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This Is Me. Take it - Or Leave it
I'm Emily
I'm 18 years young
I can be a bit straight forward but it comes from the heart
I'm moving to Florida next week!
I have a Jeep and it is very sexy.
I'm a little short for my liking
I am an aspiring model
I'm going to college for massage therapy, but am hoping to get into the entertainment business.
I used to be on my highschool's fencing team, and I miss it a whole lot ::sigh::
I used to fence with a sabre.
Art is my life
Andy Warhol is AMAZING!
I'm obsessed with tattoos and piercings
I am a guitarist, a photographer, a painter, and an artist.
I'm a loner, I'm a loser but I like it that way.
My friends and family mean the world to me.
I have 3 dogs.
I've been through more than I should.
I've been told I'm too adult for my age.
I'll answer your questions if you need it [=



Words of advice on love:
- Don't ever let someone tell you that you are not in love.
- If you say that you THINK you're in love, then you aren't. If you really feel it, then you are.
- Never let someone judge your relationship unless they know FACTS.
- To me, age is not an issue. If you are 13 and dating a 30 year old, then it's a big deal. If it's 5 or 6 years, not a big deal.
- If you are being abused mentally/physically GET OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP! Don't give the excuse that he apologized. If he loves you he wouldn't do that to you.


I'm not a fan of answering questions that are listed in the FAQ. If it's a question you can look up on Google then please, look it up on google. Don't be lazy.


I do not like when people have issues with typing.

iif u typ3 liik3 thiiz iit piissesz m3 0ff. Alot.

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okay well i've always told myself that i'm going to wait until marriage before i have sex... but now that i'm older and in highschool i've faced reality. and i'm not gonna kid myself. if i'm ready to have sex, i'm going to. of course i'm gonna wait for the guy i love, but still. everyone always says "wait til marriage" but in reality WHO REALLY DOES? and even if i have sex with a guy and we break up and regret it, that doesnt mean i'm gonna be depressed for the rest of my life would it? so whats the big deal? who agrees.

i agree with you there are alot of people that always say "wait until you're married" or "wait until you're older" but i feel that if you TRULY love someone and they love you in the same way and you want to be intimate with eachother in that way. i say go for it. you also have to note the risks that are involved. for one there is pregnancy and then there is disease. another is if people find out you can get a rep of being a slut. I know i'm not going to wait until i'm married to lose my virginity. when i feel that i'm ready to have sex with my boyfriend i'll talk to him about it and if he's okay with it then we are going to take every precation necisary (sp?) and we are gonna do it.

hope i helped =D

..::..emily..::..

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Sometimes my boobs get really sore and tender and they hurt alot..I know they get that way during ur period, but sometimes it randomly hurts..whats that mean?

they are growing... if they are big enough already sorry hun but they are getting bigger. mine are the SAME way 24/7 hope i helped

..::..emily..::..

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I sometimes get pimples around my mouth. Just little ones but they annoy the hell out of me and are ugly. Do you know of any good products that would help?

wash your face day and night use oxy pads and clean and clear moisturizer. =D hope i helped

..::..emily..::..

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I have a cold. I feel so gross and all I want to do is sleep. But I cant because I have loads of homework that I should be doing right now but I just feel..gross! Is there anything I can do to make me feel a little better so I can concentrate(sp?) on getting my work done? Besides taking medicine..I rate :(

take a HOT bath. play some calming music and draw yourself a bubble bath make it nice and hot and try to relax... just don't fall asleep in the tub because you'll drown and we don't want that!

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Ok, What exactly is "Spooning?"

spooning is when a girl is like on top of a guy and they like rub up and down on eachother... ass to crotch action.

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Hey..okay well my problem is that i really really like this guy...he is really hot,got a good personailty hes really fun to be around...but I heard that he only goes out with punk girls which im not..and im not just about to change who i am for a guy but i really like this one!!..i mean i talk to him and hang around with him...but i dont kno what to do!!!

