Syria is a country in the Middle East region of the world. It is bordered by Iraq, Turkey, Jordan and Lebanon.

This region is always somewhat volatile and the nation of Syria is not immune to that problem. That's why we hear so much about it.

I think a lot of people have a similar problem these days. While there could be any number of reasons why, that's not necessarily important. The main thing is the issue itself.

Based on your weight and height, you're probably in line with what most medical professionals would consider healthy. So on that end, there are no problems. However, metal health is just as important as physical health, and clearly you are struggling with this.

The key to health and many other things in life is moderation. Sure it's unhealthy to pig out and eat cake everyday but to have a slice once in a while is just fine. Same goes for drinks, high calorie snacks, etc.

It's fine to be aware of things like your calorie intake (although personally I think your protein, fat and carb intake are more important) but you should not let them rule you or control your life. And changing up the types of foods you eat can be beneficial too.

My suggestion is to do something like this - 5 days per week be very different and eat healthy, on the weekends take the opportunity to indulge and treat yourself.

If this problem persists, do not hesitate to see a therapist for help dealing with your anxiety. After all, health is obviously important to you and excessive stress over stuff like this is anything but healthy.

The short answer is, there is no prefect person. And that being the case, there cannot be a "Perfect 10." In order for there to be such a thing, everyone, everywhere would have to agree that that person is the ideal. And that will never happen nor should it.

The ideal girl or guy varies from person to person and thus is subjective. What I may see as my ideal or "10" if you will could be someone else's "4."

And even when people do this, it doesn't always come down to just appearance but can factor in personality, style, intelligence and other things.

In all reality, it's just sort of a simple and rather unimportant way to trying to classify someone when it is too hard to do so in another way.

Many times when people think that two people are a couple, there is probably some reason for it. For example, they flirt, hold hands, kiss, use pet names... But as you said, none of this is the case and yet people still seem to think you are dating.

While it's really impossible to know for sure why you get this reaction, I have a few guesses as to why this might be the case.

The main thing is that many people just like to make assumptions or jump to conclusions without any real evidence. Are you close in age? If you are, that could be a factor. And just the fact that you spend a lot of time together probably leads people to immediately think of you as a couple. Chances are, you would not have this happen if you where both of the same sex.

Try not to let it bother you. But if it does, you can always just outright clarify that the two of you are cousins and that should end things. Even flat out introduce yourselves as cousins right away. For example, when going into the DQ you or he could have said to the lady at the counter, "My cousin and I would like..." and unless she's totally dense, she'd get the hint.

No matter what there will almost always be someone here and there who will be taller than you are. But with that being said, the evidence is all around you. You are certainly not short for your age. And in my personal opinion, being that I am a few inches smaller than you myself, I really wouldn't consider you short at all.

The bottom line is that it really doesn't matter what other people say when you can look around and see the reality for yourself.

Chances are the people calling you short are just doing so because they know it is something you have some insecurity about and will get to you.

Don't worry about it. Short, tall, big or small, in the grand scheme of life, this issue is anything but big.

First off, I am truly sorry that you are going through this experience in your life. But I do think that the very fact that you are recognizing it as a problem indicates that you really do want to be better.

You mentioned that you had a rough childhood yourself with a lot of emotional abuse. Like it or not, those sort of things can have a negative impact on people for years to come. I wouldn't doubt that this is a contributing factor to the failed relationships you mention and the overall frustration in your life. But that doesn't mean things have to stay that way or that you can't overcome this.

It's pretty clear to me that you love your children. That is the main thing to focus on here.

You are not powerless to stop this cycle but that doesn't mean that you should have to do it all alone. There is no shame in seeking out help, like a counselor for example. They can help you get to the root of the situation and work on how to address it. And even in your case, I'm sure there have to be some free or affordable services out there. This link may be helpful for you - http://www.healthcentral.com/depression/c/84292/70431/money-insurance/.

Other than that, I suggest taking some time out of your day, even if it's just five minutes, to really reflect on what you are trying to accomplish. Meditation can be a huge help and you can find any number of resources on how to do this on your own and for free with a quick Google search.

Finally, know that only you have the power to control how you feel. No matter how you think or what you think about, you control your reaction to those thoughts. Check out the book "Feeling Good" by Dr. David Burns. I think it could work wonders for you.

Stay strong.

