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I'm a girl, aged 16, and right now i'm finding that i'm les. I know it's wrong, everyone tells me that, but i only found myself after Demi Lovato became my number one and helped me through life. But even though she helped me find and accept pretty cool parts of myself, finding out that i'm gay, was the only let down. Should i have to give up Demi to be normal? Can i change being gay without doing that? I know it goes against what Demi says, but i'm not good enough to get any girl, and am certainly no fit for Demi (if she was even my age!). What do i have to do about being gay? (link)
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Do you know Demi Lovato personally? Or she helped you through her music and life story? Either way, it is valid.
She does not like gay people? That would be a shock to me. Well, she grew up in Texas. Who knows? Anyways, you should be you. If you are gay, you can't change it. You're born that way. And you are good enough sweetie! Always remember that. You will find someone who loves you with all over their being and cannot get you out of their head. It will be a love so profound that no one can deny it. Look at Mary Lambert and what she has gone through. She did "Same Love" with Macklemore & Ryan Lewis. Look up, "Body Love" by Mary Lambert. It is eye-opening.
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Okay, 20/f
My vagina stays wet ALL the time! There is no itching or burning or discomfort. There is a little odor, but not fishy. I don't know how to explain the odor. I've tried everything to get it to go away and it will for a brief period of time and then it'll come back. The odor started when I stopped wearing underwear. Then I read that, that could cause your PH balance to be messed up, so I quit. The gyno said there wasn't any type of infection.
How can I get rid of the odor? (I bathe normally) and why does my vagina always stay wet? (link)
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You are normal! Mine stays wet all the time too haha. I do not see why this little odor, if not very unpleasant, matters so much. Is it too hard to accept?
And, hey, why not think of your overactive vagina like you could do anything sexual you wanted, at your convenience! You wouldn't have to randomly get horny during class, or that work presentation! Lol
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He throws a fit if you tell him no ice cream any hints. The mom does nothing cause he does the same thing every time i go over and the only way to get him to stop throwing a fit is to tell him he can have some but it doesnt feel right . Help me!
Stressed out babysitter (link)
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Firstly, ask the mother if you have permission to use certain punishments such as corner time, or time-outs. These are quite simple, and I am sure you probably had some as a child. However, I would never ever advise or condone physical punishment, ESPECIALLY if it isn't your child. The key is to stay calm. For example:
Joey: I WANT ICE CREAM NOW!
You: Joey, you cannot have any ice cream tonight. You will not want to go to sleep.
Joey: YOU ARE NOT MY MOM! I WANT ICE CREAM!
You: Please do not talk to me like that. If you keep this up, I may have to give you a time out.
His fit will most likely continue, but act like it doesn't phase you. And have him stand in the corner if need be. Start of with 4 or 5 minutes, depending on age. If he is older, say 8 or 9, you can move to 10 minutes. But remember that time moves especially slow for kids! lol
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Hii... 14\F I really like this guy , I dream of him and think of him 24\7. I tried but I just can't get over him. he is turning 19. He allways tell me he likes me and loves me, but i dont really know if its true! he lives far away, but me and his sister are really good friends. He held my hand before but just for like 3 min. He is really cute with dark brown eyes and brown hair and his smile is awesome! He have the cutest little dimples. Should I tell him? Im afraid he is not gonna like me back?? (link)
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He may like you back, but even if he does, it is unlikely you can be together, I am sorry to say. He is five years older than you AND an adult. When I was 14, I lost my virginity to a man who was 19. So if you do happen to have a sort of relationship with him, because even though I'd advise against it, you will probably do whatever you like (haha), just be careful, and don't do anything you are not ready to do. You may not be a virgin, but each new person needs to be evaluated and there needs to be some sort of connection and trust. Just stay true to you, because when it comes to older guys, sex is usually involved.
Be safe!
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This is my first time ever trying birth control pills. My doctor said I could become active after the first week unprotected and wouldnt get pregnant. The 2nd week, I did become active and unprotected, now its been about a week and 4 days, (4 days into 2nd week) and I was bleeding a bit. Randomly, not during sex though. I started taking the pills the day my period ended, so I don't think it is my period. Does this sound serious or anything I should worry about? What could it be? (link)
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I definitely think that if the bleeding persists longer than a normal period for you (for example, if you have five day periods, and you have already had your period and you are spotting for more than five days)ask your doctor. There could be something wrong, and/or you may need another type of birth control.