So my question(s) is: 1.what is your idea of being punk?
2.if he just goes for punk girls....how do i try to get him to notice me without trying to be too punk?
3.do you think there will ever be a chance if i keep trying?

Thanxs girls...luvs you lots

first of all do not lable people and he shouldn't either it seriously pisses me off so fucking bad. anyways. do not change who you are because of another person that you like

2: my idea of being punk is not being punk... punk is not a style it's a type of music.

3: stop trying... move on. if that's all he goes for and you're not his type there is no use in trying. guys are gonna like who they like and they won't change nothing you can do about it.

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Hi, well first off i am 15, turning 16 years old in a few months and a female. I have never had a boyfriend, nor kiss anyone. Sometimes i feel like an alien from everyone else and i feel like my life is boring. I keep telling myself that it'll be worth it when the right guy comes along. But, every time a guy does come along theres something that tells me 'No.' Its weird and i need advice:-/ Thanks.

Well honestly there is really nothing i can say a bout that. You're time WILL come trust me. When you have your first boyfriend and your first kiss it will all be worth the wait. In the mean time don't ever be down on yourself like telling yourself that you're not pretty or that you're fat or w/e guys don't go for girls with low self esteem. The best thing for you to do is smile. I tell everyone this, EVERYONE likes a nice smile if you're hanging out with your friends laughing just smile. because smiles attract alot of guys. And what you said about when a guy does come along and there's something that tells you "no"... maybe your not ready for it yet you just need to calm down for a while and just relax someone will come along. and when they do here are some tips on kissing ;-) as soon as your lips touch you should be okay... you'll be a little shakey at first but after a couple of seconds you'll be fine... make sure your faces are close enough so that you know where your lips are aiming and THEN close your eyes, do not open your mouth that wide because you might like eat his face, when you kiss a guy just like massage his tounge with yours... if you want to be a little kinky... try to nibble on his lip but not that hard because a guy tried to do that to me once and he bit my lip really hard and it started bleeding so if you do that PLEASE be careful and my boyfriend said it's called NIBBLING for a reason... so nibble do not bite! hope i helped!!! if you need anything just drop one in my box!

..::..emily..::..

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I want to get my bellybutton pierced but i dont think my mom will let me ill be 17 in less than a month any1 have any ideas on how to convince her ? and also i was wondering how bad it hurts and how they do it

There is really no way for you to convince her. and it hurts really bad. REALLY bad they basically shove a thick needle through the skin on the top of your belly button. they try to do it fast but it ends up being slow and it hurts really bad. i don't have mine pierced but i went with my friend to get hers done and she was sqeezing my hand when they were doing it. good luck. hope i helped

..::..emily..::..

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Hey i was wondering... when am I supposed to get arm hair thats actually brown and underarm hair.. i mean im 14/m and most of my friends have at least a little... when is the normal age for this..
Admins please don't delete this I really am concerned...

Whenever you hit puberty. There is no "normal" age but there is an average age of 13-14 i know guys that have hit puberty at 16... so you'll be fine its normal see, if you're really short then that would explain alot. because you haven't hit puberty yet. you'll get there.

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ok I have very thick hair a few inches past my shoulder..and I am starting to wash it alot more so it won't be frizzy..soo now I always have to do something to it or it will be REALLY big and poofy..well I can't blow dry my hair straight..it takes forever and it never works..so I got all those straightening poducts..but they're all for when you blow dry your hair straight..when you don't..it just makes it not frizzy ya know? I straighten it alot but to make it look good it takes SOOO long and I dont have the time and it's really bad for your hair..can't get it chemically cuz thats bad too and I got it once and it messed up..so any tips to help?

first off... don't wash your hair alot because that is what makes it frizzy even though it doesn't seem that way. wash it at the least once a week and at the most 3 times a week. my suggestion is to wash it at night then blow dry it then straighten it. i suggest you use garneir frutice ( i know i didn't spell that right) use the sleek and shiny one... it's new i use that and it works. also use john frieda's frizz ease hair serum in out of control.

