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Q: my bedroom tends to gets really messy.There is not enough closet space for all my clothes & not enough storage space for all my belongings. my room isn't that big and i need some ideas on how i could organize my stuff. any ideas are really appreciated. thanks so much!!

~~~Chelsey~~~

Do you have a garage? If you do, put some stuff in there. If not, have a yard sale! Sell things you don't want and you can make lots of money too. It's an excellent way to organize your stuff and get rid of the stuff you don't need and get new stuff you DO need! Hope I helped! Best of luck with it!
--Kayla

Q: Is there any way for you to find out if you've been rated?

First of all, you have to have five people rate you in order for it to show up. But it you want to see it, click on columnists on the left and go down and find your name and there, you should have stars by your name and if you put your cursor on it, you will see the number that you've been rated. It's really easy. But make sure you've been rated 5 times by five people, O.K :0 thnx
--Kayla

Q: my hair is REALLY wavy and frizzy and cruly to a point were it looks horrible when i let it dry or blow dry it. so i bought a chi iron- if you dont know what that is it's supposedly "the best" stragitener- but when i straighten my hair with it after about ten minutes it starts looking bad! i've had it for about 2 years- so is it just dying? but it happened when i first used it 2! am i just not doing it right or should i use hair spray and how much hair spray? does anyone also know any other syle besides scruncing that might look good w/ my kind of hair? help is really appreciated! thanx!

I know exactly what a chi iron is. I have one for my hair. Actually, my mom bought and gave it to me and her hair is the same way. Every time she blow dries it... POOF! Go to the store and buy Biosilk. It's called Biosilk-silk therapy. My mother used it and her hair is soooo pretty now! It's guarenteed to work.

Best of luck
--Kayla

Q: if you get a fake tan do they look kind of obvious and people will be able to tell that they are fake? (im talking about the kind of tan that you get and get done at the salon, not the one you can buy at a store and put on yourself)

i dont know but i heard that it really looks real but it depends on HOW they do it. they might do it wrong. lol

--Kayla

Q: Ok my best friend is soooooo awsome!.... i love her to death, but this new school year i noticed she really grew up like shes dressing more preppy wearing more make up and stuff, and im perfectly fin with that but she also made cheerleading and im fine with that too exept in my school if yopur a cheer leader then your queen. were not popular (and she didnt become a CHerleader cus shes popular, she just has talent)but now that shes a cheerleader all of the other popular people are being all nice trying to get in good cus shes a CL and now guys are becomeing in love with her because shes a CL. im happy for her and all, but im just afraid that shes going to become real popular and since i know i ll never be popular, i think she might gradually leaver me behind... i know she likes the attention....buti just dont want to be left behind and i dont think theres a way to get the popular people to like me . does this sound selfish of me? or what do you think I RATE! sorry its so long

ps and please dont tell me " if shes a real friend she wont leave you" cus shes a great friend and i no she like the attaention and i think over time ill just be pushed away.

I have been in this situation. I don't think she'll forget you. She might hang out with you less but never forget.

Best hope and wished
--Kayla
P.S Email me with updates.
P.S.S- I would never say "If she's a great friend, she won't leave you." b/c I know it's not true. I have had friends be great and stab you in the back- even when I'm really close to them.
Rate me a 5! LOL

Q: Ok, I have this friend that I have gone out with twice. We always hang out. He is my best friend, and I can tell him anything, and he can tell me anything, as well, or at least it seems this way. We act the same as we do when we're going out, just less affectionate. I have heard from several people that he still likes me, as juvenile as that sounds. They say that he is afraid to 'make me sad again' because he has broken up with me both times we went out, and I was sad about it both times. I feel depressed when I am not around him; being with him, whether we are going out or not, just feels right. I'm afraid to tell him that I like him, because I am afraid of him not liking me back. This sounds like a classic, doesn't it? But really, I don't know what to do... I'm just a stupid girl.

No, honey. You're not a stupid girl. There's nothing wrong with liking your guy friend as more than a friend. In fact, I have gotten more emails about THAT ONE TOPIC than anything. You are probably very intelligant and pretty and don't worry! I say: Take a chance and go for it! Don't be scared of love. If you want to have more courage, build it up by thinking that you can do it. Fate is in your hands and I know you can do it. If you don't think you can, get one of your CLOSEST friends to ask him for you! That always works. Just make sure she doesn't like him too b/c if she does, then SHE might ask him out... for herself. That's what my closest friend did to me!