Be safe! :0
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This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.
Well, i was having sex with this guy he asked if I was on birth control and I said no but he still wanted to cum in me. why do guys asked this but still want to do it with no birth control
What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?
does that mean he wants me to get on it are wants to have a kid with me is he trying to give me a hint to get on birth control? (link)
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It means he is either a complete idiot, or very self-centered. For a lot of guys, cumming inside of a woman is the best thing you can do. That's where the selfishness comes in. He knows you aren't on birth control, but would still like to take the chance and cum inside you. It's kind of an adrenaline rush-- when you do something you know you aren't supposed to or shouldn't do. Like anal sex. A lot of men like it because it's considered taboo, and it seems to be a lot "tighter" than a vagina. Again, selfish reasons.
If you are uncomfortable with it, you should have a conversation with your partner. But remember that men are usually sensitive about their sexual performance, so don't be too harsh. Make sure to emphasize that you are scared of pregnancy because you yourself are not ready to have a child, but just because you don't want his cum inside you, doesn't mean you don't want it on your, or breasts, or wherever you prefer it. Emphasize both things-- the fear of pregnancy, and love of some other spot for his cum.
Hope I helped :)
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18/m
So lately I have been having problems liking girls. I start to like them and like them for a month or so then my feelings fade away and get annoyed by them or get really picky of what they do.
I dated this girl for 11 months and she cheated on me and treated me like shit, about a month later or so I found a new girl and I liked her alot then as I said my feelings just disappear and I get annoyed.
This summer I found a good girl who genuinely liked me for me. I liked her a lot for about 2 months then one day was just sick of her and no feelings for her.
Why is this happening and how do I make it stop? It use to never happen to me. I was usually pretty spot on when I liked a girl.
Any help is appreciated! Thanks :) (link)
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Being cheated on is never easy. It's painful, especially when you are with someone that long. But truthfully, I think subconciously you are predicting that each girl will hurt you. Basically, this ex girlfriend of yours cheating on you, made you afraid to get involved with someone new, get too close to them. Because as soon as you open your heart, it makes your vulnerable to more hurt. So, without you even knowing, you keep your walls up. Your head tells you that little things she does annoys you, and it's giving you reasons to not like her anymore. You are justifying your walls.
How do you make it stop? Well, sweetheart. You need to let someone in. You could try an online relationship, just for the sake of an example. You could get to know her, and her you, without you having to notice all her physical habits. I think once you let someone back in, give them a chance, you will have a much easier time. But just because you need to let someone in, does not mean you must settle for less. Make sure to find someone that you can actually make a connection with :)
Be well! :)
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hi, we've been together for almost 3 years. he's got a daughter with his ex girlfriend. but when we argue he says, 'they're no threat to you.' what's that exactly mean? and also whenever i mention them to him he's says he doesn't want to hear or talk about them. why? he's quite defensive of them as well. why? help please. thanks (link)
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It means you shouldn't worry so much! Haha, sweetheart, what makes you feel threatened. He is exasperated with the fights you keep having and doesn't want them to take a toll on your relationship. It doesn't sound like you have any reason to be worried, so give him the benefit of the doubt. :)
He's defensive because he loves his kid, and still feels a connection to the mother because she had his child. And, ust for a repeat, he does not want these (petty, in his mind) fight to weaken the bond between you.
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Hi,
I'm a thirteen-year-old girl, and I hate my life for several reasons. I'm going to focus on just one reason right now so you don't have to read a super long question. This question is already long enough as it is with only one reason why I want to die.
One thing I should say is that I like girls. I just don't see guys in that way. I have a girlfriend too. She is my only reason to keep living right now.
Then another girl tricked me into cheating on my girlfriend. She lied to me to get me to do it. The fact is, I didn't even know what cheating was until this happened. After educating myself a little bit on what is and isn't acceptable, I realized what she had gotten me to do. Now I hate myself even more than I did before this happened.
I told the girl that I do not want to be a disloyal person. She told me again that what we were doing was not cheating, and I explained why it was actually cheating and why I didn't want to do it. She got all angry at me about it, and then she said that I had to tell my girlfriend.
