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My mom and dad just recently took my phone away[yesterday] they yelled and yelled!They say they can't "trust" me and they also said if I told a fib about texting after 8 I would lie about anything.I am getting my punishment today but last night they went through my whole entire phone. How do I show them that they can trust me again? P.S. It is super hard to be a "good girl". What do I do? *help* (link)
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Well the only way you can get their trust back is by trying your hardest to be that "good girl". I'm sure you're really good but maybe to try harder and up to their standards. I think that would be the only way to get them on your side. Try being the best you can be to earn their trust back. Good luck!
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I have been seeing this guy for about a year. It all started as a drunk hook up with him, an acquaintance back then, and after that we started seeing each other more and more, until we became best friends and developed feelings for each other. I have had a rough year and he has stuck by me through it all. During the summer, I wanted to start a relationship. I told him that I didn't want to just be friends with benefits anymore, I wanted to take the next step and make it official. He was hesitant, but he agreed. We were official for three months. During that time we fought a lot, so we decided to take a break because it seemed like things were better when we weren't officially together. He told me that the reason he agreed to a relationship with me was because he didn't want to lose me, but I could tell that he didn't truly want to be in one. So we did the unofficial thing for another few months, nothing changed except we stopped fighting and grew even closer. Yet in the back of my head it really bugged me that I was not good enough for him, that he's just using me for the benefits of a relationship without having to put in any of the work himself. I talked to him about that a few times, and he said he just feels more comfortable being what we are now. So last night I finally decided to end it because I was beginning to resent him for that, I don't like waiting around and catering to him whilst he finally decides he wants to be in a relationship with me again. I told him that we should just be friends without the benefits. He said alright let's go for it, that he understands.
I do really want to remain friends, because we do have a really beautiful friendship, but its painful at the same time because at the end of the day I still love him and want to be with him (I'm not sure if he knows that though. I've been pretty emotionally distant from him the past month or so). And I know he still cares about me but he just doesn't want an official relationship.
Did I make a mistake? Should I have stayed and waited some more? I really saw us getting married and having kids someday (he was even vaguely bringing it up), and I feel like I screwed it up. Should I tell him I think I've made a mistake?
When I've asked him why he doesn't want a relationship, he says its because of the obligations. He feels like he's obligated to spend time with me, so its forced on him. However, when we're not in a relationship, he spends time with me because he wants to. And what he said held true: when we were together, I rarely ever saw him and he didn't really pay attention to me. When we're not official, he's obviously happier and loves spending time with me. But what bothers me is that he's had girlfriends before so obviously that wasn't an issue in his past relationships.
The biggest reason why we fought while in the relationship was because I rarely saw him because we weren't taking any classes together, and I didn't have a car. Now we see each other every day because we have a class together and I got a car. So I feel like we won't have the same problems if we get into a relationship again.
Ugh. What should I do? At the end of the day I'm happy with him regardless if we're official or not, its just something that bugs me and eats away at my self esteem and makes me resent him. Did I make a mistake? Should I just talk to him about it some more?
We are both in college, and we have been exclusively seeing each other since we met. (link)
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I don't think you made a mistake. It does sound like he cares about you a lot and you guys are happy together. You want something real though. He just doesn't want that commitment and that is what you want out of him. If you could picture forever with him and if he is thinking the same then he'd have to step it up.
To be honest, I really wouldn't want a guy who would feel obligated to spend time with me because we were dating.
You don't need to fight because you guys don't see each other often. My boyfriend moved away and we're still together. If something like that happened while you two were together, it shouldn't be that big of an issue.
Anyway, I think you did a good thing by wanting to stay just friends with him. If he is ready for a relationship with you, then fine, but until he decides on what he wants, stay friends. You don't want to wait forever if he doesn't come around.
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I am 18/f. I have been through a lot with guys. I am so confused about what love is. My mother tells me that I am "in love with love" based on my behavior, but I hope this is not the case.