You don't mention you age in your question but based on the fact that you are in school, I am going to assume you are probably a teenager or something around that age.

The fact that you never really had guys in your life makes me believe that part of what you are experiencing is just the desire to have some sort of connection with the other gender. This is totally natural and fine.

Sometimes we just find it easier to relate to someone of a different gender on certain issues.

My thought would be that if you seem to have the same type of feelings for all of the different guys you like, you probably do not like them in any romantic sort of capacity. The reason is that if you liked someone in that way, you would most likely be able to tell the difference from the way you like the others.

Of course, it is also possible that you're young hormones are working as they should be and thus you are finding guys interesting or just plan old attractive for biological reasons with no real want or need for a relationship of any kind.

I think that when you come across a guy that you like in that more romantic way, you'll know it.

Good luck.

Sadly, I think many of us have been in a similar situation to the one you are currently facing. For some reason or another, sometimes a boss just seems to have their pet employees. While I could speculate about the possible reasons why this happens, that really wouldn't do any good or change things.

The first thing I would do is decide how much it actually bothers you. Is it just an annoyance or has it come to the point that it's becoming unbearable. If it has come to that point or seems like it might get there, start looking for work elsewhere. They say it is always easier to find a job when you already have one.

No work place is perfect. You will always have some sort of problem or stress. This is just a fact of life. However, just because you have to take a little crap here and there doesn't mean you have to be willing to get it poured out on you from a dump truck.

Whatever you do, don't make any kind of rash decision, especially to quit your job. This is almost never a good idea.

Well, you don't mention how old you two are because that could be a factor. But even without that info, I can give you my thoughts and hope they will help.

I wouldn't think the fact that he asked you for a single photo or even a few is strange at all. He might want them to use as his computer background or cell phone wallpaper or something along those lines. Maybe he even wants to show the photos to his friends rather than just talking about how much he likes you.

On the other hand, I do find it a bit strange that he hasn't been willing to send any to you. That would make me a little leery.

I can tell you from personal experience, there have been times when I was on the phone with a girl and doing other things like emailing or messaging with someone. Sometimes there just aren't enough hours in the day to not have to multi-task. A lot of the times this happened to me was when I was dealing with something for work.

I've also had girls do the same to me.

Personally, I wouldn't be overly suspicious about there being another girl. However, if it bothers you, I'd try to mention it is a subtle way.

You said he's being texting you asking why you have been ignoring him. Maybe you should respond to those texts saying something like - "I left like you might have had something else on your mind during our conversations. What's going on?"

Basically, don't accuse him or anything but make your feelings about his lack of attention toward your conversation be known. See where things go from there.

Good luck.

Crushes on teachers are as old as time itself. Well, almost. At least as old as schools and a formal education system. It is completely natural and 100% fine for a guy or a girl to have a crush on a teacher. It only becomes a problem when that crush becomes an obsession or worse, moves into the reality of a physical relationship.

It is quite thoughtful and unselfish of you to be concerned about her possibly getting into some kind of trouble. This shows maturity on your part and tells me that the likelihood of you having real feelings for her is quite possible. However, the fact that you do not have any of her classes wouldn't make any difference in this regard. That might fly in some colleges but certainly not in high school.

You are a senior, you're halfway through the school year. If you really, deeply have an interest in her, wait until after you graduate and turn 18 (if you haven't already) to pursue it. That way, you don't have to worry about any of your main concerns.

This will also give you more time to examine your true feelings to figure out if it is more than just a crush.

I'm a few years removed from my school days but I distinctly remember how kids can be. And a lot of times, that is anything but nice.

First off, while it is surely a hard thing to do, try not to place so much value on what others think of you. You know the truth of the situation and allow yourself to take comfort in that.

If the people who once called themselves your friends are treating you badly, then they probably weren't any type of real friend in the first place. The people who stick with you, even when it might not be the cool or popular thing to do, are your true friends.

While knowing all of this may help somewhat, it is still never easy to feel like you are being judged or treated unfairly. With that in mind, I would seek out the comfort of your family first look into activities in which you can make friendships away from school. Then I would approach the friend that was involved in the kiss and try to have a serious discussion with him.

As one of the basic concepts of cognitive therapy states: you cannot control the actions or words of others but you have all the power in the world to control how you react to them.

Good luck.

