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My boyfriends' friend hate's me?
So my boyfriend is about three years older than me.
And through the time we've been dating I've met about all of his friends,
And now I can easily say they're my friends too.
But one of them doesn't seem to like me too much.
He believe that because I'm so much younger than him,
That I'm annoying.
When in reality, I'm not.
He tells me that I purposely try to be 'cute'.
Reallu, I don't think I am.
I guess I'm just viewed that way.
So, anywayy,
I was on the phone with my boyfriend a few minutes ago,
And he's with all his buddies,
And I overhear his friend
Call me an annoying little bitch.
While he's aware I'm on the phone.
I'm not sure if I can get him to change his view on me,
But I'd really like to.
Because it's just kinda weird to me,
That we have all the same friends,
And we ocassionally hang out together,
(Usually with a big group of people when we're getting high)
And he still disrespects me.
But I'm not sure if it's possible anyway,
Because aparently he thinks a girl just a couple months younger than him,
Is a child.
And he's seventeen.
So any advice would really nice.
Thankss,,
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Don't bother to try to change his opinion of you, and understand that he has a right to his opinion. He doesn't have the right to broadcast it in front of you, but would you rather he broadcast it behind your back? Don't try to change yourself to fit in to what you think this kid wants you to be. If he thinks your annoying, maybe it's better if he can blame it on your age, but maybe he just thinks your annoying.
He could have a crush on you and just be going about this to try to get your attention, too.
The best thing to do is just ignore him. Who gives a crap what he thinks.
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This guy sounds like a colossal jerk. And hey, he may just be like that. Two things need to happen here.
1) You need to tell him it's not cool. Confront him about it when he's nasty to you in front of other people. Ask him what you did that's so terrible. Put him on the spot. With other people around, that may put him in his place. Ask him what a big strong guy like him is doing picking on a girl. The dumber you make him look, the better. Just don't do it for no reason; make sure he deserves it, or you're just living up to what he says you are.
2) Where is your boyfriend in all of this? My guy would have socked the guy in the nose by now. You have to tell him that his friend is hurting you, and that he needs to step up and defend you if your relationship and you mean anything to him.
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i know how you feel girl. sometimes i feel like my boyfriends friends dont like me, and yeah theyre a couple of years older. its just because they think its fun to be an asshole, guys like to do that. especially when they can find a thing to but their friends about, age is a major one.
dont take it personally, just ask your boyfriend to stick up with you more and that you dont think its right for his friend to disrespect you. hes probably just a jealous prick, dont take it to personally.
when youre around him just be yourself, and if HE doesnt like you but everyone else gets along with you then obviously hes just a loser ;)
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x sweeethoney
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Regardless of your age, not everyone in this world is going to like you.
Some people are just not going to like you for whatever reason. You have to be okay with that.
Don't try so hard to win him over. He's already suggested to you that he would just find that annoying.
So relax. If he calls you name or is cruel to you, look him straight and the eye and say 'Dude, I know we aren't the best of friends or anything, but don't talk about me like that.'
Get your boyfriend onside as well: It's cool that one of his friends doesn't like you. It's NOT cool for them to call you names. Let your boyfriend know that you'll be standing up for yourself if you are called names by him, and you would expect to have your boyfriends support in that.
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