1. Infatuation: When I was 14, I was totally infatuated with this guy, I'll call him Matt. It was what I would like to call love at first sight. He wasn't interested in me as a person; he was just interested in me sexually. I portrayed myself in a sexual way to him because I wanted him to like me, and that's all he ever wanted to talk to me about. I never let him do anything with me (other than talk about it,) though. Let's just say I learned my lesson about guys and sex, but I don't think I've ever felt as strongly for a guy as I felt about this guy. There was just something about him. He gave me overwhelming butterflies, and I memorized things he said to me and repeated them over and over in my mind. We "dated" for a month, but I was 14 and the relationship was immature as can be. But, I did share my first kiss, and my first infatuation, with him. My crush on him was important because it set a high standard for my future relationships. I haven't been able to get these feelings for anyone else. I crushed on him subconsciously for 3 years total.
2: First real relationship: My most long-term relationship was pretty recently, I'll call him Ryan, and we dated for a little over 1 year. We broke up in August 2010. The first 4 months of our relationship were good, but after that, dating him started feeling like a chore. I never had butterflies for him, and I knew I wasn't in love with him, but I thought that feeling would come with time. I stayed with him because I had feelings for him, but now that I'm out of the relationship, I know they weren't love. It wasn't hard to break up with him, but it WAS hard to have him out of my life because I was so used to us being together. I lost all of my friends while I was dating him, and put the relationship over everything else, which made me resent Ryan. That's when I knew I wanted my life back.
3: Current relationship: Less than a month after the break up, I met John. He was a lot different than my last bf, but. He gave me butterflies and and we became exclusive after talking, getting to know each other, going on dates, and spending time together for about a month. I'm so confused about him, because this relationship is kind of in between the two other ones I've had. I'm not totally infatuated by him, but for the most part I'm not feeling like dating him is a chore, either. But not knowing how I feel about him is starting to really stress me out. There are times where I would spend the rest of my life with him, and I feel so connected to him, and like he understands me and I understand him. But the butterflies are far less frequent now, and I don't want this relationship to become like my relationship with Ryan was. We have spent every day together for about 2 months, because I feel like I can't go a day without seeing him. We have all-nighters together because we don't want to leave each other. But there are times where I feel like I did in my last relationship, where I feel smothered. I like to be pretty independent, but I don't want to go a day without him.
I guess what I'm asking is, what are the symptoms of love? I do think about John all the time, and I know that that is usually what happens when you love someone. I have the urge to tell him I love him every time we are together, but I hold myself back because I'm not sure if I do love him or not. We have only been together for 3 months, so even if I am in love with him, (which i don't know if I am or not...) I wouldn't want to tell him yet anyways, until I am 100% sure.
Basically my question is, based on the information I gave:
What are the symptoms of love? How do I know if I love John or not? and,
Do you think I am in the right relationship right now? (link)
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I can't say I totally know how it feels to be completely in love with someone but I totally get where you're coming from.
My relationships were just like yours. I started liking a guy two years older than me, I was 14 and I liked him when I was 15 too. We were talking and all he wanted was sex but he told me he cared and all that.
My last relationship I was in was about 10 months but I broke up with him because of the same reason you had. I knew I liked him but I know I wasn't in love and I just knew that my forever wouldn't be with him.
Now I'm also in my current relationship of 3 months so far and I don't think I'm in love with him but I know I do love him.
You won't always have butterflies for someone. Don't base love on those kinds of feelings.
Just think, is this the guy you want to spend forever with? Will you be able to live the rest of your life with him?
You have to love him for him though. There would be so many good and bad times and if you would stay with him through all of it then you know you love him.
Even if things change like his looks and he doesn't look as young and fresh, you'd still be with him. Love is a feeling but it's also an action so I know a lot of people who just say they're in love with someone because they always feel so good around them and have butterflies, ect. But what if you don't feel so good around him when you get in a fight? Would you still love him?
Anyway, don't get me wrong. People still do get butterflies even if they're like 50. Well, everyone says you'll know you're in love when you are. I'm pretty sure you'll know. Good luck!
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I'm a girl. I dated this guy for a month and then hey broke up with me for some other girl. He also did this to the girl he broke up with me for. Recently my friend and him have been going to the movies and hanging out and flirting. It really hurts and I just got over him after 4 months. He will not talk to me? She's not really my friend I acctually don't really like her she gets annoying. I deleted his number and deleted him off facebook because I could not stand him writing about her . I also deleted his number. What should I do? (link)
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So you started off good by cutting contact with him and all that. I think you should try to stay away from them. Just leave them to do whatever they want and don't get into their business because you'll end up hurting more. You'll get over him soon enough since you deleted him number and took him off facebook. Try keeping yourself busy and try finding someone else to keep your mind on. So far, you're doing fine. Good luck!
