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I need advise because i am confused, what does he want?!
Hi, i am a Women, 16 and from the Netherland.
i met this guy and i realy like him.
one week later he asked me to watch a movie and we kissed. day after that the gossip at our work started. that we had sex and i made a fuss about it. he told me not to and let them talk. but then at work he started ignoring me and i got confused. after work when everyone left he said that he just wanted to be friends and i got realy confused. i cried for a few days because i got realy attached to him and i didn't understand it. i still don't.
Still we are watching movies together every weekend and we fool around, poke eachother and hug. A few times he made very clear he wanted to kiss me but i can't get it right in my head.
WHAT DOES HE WANT!
he told me not to fuss about the gossip but it's still stuck in his mind.
i realy want to kiss him but i don't want him to feel bad about it all.
HELP ME because it's been bugging me and it makes me grumpy torwards him.
I love him, i've never loved anyone more then him, and i'm sure i could hang around him for a few years but how can i get pass this confusion!
Thanks X Daphne
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If I was in your situation, I'd also be making a fuss over the gossip. So I get why you're confused and all that.
It seems like he wants people to be talking about it, to make it seem like he's all cool because you guys did more than what you actually did.
How did the gossip start? How did they even know about you two in the first place? He might have started that. There is probably some other information that I don't know but from seeing only this, it seems like he might have started it. But I have no idea.
If you want to know what he wants. Talk to him. Tell him you are confused. You will never know what he actually wants without talking to him. Trying to guys what he wants isn't easy and will make you even more confused.
Good luck!
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Daphne,
hi. First off, if this guy is telling you he doesn't want you to make a fuss about the gossip he either:
1. started it.
or
2. he wants to look cool because everyone thinks you had sex.
or maybe he just doesn't care but it doesn't seem that way.
The only easy way to clear this confusion up is to talk to him about it. If he wants to be just friends after you talk to him, make it clear to him that that doesn't mean he has feelings about kissing you. If he wants to be more than friends, talk to him about the gossip. You can usually tell if a guy is lying if he looks down or if he fidgets.
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