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will a yeast infection go away on its own
Well, it seems like everyone has a different answer here, so I would like to agree with YG. A yeast infection is only an unbalence of bacteria in your vagina. A good preventative measure is eating yogurt. The cultures used in yogurt help to balance the levels. All though one time I told someone that yogurt would help, but I forgot to tell her to eat it. You can imagine my surprise when she told me the yogurt remedy didn't work. Yeast infections are usually caused by wearing damp panties, like when you go swimming and your bottoms don't dry fast enough. They can also be caused by taking antibiotics, which kill the healthy bacteria in your vagina, as well as the bacteria that is making you sick. Another good way to keep your vagina healthy is clitoral masturbation. When you have an orgasm it is just like giving your vagina a bath. Don't bother to try douches or other products, they don't work as good, and they certainly aren't as much fun. Usually, the yeast infection can go away on it's own, but if it doesn't start to get better in a week you should try medication. Like anything else, your body gets used to fighting off it's own illnesses, and if you allow it to run it's course it will be all the more able to fight it off the next time.
So about a month a go I was hanging out with my boyfriend and our friend and our friend said that he hadnt worked all that week and that he had been bored all week. Well later that night I called his girlfriend and we were talking then she said that she hadn't seen him all tthat week and I ask why and she said that he was working then I told her that he told me differnt and then she dumped him. A few people found out that I told her that and think I purposly broke them and now everyone including her is mad at me and its been about a month and they all keep talking bad about me and they talk bad to me to my OWN BOYFRIEND! He tells them I didnt do anything and sicks up for me but even my own cusin is mad at me. How do I fix all of this? can I fix all of this? I didnt mean to do it I told her to think about it before she dumped him.
Well, lets be honest, first. You knew that your friend was going to be angry when you told her she was being lied to, you just didn't think she was going to be angry at you. I think you did the right thing, but now everyone thinks you are a trouble maker. The one thing you have on your side are the cold, hard facts.
1. You realized your friend was being lied to and you told her the truth.
This is it, plain and simple. You say "one little mistake," but the truth is, you didn't make a mistake. The only thing you did was to tell a friend something they didn't want to hear.
I am 37, and most women my age will tell you to think twice before saying something negative about a friends boyfriend, no matter how much of a jerk he is because....
1. She really doesn't want to know and your honesty is forcing her to face facts.
2. If she leaves him, your the cause and she will resent you, and if she stays with him, he will turn her against you and now she is with this jerk without you to talk to.
3. Regardless of what happens, everyone and their mother know it was you who spilled the beans.
Here's the good news. It is fixable, you just have to put things into perspective and be your own PR person. Don't apologize anymore to anyone. You were being a good friend-period. Make sure and let everyone know that you have learned your lesson about being honest and you will be sure to keep it a secret from now on when their boyfriends are lying and cheating. You can even get angry. If you walk around acting like you are sorry everyone is going to think you did something wrong. It's all about the spin you put on it.
I have been having dreams about my exboyfriend a lot recently, and I really do miss him.
We dated last may until november, and it may not seem that long, but we were with each other day and night. We did everything together. I loved him with all of my heart and I know he did love me also. His exgirlfriends broke us up, they were insane about breaking us up.
After our relationship failed in November he started dating a new girl, and she they have been together since then. i haven't tried breaking them up because all I want for him is to be happy. I wish he knew this. He doesn't want anything to do with me at all, he won't even add me on myspace. I miss him so much and words can't explain how much I want him back now. I don't know what I can do. It seems like all I can do is wait for them to break up and STILL I'd have to wish that he would ever come back to me.