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17/F , sorry if this is so long. Well my boyfriend who is 20 have been dating for 3 months now, and I met him because his sister was one of my really good friends from dance in school. I ended up meeting him, and immediately we fell for each other. He treats me like a princess, tells me I'm beautiful at least 10 times a day, tells me I'm amazing in bed,
Has gone on family trips with me, and has introduced me to his WHOLE family. We rarely talk about his past but what I do know is he dated this girl Ashley for 4 years and they broke up because she cheated, and I know he loved her.. Obviously. They broke up during the summer, and me and him met in october. So it wasn't that long ago. The other day I was at his house and decided to be nosey and look through his history. I had found he was going on her facebook page almost everyday and looking at her pictures and seeing her statuses, when all he does is claim to me how much he hates her guts and how he could care less about the bitch. I confronted him about it and he said he was " just curious " I was heartbroken. I don't know what to do, I love him and care about him so much but I don't want to get my heart broken if he still cares about her. What should I do? (link)
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So obviously she meant a lot to him. I really don't think you have anything to worry about unless they are talking all the time. Me and my ex broke up a few months ago and I'm with a new guy. I really care about him and I can tell you I have no feelings for my ex but I still look at him facebook and all that. I don't know why. I know I don't care for him anymore because I'm over him and I have someone so much better. It's just what people do. I even look at my exes page from 2 years ago every now and then. Don't worry about it. If you trust him then there shouldn't be a a problem.
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The fact that I slept with two guys before my current boyfriend bothers him. It bothered him before, and he accepted it. But now, it's starting to pop up in his head and he can't help but imagine it. Now he's trying to accept it again.
I would change the fact that I did if I could. But I can't... It's the past. I lost my virginity in the first place because of an abusive boyfriend. He knows that.
I told him the past is makes me who I am, and if there wasn't a past... I wouldn't have met him in the first place. I told him I hurts me that it bothers him, and that I said the present is the only time that matters now. Because we both love each other, and the past was the past.
I understand why it would bother him though, knowing the fact that your significant other had past loves hurts. But what can I say or do to have him accept it again and forget about it? (link)
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I had the same problem. Except I was with my boyfriend and we made out. He got upset because he realized that he wasn't the only guy I've ever made out with before. So same problem, different situation.
You've told him about your past. He knows about it and he needs to know the past is the past. It's ok that it bothers him at first but you are with him. I'm assuming that you told him how you felt and that you are with him and not with those guys anymore. Just talk to him one last time. You guys know about each others past. Just let him know, one more time, that he is the one you are with and you only want him and love him. He seems insecure. He will probably never completely forget about it but he needs accept it and let it go. You can't make him, it's all on him. You told him what you should already. It's all on him now.
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Okay i need help okay theres this girl named amber and shes my best frend and i think she likes my boy friend because she has fourth period with him and shes allway talking to him she says they talk about me and how he loves me and i know my boy friend he would never go out with my best friend but since we have only been going out for about 6 weeks im scared and i dont know what to to do and i allways ask her if she likes him and she says no way hes so ughy but it seams like it so give me so tips thanks,
Abby (link)
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I've had those doubts too. You're just gonna have to move past it all because not trusting people will get in the way and could ruin not only your friendship, but also your relationship with your boyfriend. You said you know your boyfriend will never go out with your best friend, right? So why do you need to worry? If she likes him, then thats her problem. Not yours. You have him and she doesn't. Don't ask her if she likes him anymore because you need to trust her. Don't think too much about it because your boyfriend is your boyfriend. She can like him or do whatever but he's still yours. It's not gonna be your problem unless they actually do something. They have a class together and they talk and they even talk about how much he loves you. So don't worry about it too much. Work on your trust. Good luck!
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Hi, i am a Women, 16 and from the Netherland.
i met this guy and i realy like him.
one week later he asked me to watch a movie and we kissed. day after that the gossip at our work started. that we had sex and i made a fuss about it. he told me not to and let them talk. but then at work he started ignoring me and i got confused. after work when everyone left he said that he just wanted to be friends and i got realy confused. i cried for a few days because i got realy attached to him and i didn't understand it. i still don't.
