on being yourself.

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13/f. I KNOW I have pinworms i don't think anymore and it hurts so bad, I also think they are going into my vajayjay [im sorry this is gross i know, sorry], and its hurts soo bad that i rather just not sleep at all. I want to tell my mom I have them I just don't know how I know I shouldn't be scared, but please just help me please.

Maybe start by saying "Mom I have to go to the doctor" and go from there.
I know it is hard to tell her, but you know you have to in order to get the problem resolved.
She wants you to be well, and she can't help you if you don't tell her the problem.

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I need your opinions. I will be a freshman this monday, and I only know like 2 people in my highschool becuase I moved to a diff side of town. My problem is, I'm scared to like stand at the bus stop becuase the people standing there will all know each other, and I'll just be standing there all awkard, but I'm not sure if my mom should drive me becuause im not sure if thats like "cool", and I'm not sure if it's a bad idea not to ride the bus the 1st day and get used to it. I need your opinions on which would be best. thanks!
P.S. (my mom could only drive me the 1st and 2nd day cuz after that her job starts)

If your mom can only drive you 2 days, what is the point?
Ride the bus.
Yah, you don't know those kids, but you will get to know them a lot quicker than you think.
Remember: Riding the bus isn't like sitting next to someone in class- on the bus you can talk to each other.

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me and my boyfriend first strated going out about a 1year and 7months ago then we broke up and now we have been going back out for about 3months but his dad hates me i mean everyone in his family knows we go out besides his dad and it isnt even his reall dad but he tells him if you go back out with her ill ground you for the rest of your life and he wont even let us be friends ijust dont know if its worth keeping this releationship if his dad hates me i mean were in love with each other and he means everything to me i just dont know what to do please help

Uh... If you are all in love with each other, then why should you allow what his dad thinks of you to dictate your relationship?

I mean, I understand you want to be liked by his family and all, but what they think of you is not really important, when it comes right down to it.

You love the boy, and the boy loves you. So as long as you are good to each other and for each other that is all that really, honestly matters. Correct?

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hi,can you still have sex if the condom dose not fit..cause i got some to day and its my first time puting one on..so can you have sex if it dose not fit??thanks

Not a smart idea at all. If they don't fit, then you might as well not be wearing one.

You would be wise to go and get some that do fit properly.


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is a zebra black with white stripes or white with black stripes?

Considering their bellies are white, I would have to say white with black stripes.

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Well, I have a friend and she is 3 years older than me so she's always been a step ahead of me in life. Like 3! haha. Yea so I'm basically going through the same thing she went through 3 years ago and I was just wondering if I'll be like her in 3 years. Right now I hate life but I"m 14 and that's not a happy age at all. That's why I want to be her age because she has an amazing boyfriend. And wonderful friends plus she's pretty and has long blonde hair. She's everything I want to be. I just wanted to know if maybe, just maybe this will be me in 3 years.

In three years, you will be YOU. Period.

You don't want to be her. You may think you do, but you really don't. Her life may seem like peaches and cream on the outside, but peaches do have pits and cream does go sour. Meaning her life may seem glorious to you, but she has problems and stress just like you and everyone else.

Being who you are is all you really have that is absolutely yours in this life. No one can take that away from you, but you can take it away from yourself.
So why on Earth would you want to give up your own unique individuality? You then just live a clone life that belongs to someone else.

Make sense? I sure hope so.

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14/f
me and my ex had broked up about three months ago and now i have a new boyfriend(his ex best friend) who ive been seeing for almost two months now. me and my ex had been still talking on tha phone as friends but then he will always try to get back with me. i told my boifriend everything and i still do so he knew that we was talking as friends but i didnt want to tell him that he use to try to get back with me. so last night my cousin came over to spend a night and he really doesnt like my ex so this morning i told my boifriend that my ex use to try to talk to me and he now wants to fight my ex and so does my cousin. so this morning when me and mii boifriend got off tha phone i called my ex and mii cousin started yelling at him and i felt bad because thats making me an instigator and then i started talking to him as a friend again and he was telling me how his grandmother died and he got into a car wreck and i started feeling really sorry for him. and im kinda a jealous ex so he started to tell me bout his new girlfriend and how she is his everything and stuff and i started to mess with him about how my cousin and boyfriend are going to beat him up and stuff so then he hung up in my face and i started missing him not trying to get back with me. and i really want to know am i being a bitch for setting this up on him just because he broke my heart???