But I talked to my mom about it, and she said that I shouldn't tell my girlfriend. She said I had already learned my lesson about cheating and realized that I had been lured into it. And she said that I would only hurt my girlfriend if I told her. So I decided that I would rather listen to my mom than the other girl.
After that, however, the other girl said that if I didn't tell my girlfriend, she would. This really stressed me out. My mom thinks I shouldn't tell my girlfriend, but if I don't, the other girl might tell her.
I can't believe how stupid I am. I don't have any common sense. I just want to die. I hate so many people right now -- especially myself. Besides, my girlfriend is my only reason to live anymore, and who knows what I would do if she broke up with me?
One thing I should add is that I have made plans before (you know, plans to kill myself), but they were ruined every time. And I have struggled on and off with cutting for a while now. If that helps anything.
P.S. I'm sorry for the length. And sorry that this didn't make any sense. (link)
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Okay, sweetheart. let me preface this with my own experience. I am bisexual, and was once a cutter. So I understand how you are feeling.
I firmly believe that most people cheat at least once. I've done it. And your mom is right, it really would hurt your girlfriend. But it is a lot better that she hear it from you, and not the other girl. You should sit down with your girlfriend and explain to her what happened, and how you were tricked. Then go on to say that you needed to be honest with her, and need her. I'm sure she knows of your self harm, and thoughts of suicide, so make sure to then mention that you feel really guilty about it, and it has made you very upset and led to more self harm and thoughts of suicide.
Everything will work out fine! :)
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When i was 16 year old he kissed me first time and after that slowly we moved to complete sex. After 1 year relation i got pregnant at the age of 17. After completing 3 months we came to know that i am pregnant. We got scared and we abort that child. Our relation was not stopped there it lasts for 8 years. When i had completed my graduation my father gets seriously ill and admitted in the hospital. At the same time he met another girl and married her. I was feeling to made suicide at that time but i thought about my family as i am the elder sister and i have 2 younger sisters and 1 younger brother. After 3 years my father had expired and i decided to settle down my sister and brother and then to die. But each day i am suffering from a pain like hell. My 2nd number sister got married and got 1 cute baby but still another sister is got to marry and brother is still studying. I don't have patience to live more. I really want to die. Few months ago, I had told about my relation with that boy to his or my family. His wife and mother insulted me a lot. I am still meeting that boy as we both cant live without each other. But he is not accepting this in front of every one. He is not ready to leave his wife as he has got one girl child from her and he don't want to do injustice with that baby. But, what should i do? I tried to think about another boy to marry but it's not possible for me. I think to quit this life is the best solution in this situation. (link)
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This is a complicated situation. Firstly, I am sorry to hear about your father. Secondly, congratulations of your sister's marriage.
Now on the the more pressing things. I do not think suicide is the answer. I think you need to refocus your energies. Energy can be a powerful thing. You need to take some time for yourself, and cleanse your energy. The energy around you right now is very dark, sweetheart, and that needs to be lightened. To cleanse your energy, you must cleanse your body. This can be through hot water (baths, jacuzzis, have a nice soak), acupuncture, massage (deep tissue), and possibly even seeking therapy if you are suicidal. I'd just like to note that seeking therapy doesn't make you crazy, it means that you are taking charge of your own healing. Any of those things will work.
As for the boy, well, he is married and is staying in his marriage because of his daughter. You have no way of knowing how long he will stick it out for her. He is obviously trying to be a good father. He wants to make sure that as his child grows up, she has a father. I think it is admirable, although he is seeing you on the side. I do think you should let him go. He should not be seeing anyone else if he is still married, and you don't need the extra worry of when is he coming back to you.
Cleanse yourself, and think about distancing yourself from the boy. Be well, and be safe! :)
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Im a man aged 21 who just received christ but l mastabate is it wrong ? (link)
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Masterbating is completely natural. You wanting to do it is completely natural. All it means is that you need to deal with some sexual frustration - and that is completely okay! If you do not deal with your sexual frustration, you will become aroused more frequently, and become more irritable! If you can believe that. :)
As far as recieving Christ, that is your own personal belief system. I don't think you shouldn't be able to masterbate. Your personal relationship with God shouldn't have anything to do with your personal sex life.
Keep on masterbating! There is nothing wrong with you. :)
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