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Hey Everybody, Im 17 and I just had the IUD Mirena inserted two days ago, and that same night I had sex because I thought it would become effective immediately. Then I soon heard that it becomes effective in seven days. Is this true? (link)
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IUDs are effective immediately (though you may not be up for sex right away due to soreness). However, like any other form of birth control, they are never 100% effective. Modern IUDs are close to that, but nothing is perfect.
This is definitely a question for your OB/GYN, though. You shouldn't have to make an appointment to get such a simple question answered; just call and leave a message for the doctor to call you back.
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"The settings saved on this computer for the network do not match the requirements of the network"
I have Xfinity internet from Comcast, it works on all the other computers in the house. Its running on Windows 7 Home. So do all the other computers in my house. Any help? (link)
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Wipe out the saved wireless profile on the machine that doesn't work and reconstruct it, using a working machine as a guide. You probably have the security set to the wrong protocol.
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Okay my husband is in the Navy. He wanted me to come out for Thanksgiving since he has Wednesday to Sunday off. Well I tried to get it off and I couldn't. I just feel like I didn't try hard enough to get that time off. I feel so horrible about it. We've only been married for about 3 months and I've seen him once. And he understands that it didn't work out. He gets to come for Christmas though. I just don't know how to stop feeling guilty. (link)
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It's possible that by trying a little harder, you could have gotten the time off. It's also possible that by trying a little harder, you could have pissed off your boss and wrecked your chances for getting time off at Christmas as well. Second-guessing will drive you crazy, so try to put that to rest if you can. You did what you could, and trying to do more would not necessarily have made things better.
You may be able to alleviate some of the guilt by planning something which will make his trip home for Christmas especially memorable. Plan a date which you know he will enjoy, cook his favorite meal, and/or let him find you under the tree on Christmas morning wearing a big red bow and nothing else. Whatever works for you.
Unfortunately, these kinds of long absences and struggling to make the most of short visits is par for the course in a military marriage. It's something you'll have to get used to. Cultivating the guilt may eventually turn it into resentment, so one way or another, you'll have to learn not to blame yourself when something like this happens.
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im a 15 year old boy and im having relationship issues with my 17 year old girlfriend of three months. we love each other and we have a really strong connection, but i can barely control myself around her. we are Christians and we know that sex before marriage is wrong and we've been trying to control our urges, but she has alot more self control than i do. once we start making out, i'm always ready to take it to the next level and try to get in her pants, but i promised her i wouldn't do anything and i just cant help it. i love her and since she's a senior and this will be our only year together, i don't want our relationship to end before it has to. we are on the brink of breaking up because of me and i cant loose her. how can i control my sexual urges better?!?!?!?!?!??!?!!?!?!?? (link)
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Self-control is what marks the difference between a boy and a man. She is two years older than you - not an insurmountable difference, but enough such that she will need you to be more grown-up than most guys your age. This is especially true if you expect to be able to compete with the 18+ guys who she will meet more of when high school is done for her. Perhaps if you remember that you will lose her if you don't control yourself, that will give you the strength to do so. If that doesn't work, try frequent masturbating.
Here's something else to keep in mind: You are below the legal age of informed consent. If she were to have sex with you, she would be guilty of statutory rape, even if you were entirely willing.
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What does it mean if you have a dream that one of your family members die?
I had a dream that somebody killed my brother and my mom was crying. Does that mean anything? (link)
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It means nothing. Dreams are not prophetic, it's just your subconscious mind being active at night while your logic and reason centers are having a time out. If dreams were foretellers of the future, I'd be hooked up with Katherine Heigl by now.
Don't worry about it. Even if it happens again and again, don't worry about it. If it causes you undue stress, there are methods you can employ to try and control your dreaming to a certain extent, but there's no real cause for concern.
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my grandma had twins, no one has had twins in that family yet, my boyfriends mom had twins and no one in that family had twins yet, whats my chances? (link)
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If you leave it up to mother nature, your odds are about one in 86. Fertility drugs can of course increase those odds.
