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Im confused


Question Posted Friday September 23 2011, 12:12 am

I am a 29 year old woman and confused about my future. I used to be a web designer, got bored to tears and started to learn upholstery. I've been doing that for a year now and in the past two years have started playing bass in a band. I'm moving into a beautiful house with my husband of 6 years in November. It all seems kind of cool but I feel like sh!t. The band is getting a lot of attention lately and I should feel good about it but I don't. The better I do the more discusting I feel and self destructive in a way. I've thought about these feelings and I see them as ridiculous. I haven't acted out too much on these self destuctive impulses but it hasn't been easy. Even if I do simple things like keep my car clean and finish daily tasks in time I get grossed out. Success on a higher scale is making me physically nausious. I don't want to talk to a psychiatrist because I find that people generally don't like me when they meet me and I don't want to get the wrong advice.

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Xenolan answered Wednesday November 23 2011, 12:18 am:
You should re-think your hard-line stance against going to a psychologist or psychiatrist (there's a difference; the first is more of a counselor, the second is a medical doctor who would prescribe medication). Think of it this way; if you went to a dentist who didn't like you, do you think he would deliberately do a bad job on your teeth? Not if he has the slightest bit of professional ethics, he wouldn't. A psychologist will view you as a patient, not a potential friend; it doesn't matter if he/she doesn't like you personally.

I cannot say with any kind of authority what is making you feel the way you do, and I wouldn't want to suggest something that might end up being dead wrong. A professional can give you the advice and help you need.

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