I love him, and I lost him, what do I do
The advice from LOL was really solid. You do have to move on, but not only for your sanity. If you really do want this guy back than the only way you can do it is by getting over him. Imagine if you were in his shoes...You have a boyfriend, and your ex is making it very clear he wants you back-BADLY. Why would you get back with your ex? You know you can have him at any time so you would just put him in your back pocket to save for a rainy day. Every time you beg for his attention you might as well be saying, "I need you. I am here whenever you choose to pay me attention." To make matters worse, all of your affection is only making his new girlfriend want him all the more because someone else wants him. I'm not one for games, and I think you should always be yourself and be honest about your feelings, but you don't have to lay them on the line to get stomped on, either.
Now imagine what you would do in this situation. You were dating this guy but you broke up and now you're with someone else. Your ex is still so into you and you are pretty confident that you can have him back any time you want. But then you start to notice that he's not really paying you any attention anymore. Now you're going to start to wonder why. You weren't really into him and hardly gave him the time of day, but now you're thinking about him all of the time, wondering why he's not interested.
I suggest you back off. Don't make yourself so available. Stop talking about him all of the time, and if someone else talks about him, keep out of the conversation. Don't go around telling everyone that you don't like him anymore, just keep quiet about your feelings. Make him wonder. If he approaches you, which he probably will, if only to try to keep you hanging on, be friendly. Don't ask him about his girlfriend, and don't let on that you're into him. Let time pass and don't turn away other guys. Date and have fun and if it was meant to be it will be.
Ok,
So I had sex with this guy about four days ago.
He didn't use a condom, but i'm on the pill. Now I'm starting to get paranoid and I think I have herpes or some other type of STD.
My vagina is burning a little.
And I can't tell if there are sores on my vagina or not.
Please give me some advice on what it might be, or what I should do about it.
First of all, don't freak out. Chances are it is just a yeast infection, or some other harmless issue, but it couldn't hurt to get a checkup. There are clinics available, like Planned Parenthood, but also know if you go to any doctor, he or she has to keep anything you say in confidentiality. That means that your mother and father could be sitting right in the waiting room and you can tell your doctor anything in complete privacy.
A couple things about STD's....
There are some STD's that can be transmitted even if your partner is wearing a condom; herpes, crabs, and vaginal warts all infect areas that the condom does not cover. While you shouldn't be petrified about sex, it is always a good idea to know your partner well, and even take a look at what he's packing. It is possible to get herpes and warts even if the guy isn't having an outbreak, so a visual isn't sure-fire, but it can't hurt.
A little burning, itching, and extra discharge is most likely a yeast infection, but if there is a rancid odor, you should be concerned. I have seen a product advertized on TV that claims to be able to tell if you have a yeast infection, but I have not used it, so I don't know if it really works.
I want to tell you not to worry, but it is good that you are worried. Sex without a condom is serious business, and you are literally taking your life into your hands when you don't protect yourself. Think of all the people he had sex with, and then all the people each of those people had sex with, and it is almost like you are having sex with all of them if you don't use a condom. If a guy is willing to have sex with you without protection I guarantee he has done the same with others. No condom, no sex, period.
One thing you should do. Take a little mirror, like from a make up compact, and check out your vagina. If you have a full length mirror, turn your butt to it and bend over so you can see what you've got going on down there. The more familiar you become with your body, the more you will be able to tell when something is amiss.
how do i get my best friend since 2nd grade to stop hanging out with a bad influence and get her to stop zoneing me out! oh i am 12 and a girl my friend is a girl to also 12.
For whatever reason your best friend is attracted to the whole "bad" thing, and there's nothing you can do about it. The more you try to tell her to do the right thing, the more she avoids you and even gets angry. The only thing you can do is make sure you don't get caught up in all of it and get yourself into trouble. Hopefully, this will be just a short phase and she will return to her senses soon, but sometimes people never lose interest in trouble and drama. You just have to go about your life and be yourself and make good choices. It will pay off in the end for you, but for the rest of your life, along the way you are going to know and love people who get lost and seem to make the worst possible decisions for themselves. You just want to grab them and shake them and say, "what are you thinking?!" but the more you tell them, the less they want to hear the truth and the more they avoid you and go into the other crowd. The other crowd never tells your friend things she doesn't want to hear. She is all new and interested, and she makes them feel so cool because she thinks they are cool. Misery loves company, and the more she hangs around them, the more negative her attitude will become. If you truly love your friend and want to help her, try to find some other stuff for the two of you to do that will promote positive interaction. Maybe volunteer somewhere, or some other positive activity. I complement you for having the good common sense to want to make good decisions.
