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I have this guy friend, we can call him Rob. Well Rob lied to me about something and i got mad and stopped talking to him. He was begging for forgiveness and asked my friend, let's call her Barb, to try to make me forgive him b/c he was seriously sorry. And i could tell that he was sorry, but i don't want people walking all over me, you know? But then he told Barb these things he wanted to tell me like "i'd swim the whole ocean to get to you and apologize" and he said i was beautiful. And no guy has ever said that about me. I've pretty much forgiven him but he tried SO hard to make me forgive him and it sounded like i really meant a lot to him (man that sounded snobby) and i'm wondering if i should ask him out. Does it sound like he even likes me? by the way, i REALLY like this guy! Plz help! (link)
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It does sound like he likes you, but let him make the first move. Let him know, in a subtle way, that you are interested and let him take it from there.
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Ok, there's this guy at my school (i live in Vermont) who everyone thinks is gay. Even though the rumors are most likely not true, no one wants to be his friend because of rumors, and neither do my friends. I really think it's terrible how people treat him, and I want to be his friend; I don't believe sexual orientation should affect friendship. How should I be his friend without making my friends mad, or making him feel uncomfortable when my friends want to hang out with me? (link)
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If you really believe what you say, then you shouldn't care what your friends think. I guess it's between what you think is right and having everything ok with your friends. I don't think there is a way to have both. You just need to choose between the two. Sorry if that didn't help.
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My ex boyfriend used to tell me he loved me and that I am beautiful even after we broke up...he loved me more than anyone and anything in this whole world. he told me that I was the only thing that matterd to him and that I was the only good thing in his life. and I know what his life is like, and believe me...its TERRIBLE. Anyways, I was to stupid to see how much he really meant what he was saying. and everyone else was telling me that I mean the world to him and I wouldnt believe it. But now I understand. And I want to fall BACK in love with him. I was in love with him once...at least i think i was..it didnt last very long. ive had a thing for my other ex 4 a LONG time and he came back into my life and I up and left the first guy for him. But now I want to fall back into love with him and I dont know how. I mean I love him, but I'm not in love with him. How can I fall in love with him again? (link)
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You can't make yourself fall in love with someone. I think you just want someone who loves you. You might not actually want to be in love with him exactly, but just in love with someone who loves you. I mean I guess you can try to go out with him again and see how it turns out, but I doubt anything will come of it.
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My boyfriend and I have been together for around 3 and a half months. I really like him and he says he feels the same but we never talk. He acts like all he cares about is seeing how far he can go with me. When we are not hugging or kissing, we just stand around not talking. We just never have anything to talk about. I don't want to break up with him because I really like him but our relationship is based on physical contact and no emotional support. So what should I do? (link)
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Well, I guess it depends on how much it bothers you. If you are ok with it being purely physical, then just stay with him. If you want something more out of it, then you need to break up with him. It's not likely that it will ever change.
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me and my ex dated for 4months...not a long time i kno but everything was perfect we were totally in love and i realli had faith in our relationship well we broke up in august and i still havent found sum1 that makes me truly happy like chris did. my friend mentioned that i should date her exbf but now she changed her mind and doesnt want me to date him. i respect that because he is her exbf and stuff but she did kind of have my hopes up on finding someone who would treat me right and stuff. i dont kno lately its been goin through my head to just give up on a relationship right now because im only 15 but another part of me wants to keep looking. should i give up for now or keep on looking? i just dont know...~!~xoxo~!~nichole~!~xoxo~!~ (link)
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Love is funny. It comes when you aren't looking. Relax, like you said you are only 15. You have a lot of time to be in a good relationship. Don't give up, but don't push for finding love. Love will come when it is supposed to.
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I like this guy. But my guy friend HATES him and i'm so close to going out with this guy but my guy friend says he'll never talk to me again if i go out with him. my friend is begging me to stop liking him but i like him so much! I don't want to lose my friend but i want to gain the guy i like. what should i do? (link)
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I guess you need to decide if you cherish your friendship or the guy more. Are you sure the guy likes you back? If he doesn't, you might be risking a friendship for nothing.
