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why guys ask if you are on birth control
This questions for the girls and guys, mainly guys though.
Well, i was having sex with this guy he asked if I was on birth control and I said no but he still wanted to cum in me. why do guys asked this but still want to do it with no birth control
What does this mean exactly? Is there something he is trying to tell me? Were any of you in this situation before? Or guys, did you do something like this? Why did you?
does that mean he wants me to get on it are wants to have a kid with me is he trying to give me a hint to get on birth control?
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It means he is either a complete idiot, or very self-centered. For a lot of guys, cumming inside of a woman is the best thing you can do. That's where the selfishness comes in. He knows you aren't on birth control, but would still like to take the chance and cum inside you. It's kind of an adrenaline rush-- when you do something you know you aren't supposed to or shouldn't do. Like anal sex. A lot of men like it because it's considered taboo, and it seems to be a lot "tighter" than a vagina. Again, selfish reasons.
If you are uncomfortable with it, you should have a conversation with your partner. But remember that men are usually sensitive about their sexual performance, so don't be too harsh. Make sure to emphasize that you are scared of pregnancy because you yourself are not ready to have a child, but just because you don't want his cum inside you, doesn't mean you don't want it on your, or breasts, or wherever you prefer it. Emphasize both things-- the fear of pregnancy, and love of some other spot for his cum.
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It pretty much means he's not very bright or a complete idiot.
Most guys who ask a girl about birth control before they have sex, it usually means they are smart and want to make sure they don't get you pregnant. If he still wanted to have sex with you, even after you told him you weren't on birth control, he really doesn't care about consequences and that is not a guy you want to have sex with.
Unless of course he does want to have a baby with you..but that is something that should be talked about beforehand.
If he wanted you to get on birth control, he should straight up tell you that.
Although, you should be on birth control anyways because precum alone can get you pregnant.
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That they are idiots.
I appreciate when guys ask about my Birth Control methods, and don't make assumptions. It can be a sign that take these things seriously and understand they share responsibility for contraception. In those cases, it's really respectful and sensible for guys to ask about birth control before having sex with a girl.
When a guy asks you about birth control, and then wants to have unprotected sex anyways: He is a fucking moron. A disrespectful shithead.
I'm not sure 'Why' is all that important to be honest.
Maybe he would like to have a baby with you. (If so, it really warrants a more serious discussion don't you think? So he's a shithead.)
Maybe he is trying to give you a hint about birth control. (Having unprotected sex with you anyways isn't really a good way to send that message is it? Shithead.)
But most likely, he's just wants to get off, and don't have the sense to give a damn about the consequences. (Shithead.) Maybe he thinks he's impervious to STDs. Maybe he just don't give a damn about possibly pregnant. Maybe he thinks his orgasm is more important than any possible negative outcomes for anyone, himself or you.
If a guy tells me he wants to come in me, after I've said no, then that the end of any possible relationship, and the end of any hook up possibility. That man has just proven he is utterly incapable of making sensible judgements. I can't trust him to take sex seriously, to be clean or respectful or safe. So I wont have sex with him, that night, or any other.
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If both males and females of our species could get pregnant and carry a child for 9 months and then have to care for it, you can count on the guys being more responsible.
Maybe they think that in asking if you have some sort of birth control, that they've already done their duty as far as being responsible. They are leaving it totally up to females to make sure they are protected. But then what about STDs. If he isn't at least willing to wear a condom for STD protection which would provide birth control protection too, then the guy does not really care about the girl, no matter how nice he treats her otherwise or professes to love her. A man who really loves a woman will think ahead of time to whether any of his actions might be hurtful to her either immediately or down the line and bring stress to her. And he will use restraint as a mature male will do and do whatever is in HER best interest, not his...and certainly not his immediate interest of sexual fulfillment which to him is using no condoms cus it inhibits the sensations for some men. A mature man will ask the question before he is undressed and waving a hard on in your face. He will suggest you going to planned parent hood for more reliable birth control and he would be willing to take a test for STD's. Young people, even virgins can be a carrier of an STD and not know it. In particular I am thinking of Herpes. A person can be a carrier and not have had an outbreak. The outbreak is more likely is some major stress has come into the persons life. Herpes the oral kind can be passed in a kiss from a parent to child..if the child has chapped lips or some break to the skin that makes it all the easier. Then lets say the carrier who got it from a kiss is going through major stress in school and now is gonna give a blow job. She has no sores yet but the germs are passed to him. Its his first time having sex. Now he has it. They break up. Next girl he's with he passes it on to her. Things like birth control and getting tested for STDs is not a topic to haint at and play games skirting around. It is real serious, real adult conversation and must take place before having sex, not in the middle of it, or afterwards. The problem is teens have an adult body before they have an adult mind. The brain doesn't finish growing until mid 20's so the part responsible for making good intelligent mature adult decisions is in most cases, underdeveloped and so we have immature teens making very bad decisions.
There will always be men at any age who are irresponsible and will get angry at you if you try to discuss and bring it up ahead of time.
Take my example of dating again in my forties after a divorce. I used dating sites so I could more easily weed out the guys i did not want. I had a list of criteria for him to meet. One on the list was that he be snipped, has had a vasectomy so he couldn't get me pregnant. Or be willing to do that. Drs didn't advise on me getting that done due to my age and the fact that sometime soon I may go into menopause anyways. I was not going to wait until I was well into menopause to have sex again. Guys wrote me hateful things about me being too picky and the criteria being inappropriate and that I should be sorry for assuming that the guy should be the one to carry this responsibility when I was the one who could get pregnant, so I should just get birth control. I wasnt going to explain but I tried the pill and at my age, it made fibroids start growing and they gave painful period type cramps. Dr. took me off them and suggested men with vasectomies due to my age.
On the other hand I met quite a few guys who when done having kids, got snipped for their ex's or when they starting dating after a divorce because...and this is their words: "Because I don't want to be having kids at my age. I want my lover to be able to have carefree sex without worrying about getting pregnant. Plus at my age I dont need a condom desensitizing me, thats not helpful. And I have been tested but will go again with you if you like.
Thats what responsible, mature caring guys say.
Your guy wants sex free of responsibility...just cares only about himself and his gratification and I'll bet he never really gave you several mind blowing orgasm before he had his turn inside you. The uncaring guys make lazy lovers. The only thing they have on their side is maybe their looks and NRE new relationshi[p energy which can mimic having sexual chemistry but it wears off and once it does, couples break up or start cheating first and then break up.
If this was recent, like within 3 days time, 72 hrs ago or less, then take Plan B pill available at pharmacy. Better yet, call planned parenthood and go in to get yourself on birth control, at least you don't have to worry about getting pregnant. But I would not advertise that you are on birth control or admit it to a guy until you both have a loving relationship, and he's proved that he is mature, doesnt pester you to have sex, but see's sex as making love and wants that to be just one more way besides other ways he has to show you how much you mean to him. He will tell you how much he wants to be able to love you sexually and suggest that you get on birth control and then you wait until its effective if its the pill. But then you get to tell him, you're already on it.
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