Still we are watching movies together every weekend and we fool around, poke eachother and hug. A few times he made very clear he wanted to kiss me but i can't get it right in my head.
WHAT DOES HE WANT!
he told me not to fuss about the gossip but it's still stuck in his mind.
i realy want to kiss him but i don't want him to feel bad about it all.
HELP ME because it's been bugging me and it makes me grumpy torwards him.
I love him, i've never loved anyone more then him, and i'm sure i could hang around him for a few years but how can i get pass this confusion!
Thanks X Daphne (link)
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If I was in your situation, I'd also be making a fuss over the gossip. So I get why you're confused and all that.
It seems like he wants people to be talking about it, to make it seem like he's all cool because you guys did more than what you actually did.
How did the gossip start? How did they even know about you two in the first place? He might have started that. There is probably some other information that I don't know but from seeing only this, it seems like he might have started it. But I have no idea.
If you want to know what he wants. Talk to him. Tell him you are confused. You will never know what he actually wants without talking to him. Trying to guys what he wants isn't easy and will make you even more confused.
Good luck!
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i was talking to a guy for about 5 months, let's call him Oscar. in that time i lost my virginity to him, i thought it brought us closer by the way we were around one another. he told me he loved me. about two weeks ago i find out from a mutual friend that he's been saying he's "done" with me multiple times since the first time we had intercourse. she said it doesn't sound like he means it since he always talks good about me to other people. he doesn't know i know about the "done" part. he was acting like a jerk that whole week and then he asked me if we can hang out because it's been a while since we've done it, i obviously said no (it was after i found out what he said) and then i noticed one of his friends started coming around me more. yesterday i found out that his friend (let's call him Anthony) asked Oscar if we were still talking before Oscar even asked me to hang out and he said no and gave anthony permission to ask me out (Oscar also doesn't know i know this either) Oscar wasn't at school yesterday and Anthony kept flirting with me but i thought nothing of it i even started bringing up Oscar. well anthony ended up asking me out and for some reason i said yes (very stupid move) nobody knows we're dating, they think we're just talking. Oscar said he was okay with it. Today Oscar came and looked very serious, he talked to Anthony but I avoided him all day because part of me is mad at him. he had his other friend ask if we were dating and all they did was sit there and talk about us the whole period. i like Anthony as a person but i don't see him in that way. he's already trying to introduce me to his family but I know I still have a lot of feelings for Oscar. I told Anthony I was going to talk to Oscar but he said it would only make everything worse. I'm so lost. I don't know what to do. I don't know how to make things better. I don't think it's even possible. I wanted to be with Oscar but I don't think it would work anymore since his friends hate me and he's been "done" with me. everybody only knows the bad stuff i did, no one knows anything he said or the way he was acting. i know you guys would probably just say "break up with anthony" but it's not that easy. What should I do about everything? (link)
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You know Oscar isn't really a good guy. Even though he may say nice things and all that, it feels like he's messing with you right? It really looks like that in everyone else's eyes too. You know about the things he said. He doesn't think you know and he thinks he can keep messing around with you. I get that you still have huge feelings for Oscar and everything but you need to try to move on. You need to find someone else that you have interest in.
Maybe you got with Anthony because you wanted to get over Oscar? Or to make him jealous? Either way, you don't like Anthony like that and you need to let him go too. I know it's not easy but I've been in the same place as you. I dated a guy who had more feelings for me than I did for him. I don't know why I stayed with him because I did like him, just as a person. I didn't have real feelings for him. So, let him go now before it hurts him even more in the long run. Good luck!
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Okay so I met this guy we were kicking it hung out a few times, I slept over everytime.. I slept with him too early yes(like the second sleepover)but we were both adamant that this was out of character. so we continue to talk/txt he told me he had no plans for new years that he'd hang with me. so i had an offer to go to Vegas but didnt want this cutie to be alone so I didnt go. New Years eve rolls around and he has plans. SMH okay, its not like hes my man but i thought there was a mild understanding. So that was that we tell eachother be safe and have fun...he didnt call or write all weekend (NYE Was a friday) then I write him on sunday like hope you had a good new years...to no avail. He texts me monday night like how are you yada yada...Do i write back? If so when? I want him to chase me but not feel like i dont like him... (link)
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I agree with the person below. Don't worry about a time to write back because it does seem like he's into you. It is true that if you are busy doing other things and is not available to talk and hang out all the time, he'll probably chase you, unless you are never able to talk to him, ect.
