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I can't stop thinking about him
Hii... 14\F I really like this guy , I dream of him and think of him 24\7. I tried but I just can't get over him. he is turning 19. He allways tell me he likes me and loves me, but i dont really know if its true! he lives far away, but me and his sister are really good friends. He held my hand before but just for like 3 min. He is really cute with dark brown eyes and brown hair and his smile is awesome! He have the cutest little dimples. Should I tell him? Im afraid he is not gonna like me back??
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You can tell him if you'd like, but I recommend you not to. He's 5 years older than you, and an adult. He may be "in to" someone. Plus, you mentioned you live far from eachother. I understand that you can't stop thinking about him, but it seems like you don't know that much about him. You should try finding someone a little bit closer your age.
I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it's best. Good luck and take care.
-Christina
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He may like you back, but even if he does, it is unlikely you can be together, I am sorry to say. He is five years older than you AND an adult. When I was 14, I lost my virginity to a man who was 19. So if you do happen to have a sort of relationship with him, because even though I'd advise against it, you will probably do whatever you like (haha), just be careful, and don't do anything you are not ready to do. You may not be a virgin, but each new person needs to be evaluated and there needs to be some sort of connection and trust. Just stay true to you, because when it comes to older guys, sex is usually involved.
Be safe! <3
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You don't have to tell him anything. In fact it's best you say nothing at all. Just enjoy the wonderfulness of the feeling of the first time you are really attracted to someone of the opposite sex. Many people will fantasize over someone there is no possibility of being together with, which for various reasons would not work anyways.
It is okay and quite normal to fantasize about people and/or situations, but to take it from your thoughts and fantasy to real life is another story. Theres the age difference and the geographical distance even if he were your age.
A young man of that age is considered an adult. I am not saying that having a gap of 5 years between ages is the problem. The problem is that you are not the right age yet to comply with the federal law of the legal age of consent. that would be old enough to know what you're doing and make decisions about whom you have sex with.
I know it sounds like we're jumping to conclusions cus all you did was hold hands once and likely have some consistant communication with him thru textings or facebook or whatever.
But that's where it started for all of us who have partners we're sexual with. If there's a strong enough chemistry, it can easily lead to sex. He can go to jail for that. A law doesnt stop anyone from doing sex though so he can easily get into trouble, even if some person, like family or friend accused him of it even if innocent, simply because a 19 yr old is dating and hanging out with a 14 yr old. Thats enough to look fishy. Once you're 18, a five yr age gap is not a problem, its all about being of legal age.
Keep it at the level of him being your friends brother and all should be well.
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Well it's gets complicated because of the legality issues.
You guys wouldn't be able to consent to sex and all that in the first place. And you'd definitely need parents permission. The law is different from state to state.
Either way, it's still a 4-5 year age gap. It's a little weird if he was interested in you in that way.
I think you both are in different stages in your life for it to be serious. Plus he doesn't even live around you.
I think you should get over him. All the girls that say they "tried to get over them but I just can't" are the ones that are stuck falling over the guy for years. It's sad really. They don't really try to get over him. What have you done to try to get over him? You should stop talking to him and stop talking about him.
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He cannot reciprocate because you are a minor and he's an adult. As much as you like him you have to see that you are a minor, date your own age, and leave this be.
It can't happen. I also question someone that age being interested in someone who is still a child. It's okay to feel this way about someone but knowing in real-life you can never act is what you need to see here. I would say nothing and drop it as you have to given the law.
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