Deciding what to name your baby can be a very tough decision. After all, it is at least the initial identity of that child and more than likely will remain so for his or her entire life.

Considering it is a very personal decision, I can only tell you my own personal thoughts on the names you're considering. Perhaps they will be helpful but of course the final decision has to be up to you.

Let's go down the list.

Aaron Bennett
- Aaron is OK but combining it with Bennett seems to give off a bit of a elitist vibe.

Joseph James "Joe"
- I have personally always liked these. Not super creative though.

Matthew David or Matthew Joseph "Matt"
- These are so, so.

Wesley Richard "Wes"
- Simple and strong, a little soap opera-ish though.

Calvin Clayton
- Sounds like a cheesy superhero alter ego.

Cole Brandon
- I like Cole but not Brandon.

Nicholas Andrew "Nick"
- Not a huge fan of Nicholas or any variations of it. Seems old-fashioned to me.

William Trent "Will"
- William is alright but I do prefer the shortened version or calling him Bill instead. Not big on Trent in any form.

Jacob Mitchell
- Seems kind of wussy for a lack of a better term.

Noah Daniel
- Also too old-fashioned.

Richard ? "Ritchie"
- Richard is decent, in other forms I like Rick.


Alexia Ann
- I like the double A thing here. Big fan of Ann but Alexia can sometimes sound a little promiscuous.

Addy Teresa (Teresa is after my mom)
- Addy is simple and sweet but Teresa comes across as old.

Kennedy Rebekah (Rebekah is after my aunt)
- No way for Kennedy, that's a last name not a first one. Certainly not for a girl either. Pretty cool spelling of Rebekah though.

Daisy Jane
- Cute but it might be a little too cute.

Emily Gwendolyn
- Emily yes, Gwendolyn, no way, not unless she is going to be living at renaissance fairs.

Jessica Elizabeth
- Simple, sweet, I like it.

Jane Elizabeth
- Pretty much the same reaction as above.

Meagan Ann
- Don't care for the spelling of Meagan (I prefer Megan) but love the name Ann. All in all pretty good.

Amy Lea (pronounced Lee)
- Believe that is the name of the singer from the band Evanescence.

Melissa Lea (pronounced Lee)
- These two work separately but not together.

MY PERSONAL FAVORITES:

For boys:
The old standbys of John, James, David, Daniel, Michael, Joseph (or basic variations)


For girls:
Shyanne, Kimberly Ann, Kristy

Marriage is supposed to be about love. While sex in a relationship is important, it is only one small part of the entire equation. However, that small part can play a large role both physically and emotionally.

The simple answer is no, neither the male nor female partner in a relationship has the right to cheat on the other at any time. That being said, if one of the partners is denying the other intercourse, they probably shouldn't be surprised if their significant other is looking for intimacy in other places.

If a married couple is in a sex-less relationship, there are almost certainly deeper problems that need to be worked out. Traditional counseling and possibly the use of a sex therapist might help.

First off, you don't have to be sorry for the length of your post. You can use whatever number of words or paragraphs are necessary to allow us to better understand your situation.

I'm going to respond to your question in a bit of a backwards order here. As far as the boy issue goes, it's quite possible that he is "mad about you" but isn't quite sure how to act on it. Take it from a guy, we can be awkward when it comes to a girl we like. Maybe he sort of avoids you when he is with his friends because they kind of help him relieve the nervousness that he feels around you.

I know how it feels to get down on yourself. However, if you really take a moment to stop and think about it, there is only one person who can determine how you feel about yourself - and that person is you. How others respond to us only affects us if we let it. If we choose not to let it, it doesn't have to have any power over how we view ourselves. This is all based on scientifically proven studies and methods of cognitive behavioral therapy.

You are not inferior to your friend. You are just two different people and there’s nothing wrong with that. I personally think that if you allow yourself to feel better about yourself, other people will sense that. And when others sense it, they'll be more likely to engage in conversation with you and possibly even be friends.

As far as your studies go and the teachers calling your parents, it is probably a good idea to share your feelings with your family. I'm sure they care about you and will support you in any way that they can. If you're not comfortable with that, or even if you are, speaking to a counselor wouldn't be a bad idea either.

Above all, remember and recognize that you are a worthwhile person.

While what someone might consider "nice" varies from person to person, I'm sure there are some basic personality traits and behavioral attributes that most of us can agree on as being nice. Some of these might include generosity, the willingness to help someone in need and just generally being kind to others.