i am 19 and pregnant but i am in college only in my first year. i am with the person i love but he does not go to college. i want to have the baby but me and him have no money and no way to provide for the baby? what should i do?
The first thing you need to do is get informed about your options.
1. Adoption
2. Abortion
3. Having the baby.
You are the only person who can make this decision.
When you consider, remember, ultimately, you are the only person who you can control, so don't put a lot of weight on being helped by your parents, or the baby's father. Get it in your mind that you are capable of anything, and all the help you get is just gravy.
While I was making my decision, I wouldn't broadcast the pregnancy to everyone. You may decide to abort, and then you don't need everyone knowing your business. I'm not saying to suffer in silence, but another girl in college your own age shouldn't be your support system. There are professionals who will be better able to advise you and answer all of your questions.
15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..
last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?
You know the only reason you really want him back is because he found someone else. We have all done it, and every woman over the age of 27 can describe all of your feelings to you because they have all been there, themselves.
The absolute best, classiest thing you could do is this: "Hey, I know I wasn't a very good girlfriend to you, and I'm sorry for all the times I disrespected your feelings, especially when I kissed my ex. I learned my lesson, but I learned it too late. I am really happy for you that you are in a relationship and you're happy, and I have no choice but to move on, even though I wish I could be with you."
Saying this will accomplish two things. 1. He'll get to thinking about you moving on. Right now it's pretty easy for him because he knows you want him back, but if he had to question whether he could get you back it will put his head in the direction you want it to be in. 2. It will show him that you really and truly care about him, and not just yourself. You have been wicked selfish in this relationship, and all those times you put him down to give your ego the boost, he was the one feeling the pain. The only way that you can get him back is by being a girl he would want to get back with, and you haven't exactly proven yourself in that department. You are expecting him to go back to feeling like you always made him feel just because now you want him.
If I were you, I would chalk this one up as a lesson learned.
Aiight. I will try to keep this as simple as possible I guess. So, I am a 16 year old female (will be turning 17 in less than a week,) and I have been dating this guy for over a year now. I had previously dated him before, blah blah backround. So now; My dilemma. My mother (I swear,) is a decendant of Hitler or something, and blatently refuses to allow me to date him (though I am?). She refuses to accept his existence, when I do not even like her own boyfriend who lives in my house that much, and I try to respect him. She will not even give this kid a chance even if he tried. So, is there any way to try to talk to her, because I have on other occasions and she just refuses to listen and doesn't care. All she does is call him a loser because he doesn't go to school, but he is homeschooled? Yes I drive, yes I try to see him. But if I get caught she makes me feel wicked guilty and I get grounded..for.. long periods of time.
Advice, please?
Thanks in advance.
One thing your mother is going to have to realize you are going to do what you want, whether she approves of it, or not. It sounds like she is doing a good job of putting on the blinders, and anything you say can either be ignored, or misinterpreted. If you write her a letter she will not be able to work her special mother magic that always puts you on the defense. In the letter make a few points.
1. You care about her opinion, which is why you are taking the time to write the letter in the first place.
2. Can she give you logical reasons as to why she forbids you to see him? (you know what these reasons are, so state your opinion in the letter, like about him being himeschooled).
3. Don't try to bullshit her. If she has legitamate concerns, bring them up, along with the fact that nobody is perfect. Don't bother to bash her boyfriend, because this whole thing isn't about him and it will only put her on the defensive.