You aren't necessarily a bitch, but by no stretch of the imagination did you do the right thing.

The best thing you can do is to just forget it and move on with your life. He has, obviously.

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Does anyone know the song that is playing in this scene.....

http://i119.photobucket.com/albums/o121/Music_Love16/Dirty%20Dancing/s.jpg


or when she walks in and the people are dancing and she's like "i carried a watermelon"

does anyone know the song that is playingg that people are dirty dancing to?

thanksssss soOOo muchh!

The song playing is "Do You Love Me?" by the Contours.


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EDIT**

Actually, the first song as she walks in with the watermelon is "I'm A Love Man" by Otis Redding...

Both of those songs play during that scene.

-ygs

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I'm a Gemini. What does that really mean? I really don't know. I know you can read something in the paper, but what does A gemini really mean?.. 16/f thanks! =]

Here is a link to wikipedia telling you all about Gemini.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gemini_%28constellation%29

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I'm going to few cities in U.S. for trip, but do states use the same volts as Canada? the 110V wall plug-ins? because i want to bring my charger for camera. Please let me know!

Yes, we have 110 wall plug-ins. :)


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im going on a big mall trip today. and its really cold and yucky and crappy out.. so i wanna wear sweats. is that completely bummy? i just want some opinions :) let me know ♥

Why should comfort be considered 'bummy'?

You want to wear sweats and be warm and comfortable. So wear sweats. I doubt you will be the only one.

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ok, i found this one site, with really cute clothes. but when i look and see how much it is, it says £16.00 whys that E or whatever there? does that mean its not american money? how much is it? is it just 16 dollars? or more or less?


ahh help.

It means European price.

Surely they have a link to contact them- send them an email asking if they even ship to the US, and how you should go about paying them if they do. They'll let you know the details on how they work it.

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f 15
ive been dating my boyfriend for a year.
weve gone kinda far in bed... our pants have stayed on though. well i accidentally gave him a hicki and my parents freaked. i told them i had never kissed his neck before and i wanted to see what it was like... and it was an accident. *lie i know* i got in a ton of trouble. my mom started yelling and crying... but seriously im 15... she shouldnt really care about a hicki. my parents are thinking about making me break up with my boyfriend even though im completely in love with him. i just need help. :)

"but seriously im 15... she shouldnt really care about a hicki"

Well, actually, you are ONLY 15, and since you aren't honest with your mom about what all you are doing in your personal life, then she has plenty to worry and care about.

Yah, your pants have stayed on, but SHE doesn't know that and I'm sure that has her outright terrified. She may be wondering where else you guys have put hickeys on one another...

Worrying that her 15 year old daughter may be having sex, and then that turning into worries of a girl who is 15 and pregnant is plenty to make a good momma cry.

If I were in your shoes, I would be straight up with at least my mother. She surely knows you lied, because hickeys don't just happen "by accident." If she knows you tried to pull a fast one on her, she has every reason to mistrust you and your boyfriend.

Be honest with her. Yah, she might be frustrated with you at first, but I'm sure she will appreciate your honesty and trust that you do keep your pants on when you say that you do.

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ok so last fall my boyfriend started liking this other girl. he told her he was gonna break up with me, and they kissed. the next morning he called me crying and told me it was a huge mistake, and he didnt want to lose me, and blah blah blah. so i gave him another chance.

so for while he didnt talk to that girl. but they had a class together and after a while they started sitting together and became "good friends." and then i started hearing about how he was always flirting with her and stuff. so of course i talked to him about it, many times, and finally i told him if he wanted to stay with me, he couldnt talk to her anymore. and he promised not to.

so then we were at this end of school party, and of course she was there, with her new boyfriend. and my boyfriend didnt actually TALK to her, but he was constantly around her and showing off like an idiot in front of her the whole time. so i told him it was obvious that he liked her, and i broke up with him. he spent the next few days crying and begging me to take him back, swearing he didnt like her.

well, as soon as that girl heard that id broken up with him, she dumped her boyfriend. so i told him, here's your chance, you can go out with her now, obviously she likes you. but he said he only wanted to go out with me. and then SHE wrote me a note, saying that i should go back out with him, that she doesnt like him and he doesnt like her, and that we're perfect together, and i shouldnt be mad at him, i should be mad at her cuz it was all her fault. (i didnt really get that last part, but whatever).

sooo... we got back together, and we've had an awesome summer and everything has been perfect. but now school is about to start. and i just know hes gonna have a ton of classes with her, and i cant stop worrying about it. arrrrggghhh! and i keep wondering if maybe he just stayed with me for the summer (cuz we live down the street from each other, whereas this girl lives far away and he'd never see her during the summer).

should i be worried? or am i just paranoid? im just dreading school starting because of this and i hate feeling this way. someone please tell me how to stop worrying or what i should do if you think i do have something to be worried about. (i hope that made sense!)