Also, there seems to be a genetic tendency towards twins, but it generally skips a generation.
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I am a 29 year old woman and confused about my future. I used to be a web designer, got bored to tears and started to learn upholstery. I've been doing that for a year now and in the past two years have started playing bass in a band. I'm moving into a beautiful house with my husband of 6 years in November. It all seems kind of cool but I feel like sh!t. The band is getting a lot of attention lately and I should feel good about it but I don't. The better I do the more discusting I feel and self destructive in a way. I've thought about these feelings and I see them as ridiculous. I haven't acted out too much on these self destuctive impulses but it hasn't been easy. Even if I do simple things like keep my car clean and finish daily tasks in time I get grossed out. Success on a higher scale is making me physically nausious. I don't want to talk to a psychiatrist because I find that people generally don't like me when they meet me and I don't want to get the wrong advice. (link)
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You should re-think your hard-line stance against going to a psychologist or psychiatrist (there's a difference; the first is more of a counselor, the second is a medical doctor who would prescribe medication). Think of it this way; if you went to a dentist who didn't like you, do you think he would deliberately do a bad job on your teeth? Not if he has the slightest bit of professional ethics, he wouldn't. A psychologist will view you as a patient, not a potential friend; it doesn't matter if he/she doesn't like you personally.
I cannot say with any kind of authority what is making you feel the way you do, and I wouldn't want to suggest something that might end up being dead wrong. A professional can give you the advice and help you need.
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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.
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Here's what he's doing: he's giving himself a get-out-of-jail-free card. Essentially, no matter what he does to screw up the relationship, hurt you, disrespect you, or otherwise be a jerk, he can shrug and say, "I warned you." It's a tactic used by someone who isn't ready even for a minor commitment.
So, if you don't mind walking on eggs throughout your relationship, go for it. Just be aware that it WILL eventually end badly. He's essentially given himself permission to stomp on your feelings someday.
I suggest that you respond to him with, "You're probably right. I wouldn't want you to ask me out until you grow up a little. I'd prefer a guy who didn't make excuses in advance for treating me like dirt, and then assume that makes it all right when they do it."
One thing to keep in mind is that, odds are, one or both of you WILL find someone new and "dump" the other. People rarely get married to someone they dated at the age of sixteen. But for him to actually plan on it and set it up in advance so that he's blameless for it... that just reeks of childish insecurity.
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this morning I stopped behind a car at a red light. I looked away and must have taken my foot off the break and bumped into him. I have a half square shaped dent, it's not anything bad. I had hit the square attachment to his suv that is used to haul things. (I guess that's it's use) however. police were called and info was exchanged, the usual. the cop noted that there was NO VISIBLE DAMAGE to his car and I did have a minor dent. my questions is will my insurance rates rise? the officer said that if the man decides to have his car looked at there is a small fee my insurance would pay. will that raise my rates? I'm 17. so I'm worried. (link)
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It really depends on your policy. However, one thing you could do to prevent your rates from going up would be to pay for any claims out-of-pocket. You don't have to let your insurance cover the damage; you can pay for it with your own money.
If you were ticketed as at-fault in the accident, then that might raise your rates - again, it depends on your policy. But for something this minor, it shouldn't raise them much. If it does, you can always shop for different insurance and get a better rate.
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One of my managers is in his low 20's, as am i. We both have sexual attractions towards one another and have discussed if we would sleep with each other. Has anyone every slept with their manager? Do you guys think it's a good idea if no one finds out? Thanks (link)
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Here's what to do: one of you should quit the job first. Then, and only then, can you have a personal relationship.
You won't be able to keep this a secret. It's going to get out eventually, and when it does, you'll probably both be fired. Besides, do you really WANT to keep it a secret? Wouldn't you rather be able to date and do "couple things" openly?