4. Your mother probably doesn't want you to date anyone because she is worried about you having sex. If you are not having sex with your boyfriend, tell your mother this. You could even tell her that you are not having sex, but if she is so concerned you will be willing to go on birth control just in case.
5. Tell her that you are probably going to see him either way, so wouldn't it just be easier if you could invite him over? Rationally explain to your mother how her method is counter productive because she just leaves you to fend for yourself. If she truly thinks this guy is a loser shouldn't she want to keep an eye on things instead of making you hide it behind her back? Now you can't even go to her for advice.
6. This whole thing is putting a wall between the two of you. you don't like lying to her, but you're in love, and you could really use her support and advice.
I am 43 years old and don't really want to be here anymore. In the past month and a half my life has changed and made me realize that I am tired and just want to go to sleep and never wake up. I have been with my fiance for 7 years and within that time I never thought my life would be where it is now. I invested every dime I had in his busness ventures and now i have nothing. we moved to florida to a foreclosed house and he runs a strip club he bought with our money and little by little he kept getting home later and later. feeling alone and sad I got bad news from my doctor a month after that. I have ovarian cancer. I told my fiance and he said he was sorry to hear it but now he doesn't come home at all only every three to four days to change. I have no friends and feel so betrayed and there isso much more including that he ruined my credit buying properties under my name then never paying the mortgage.I have nothing. I can't see the future because I have so much in my life that is making me feel this way. I want to be strong but I can't sleep or eat and I need surgery on june 10th and I don't even know if I will be strong enough. I have realized that his actions means the relationship is over but what hurts the most is that I thought he was a good person and would be here for me especially now that I am scared and alone. I just really hate myself I hate who I am and what I have become. I never thought a human being could be so cruel. I feel as if I am looking out through someone elses eyes that I don't belong. I have noone to talk to and just don't want to deal with anything anymore. I never accomplished any great thing or have any friends just me and I hate me.
I can't give you any great advice, broken hearts suck worse than anything else, especially when it is done in a dirty way. I will make sure to say some prayers for you, though. You have been through the wringer, but all of this stuff will make you stronger, wiser, and better one day, even though right now that day seems like it will never come.
Right now you feel like you can't make it through, and you know he doesn't deserve it. If you really do want to kill yourself, please please please don't do it over a guy. In a couple of years he won't even matter to you. You'll go through your health issues, get yourself back on track, move on, meet someone, be happy, and run into this jerk and wonder what it was you even saw in him in the first place.
Listen to "Wasted Time" and "Already Gone," by the Eagles. Get a good cry in. I'll be sending you good wishes.
im not a poet, and i honestly dont even know if this is considered poetry. im not sure if it makes sense to anyone but me, but theres not much of a point of writing it if im not getting any feedback, so here it is. comments greatly appreciated, thanks!
silence.
silence to fight against the words pushing at her lips
trying to get out
trying to fix what she’s stuck in
this dirty rut of past memories and a love gone rotten.
colder than ice, the those sharp words freeze her
freeze her mouth shut
and those echoing words are locked inside her head to spoil
until she cries
but her tears turn to ice
so whats the point?
You are a poet. I really liked it for a couple of reasons.
1. I could read this and get a totally different message than the next person. Nothing in it is nailed down and concrete (if that makes any sense)
2. I think the ice/frozen thing is really expressive. The "freeze her mouth shut" part is genious.
I liked it a lot.
I got my bellybutton pierced about 2 1/2 months ago and now like where the bar is under my skin its all red above and looks like it is turning into a scab. What does this mean? and how can I fix it?
Thank you!
The most important thing is to keep it moist because if the skin gets hard it can heal with a funky bump or whatever. Neosporin is really good, but any kind of antibiotic ointment will do. It should be like a Vasaline consistency, but with medication to keep it from getting infected. Don't be afraid to take the bar out, put some on the bar, and put it in the hole. Don't pick at it!