So next time something comes around, don't wait around for a guy. You guys aren't officially together so you two aren't committed to each other.
So yeah, talk to him. He has taken the time to talk to you and he was probably just busy over New Years. Good luck!
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I'm a fifteen year old girl, sophomore. So the other night I was at a party (a little tipsy, definitely not drunk) a guy (junior, 17) kept trying to give me drinks but this guy has always been really creepy so I was avoiding him all night. Long story short, he wouldn't leave me alone, followed me to the bathroom and basically attacked me. Trying to kiss me and feel me up but I was able to get out of the bathroom and I ran outside. Almost everyone at the party was drinking so I called this guy I've kind of been dating (junior, 17) who wasn't feeling well and didn't go to the party. I told him I needed him to come get mr he asked why but I said I just needed him to come and he came to pick me up. Is it bad that I didn't tell him what happened?? I mean it's not like the other guy actually diddd anything. Well he did but I mean it's not like he got his hands into anything or that we made out, it lasted like five seconds and the guy that I'm kind of seeing and I are not actually official... I just dont want himto freak out cause I know he already hated the kid that tried to get on me. Should I tell him or is it really just better to leave it alone...? (link)
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I don't really know if it matters if you tell him or not. It's not like you were cheating on him, because first of all, you two aren't official and second, the other guy was the one that was trying to get all over you. So you won't be in trouble either way. So you can tell him or you don't have to. In my opinion, it doesn't really matter. He might want to kill the kid that did that to you but I don't think he'd get mad at you for any reason.
I don't know the guy so I don't know if he'd freak out or what he'd do.
Well like the person below me said, I think you should tell your girls, just in case any get in some situation with that guy. Just so they know ahead of time that he isn't good news.
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me&bestfriend have been bestfriends for 10 years now! always honest with eachother and talk about everything. But i think we're drifting away..whenever others talk to her she will be extra nice to them and talk to them more and be sweet,and seems to be getting along with more people now and talks to them more than me. and when she does talk to me its only a couple of sentences. and if shes online and i say hi shes suddenly offline. and when i write on her wall on fb she takes days to reply but yet when the other person writes on it she replies straight away. but when we're together we have the funnest time, is she bored of me? i get really mad, if she doesnt wana be friends then say so! (link)
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I've been best friends with my friend for about 9 years. In a way, it did kind of start getting like this. I'm sure you have other friends right? Hang out with them and talk to them more. Don't completely lose your best friend though. Just don't talk to her so much. I mean, me and my best friend go to different schools so I only saw her about twice a week and we'd talk on the phone every other day. We wouldn't talk too much though but we both are best friends. I don't know if you get what I'm saying but pretty much I would give her space so when you guys do talk it wouldn't seem too boring or she wouldn't want to. You know? Good luck!
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I have liked this guy for a while now I still kinda do it's just that we don't talk anymore. We hung out a lot during the summer we were in this group thing and my one friend ( sara) she would allways say he likes u and I regret not taking chances with him. I guess the only reason I like him is because we have memories and every time I think of them I start to cry now I'm not obsessed I just can't get over him.... The thing is sara and the guy are talking and I told sara that I kinda like him and she said it's ok I don't anything to be akwward between us.. It isn't and now I texther daily and she brings up the guy a lot and it sounds like them two really like each other it reminds me of him and I bc he's doing the same thing with her all flirty and now I ended up giving her advice... I'm not a mean person I just want to know how to get over this guy hen I talk about him and see him every school day it makes me sad and I don't want to interfere it wouldn't be me...:( (link)
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I agree with the person below. You shouldn't keep looking to the past. I totally get where you're coming from. I've been there and it hurts, but I've learned that we need to make ourselves move on by finding someone else and not thinking about what could have been. There are plenty of guys out there. He isn't the only guy and I'm sure there will be someone else for you. You need to put effort into getting over him and when you see him at school, don't be sad or anything because remember, at one point you were there and he did like you. You should feel special about that. So he definitely won't be the only guy out there. Keep looking and keep your head up. Good luck!