Niceness isn't something you do but rather something you are. My suggestion would be simply to consider others. That should be a good start. From there, I'm confident that things will come to you.

Sadly in an ever changing world and cultural landscape, this problem is probably fairly common. I personally know several people who have dated or do date outside of their race, ethnic culture or religion and that can be difficult. But with that being said, that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it.

Clearly you have deep feelings for your boyfriend as he seems to have for you. In the end, that's what matters.

Life is too short. If you really like him (or even love him) then it's worth the risk to see how your family reacts. And if they don't react positively, that is their problem and doesn't have to be yours or his. If they really love and respect you as a person, they'll either come around eventually or just have to learn to deal with it.

And as far as the possibility of him having a negative experience when meeting your family, if he really has deep feelings for you it won't matter in the end. He'll understand that you are not your family members and are your own person and that just because your family may have some element of bigotry to it shouldn't have any reflection on you.

The next time the idea of meeting your family comes up again, let him know your concerns. Who knows, he might even be relieved to know that you think enough of him to not have him walk into a situation he might not expect.

Good luck and remember that love is blind.

Job hunting can be difficult, especially in the current state of the economy. However, there are a few things you can do that might help you out.

A job fair is basically an event in which you can come to a specific location to get information on possible available jobs, ask questions, maybe fill out an application and drop off a resume.

As far as how you should dress, you're always safe with wearing professional attire. Now i'm not saying you have to go in there looking like your some sort of company executive but if you make sure your clothes are clean and neat and at least fit the concept of "business casual" you should be fine. If you need more of as guideline as to what I mean by that, check out this link: http://tlc.howstuffworks.com/style/business-casual-for-women.htm

As far as the social security issue goes, I'm positive that you will have to report the income from the Good Will. However, you should probably talk to social security beforehand to see how the situation relates to you. Here's another source that you may find helpful: http://www.iidc.indiana.edu/disabilitybenefitsandwork/benefitsandwork.htm

Good luck and I hope you get the job you want.

While I am a guy and cannot relate to you personal experience, I can sadly say that I have known several women who have been the victim of rape, some more than once. Some have even had it happen at the hands of a family member or a person they trusted dearly. And while I can't image how hard it must be, one thing I know for sure is that bottling it up is not the answer and could have catastrophic effects on your relationships. This includes the one with your future husband.

And always remember that in no way, shape or form was what happened to you your fault. You should not hold any guilt for it any more that someone whose house gets robbed should blame themselves for the crime.

My brother's ex-wife was molested repeatedly as a child but he never found out about it until some time into their marriage. To make a long story short, the psychological effects from that experience resulted in a painful and sad divorce.

Keeping things like this inside not can but will eventually harm your health, emotional state and yes, relationships with others. You really do have to let it out. I'd recommend seeing a therapist at first and simply getting it off of your chest in a private and confidential setting. But eventually, you owe it your fiancée and yourself, to tell him. If he's as amazing of a person as you say he is, I have no doubt that he will love you just the same or possibly even more given that you would confide in him so much.

Be strong and brave.

It is obvious that your feelings are strong. However, as you had mentioned you have only been dating for three weeks. For most people I would assume, and based on my own experiences, three weeks is not usually long enough to know if you are actually in love with that person. So, while you may very well be in love, it would not be at all surprising that he isn't at that stage in the relationship yet.

Personally, I would consider giving it a little more time before you fully pour out your heart to him. The fact that you think you might possibly scare him off is an indicator that you have some reservations that he might not feel the same way. The longer you are together the more you'll have a feel for how he sees the relationship and might just be more confident in knowing whether or not you're going to get the answer you are hoping for.

Good luck.

As a guy and based on my own personal life experiences, I would say that many guys would be thrilled if a girl would come up to them and give them her number.

All in all I see nothing wrong with this. In most places and cultures in the world men and women are generally considered equals. That being the case, you have every right to do this just as much as any male does.

As far as there being some sort of specific way to do it, no there isn't one. Some so-called relationship and dating experts might try to tell you that there is but there really is not.

That being said, some people might think it's a little strange if you don't at least make some kind of effort to communicate a little beforehand. For example making some flirty eye contact with them or attempting to strike up a conversation.

Go for it, you can do this.

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