Hi i'm 15 year old girl and i've been datin this guy for 3 months. i was his friend for a really long time before that and i really care about him but i cant really see him much since his parents are completely against our relationship due to different opinions in religion. anyway i ahve this friend, whos a guy, that i've been hangng out with a lot, and hes got roughly the same deal with his girlfriend, cant see her a lot. one night we were playing video games late and i laying down on the couch like directly behind him as he sat on the edge playin video games. we were touching and i kept thinking about how good he smelled. after he left i talked to my boyfriend a little bit and fell instantly asleep. Then i had this incredibly elaborate dream of me fooling around with my friend in my room. it was so sweet and tender and fun, and i remember waking up sure it wasnt a dream. and then suddenly the realization hit me that i hadnt been dreaming about the guy that i should have been dreaming about at all and i yelped and fell out of bed.i'm not very graceful....anyway....like i figured i might kinda like him but i dont know what i should do....i cant just break up with my boyfriend cause i do care about him, and even if i did my friend probably doesnt feel the same about me and he already has a girlfriend.
If you have a good thing why bother to mess with it as long as this guy has another girlfriend? You get to hang out with him, you get to have a boyfriend too. You don't want to mess around with someone when they have a girlfriend (allthough it sucks becuase that's when they are the most sexy). There really are so many reasons. Plus, you have a boyfriend. If you want to break up with him, do so, but not because of how you feel about this one moment with this other kid. Let all those one little moments add up, keep this kid in your back pocket, and have fun hanging out with two guys. If you were to mess around with this other guy it will add guilt and all of that other BS in there.
So my boyfriend is about three years older than me.
And through the time we've been dating I've met about all of his friends,
And now I can easily say they're my friends too.
But one of them doesn't seem to like me too much.
He believe that because I'm so much younger than him,
That I'm annoying.
When in reality, I'm not.
He tells me that I purposely try to be 'cute'.
Reallu, I don't think I am.
I guess I'm just viewed that way.
So, anywayy,
I was on the phone with my boyfriend a few minutes ago,
And he's with all his buddies,
And I overhear his friend
Call me an annoying little bitch.
While he's aware I'm on the phone.
I'm not sure if I can get him to change his view on me,
But I'd really like to.
Because it's just kinda weird to me,
That we have all the same friends,
And we ocassionally hang out together,
(Usually with a big group of people when we're getting high)
And he still disrespects me.
But I'm not sure if it's possible anyway,
Because aparently he thinks a girl just a couple months younger than him,
Is a child.
And he's seventeen.
So any advice would really nice.
Thankss,,
Don't bother to try to change his opinion of you, and understand that he has a right to his opinion. He doesn't have the right to broadcast it in front of you, but would you rather he broadcast it behind your back? Don't try to change yourself to fit in to what you think this kid wants you to be. If he thinks your annoying, maybe it's better if he can blame it on your age, but maybe he just thinks your annoying.
He could have a crush on you and just be going about this to try to get your attention, too.
The best thing to do is just ignore him. Who gives a crap what he thinks.
Hi! (this is a bit long, sorry)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months. My ex-boyfriend who i broke up with in very early February because of verbal abuse, disrespect, and over affection. My ex. is my current boyfriends best friend. Just great i know.
It's not like i hate my ex boyfriend. I've tried to be nice and i've had him over for movie nights with my other friends, but he always causes trouble, is disrespectful, and is mean to me or insults what movies i pick out. (actually that was only one time, because after that my mom saw how destroyed i was and wouldn't allow me to invite him over, which i was happy to hear) He was still verbally abusive until i told my parents last Tuesday, and so far we haven't really talked. He sent an apology note, and i told him i apriciated the apology, but was not ready to forgive him because i still didn't and don't trust him. He was nice when i first started dating him then because mean and abusive.