Even if you don't intend to pursue this any further, it would probably be a good idea to find a different job. You're never going to be able to un-say what's been said, and with this kind of mutual attraction in the air, it's only a matter of time before it causes problems.
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When my boyfriend and I get into the moment and begin touching eachother at first it feels really good and I moan and all though after he stops and I go to pleasure him when he tried pleasuring me again, I just don't feel it anymore until a couple of hours...?
I get over it for eg if he licks me out i love it and moan and then i pleasure him and when he comes back to me i'm over it, there's no feeling at all.
I'm still a virgina and i've never come before. (link)
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It seems that you need constant stimulation to stay "in the moment". Perhaps you can find ways to mutually touch each other, so that there's no long-duration pause in the action for you.
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I once had a girl I met back in high school. I was her best friends boyfriend and I realized that there was a spark between me and her friend so I took her instead.It was a long relationship and she was everything to me. Now im 20on and I still find myself thinking of her and were her life has gone and think I miss her but still don't have the courage to call and say hey girl how have you been or something.I lost my virginity to her and she lost hers to me in a very funny place but it was one to remember .what should I do? (link)
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You must absolutely call her. If you don't, you will wonder for the rest of your life what would have happened if you did. Trust me on this one.
But be prepared for disappointment. As others have said, she may have moved on by now. She may have changed in other ways; people change a great deal through their teens and early twenties. Don't call with expectations or with outlandish hopes; just call, and see what happens.
It might be a good idea if you didn't call clear out of the blue, though. Try contacting her via E-mail or Facebook first, if you have that option. Otherwise, you run the risk of calling at a bad time, and it'll be awkward.
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Why does my boyfriend not want to kiss me? (link)
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There could be any number of reasons. He might be shy. He might think that he doesn't kiss well. He might feel that you have bad breath, but not want to tell you. He might have a cold sore inside his lip and not want to pass it to you. Maybe he doesn't like kissing in general. Maybe he's about to break up with you. Maybe he's gay.
Maybe you should ask him. I've got a hundred answers, but only he has the right one.
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okay i found out that this guy i've been sleeping with has been sleeping with this other girl who is married. she has just recently had a baby and told me last night - i'm the only one that knows other than the guy we've been sleeping with - that the baby could be this guys, her husbands or her mothers partner. thing is, i know the husband, well i know him to talk to but not really that well; should i tell him that his wifes a slut and the kid might not be his?(in a nicer way obviously) (link)
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There's a lot of Springer-esque stuff going on here. I'll have to make sure I've got this straight before I can answer.
If I understand right, the woman who's having a baby has a husband plus two other sex partners, one of whom is also having sex with you, and the other of which is seeing the woman's mother. And she must be reasonably good friends with you, or she wouldn't have told you about the baby.
I think the best thing you could possibly do would be to get far, far away from this crazy situation and never look back. You should definitely stop seeing this guy who's having sex with your married friend. She's obviously having unprotected sex with him and others, or she wouldn't have three possible fathers for her baby. That puts him at risk for STDs - which in turn puts you at risk.
Here's what will happen if you tell the husband about it: He either knows already, or he will deny it and get angry with you for making up vicious lies about his wife. So it won't really do any good. If you really feel that he needs to know about this, then you will need to present him with actual evidence. Probably the easiest way that you could do that would be to give him information which will allow him to catch his wife in the act. Of course, that means you're probably going to lose that friendship - but to be honest, she doesn't sound like the kind of person I'd want to be friends with, so that's probably not a big loss.
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I'm a female who has for the most part lived a heterosexual lifestyle although I identify as bisexual.
Recently, I have increasingly developed feelings for a close female friend. I think she's straight and she has told me about guys she likes on occasion but she rarely discusses her relationships with people.
We have a very loving friendship and she is very tactile with me. Sometimes I wonder if perhaps she feels the same way about me but I am terrified of saying anything to her.
