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the name is lindsay, but call me lu. i'm crazy, calm, happy, optimistic and spoiled. i've got my best friends. yes i've made mistakes but who hasn't. i've gained some of the most amazing people but also lost a few great ones. the past is the past, i'm over it. the future scares me but i'm ready. i am very independent, i need my space. my family is definately one of my number one priorities, they never let me down and always work hard to make me happy. i look up to my brother shane, he is one of my best friends. i try my hardest not to judge others. i refuse to settle for less. i finally figured out who i really am and ive never ever been happier. i want to become successful, and someday i know i will. i'm the blonde one, thats me :) probably the biggest sweetheart, and one of the most understanding people you'll ever meet. just don't piss me off. i make the best out of every situation. i don't trust easily but i'm a strong ass girl. smiling is something i'm good at. i never give up. i keep my chin up. i stand up for myself and don't let people walk all over me. i don't get mad, i get even. i believe in myself, and in who i am. i live life to the fullest which also means taking risks and chances. i probably don't care what you think, because right now i've got everyone i need. being in love is one of the greatest things i've ever experienced. everything is meant to happen for a reason. live life with no regrets and have fun. change is something thats necessary, even though it's not always good. get to know me, i promise you won't regret it. i live my life for myself and not others. i love the life i was given, and i'll never stop being me.



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ok so my friend is this boy named dustin i dont like him let me get that strait but he does like my sister and i encorege him to ask her out and stuff but when he finnaly did she said no and now its been 3 weeks since then and he hasent emailed me and he wasent at school today and i just wonder if its because she said no and he might be really hurt about it i will admit he is extremly cute and his sister said that no girl has ever told him no what do you guys think do you think he is grouded or sick or somthing or do you think its because he is just so sad about my sister he talks about her all the time and i think its safe to say that he likes my sister more than any other girl he has liked before i just want to know what you guys think

well honestly; he might be a little hurt still, but i think he was just sick the day he was gone or had something going on like an appointment. as for not e-mailing you, maybe he just feels stupid because your sister said no. try e-mailing him or talking to him about it and see how he feels :)

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What kind of pet can be a perfect pet for any person
what kind of pet do you like?

Pls. Answer the kind of pet and it's kind of breed
for example

Cat - Siamese Cat


DOGS :) for sure!
i love my yellow lab; couldnt ask for a better dog
all labs are such great dogs

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i'm going on sort of a double date thing on friday. Its going to be me and my boyfriend and my friend and her boyfriend going to the movies.My boyfriend and i haven't kissed yet and he said he was gunna kiss me in the movie. This will be my first kiss. Wat should i do?????
Thanx in advance


i still remember my first kiss; i was very nervous but i just let the guy kiss me because i thought hey why not if i like him :) go with the flow, im guessing you want to kiss him back since he is your boyfriend so do whatever he does. he'll make the first move so dont worry about it, relax and have fun!

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i'm a junior and im already soooo nervous about college! not applying and getting in, but im nervous about like living there and all the new people. i have really close friends, but im not a partier and i actually like living in my house with my family. im not allowed to live at home, but im so scared and its still like 2 years away! calm my nerves!!!


im a senior and trust me im very nervous too but im just tryin to have fun right now and enjoy my senior year and you should try and enjoy high school while your in it! all of my friends that went off to college absolutely LOVE it and they say its way better than high school. i know im gonna miss my friends and family but i know that it will be a great experience but you dont have anything to worry about NOW since your only a junior. live you life; have fun while your still in high school instead or worrying about something 2 years away. you'll be fine ♥

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I really need help see i like this boy at school and hes's like really popular and im like normal so he really doesnt talk to me how should i approach him or should i just leave it alone and stick wit my kind.


if you want something bad enough; you can get it :) dont give up just because he is "popular" say hey to him in the hallway; maybe if any of your friends know his friends or even him then they can introduce you two?! there are many ways to approach a guy, you just have to have confidence in yourself but DONT GIVE UP! if you need more help let me know
♥lindsaylu

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im head over heals for this guy. ive liked him for years and i cant get over him. we hooked up and stuff but thats all hes aw me as. he has to hide me from his friends cuz they ahte me and i know i dont deserve that. but i still cant get over him . please give me any tips or anything. i need to get out of love im goign through depression even


well if you want to try to keep your mind off him; stay busy :) hangout with your friends, go to the mall or movies! but if you want to try to make it work then talk to him and tell him how you feel; but honestly i dont think this kid is worth it if he has to hide you from his friends! it is very very hard and i understand that but you want whats best for you and you want to be happy right? hope all goes well

and HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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All right I guess I need some help I heard my girlfriend say that I don't know how to flirt with her or she isn't use to how I flirt with her. My question is anyone care to give me advice and on hitting her engine up? I'm great at oral but how do I get her there so she will let me do that?


i lovee when my boyfriend kisses me on the neck, and throws me on the bed. but doesnt exactly try to do things right away. i mean its kinda hard to know because all girls are different, but if you have AIM my screename is yeah ur the onex so hit me up on that, and we can talk about it more.