My boyfriend is having a movie night tonight and let me know he's inviting me and my ex. (which i respect letting me know that he's invited my ex, but i really wish he wouldn't do that.) I understand they are best friends and i don't think what happened between me and my ex should change their relationship, but i wish he would not invite me and my ex over at the same time AND in the same week that he sent a cruel text and it drew a line with my parents. I really love my boyfriend, but really dislike my ex. No, i've never hated my ex, i just strongly dislike him.
This is also my other problem, none of my other friends like my ex. Just my current boyfriend likes him. My other friends and I can't wait for my ex to move (at the end of the school year) We are all just polite to him. (oh all my friends are guys except for 4 of them, and we have a group of 13 people) So my real question is should i tell my boyfriend about my ex and my history or how it went from good to worse? I don't want to tell him because then i'm being mean about his best friend, but at the same time i don't think he gets what my ex put me through.
~Sky (13/f)
ps. Thank you so much for taking time to read and answer this question!
I hate to say this, but it sounds to me like your boyfriend already has a pretty good idea how much of a jerk his best friend is. He is insulting you right in front of your boyfriend, and everyone else, so it is pretty obvious. Your boyfriend is stuck in a really sticky situation between the two of you and if I were you I would stay away when the best friend was there. I think you already know you should do that, but you don't want to because either (a) you secretly still love your ex, or (b) you are worried that you will never get to see your boyfriend because his best friend is always around. If you are strong and do stay away it will show your boyfriend that you have class and strength. At first, he may kind of rebel and pick his ex more, but I guarantee, the two of you will have some time together, and if you laugh and get along, your boyfriend will want to see you again and again. I wouldn't even go into a whole big thing with your boyfriend. I would just say, "I don't feel like hanging around because (your ex) is always talking shit." After all, it isn't about how he has treated you in the past, it's about how he is still treating you. Eventually, if you stand up for yourself, your new boyfriend will insist that your ex boyfriend treat you right.
I just want to add a little other note. Emotional abuse can be really esteem draining. Do you know why guys emotionally abuse woman? His self-esteem is so low that he only thinks you will like him and stay with him if he lowers your esteem. It is a wicked vicious cycle. I will tell you this. I was in a relationship for a long time with a person who sounds a lot like your ex. It was really hard to get away from him, but I finally ended it completely five years ago. Now, we are really great friends, both in other relationships, and all four of us hang out. So, it can be done. This kid probably emotionally abused you because he has been emotionally abused himself and he really started to care for you and couldn't process his feelings the right way. I think he might insult you and hurt your feelings when he sees you because his feelings might be hurt when he sees you with his friend (it doesn't make it right, I'm just trying you to get to understand why it's happening). How would you feel if you were to have to hang out with him hugging up on your best friend? If he does say something mean to you, think of it as him being jealous.
I have a gut instinct I am pregnant. I am always regular, but now I never had my period.. two weeks late and I am waking up getting sick, and I cramp so bad I could cry. I've been so moody, and I have a big headache. A few random times I had sore breasts but not right now at the moment. Well, took online tests and said it's a 60%.. and won't know for sure til I test, I know. I am testing in the morning.
So to the point, what can I do if I am pregnant? I have no insurance; although if I am positive I may sign up for medicaid and welfare.. I just got laid off from my job, and no one is hiring. Same as my fiance. I reside with parents for financial reasons, and I know if they find out I am pregnant, they'll kick me out.
Money is entirely an issue. I can't see a Doctor, I can't even get money; although my fiance is trying.
What could I possibly do financially? I want a good (possibly best) life for my potential child. A few jobs I might have, just have to wait on a call monday. Any tips or past experiences with this may be helpful. I am just so scared. And I am 19; not 13. My fiance and I are getting married but plans changed obviously because of money, so it was delayed.
Anything would help here. Thanks.
I know that you think your parents will kick you out, but don't assume anything. Maybe this pregnancy will turn out to be a wonderful thing for them. Even if they do kick you out, there are so many organizations and people who will want to help you that you don't ever need to worry about you and your baby being out on the street. Try to keep the stress level down. This is going to be one of the most exciting and wonderful things you will ever experience, and it sounds like you are a hard-working, responsable person, so everything is going to turn out just the way it is supposed to.