What should I do? (link)
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If you tell her about the way you feel, it may effectively end your friendship. That is an unfortunate truth. So, what you must decide is whether it is worth that risk.
If you do decide to tell her, then it might be a good idea to first inform her of your preferences in general. Does she know that you consider yourself bi? Tell her that before you tell her about your feelings; that give you a chance to "test the waters", and it also avoids giving her the double-whammy of both pieces of surprising news at the same time. And, if she doesn't share those preferences, then you have the benefit of knowing what her response would be if you told her about your deeper feelings for her.
How would you describe your feelings? Is it simple attraction, curiosity, infatuation? Or do you think you would go so far as to call it "Love"?
If you feel like you may be in love with her, then your friendship is ultimately doomed if you do NOT tell her; eventually, it will either come out or tear you apart inside. So in that case, you do need to tell her - if only so you don't have to live with not having told her. That kind of regret lasts your whole life (I'm almost 40 years old, married with kids, and I STILL occasionally feel that poisonous regret over the one to whom I never expressed my real feelings, until it was too late).
But if your feelings don't run quite that deep, then it may be better to try and get over them and resign yourself to being friends without benefits.
One other thing - if for whatever reason she asks you directly, tell her the truth. One should never lie about love.
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I walked into famous footwear today, it being tax free weekend it was packed. I couldnt tell where the line began it actually looked like everyone was still shopping so I just got behind the person that was paying, I was there for about a minute and then this lady taps me on the shoulder and says "um, excuse me theres a line." I turn around and theres probably a line of about 50 to 100 people. I automatically felt embaressed its one thing to cut one person but to cut 100 is a different story, I apologized and then walked out of the store embaressed. What would you be thinking if you were one of the people in the line, I want honest answers! (link)
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If I'd been in the line, I'd have figured you made a simple mistake that anyone could have done, and then given it no further thought.
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i am 12 year old boy i have never hade sexual contact but i have a ich on my penis and sometimes a rash (link)
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Get it checked out by a doctor. It's not an STD, but it could be any number of easily-treatable skin rashes.
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I need to ask, is the world going to end in 2012? (link)
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The entire basis for the world ending in 2012 is an ancient Mayan calendar which happens to run out next year. There are two things to know about that:
(1) The ancient Mayans themselves didn't believe the world would end that year; they just figured that was when it was time to start a new calendar. It would be like saying that the world will end on December 31st of 9999 because our years only have four digits. Clearly, that's absurd.
(2) Even if they did think the world would end when their calendar concluded, why should we think that they knew what they were talking about? They clearly didn't have all the answers; if they did, it wouldn't be an ancient and extinct civilization, it would be alive and well and running the world right now!
Someday, the world will end. That is a fact. It may happen five billion years from now when the Sun's hydrogen fuel is exhausted, or it may happen tomorrow if a huge asteroid strikes the Earth (and it's EXTREMELY unlikely that we would get no warning of such an event, so don't be worried about that either!). But rest assured that the end of the world will definitely NOT happen due to some arbitrary date on an ancient calendar.
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I'm thirteen, turning fourteen and I have NO privacy. At all. Ever since I was nine, she thought it was funny reading my journals, going through my cell phone, blocking websites like YouTube and games websites. It's ridiculous. It's a crime to close a door in the house, even if I'm in the bathroom or changing in my room. My parents never knock, and always barge in. I found it necessary to protect my iPhone with five different passwords. My two sibs come in my room, use my stuff, ruin my homework, draw on my walls... It's ridiculous. I don't think the "open doors" thing is really working right now! I NEED MY SPACE! (link)
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A short-term solution to part of the problem is to get a box or trunk with a padlock. Your journals and other personal things can go in there, locked up, when you're not using them. Get a combination lock and memorize it so there's no chance someone will get the key from you. It'll be inconvenient for you, but unfortunately, it's a fact of your life.