Think of it this way- he had his chance to go out with her, but instead he spent that time crying over you and begging you to get back together.

That should tell you right there that you have nothing to worry about.

So he may flirt some and he may show his ass now and then, but you are the one he CHOOSES to be with. Correct?

No worries unless he gives you something to be worried about, ok?

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I'm kind of interested in seeing them but from what I can tell he's toned down a lot,both in the music and shows.Are they boring now or is it still something worth seeing?

I know this is a late answer, but as I can see, you haven't really got an answer to your question.

I saw Marilyn Manson in concert, but it hasn't been very recently. It was probably 4 or 5 years ago, but it was an awesome show.

I don't know if that helps you much since it's been a while since I saw him.

Would I go see him again? In a heartbeat.

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Okay this may sound stupid to some...but here's my problem.

My husband and I have been married for three years. I love him very much. He's 26 now and I'm 23. I just graduated from Harvard.

My husband comes from a rather welathy family and once he graduated from Harvard he took over his father's company.

Recently he just expanded the company and I really have no clue what that means, but he's so busy now and always so stressed out.

I just found out I am around one month pregnant a few days ago, and I'm so happy, but the thing is I don't know if my husband will be... Landon and I have discussed having children, but we didn't plan for this. He suspects something is wrong...I can rarely hide my feelings from him.

It's just that he's so busy right now and it would break my heart if he wasn't happy about the baby. He told me things would be hectic for a while with his company, he's always gone before I wake up and he comes home around 2:00 AM and sometimes I wait up for him...even though he tells me not to.

Should I tell him now? I probably won't start showing for a few more months. Would it really hurt to wait until he isn't so busy and stressed out with running a whole company. I really don't want to be selfish, because I know that if I told him he would stay home with me and become so overprotective and want to be with me every second.

He already feels bad that we don't have that much time to spend together right now. He says he feels as if he's neglecting me...and being a bad husband. That makes me sad because he's not.

Anyway, should I tell him or not? I don't want him to hinder the whole company because of me, and I guess I'm also kind of scared he'll react badly towards the baby. What if he doesn't want it...


Anyone who can help, please do, and thank you so much.

-Gianna

I think you should tell him. Now.

The more time he has to straighten out his job so he can spend time with his expanding family, the better. If you wait and wait to tell him, he may be resentful that you didn't say something sooner.

Since he is busy and stressed over his company, then news like this can make him feel happy and excited in his family life, possibly canceling out some of the anxiety he feels about work.

If he hinders the whole company, it will not be because of you. It will be because he feels family is far more important than work (a good thing).

If he reacts badly towards the baby and doesn't want it, then he is really not as good of a husband as you think he is. Surely he won't have that sort of reaction.

You do need to tell him right away. You don't want to hide things from your husband, especially something as big and exciting as this.

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im fasinated by the titanic, does anyone know of any good interesting books that I culd read about the titanic? thanks to all!!

The link below is to titanicbooksite.

I, also, am fasiniated by the Titanic. Nothing creeps me out more than those pictures showing it all rusted underwater...

A Night To Remember is a VERY good book about it's history.

http://www.titanicbooksite.com/LordWalter.html


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17/f
I was dating my boyfriend for about a year and half when he cheated on me. He didn't just kiss another girl or hang out with her but he had sex with her at a party after we had had a fight. He didn't even tell me and i had to find out from the girl herself. She didn't even know i was hius girlfriend and she asked me to give him his ring back.( the ring was a promise ring we gave to eachother awhile ago) up until this happened i thought i could spend the rest of my life with him. I haven't talked to him since but he is always with my brothers. I just don't know if he went so far that i should throw away everything we had. Where is the line of going to far to be forgiven? Do i just give up and say let's be friends?

I don't know what the answer to your question is. That is up to you to decide what is right for you.

The best I can tell you is that you need to give yourself some time to sort out your feelings. You can't decide something like this with anger and hurt in your heart.

Give it a while to get over the negative emotions and then maybe you can better decide weather you should stick it out or move on.

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