So, there is this boy.
And he is known to be a bit of a player and can't settle down with a girlfriend.
He has recently told Me he likes Me.
When I try to mention his reputation to him he just says I'm annoying him and closes up and gets moody.
I really like this boy and he likes Me.
ANY ideas whatsoever on how i can get him to settle down will be welcomed.
He is nearly 18-male
I am 17-female.
How would you like it if you told a guy that you liked him and then he started talking about all of the things you did in the past that make him think you're not good enough for him? That is kind of what you are doing to this guy. His past doesn't matter, because this is the here and now. There is no way you are going to know for sure what his intentions are, and making him jump through hoops just to get with you might make you feel confident for the time being, but once you do get with him he won't want to be with you anymore. Would you want to be with someone who made you jump through hoops? If you want him to settle down with you, you have to be the girl he wants to settle down with. Have fun with him. Be his lover and his friend. Make his ass never even want to think of another girl. Why would he bother, he has the best thing he could get? Have the attitude, "Hey, if you think you can find someone who makes you happier than I do, more power to you." It is pretty easy to make a guy happy. All you have to do is talk to him, listen to the way he feels and don't judge him for feeling it. If he feels like he can talk to you about anything, he will never want to go anywhere else. Let him show you a good time and make you laugh. Nothing makes a guy feel so proud as when he is able to make his woman happy. Open up to him. Don't be afraid to let him see the real you.
Now, let's say you do all of these things, and he still ends up playing you...He will regret that day for a long time because he will always miss you and wish he hadn't screwed up.
Okay. Let me start off by explaining myself. I am 13 years old currently. I am dating a senior in high school who is seventeem. (Please don't criticize me asking why I am dating him. I didn't ask to fall in love) We have been dating for about a year now, and its safe to say that we are in love with each other. In a couple of weeks, he is graduating from high school. I also have about 11 other friends that are graduating also.
Now, on his birthday (August 11th), unfortunately, I have to break up with him. The reason why, is because I don't want to become jailbait for him, and it's also very difficult keeping a long-distance relationship. The day after his birthday, he has to leave to go to college.
I've been really depressed lately, and it's all going downhill from here. Can you please give me tips on how to cope with the pain of losing my boyfriend and my closest friends leaving me? I would really appreciate it. Oh, and by the way, my parents have no idea i'm dating him.
You are not going to like this, but I don't think you are going to take any advice anyone gives you because you are not even going to break up with him and you know it (unless he is going away to college). First of all, if you don't have sex with him, you won't be jailbait. If this is a case of true love, and he is the right guy for you, adults who love you will be able to see it and they won't have a problem with you being together. You love him, and maybe he is great, but the if he did go to jail for having sex with you it would put him on the sex offender list and could possibly ruin his life. If you really love him, and don't feel comfortable in talking about him to your parents than you have to stop having sex with him (if you are). Sex is not the most important thing, and if you think he wouldn't want to be with you if you didn't have sex, than you know he doesn't really love you, you're just good for him for the time being. He could be a great guy, but there is a chance he could be a pervert, too. If he is a really young and immature 17, it really sucks because you guys probably have a lot in common, but if he is a regular 17 year old, your age difference is a little unusual. I can understand why you are attracted to him, but his motivations are a little more suspicious. In your heart, you know where you stand, and if he will not meet your parents and get their approval, than he's gonna have to go without sex when he turns 18. If he won't do either of those things than he really doesn't love you and he's just a pervert. You're so much better off without him. As far as all of your friends. Life is like that, and your going to meet new friends and have a great life and high school experience. You'll run into those guys once in a while and still be friends.
hi, for some reason, my vagina has been itchy for the past day or so. the itch subsides most of the time, but usually at night the itchiness sometimes will get unbearable or it'll be a light itch. i'm a very clean person and i'm just wondering why it's itchy! i doubt i have an std (trust me). there's no weird discharge and it doesn't sting when i urinate (if that helps). but because i itch so much, sometimes my vulva and lips turn red and swell. thank you so much in advance.
