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the other girl - should i be worried?
ok so last fall my boyfriend started liking this other girl. he told her he was gonna break up with me, and they kissed. the next morning he called me crying and told me it was a huge mistake, and he didnt want to lose me, and blah blah blah. so i gave him another chance.
so for while he didnt talk to that girl. but they had a class together and after a while they started sitting together and became "good friends." and then i started hearing about how he was always flirting with her and stuff. so of course i talked to him about it, many times, and finally i told him if he wanted to stay with me, he couldnt talk to her anymore. and he promised not to.
so then we were at this end of school party, and of course she was there, with her new boyfriend. and my boyfriend didnt actually TALK to her, but he was constantly around her and showing off like an idiot in front of her the whole time. so i told him it was obvious that he liked her, and i broke up with him. he spent the next few days crying and begging me to take him back, swearing he didnt like her.
well, as soon as that girl heard that id broken up with him, she dumped her boyfriend. so i told him, here's your chance, you can go out with her now, obviously she likes you. but he said he only wanted to go out with me. and then SHE wrote me a note, saying that i should go back out with him, that she doesnt like him and he doesnt like her, and that we're perfect together, and i shouldnt be mad at him, i should be mad at her cuz it was all her fault. (i didnt really get that last part, but whatever).
sooo... we got back together, and we've had an awesome summer and everything has been perfect. but now school is about to start. and i just know hes gonna have a ton of classes with her, and i cant stop worrying about it. arrrrggghhh! and i keep wondering if maybe he just stayed with me for the summer (cuz we live down the street from each other, whereas this girl lives far away and he'd never see her during the summer).
should i be worried? or am i just paranoid? im just dreading school starting because of this and i hate feeling this way. someone please tell me how to stop worrying or what i should do if you think i do have something to be worried about. (i hope that made sense!)
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Think of it this way- he had his chance to go out with her, but instead he spent that time crying over you and begging you to get back together.
That should tell you right there that you have nothing to worry about.
So he may flirt some and he may show his ass now and then, but you are the one he CHOOSES to be with. Correct?
No worries unless he gives you something to be worried about, ok?
ygs-29/f
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I think you are just being paranoid. Its obvious that he cares for you, I mean how may times do you see a guy cry over a girl?
If you are still feeling uncomfortable with him being around her then just watch them together.
Part of being in a realtionship is trusting each other, so try your best to trust him.
Hope this helps,
AlyssaBT4T
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Honestly I wouldn't be worried. He's decided that he doesn't like this girl anymore- which has nothing to do with how much he likes you, no one can help who they like. She's told you the same thing. Her breaking up with her boyfriend at the same time was probably just a coincidence.
Whether or not you worry about your boyfriend and this girl being in classes together is based entirely on how much you trust him. Don't be too paranoid about him flirting with other girls- a lot of guys do this unintentionally & it doesn't usually mean anything, they're just being friendly (and there's nothing wrong with your boyfriend being friends with other girls, even girls he used to like)
-LM
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