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hey umm when i get my period its like only 3 days it that normal? should i see a doctor?

well yes it is normal and wow you're lucky!! i get mine for a week. some girls get their period for 10 days and some get it for 3... it's completely normal every girl is different. don't worry about it!

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hey well i'm really nervous about the first time i have sex. im nervous about becoming pregnant, like if the condom breaks. so i was wondering if its wrong/weird for the guy to wear 2 condoms (one on top of the other)... is that really pathetic? i know im supposed to use lube but i'm still scared so could i make him wear 2 just in case?

If you're scared about getting pregnant then i really think that you shoud wait a couple more months... unless you KNOW that you're 100% physically, mentally and emotionally ready to do it. and no.. it's not stupid to make the guy wear 2 condoms it's called double wrapping and alot of girls in my school do it with their boyfriends. make sure you use the condom correctly and check to make sure there are no tears or holes in the condoms. be careful and good luck. oh yeah! hope i helped.

..::..emily..::..

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Ok my boyfriend and I just recently started having sex a couple of weeks ago, and everything went fine. This may be an over share but we took every precaution, using spermicidal condoms and having him "pull out". So this is why i don't understand why my period is late. Not by too much but by a few days. Then yesterday he fingered me and there was signs of blood about a half hour later. (and he had already popped me before that so its not that)I'm freakin out... you don't think i could be pregnant do you? Help me and ill do anything you ask... PLEASE

There is a possibility that you could be pregnant. Condoms can break no matter what kind of condom they are. What you need to do is calm down and not think about it because if you're stressing over it your period will be late because of being stressed out. You could be pregnant but it's too soon to tell. So just calm down because you worrying so much will make your period even later and you'll be stressing even more. Good luck and I hope I helped.


..::..emily..::..

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ok my little problem is...that I've had many gurlz ask me to Homecoming...I mean I got gurlz from 6 different schools asking me...and like 2/3 or 4 from each school..c im very flattered..but if I go with 1 of them the others will get really pissed..if you got any idea on what I should do or/and who I should choose..tell me

Kev

Wow you're a popular boy!! Well my advice is to take say yes to whoever YOU want to go out with... I answered another question like this but the guy was only dealing with 2 girls. I told him it talk to both of the girls and ask if he could bring the two of them. But since you're dealing with many chicks then you might not want to go with all of them... so just go with whoever YOU really want to go with and don't worry about what the other girls are gonna think. Us girls get really pissed really easily. That's how all girls are and that's how all girls are gonna be there is nothing you can do to prevent them from getting pissed. If they're pretty they'll find someone else to go with. No big deal. Hope I helped. If you need anything else just drop one in my box.

..::..emily..::..

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Ok, I'm 14/f
And there is this guy at my church. He is soo funny and he's a really good Christian, which is very important for me, and he has an awesome personality and is very fun to be around. The only problem is, he is really small. He is like 1/2 a foot shorter than me and weighs about 30 lbs less. Beside all this, I really like him a lot because of the inside, which is really what counts, but I'm afraid of what my friends would say if we dated. Because well, I've been known for going for the good-looking guys. So what should I do?

Looks aren't everything... If a guy has a great personality then that's all that counts. I met my boyfriend over the internet... no it wasn't one of those chat room things he's my best friend's boyfriend's best friend... but i could tell that just by his personality that he was a wonderful guy and i really wanted to date this guy from the first night i talked to him. i told him that even if he was the ugliest guy i had ever met i'd still go out with him because of the fact that his personality was WONDERFUL. we've been together for 4 months and we are totaly in love. he is a very handsome guy and he loves me for me and i love him for him. looks don't mean crap. just keep that in mind. Oh yeah and i'm short... i'm 5'3" and i dated a guy that was like 4'11"... so no it's really not a big deal. and the short guys are cuter anyways. lol hope i helped.

..::..emily..::..