It sounds like a yeast infection. The bacteria inside of your vagina is a little off. Usually, it is because you wear a bathing suit or underwear that is a little bit damp. Antibiotics also cause yeast infections. Eating yogurt helps keep the PH balence in check. Clitoral masturbation is always a good idea when anything feels or smells a little off. There is medicine for yeast infections, but masturbation is a lot more fun than a drippy mess. If it gets worse, or doesn't start getting better in 6 or 7 days take action.
hey i liked the advice you've given me before :) soo..
i'm bringing my ex with me on vacation in july. we broke up in april, but we both decided that we were still gonna stay good friends and see where things go from there. i'm still in love with him. he broke it with me because he said his feelings changed, but he said he still wanted me in his life, and i know he means it too. we're going to myrtle beach together and do you think theres a chance of him falling back in love if we're like on the beach at night flirting and hanging out? what do you think of this situation? and what things can i do to make it as romantic as possible. i would do absolutely anything to get back with this guy.
17/f, 17/m
thanks so much for your time.
oh and we were together for about 9 months, if that helps. and we met in the summer and starting dating in the summer.
If he is involved with someone else: Don't bother trying to get him into a romantic relationship. Go to Myrtle Beach, catch up, flirt a little, leave it on the table for the future. If he is in a relationship you don't need to bother thinking he wants to be serious, and if he does, it will only be screwed up, because you will be the rebound chick, and who knows if he still loves this girl, and you don't need to put yourself on the line to find out. If you really want this guy for the long haul, you have to be patient (it might hurt, a little, and he might be hard to resist sexually) If you think you can have sex with him without emotional attachments you're probably wrong, and everything will only do damage to your future together. If you are planning on getting him back it is going to take more time and a quick spurt in Myrtle Beach is going to come at a high price. Concentrate on being his best friend. Being the girl he can go to with anything.
If he is not with someone else: Have a great time. Let him know you think he's a good man and you want him to be yours. Try not to analyze everything, and think about 12 times before you say anything too emotional. Don't play games. Concentrate on being his best friend and partner. Also, he loved you at one point, but his love changed probably because of a glitch in the system. (his-commitment issues, wanting sex with someone else, or yours-playing games, emotional baggage) Forgive and forget, and be willing to change and get past the glitch and move on to the next "relationship" step.
If you invited him on vacation with you as a friend, don't blindside him into all of this and then get resentful if he doesn't fall for you. If you truly love him you will be happy being his friend. Who knows where it can go in the future. In the mean time-don't wait for him, either. Concentrate on making you the best person you can be.
15/f
So theres this boy i've been off and on with having a crush this whole year. We went to one school dance together and it was amazing and we'd both probably agree it was the best dance together of the year. He's been through alot this year and i've always been there for him and he appreciates it alot. He feels as if i'm the only one he can talk to about anything and were just really close in some aspects. We text just about everyday about anything and everything and we talk at our lockers every hour.
He told one of my friends he really wanted to "get to know me more" after the dance. and now that were getting closer and all where does this lead to?
Anyways i've really fallen for him and i'm really starting to like him, what can I do? To find out, to get him to like me, to get closer to him i've never wanted a relationship more than this one.
It doesn't sound like you need to do anything, except maybe be a little patient. Obviously he likes you, but he's just not sure how to bring things to the next level, yet. I know that you could be the aggressor, but it sounds like things are really going fine. The best relationships are the ones that aren't rushed. Just know this-everything you are thinking and feeling-he is thinking and feeling those things too. If he wasn't he wouldn't talk to you and text you so much. He is just a little shy.