Best of luck & wishes. Hope I made a difference in your lovelife!
--Kayla

Q: I am thirteen years old and in the 8th grade. I am quite shy around new people and do not make friends easily. What is a good way to get over my shyness and make friends easily? Also, where is a good place to make friends?

Honey, there's no right or wrong answer. If you don't want to be shy, you have to believe in yourself. say you can do it and you most certainly can... if you try. A GREAT place to make friends is at schools or day-cares or any other place that you go lots of kids. All of the friends that I have I met at school. Don't worry because someone out there is asking the same question and you're going to find that someone... PROMISE!!! :) (Make sure you don't REALLY trust someone until you know them A LOT!!! I would know!)

Best of luck to you, gurl. I know you can do it.
--Kayla

Q: I have the weirdest problem. Everytime I have a little sickness, I think it's huge. Like if I have a headache, i think it's a brain tumor. If I have a stomach ache I think I'm gonna hurl or that I have the flu. Yes, I know it's weird and freaky. But I need help!! i wanna stop. Please help me

ok you have to know that nothing's going to happen 2 u. i get sick almost every day (headaches, stomachaches, legaches, etc.) but you have to eat good if you are healthy. trust me, you'll know when you're seriously sick! LOL

Q: First off..I am gay. I just moved to this city about 6 months ago. about a month ago..I met a girl and she is everything that i've been looking for. we talk all the time, and really hit it off..like really. (We met at a party were she was drunk and we kissed..big time kissed) But the thing is..shes not gay (i think otherwise) But her boyfriend is the one that introduced me to a lot of people that i know around here. a few days ago she told me that she couldn't be around me because she "was going to make certain that nothing happened between us". But if shes not gay like she says why is she concerned that something is going to happen. Thats the part that makes me think that she doesn't know what she wants. Ever since I met her..i've been trying to understand her. Is she gay or bi, and just worried about what people might think or was that simply a drunken kiss? any thoughts?

Q: Okay this isn't really a serious problem. But okay i like this guy. And well u know i am always lookin at him and stuff, and there is so many times that i catch him lookin at me. All i want him to do is like me... Can ne one tell wat wat this means?? Please help!!

If you like this guy and he's lookin' @ u, then go 4 it. Don't be scared. If you're shy, get a friend to go and ask him 4 u! Thats what my sister did and look: she's got a date!!!

Q: EVERYONE i know always says that your first love will always stay in your heart no matter what, etc.. Do you guys think this is true? Even after a year or longer after breaking up and gotten with new ppl and not talking at all, you think that those feelings for your first love are still there?

I don't know about everybody but if you're true, then yes. You're first true love will always stay there... forever!

Q: Well i am in 7th grade and my bestfriend is moving to West Varginia and i just met her at the beginning of the year and now she is moving at the end of january and i am gonna take it very hard because we are like bestfriends soooooooo what should i give her and tell her b4 she leaves??????? Need Help Fast!!!!!!!!! Thanx
oxoxoxo,
C.S.

O.K, you need to get her contact number, email or anything that you can communicate with. I left Arizona to move to Texas and trust me, it's very hard, I know but give her something she likes. What does she like? Teddy bears? Porcelyn Dolls? Anything. Since your in 7th grade, probably jewlery. LOL. After all, diamonds are a girls best friend.

Q: I've been with my boyfriend for a year and were totally in love. Of course we've had our problems and now we're doing great. The problem is I don't see him alot because we don't exactly live close to eachother. My best guy friend and I have been hanging out alot and we started to get strong feelings for eachother. Now, he wants me to dump my boyfriend and I can't even think about doing that. My boyfriend has been my life for a whole year but I can't help feeling for my guy friend. What should I do?

Well, everyone knows that you can't go out with two guys unless they don't care. Either that, or you will be considered a slut. Take it from me! I've ben through this. I personally think that you should break up with your current boyfriend because your guy friend will treat you better, especially if you have known him longer. Tell your boyfriend kindly but not too kind. Say you wanna be friends and you can have both!

Q: the theme for my schools formal dance next weekend is "havana nights" (aka a newer different version of the movie dirty dancing) I need some ideas for dresses! and hair styles! if you could give me urls to pictures or sites that u find that might be helpful that would be great!!