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i know 14-w/e yr old guys only think about sex (supposedly)


does a guy thats in 8th grade (13-14) only think aboout sex?? i think its kind of young (and disturbing) but idk.

my cousin is in 6th grade and his friends told him about a porn site, and he was looking at some naughty stuff haha. so yes it is normal in 8th grade and im 12th grade right now, and i know thats still what guys think about.

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how do i get rid of a hicky


ive had two on my neck at once and let me tell ya it was a PAIN. my friends told me to do the spoon in a freezer thing, but i think it was too late. im pretty sure you should do that like RIGHT when you get it. cover up is like magic, it works soo good. somebody told me toothpaste but ya know im not so sure about that one :)
lindsaylu

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i had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago. at the time i was not on birth control, and he was wearing a condom, but it ended up breaking and he had his penis in me without a condom for about 5 minutes. the next day i immediately started taking birth control. the day after i started taking it i got my period, and it has been about 8 days and i still sort of have it on and off. i am worried because my period has always been normal, i usually get it for 5 days then it goes away so now im worried. could i be pregnant? is it because of the birth control? someone please fill me in


your not pregnant♥ since you got your period and the birth control can mess up your period a little bit in the beginning. if you have any questions about birth control let me know!

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im about to be 16 my voice has changed and everything and puberty is hitting me hard...how do i get my dick to grow??


boy, i dont think you can :)
sorry hun.

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Ok so i'm 13 and i have a boyfriend from school and he's really nice, i've liked him for a long time now but he wants to go into town with me and i'm just sat here infront of the computer crying because i don't know what to do because i AM SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO NERVOUS OF GOING INTO TOWN WITH HIM. I mean REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY NERVOUS. i can't eat because of it, i know.. i'm soo pathetic.. it's just because i've never really told my mum & dad that i've had/have a boyfriend and becuase i can never ever seem to talk to boys in a conversation..
:S
Please say anything that you think can work.
thankyou in advance X

its okay :) everyone gets nervous; its nothing to cry about. maybe you should hang out with him and some other people and get more comfortable with him before you go into town. but if thats not an option, just go into town with him and dont think about it, i know for a fact that you will have fun once your there with him. it will be a little uncomfortable in the beginning but it will become better!

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Last night my boyfriend drove me home, before I left we started making out and then he stopped and said he thought we needed to be more open about "this" and so I asked him what he meant and he just said nevermind. I can't help but wonder what he was talking about. Anyone have any ideas?


im pretty sure he means that you need to kiss more in public; around people more! so everyone can see :)

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theres this guy i talk to and he always calls me "boo" but i cant thing of anything flirty to call him..any suggestions?


you should try:
baby, hunny, sweetie, or make a nickname for him, like i call my boyfriend bennyboy or benny, bennyboo. yeah you get the idea haha. if you need more ideas let me know!

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My friend, Jayelle (16) is very into drugs and although I have been friends with her for three years, I'm way different than her. I'm not into that and no one can influence me to do so. However, she's ruining her life and she doesn't care and slowly she's trying to drag me with her.

Her parents don't know that she uses drugs and I don't see how. She's always high and she has drugs in her room. They're clueless. I don't feel comftrable being around her anymore and I have talked to her about it but it goes in one ear and out the other so I stoped trying.

She got upset with me because I did not want to hang out with her because of it and I honestly did not feel guilty for it.

Here's the problem. Both Jayelle & I got invited to a college party but I would not go because they're crazy and I did not want anything bad to happen but she still decided to go. She called me at 2 in the morning asking me to come pick her up. I'm also 16 and I don't have a car of my own so there was no way I could leave. I felt really bad because I knew she was in deep trouble. High, drunk and with a bunch of older guys. I freaked out so I called her older sister who is 18. She acted calm and went and picked her up. I got a phone call from Jayelle the next day cursing me out and blaming me for getting grounded. I felt really bad but I honestly don't feel like it's my fault.