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f/16 Okay so i like this named Hamilton and he is 17. I have talked to him maybe twice. That is because i;m a very shy person and it is hard for me to speak up for myself. He is really cute and I want to start talking to him and get to know him but i don't know how to start my plan. The reason i have picked him is because he goes to a different school than me and my friends that know him say he is sweet and we be good for me. The guys at my single are either taken or immature and that is a turnoff. So i guess what i'm asking is how can i will myself to start talking to this guys and hopefully ask him to prom near the end of April. (link)
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Just find some way to talk to him more and become his friend. I'm also really shy but if you really want this to happen then you need to overcome your shyness and start talking to him like a normal person and then you guys will slowly become friends to where you guys talk all the time.
I do like it better if a guy would ask me but it's all up to you. If you wanted, once you guys are closer, you could hint around it and you don't see much of a response you could be like, "Yeah..I can't find anyone that I would go with. Would you?" Or something like that, you know? Well good luck!
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hey i really like my boyfriend but im to shy around him and he doesnt say anything but i know it bothers him and advice HELPP me thanks,
-Abby- (link)
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I was that way with my first boyfriend. Just think, he likes you for you. You should be comfortable to be yourself around him, or you should at least try to be, because if he's with you, he is with you for you and because he likes you. You might think if you act more like yourself around him, he might judge you or won't like you. I don't know what you might be thinking but if he ever did judge you because of who you are then he wasn't worth it in the first place right?
Anyway, I'm assuming you want to stop being shy. So number 1, you need to just relax. If you focus too much on what he's thinking then you are still going to be shy. You just need to make yourself comfortable around him.
I always get shy in the beginning of dating someone. I eventually got comfortable enough around him to be myself and not be shy.
The more you guys talk, the more comfortable you will be.
So I think the reason why you might be shy is because you aren't comfortable around him yet. Don't worry about it too much. Good luck!
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My ex boyfriend broke up with me 4 months ago. He seemed like he regretted it afterwards, he made the decision quite abruptly and didn't actually think it through.
We spoke here and there a while afterwards but then I cut contact. He still text me now and then saying he still loved me, missed me etc. I asked him whether that meant he wanted to get back together and he said he wasn't sure.
I haven't spoken to him for over a month, but I do check his facebook (bad I know) and he puts lyrics to our favourite songs all of the time. I know he isn't seeing anyone else and he always puts things like I wanna make you mine..or lyrics to songs we used to sing to eachother. Does this just mean he misses me? (link)
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He might still miss you or he might be posting lyrics about another girl he might like. You might be looking too into it but really, no one knows but him.
It's also really good that you did cut contact with him. I don't know if you still miss him or not but if you do, you should move on because he doesn't really seem to put much effort in getting back together with you if he wanted to. He might still miss you and everything but maybe not enough to get back together with you.
So there could be many reasons why he's posting lyrics on his facebook and he could still miss you or he might not. Well, just don't over think these kind of things because no one can really tell. Good luck!
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My best friend & I are very close. I dont know what it is about him but I can feel like I can trust him with EVERYTHING & ANYTHING. Everyone who knows how we are around eachother always tell us that we would make the cutest couple because we care about eachother so much. When I tell him about something stupid I might do he goes through so much to stop me & im the same with him. Does it sound like we should be a couple? (link)
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Well it is only up to you. Don't get with a guy because of what other people say. If you have feelings for him and he feels the same for you, that's when you guys should be a couple. If other people are just saying these things because they think you guys would be cute then it doesn't mean you should be with him.
If you don't have these kinds of feelings for him, don't be with him because it might ruin the friendship or make it awkward.
If you do have feelings for him, then tell him and let him know and see what he thinks. If he doesn't feel the same then keep it as friends.
Good luck!
