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bf drama with my parents
f 15
ive been dating my boyfriend for a year.
weve gone kinda far in bed... our pants have stayed on though. well i accidentally gave him a hicki and my parents freaked. i told them i had never kissed his neck before and i wanted to see what it was like... and it was an accident. *lie i know* i got in a ton of trouble. my mom started yelling and crying... but seriously im 15... she shouldnt really care about a hicki. my parents are thinking about making me break up with my boyfriend even though im completely in love with him. i just need help. :)
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I think you should sit your parents down and have a chat
Says something like
Mum&Dad i know your concerned but im a responsible girl dont get worried ino well enough about getting pregnant and im not going to do it at this age that hickey was an accident i just wanted to see what it was like i promise it ment nothing more im sorry if iv worried or upset you but i really like this boy and it would break my heart to finish with him if you loved me you would let me stay with him
hope this helps
MissTaterzx
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hah well first off explain to your parents what you think. Tell them that your boyfriend is very responcible and so are you, and that your sorry, this will help your parents to get over it and trust you again =]
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"but seriously im 15... she shouldnt really care about a hicki"
Well, actually, you are ONLY 15, and since you aren't honest with your mom about what all you are doing in your personal life, then she has plenty to worry and care about.
Yah, your pants have stayed on, but SHE doesn't know that and I'm sure that has her outright terrified. She may be wondering where else you guys have put hickeys on one another...
Worrying that her 15 year old daughter may be having sex, and then that turning into worries of a girl who is 15 and pregnant is plenty to make a good momma cry.
If I were in your shoes, I would be straight up with at least my mother. She surely knows you lied, because hickeys don't just happen "by accident." If she knows you tried to pull a fast one on her, she has every reason to mistrust you and your boyfriend.
Be honest with her. Yah, she might be frustrated with you at first, but I'm sure she will appreciate your honesty and trust that you do keep your pants on when you say that you do.
ygs-29/f
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ouch. i kinda went through something like this too. i made out with this one kid, and my mom never thought i kissed anyone before. but i was in like 7th grade. & she was like flipping out on me and everything. and i wasnt allowed to hang out with guys for along time. so i kinda came up with something. that works incredibly well. if you do it right. start talking to your mom alot more or dad. i think its easier to talk to my mom but whatever. tell her about what everyone does. like, make you seem perfect. like tell her about what all the bad kids do. like ill be like.. yeah mom some kids were smoking pot. and ill be like, yeah i'd never do that. and like i dont know. i just make myself look good. and the more you tell them, the more they trust you. if you tell them what other kids are doing, & then even if your lieing, you can just say how you wouldnt do that. you just gotta seem like your mature. & stuff.
my mom used to be kinda strict with me. but now. shes not at all.
so yeah. just basically show your parents your not a bad kid.
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Well obviously, they're losing their trust in you because you're lying to them. Apologize for lying and be honest with them. They're going to find out sooner or later, so you might as well tell the truth upfront. Parents are going to be upset no matter no far you go, you're their kid & they're concerned for your well-being, worried about you getting pregnant someday, etc. They shouldn't make you break up with your boyfriend though- he's not doing anything wrong, but your parents are concerned that hickeys will lead to something more. Try to look at the situation both ways. Both you AND your parents seem to be at fault here- mostly you though, for lying. They're reaction may seem like a bit of an overreaction, but trust is a big thing to have with your parents, especially as you get older. You don't want to lose it.
-LM
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