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Alright, well I just broke up with my boyfriend yesterday that I had been dating for 2 months and some days. And we had tried going out like 8 times before and this time it worked out for a while. Well as the relationship went on the attention he was giving me slowed down immensely and he started talking to other girls way more than me and hardly called me anymore and stuff. We talked about it for hours and he didnt change so I finally decided that I could do better. I was pretty happy when I first broke up with him. But then I listened to a song that I used to tell him was to him and tried talking to him online and that upset me and I cried a lil bit but after I stopped talking to him I was better. And he suppesdly still likes me and cares and crap. Should I try and go back out with him or just get over it considering he doesn't want to pay attention to me when he had plenty of opurtunities to change.. thanks xo (link)
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I think you should move on. Of course you regret it after you hear the song, but that's just because you are remembering all the good times. Still be his friend and remember that he's cool, but it doesn't change the fact that in the end you were unhappy with the relationship. He had a chance to change and unless he proves that he has changed, then move on to someone better
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I have this one friend, but she gets really annoying sometimes. She'll talk on and on, and i never get a chance to say anything, and im not the quiet type. She always dominates the conversation, and is always being bossy. Most of my friends think she's annoying too, but i dont want her to have no friends, but also dont want to be her friend out of pitty. what can i do? (link)
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Tell her. Not bluntly or anything, but whe nshe starts getting bossy set her straight or if she's not letting you speak point it out to her. You can also subtly add it in a conversation. You can say something like I hate it when people boss me around or something where you aren't directly refrencing to her, but it's brought to her attention. It's good that you are thinking of her, but if it gets to the point where you can't be her friend anymore, it might actually help her. It might help her make more friends or stop her from losing them, if you tell her what she's doing. She probably doesn't even realize that she's doing anything wrong.
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is it bad to be white and have a crush on someone who's black or darker skinned than you? im not racist but ive always wondered! thanks in advance! (link)
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No, that's not wrong at all. The whole separate race thing has been over with for a long time. Catch up with the times and understand that everyone is the same so you can like whoever you want no matter what race they are. You seem pretty ignorant about the whole thing though. I mean you aren't exactly racist because you aren't saying that it is wrong, but you are pretty close to it.
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What's the step below going out? This guy said he likes me and wants to be the step below going out, because he doesn't think "going out" at this age is a good idea. We're more than friends though, I know that.. Any ideas on what it could be? (link)
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There isn't a step below going out. Most of the time going out isn't even anything. It's just basically recognizing that you both like each other and that I guess you both have "dibs" on each other.
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I am 14/F, maybe like two weeks ago I was hanging out with this kid that I used to like and my parents were out of town for the next three weeks! Me, my best friend and him were at his house just hanging out, he;s in 10th and I'm 8th grade.My parets are racist and he's Jamacan! A while ago me and him would hang out alot and we were best friends! But my parents were driven by to find me one day and saw me in his garage and thought I was givin him head! Never!This was last year! Now since they have left i wa shanging out with him! He came over my house wit my best friend and we started blowing kisses at each other and then pop kissed! Later when he left I talked to him on the phone for about two hours.I sneak out of my house to meet him and we started making out for an hour or more! He told me that he has liked me for a while! On halloween he dissed me infront of my friends and then came to me school and my friends asked him about me and him! He said that I was "dirty and disgusting" and he regreted makin out wit me. Then my other guy best friends told me it was because he was embarassed about making out with an 8th grader! I become really attached to him and want to cry thinking it was stupid to make out with him and then get embarassed! I need some help! Seriously (link)
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Don't worry about him. He's not worth your tears or your time. There is someone better for you out there and if he's going to act immature and talk bad about you then that's his problem. Everyone has their regrets, but the key is to move on and learn from them. Next time, make sure the guy is worth your time before you deal with him.
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Well!My friend a while ago started cutting herself, but then she stopped. Today I hit her arm and she said ouch. I knew right away what she did because she gave me this look. Then she laughed about it. I honestly don’t think that it is funny. She is one of my best friends and I don’t need her going off and hurting herself. When she laughs about it, it makes me feel like she doesn’t want me to care or anything. She showed me her arm and it looks pretty bad and shes like ooo its not that bad. I don’t want to tell an adult but she has been pretty depressed latly and I don’t kno anymore if I should continue helping her about it or just give her her own space. (link)
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You need to tell an adult. If you leave her alone, then she'll just end up hurting herself more and who knows she could hurt herself to the point of no return. Obviously, if she hasn't stopped cutting herself, then this job is too much for you. You can only do so much to help your friend.
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Hi I am christian, and I have a friend who is jewish. I want to get her a "holiday" present, but I am not sure what to call it, or if she would think it was rude. I am also not sure when i should give it to her. I don't know when haunaka is. What do you think? (link)
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I think you should talk to her about it. Everyone is different on how they feel about it. I have a jewish friend and I gave her a present and she didn't care, but others might not agree. Just see how she feels about it and go from there.
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I like this guy who is a musician...actually he's in three different bands. So, every weekend he has shows that he plays. Being supportive, I come to see him play, but since he's playing we hardly get to talk, and when we do he's worn out and tired. Our conversations are pretty much meaningless online , and I don't like to call guys- I wait for them to call me.