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ok...well i have this kinda thing for piercings, i have my ears pierced of course, my belly button, my nose...well i took that out and i did have my eyebrow! well i really really want my tongue pierced! my mom wont let me get well 1 because im too young and also my brother had his done and it really messed up his teeth but anywayz i was just wondering if you knew how i should do it or w/e alrighty thanx!!

Well if your mom lets you get it done make sure you do some research and find the best place to get it done. My cousin got her tongue pierced and the guy put the bar in crooked and it gave her tongue an infection and now she has this big white-ish yellow dot on her tongue from the infection and it won't go away and it's been out for about 4 years. It also does mess up your teeth because a friend of mine has it done. most people get their tongue pierced for sexual satisfaction... for a girl if you're giving a guy a blow job the cold of the metal ball is supposed to make it feel better... that's normally the whole point to getting a tongue piercing. but if you want it done you have to be aware of those things that can happen. hope i helped

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Ok, its my boyfriends and mine 1month on Wensday. And I don't know what to get him...what should i get him?

Wrap a bow around yourself then put a little jacket over you and take the jacket off and have him unwrap the bow and say "This is your gift... ME!" HOPEFULLY he won't take it the wrong way and think that you're like litterly giving yourself up to him... but you've been together for a month so i don't think he'd think that. i like to get "gag gifts" there is this store in my local shopping mall called Spencers where they have all this weird funny stuff... i prefer to get my boyfriend a man thong and edible underwear... it's funny and you two can laugh about it and get a laugh out of it. Hope i helped if you need anything drop one in my box

..::..emily..::..

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ok me and my gf r goin on 3 months........thas my longest relationship and shes the first person ive eva said i love u to and.....she talks bout her ex bf ALOT it seems like every convo we have is bout him.....and then when we r around each other she neva wants to get close i have to sit next to her and kiss her and stuff like tha.......n e ways this had happened a couple times and i need sum opinions......should i break up w/ her or wait it out and see wut happens.....i dont know wut to do...i still love her but it hurts when she talks bout her ex and ive asked her to stop but she doesnt.....n e ones opinion helps.......thanx

My ex boyfriend would talk about his ex girlfriend ALL the time. It really got on my nerves. So what I did was I started talking about my ex boyfriend. He got annoyed and told me to stop talking about him. I said "I'll only stop talking about him if you stop talking about Kristy (that was her name)" i told him that it bothered me ALOT and it hurt for him to talk about his ex girlfriend all the time. If the only time she shuts up about her ex boyfriend is when you're next to her kissin her and huggin her then there is really something wrong with that picture there. i know it's going to hurt but she probably still has feelings for her ex boyfriend so that's why she keeps talking about him. my boyfriend would talk about his ex girlfriend but what he would do was compair us. try talking to her again and let me know how things go. if you have anymore questions feel free to drop one in my box and i'll be happy to help ya! :)

..::..emily..::..

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Im going to get my ears piercing in about a half hour on a 1-10 scale how bad does it hurt? And do you think i should get a double piercing in a few months?

doesn't hurt a bit... quick pinch and you're done. so it's a 1... make sure you clean them like they tell you because if you don't it will get infected and THAT will hurt... wait about 2-4 months before getting your second holes. hope i helped good luck.

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Well I have been quite puzzled about this lately....when you're taking the pill, do you have to use a condom to help prevent pregnancy? I don't need it for STD's b/c my bf and I don't have any nor have we been with any other people ever before. So any advice on this matter would be greatly appreciated.

Female, 16

You should still use a condom to avoid the risk of getting pregnant. Keep in mind that condoms nor the pill are 100% guarenteed that you won't get pregnant. You don't HAVE to use a condom but I would highly suggest it if you don't want to end up with a child. Make sure the condom is put on correctly and that there aren't any holes/ tears in it. Also, if you and your boyfriend are together in the future you should still get tested regularly for STD's and HIV and any other sexually transmitted diseases. Hope I helped. Good luck if you have any more questions drop one in my box

..::..emily..::..

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