I would imagine that you've brought this problem up with your parents before and they've been unhelpful (and if you haven't talked to them about it, what are you waiting for?). Whatever you're saying to them clearly isn't working, so it's time for a change of strategy. Here's what I suggest: Use the homework angle.
Start by telling them that you have to be able to do your homework with the assurance that it's not going to be ruined by your siblings (if you've done this before, do it again - remember, this is the START of the strategy, not the end). Furthermore, if it's an issue, tell them that you want to be able to close your door while you're doing your homework so that you can concentrate.
If that does not good, then ask your teacher to request a parent-teacher conference. I tend to think your teacher would be on your side about getting your homework done, and if you have an ally in this fight, your arguments might go over better.
Hopefully, that will take you a step in the right direction, and it may make it possible for you to get some of your personal privacy matters addressed as well.
If it doesn't, you may need to take further action. There are ways to do it, but first, there's a way NOT to do it.
DON'T retaliate against your siblings. The temptation to do so is probably huge, but you don't want to turn this into a war of you against them, because it looks like your parents are already on their side on this issue and you will lose that fight.
Instead, focus on your parents - get them to see your side. Here are three ways you might do so, if reason fails:
(1) Resistance and Defiance.
For example: Most bathroom doors have locks. Start closing the door and using the locks, and let people get upset about it. They seem unconcerned with your feelings on the subject, so you are free to be unconcerned with theirs.
(2) Make your parents feel your discomfort.
For example: Start hanging out in their bedroom, using their bathroom and other personal things. When they get upset, tell them that this is what you're just following their rules insofar as personal property and space.
(3) Extreme measures.
For example: Show up to breakfast some morning wearing only your underwear. When your parents say something about it, point out that you don't see the difference between that and being forced to change or shower with the door open. If you get no result from that, try showing up naked to breakfast. (Of course, you might have sort of parents for whom this would be no big deal, in which case scratch that plan.)
If all else fails, take solace in the idea that it won't be that much longer before you are an adult. Then you can move out, get your own space, and put as many locks on your door as you want.
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My name is PRERIT. I am 25 years old. I am from India. Actually I wanna die just because of my love relationship is over. I loved my girlfriend a lot but because of my mistakes I have lost my love. She doesn't talk to me. She thinks that I cheated her but the thing is my father admitted me in the Re-Habitation center. Because of that I was totally in out of contact with everyone. I was not able to contact my love from last 8 months. Now i tried to contact her a lot but she has changed her all of the contacts. I don't wanna live alive without her. I just wanna die. There is nothing in my life without her. So please let me know the way to suicide. Make sure that I should surely die with that idea. There shouldn't be any chance to get alive from that way. Please help me out. (link)
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The fact of the matter is that anyone who lives within driving distance of a railroad track or a ten-story building has access to a quick, easy, and foolproof suicide method. Not only that, but there are lots of places on the internet which would give you exactly the information you're looking for, without your having to wait for a response. And yet you came here, to an advice-seeking website, where you must realize that most responders (if not all) will try to talk you out of suicide rather than help you accomplish it.
Please consider this as evidence that there is still a part of you that doesn't want to die. And as long as that part of you still has a voice, listen to it. Give yourself a chance to save your own life.
Right now, you are in a very emotional state. This isn't a good frame of mind to be in when you're buying a cell phone, let alone making a decision which will end all possibility of other decisions yet to come.
There are people who care about you. Your father, for instance - he didn't check you into rehab because he wanted you to die, he did it because he wanted you to live. That's worth something, isn't it?
I would implore you to think carefully about the consequences of what may be the last action you ever take. Perhaps it will end your pain - but perhaps it won't. None of us knows what happens after death. There are no guarantees except this one: Once you have taken your own life, there is no going back. And even if you do end your pain that way, you will have bought that solace at a terrible price, as those who still love you must live with what you did, and forever wonder if they could have done anything more to stop it.
I say this again: some part of you still wants to live, or you wouldn't be here. Give life a chance. What do you have to lose?
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