Even though I don't want to be friends with her because of the things she does, I still don't want anything bad to happen to her. Her mother found her drugs and basically cursed me out for it because I didn't go with her to the party and "protect" her. I was shocked.. hearing that from an adult! My mom took my side and is proud of me for not following into her footsteps but there is a part of me that feels horrible. What do I do. Thank you so much!!

this actually happened to me a while ago with one of my best friends. ive never done a drug in my life and i dont care what anyone says but my friend started getting high and smoking cigarettes. well she wouldnt tell me because she knew i would get sooo mad so i always found out for someone else. i sat down and talked to her, i said seriously if your gonna keep doing that i cant be friends with you. im just looking out for you because i care about you so much and i dont want you to get into trouble. and she hasnt done it since..ever since i talk to her about it. i know that you did the right thing sweetie and honestly you did nothing wrong and should not feel bad about anything that happened. its a good thing that you didnt get involved. talk to her, and if she keeps doing this stuff; id take a break from her.

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Well.... I asked the guy if he wanted to go to the movies again and he was like ''duh lol'' but we dont really talk.. should i keep on talkin to him.. i mean if i dotn talk he doesnt.. is he shy? or whats the deal here?
THANK YOU , BETTY

yes keep talking to him :) there are many boys out there that are shyy! and you have to talk to them first and keep the convo going. if he said "duh" then obviously he wants to go again, just talk to him first and see what he does! goodluck hun

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There is this friend,and he now knows that I like him. He was shocked to hear that but we still talk. One day he randomly came up to me saying "You are going to do me aren't you, just letting you know you can do me anytime" I gave him like a look but he was smiling then just walked off. Then in class the next day I was "sleeping" and I overheard him say this " I'd pound on her s--- like bam I'd f--- the ish out of her" we still talk. But what am I supposed to do or to say to that? I like him but I'm confused. What should I do?

well since i am manager on the boys hockey team; i get this all the time. it does get annoying but i know that the boys who say this to me are totally joking. im not sure how this boy says it but if hes being like serious about it, forget about that jerk! hes just being a perv. but if hes like joking around and laughing about it most likely he's just messin around. boys will be boys and i know that they do this all the time. but if this boy constantly talks about it around you, he just wants some from ya. if ya need anything else, dont by shy♥

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ok here's the thing imm really sad right now :(
please dont get mad at me but could you actually give a real answer that you would do if you were in this position

ok since i was like 4 i was friends with this girl named britney. wen my family moved away from them we grew further apart

but wen i was like 12 and she was like 14 she started getting more friends then she stopped hanging out with me


but she still thinks everything is ok
i dont know why but its almost like i hate her

she just i guess wants to act mature and she always hangs out with my sister and doesnt even say anything to me

wenever we do talk she just asks about my sister and doesnt really care about me

please ive cried every night because of it and i really need advice!!!

hey girlie. well trust me ive been through alot with friends and the best thing you could do is TALK TO HER! she wont know how your feeling if you dont say something to her. tell her that you miss how things were between you two and how you feel left out because all she wants to do now is hangout with your sister. ask her if she wants to do something, i dont think she realizes what your going through because she doesnt see it. if she still doesnt understand or all she wants to do is hangout with your sister; you dont need somebody like that in your life. hang out with the people that mean the most to YOU and make you happy :) instead of worrying about people that make you cry at night. i know it will be hard seeing her hanging out with your sister but in the end it will all work out. if you need anything else be sure to let me know; goodluck

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ok so i use to like this boy but now i dont like him but i cant keep my eyes off him..everytime i see him i cant help but to look. and in all his away messages on aim they say stuff about how all his friends got girls but hes got nobody and i always wanna tell him that he could have me. and during the day i catch myself thinking about how i would still go out with him if he ever asked me. why do i do this when i dont like him anymore?



aww hunny! i had this same problem and im still going through it actually but deep down i think that you still have feelings for him and that your still very attracted to him and you just like being around him and could see you going out with him =) i would talk to him, ask him who he likes and then start talking again and if you really want to go out then go for it ♥ you got nothin to lose! goodluck sweetie

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whats the worst thing a girl can do to make a guy stop liking her??? or what can she do to make him keep liking her???


hey hun! the worst thing that a girl could do to make a guy stop liking her is act like you dont like him, and arent interested, maybe playing too much of "hard to get" and i know this from experience. this guy liked me alot alot alot and everyone told me this but i wasnt sure if i liked him like he liked me and then he got so mad at me because he liked me so much but didnt think he could get me but then i fell for him after he wasnt so interested in me and things were confusing then! so you gotta let him know if you like him =) and just be yourself if you want him to keep liking you. i know that everyone always says that but if he liked you in the first place he liked you for who YOU were, dont try to change because then he might be like "ohh shes so different now..i wish things could be like they use to" also dont be too annoying around him, i know ALOT of guys get annoyed when girls always scream or act dumb and like a ditz on purpose. if you need any more advice just let me know, ive had alot of experience in this area both good and bad! but goodluck sweetie ♥

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