Lately he's seemed pretty distant. Is this a sign for me to back off, or is he waiting for me to make the first move? (link)
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I think you should chill for a little bit. Guys normally show their feelings even when they don't mean to. Let him make the first move. If he really likes you and wants to be with you, then he'll take the initiative.
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years and I live with him now. Well, he wants a kid really bad and I told him no because I'm almost 20 and we both work at MAC. And, MAC doesn't really pay us good. And obviously, you need money to have a kid. I'm on BC and have been for like 8 months and somehow I lost my pills. I'm organized, and I dont misplace things hardly ever and I think my boyfriend stole them. I'm getting more pills tomorrow but I just KNOW my boyfriend stole them! He hasint talked to me in two days because I accused him of stealing them. Why does he want a freaking kid so bad!? I dont want to break up with him, its been 3 years and I dont want to throw our relationship away. But what can I say to him to get his mind off kids!!! (link)
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Maybe you should give him a reality check. Show him how much it would cost to have a kid or babysit one for a weekend and allow him to see that it's not all fun and games. Also, let him know that you are not ready for a kid right now. If it comes down to it and you guys are not at the same place in life, then you might have to break up. Just because you guys have been together for 3 years doesn't mean that you have to stay with him.
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well I am a 19 year old female who has been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. I feel i am insecure about myself and constantly feel myself feeling and thinking that i am not as pretty as the girls that he sees. I have become controlling because i tell him he cant look at other girls and he can not have girl friends. I feel if he loves me like he says he does then why does he need to talk to other girls. I do not like him to work with pretty girls because i am afraid that he will flirt with them and not tell me. I get angry when he stares at other girls. We are constntly fighting. Is this all my fault. How can i stop being so scared that he is going to leave me for someone better. Even though everyday he says he wont i still get scared. And when i even see a pretty girl i say she is ugly so he wontlook . i know we care and love eachother so much . i do not want us to fight we are getting married soon please help my problem stop (link)
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You need to get some self-esteem. I don't think you'll get it while your with your boyfriend though because I think you are hiding behind him. You need to get yourself together before you put him through your drama. I'm not trying to be mean and I'm sorry if it's harsh, but it is true. Your relationship will never work out if you control him and limit him like you are doing now. You need to trust him and trust that he isn't doing anything that he wouldn't tell you about. I think you should allow him to have girl friends, but let him know that if he screws up once then it is done. Trust him more and I think things will work out. If you can't trust him, then maybe you shouldn't marry him or atleast wait until you can trust him before you guys get married.
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hey... i'm only 13 but i really want to lose 15 pounds, if i do i won't get sick or anything will i? i don't want to have like health problems for the rest of my life. i'm only about 5'2 and i weigh like 115!! my mom says its from muscle cuse i play soccer like ALOT, but i really don't like the way i look. almost everyone i know is so much frikin skinnier than me. i'm not going to like cut out food compleatly, i just want to lose 15 pounds in like a month or so... is it safe? thanks a bunch!! (link)
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You shouldn't lose any weight because you are still growing. This is the time where people get taller and thin out. Besides, that does not seem heavy at all, especially if you play soccer. If you didn't know, muscle weighs more than fat. Everyone is not meant to look like everyone else, so don't compare yourself to your friends. Enjoy how you look and just keep healthy.
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My friend and i are both in theater arts, and she got the role i wanted, and i tried not to be jealous of her, but i am. i know she's really good, and deserves the part, but i get mad at her whenever she brings it up, because shes almost bragging. I just really wanted the part, and now she thinks im mad at her, and i guess i kinda am. wat can i do? (link)
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You're just going to have to get over it. Explain to her that you are jealous of her so it's an instinct to kind of snap at her. Also, explain that you don't want to be mad at her, but you just kind of are and it would be best if you didn't talk about the part. She should understand and stop talking about the part so that you can get over it.
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i have this friend and i really wish that she would stop saying all this crap about me behind my back...i mean every time we are together we are like the best of friends and the everthing i tell her she has to go tell other ppl...she is like backstabbing me...what should i do?? (link)
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Obviously, you just need to stop telling her your secrets. If you know you can't trust her, then stop putting yourself in that situation. If you want, you can talk about it with her. Even after she explains herself, you might not want to tell her. You are setting yourself up for your secrets to be told, so just stop telling her.
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I am a 13 year old girl. My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while and we are both completely devoted to each other, trust each other and love each other very much. We are thinking about having sex with each other but I am not totally sure whether I should. It isn't my age that is worrying me, it's more the fact that I'm worried about him seeing my body and if I get it wrong or something. What should I do? Should I sleep with him? (link)
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I don't think you should. You are too young and your body isn't ready for it. Besides the emotional attachment that is involved, is too much for someone as young as you are. As I've said to people before, if you have any doubt, then don't do it. It'll probably lead to regret later.
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