if it's formal, you need to take his breath away. get a pretty but slender dress. not like Cinderella. Get a sexy red or a icy blue but get something you know you'll like. As for hairstyles, it depends, Is your hair curly, slightly curly, wavy, strait, or what? go to the salon (hair salon) thats the best place to go. trust me, if you know who your man truly is, im sure he'll love you even if you go in THE UGLIEST DRESS EVER!!!!!!!!!!! LOL but go in something that YOU like. email me the choices that you have and how bout i choose for you. i have bee to about 9 or 10 of these thingies and its no biggie but email me at lyness_123@yahoo.com, ok? C 'ya girl

Q: Hi!
Im the on e who has a problem about a mom paying $5.00 per less than 4 hours.
Im thinking everybody who answer my question really help, so thanks to every single one of you.
But what if im only 14, maybe she think that im only 14 that's why she need me to pay less than.
What should I do help.

Ok, who cares if you'e only fourteen. I'm only thirteen and you know what? I babysit 4 kids (3 girls one boy) and trust me, they ALL get on mynerves and I dont even get paid a dime for it. have you talked to your mom or dad about this problem. talk them into it and if you have to, beg!

Q: I am a girl and 13 and i'm obsessed with a 41 year old actor, (Johnny Depp). Is this a bad thing to want to be with a man that much older than I am?

This is totally not a problem. I used to be obsessed with Ashton Kutcher. I'm 13 too and I was obsessed with Orlando Bloom, Ashton Kutcher, and ESPECIALLY Johnny Depp so, don't worry. I'm probably the youngest advice columnist here but dont worry! everything will be ok! email if you have questions

Q: My best friend has OCD... and she reminds me of it like 24/7. Whenever she leaves the house she asks like over and over if she left sumthin on and such. I keep reminding her that OCD is just that she is detailed and stuff like that (my parents are both doctors and explained it). It's driving me NUTS! help! what do I do?

There's really nothing you can do about a disease. Have you talked to her? If so, what did she say? You need to remind her that this guy beats her. She needs advice way more than you do so tell her that I say that this guy beats and she doesn't need to be with him if he does that! It is against the law to beat a spuse/ girlfriend for guys and if he does that, he OBVIOUSLY doesn't love her and now, if you don't stop her, she'll become either physically hurt or mentally hurt and it's up to you. GO TO THE COPS OR SOMETHING! THATS WHAT I WOULD DO! TALK TO HER FAMILY (MOM,DAD,SISTER,AUNT,UNCLE,ETC.) TRUST ME! IT WORKS!

Q: ok so you met this guy and you like fell in love with him and he liked you for awhile but he lives in a different city and you talk to him all the time and you see him occasionally but then he starts liking this other girl who is a slut and your still like in love w/ him and you cant get over him even though you have tried.and then you thought you were finally over him and then you saw him for a weekend and fell for him again and that is what happens everytime you see him. what do i do?

Well, if you met him and he fell inlove with the sluttiest slut around, then you fell for him again, that obviously means you have uncontrollable feelings about him. Trust me, I would know. You are not alone in your situation. I get hundreds of emails a daysaying similar questions to the one you have asked. Perfectly normal, girl. All you have to do is tell him the truth or does he know? If not, let him know. If so, tell him again. This is the advice that was given to me by everyone I knew. Tell him how long you've liked him and if you're lucky, you'll go out with him. Or do some prank on this slut and TRY to break them up and if it doesn't work, try to steal him. I'm a naughty girl. LOL. I do pranks and crap in order to get him to like me. No biggie. Your situation? EASY! Just sit back, relax, and let her have it!!! Write me with updates!!! Soon!

Q: okay so i know that i'm not like, overweight, but theres some extra fat around my hips and stomach, does anyone know any good excercises to get rid of this? ty so much!

There's nothing wrong with overweight unless you're EXTREMELY huge! LOL. But, there are some ways to lose wight. If you know where any gyms are, go there. That helps you. You can also get training to be more fit and trust me, within 3 weeks, you should have hips 2 die 4!!!

Q: ok so i always like a guy and i always want a bf and then i flirt to make them like me. then i go out with them and like 2 weeks into it or so i stop liking them and want 2 break up with them and after like a month+ i finally break up with them and then i realize taht i still like themand sometimes i go back out with them and sometimes i don't. but then as soon as i don;t have a bf i want 1 again. why do i do this? and how do i stop?

You do this because it's the circle of relationships. I do it too! Every girl does it, except ugly ones. LOL. Well, it's perfectly normal to do what you do. All of my firneds do it and I do it too.