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Boyfriend/Birthdayy
So my boyfriends birthday is tomorrow.He's turning 19.I already got him a shirt && shorts from AE.Personally, I don't like it, But my mother picked it out.I told him I already got his gift and he kept trying to get me to tell him what I got him.For example.. "Is it used or new" "Can I use it over and over again" ..etc. I told him I wasn't going to tell him though.Then I went on to asking.. well what DO YOU WANT?.. that I would consider whatever he wanted.And he wanted me to ressure him that I would.And he said.. "BOW CHICA WOW WOW" meaning.. (sex) It's been 4 months and it would be our 5 month on the 9th.Anyways and I was like SCUSEEE MEE? haha and he said he'd put that off the list.He's been wanting that for awhile now, But obviously it hasn't happened.I'm still a virgin and I'm not even trying to consider it right now.I'm 16.. i'd be 17 in a couple months.Soo, I don't know if I'm wrong for not giving it to him or what.I know if he was a good boyfriend he'll wait.. yeah I know that, But the thing is I tease alot and he recently has too.. I guess it seems unfair on my part for kind of leading him on.. does that make sense?? I don't mean to do that though, just I like doing it.Is it wrong of me to do that?We did all the other stuff and what not, But seems like it's not enough I guess.Sooo any suggestions to what to do.I know only I can decide to what to do and what not.I just want some opinions that's all.Thanks again whoever answers. :]
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Lesson 1.
Guys are horny. We are always horny. 24/7.
Hes horny now, hes going to be horny later. That doesnt mean you owe him your virginity, it just means that investing in some lube for his one handed trombone practice would be a kindness.
Especially at 19. God was I horny. I went through a pack and a half of condoms per weekend with the girl I was dating then. I spent more on them than on gas.
His sex drive will be waiting for you when/if youre ready.
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It doesn't really sound like your relationship is being threatened by your not being ready to have sex. He probably suggested it casually because he wasn't quite sure if you're ready yet..a lot of guys like to make sure their girlfriends are ready before they get in the heat of the moment and try to have sex with them and then get turned down..it can make things awkward. But I think he knows you're not ready yet. He said "I'll take it off the list" which means he's willing to wait..or just go without it. I went out with a guy who was 18 when I was 15 and he took it really slow, and was really careful, because he knew that I was young and not as ready for sex as he was. So don't worry about it..he probably understands.
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just remember that it is your body and only you know when your ready. it sounds like you want to hold off for awhile so just tell him that. say sometihng like its not that i dont want to give it to YOU, im just not ready to give it up at all yet. im sure he understands and was joking around about the birthday present. sure all guys want sex but most ARE willing to wait if they know that you just arent ready for it yet. its okay to tease him a little bit since you guys are doing other stuff to hold him over just dont push it over the line, where he thinks you just wont have sex because you like to tease him.
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Well, you are right that if he is a good guy he will wait, and that only you can decide if you are ready or not.
Giving him sex as a birthday present is not something I would do, personally. I just can't envision sex as a gift, when it is supposed to be an act of love.
If you are feeling that you are being unfair to him by leading him on (which I would agree with you, myself) then just stop doing it until your intentions aren't merely to tease. Make sense?
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