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I cheated on my boyfriend in the summer twice with my ex. Because he made me feel so insecure about our relationship. He never gave me a lot of attention, he never called me. He didn't text me very fast. My ex gave me a lot of attention and made me feel loved. And my boyfriend never gets jealous about other guys except my ex because we went out for 2 years. Also I get really jealous if my boyfriend talks to other girls or hangs out with them. My ex kept coming back to me even when I was going out with him. I keep cheating on my boyfriend with him though. Now I stopped. I feel guilty about it because I think my boyfriend has never cheated on me. I just don't trust him. Because he talks to a lot of girls and never gives me a lot of attention. All he does is buy me gifts and its always jewlery. But i feel guilty that I cheated. My best friend told me he deserved it. My boyfriend still doesnt know i cheated on him. On our anniversary last month my ex texted me. And my boyfriend responded to his text. And my ex's answer was "were more than just friends" and he got so mad. And his mom asked me if I was being unfaithful and I said no and lied. What should i do? Ive never cheated on a guy EVER. I've been cheated on before. Guys have left me for other people. How can I deal with this relationship? I need help from someone :( (link)
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Well, it doesn't sound like you are very happy with your current boyfriend right? I mean I'm sure there are tons of things you love about him and maybe that's why you don't really want to break it off. But if he isn't making you happy then you need to talk to him about it. If it just won't happen, then you might be happier with someone else.
Is there any chance that you would get back with your ex? Is that what he wants or is he just coming around so you can get with him then leave? If you guys had a good reason for breaking up then it's time to put the past in the past. Maybe there is a chance for you two or you could find someone way better. I don't know him so I don't really know what kind of guy he is.
You could always find someone else who might just happen to make you ten times happier than you were before. You will most likely be happier with a new guy than how you are with your current boyfriend. You might be happier than how you are with your ex. Good luck and I hope everything works out!
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hi there
So like my girlfriend will be turning 16 soon and its her first birthday in our relationship. We going out for 6 months so far and not sure what to get her as I don't want to over do it, but yet not get something too lame. I'm so lost on what to get her :( we talked briefly and she just said that I must get her something nice, like that helps...
Anyway thanks, your ideas would be appreciated. (link)
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There are so many things you can do for a girl. Really, so easy to shop for.
Well, like the rest of the answers say, a necklace would be so nice. Maybe a heart shaped one? You could make her something. Girls will always think it's cute if their boyfriend makes them something. You could make her a bracelet or food, like cookies or brownies.
I mean, you could even make her a sweet card along with it. Decorate it all nice and cute and write a poem or just telling her how much you care about her or how pretty she is, ect.
You could get her a teddy bear or some stuffed animal.
A framed picture of you two.
So there are some ideas. Good luck!
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Okay, Im 18/f and my boyfriend is 17/m. I've had sex with two guys, and he is still a virgin, because the last girl he was with for a year and a half was saving herself for marriage. We have talked on and off for a few months last year when him and his ex broke up; than they got back together; now we have been together for a month. The chemestry between us is amazing. We have a great connection phyiscally, emotionally, and mentally. Well, I know boys will be boys, and they get horny quite often, just like girls do too. I very rarely get horny. There was an inncident that happened when I was 15 where I almost got raped, if it wasn't for my friend that walked in, and got him off of me, I would have. (I was drunk at the time too) Big mistake. I told riley about it at the beginning of our relatioship, and he cried because it pissed him off somoene would do that to me.
Well. Riley has already fingered me, and what not, but since then, Riley is always trying to pull moves on me, when he knows IM not in the mood. Yesterday, I wasn't feeling good at all, and we was laying in his bed together, I was trying to take a nap, and he tried rubbing on me down there, and I told him to stop, he did for maybe a minute, and did it again. Theres been a couple of times, I've told him No, and he still tries. He says that he loves me, but yet he doesn't stop when I ask him too. He said its hard for him to control himself with that kind of stuff, and I told him if he really loved me, he would find a way to control it. I told him theres a difference in my sexual stop, and my serious one, and he knows the difference in them pretty well. He just doesn't know how to stop when I tell him too. It usually takes me to cry in order for him to stop. He knows about me almost getting raped, and yet he doesn't stop. I think he's confusing lust with love. Maybe he's only with me because he knows I've had sex, and I will have sex with him? I don't know. (link)
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Well he probably still cares about you but he might think he loves you. If he can't stop touching you when you ask him to, then he isn't showing love. He needs to respect you. Just because you have had sex before doesn't mean that your gonna just go straight into it with him. Yeah, he's horny but he needs to stop when you ask him to.
If you really want to find out if he's with you for you or for sex then don't let him finger you or touch you like anymore.
If you seriously have to cry to make him stop then this relationship isn't worth it.
You need to talk to him about it. If he still continues, find a guy that will respect you more. Good luck!
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