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My sister just moved out. Her room was in the basement, and used to be a kitchen so there are cabinets and a sink and a stove. the owner refuses to take it down. I want to make this MY AREA! i plan to put in a futon, tv, maybe my computer and just have it be my "extra" room. The walls are white and the bottom half is light wood. I am not renovating, just redecorating/painting. I want some tips on what color I should paint the top half, the bottom is light stained wood. i want a relaxing but bright tone. It is in the basement with no window! What color do you suggest. Remember warm, inviting color that still brightens up the room?

Good thing I watch home designer shows haha :)
Ok, I would suggest you put up some mirrors. This helps give the effect a window would by multiplying whatever light you do have. Also, I know you want a bright color, but if you want a more relaxing color, I'd say a rich darker tone might be a bit more calm :) I painted my room a deep redish-purple color, and I love it! It give the room a serious and thoughtful undertone, and it makes the room feel warm, home-ey, and inviting :) I would also suggest getting a lot of scented candles. A warm room is made even better with actual warmth and good fragrants floating around the room. Plus, the mirrors will reflect the candles and make it look great :D
(also, I'd suggest staying away from light cool colors like light blue, light green, or light purple. It gives the room more of a chilly, open air sense, and it sounds like you want more of a warm, inviting area :])
I hope I helped a little bit :)

-Jessica 14/f

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16/f
boyfriend is 18
& i neeeeeeed ideas on some things to get him for valentines day, cause im cluelesss!
any fun/cute ideas?
thankkkkkkkk you

Well, guys like food and most have a huge sweet tooth :) Since chocolate is the traditional valentines day treat, you could get him a lot of chocolate. Or some other small thing like a rose(Yes, guys like getting flowers too haha) or a cd or something :) Just make it come from the heart! Hope I helped!

-Jessica

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Male AND Female opinions wanted.
How long do you think [if the people are comfortable in doing so] if your dating someone is a good enough time to wait before giving them a HandJob ? A blowjob? Fingering? Sex?
And the people dating are 16.

I think the people should talk about it, but take it slow. I mean, if you have sex automatically, then there's nothing to look forward to, nothing to make your partner wait for. It's the ultimate test of loyalty :) If they stay with you without the sex for a long time, they obviously love you or at least like you more than just a regular crush or infatuation :) I think both of them should decide together, but don't make it like a planned thing. Maybe you could just tell them when you're ready to do a certain thing and the both of you could discuss it. But just don't let them get too far too quick, trust me :/
Hope I helped!

-Jessica

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you may remember me from a week or so ago posting tons of questions :/ anyway ill make this one short. the girl that i have liked for the past month or so now really doesnt want a relationship with me, after i asked her what she wanted from me she answered with "Freindship". its happening just like it was with my best freind (whos a girl lol) she in love with another guy and sh changes her MSN name alot revolving around this guy. iv allready said that its none of my buisnss who she likes so im not saying anything... even when i do get jelous and realisation kicks in that its going no were. i'v decided that i dont want to like her like this anymore... but my mind tells me diffrently... who do i forget?? i dont want to be like this anymore i hate it. i know your going to say keep yourself busy do somthing different, i do tons of things snowboarding, skateboarding, drawing, college work loadsa stuff. but when it gets to the point were i have nothing to focus on i think of her... when i go to bed memories dance around of the day before and how happy i was just to sit next to her and pass notes in that lesson or how happy i was when i said goodbye see you tommorow and knowing that i would see her tommorow. its getting me down, i didnt like being lonley before with no one to love and no one to love me back but it seems i still am lonley.. in a one sided love were only i care so much for her... and then her for another... i felt lost before but it was a better than feeling this.

turns out this wasnt so short.. i just had to get it off my chest, thanks for your answers

Well, first I'm going to tell you a short story :) once, way back in about 6th grade, I had this insanely huge crush on this perfect guy. He was my world but we were best friends. Everyone always teased me about liking him and I hated that and I knew he just liked me as a friend. So one night I was sitting there thinking about him and I began to think with my left side of my brain, the logical side. I thought about why I liked him and how it would look if we dated and so on and so on. I decided I didn't want to like him anymore. I don't know how I did it, I just thought over and over "I don't like him" and I even fell asleep chanting that in my head and then when I woke up, the spark was gone.

Now, I know this little 6th grade crush probably doesn't compare that well to your relationship, but it does have a moral: You can always change your own mind so do what makes you happy.

Obviously, this girl is killing you inside. And obviously, you're looking for some happiness in your life. Dude, I think you need some time off of her. If not mentally yet, physically. Go out with some guy friends. If you don't have any, make some :) go out, be free, check out hot girls, meet girls at parties. You've been so focused in on this one girl, you've been hidden from the outside world and now you don't know what to do. As much as it might kill you, you'll need to move on. No matter how long it takes. If you find yourself thinking about her, go hang out with one of your guy buddies and talk guy stuff and get your mind off her for a while :) better yet, talk about her to your guy friends. If you're heartbroken over a girl, your guy friends can cheer you up because 9 times out of 10, they'll agree with everything you say about this girl if you feel like just being mad and ranting about her. They're there to cheer you up.

*The reason I keep saying guy friends is because, unless you're bisexual, you can't go off and fall in love with one of them. I mean, relationships are based on trust. If you trust someone, you feel a deep connection towards them, and that's usually the start of another relationship. So it wouldn't be that great if you fell for another girl because of this girl and everything happened again right?

So, take some time off from her and go live life :) goodluck buddy! Hope I helped!

-Jessica

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OMG, I seriouslly wanna form a rock band but none of my friends wanna be in a rock band. I had a friend who wanted to form one with me but that's a different story. Anyway can anyone give me advice on how to form a rock band w/ these problems here? I really wanna form a band and I'm thinkin since I'm gonna be in high school next year I should start this now. Any advice?

My advice isn't what you want to here. Actually, you'll probably hate it. But here it is anyway: don't form one now. With highschool coming up, this is just another commitment to add to your plate and highschool is a lot of work. Plus you have to find people who actually have known musical ability and actually have the ammount of guts it takes to play in front of a band. I know how you feel, I wanted to form a band then too. I thought it would be cool and one of my friends was in on it too. We couldn't find anyone we knew that wanted to be in it and had the talent and my grades suffered terribly, all for nothing because we never got started. And if you're in it to get famous, the chances of that happening are about one in a million, maybe less. Especially at your age. So, sorry to be johnny raincloud over here, but trust me when I say it won't work out. Been there, failed that. Sorry dude.

-Jessica 14/f

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18/f

I have side swept bangs and am sick of having to get them cut all the time. If I don't cut my hair it grows way too quickly and end up with bangs that flop down in my face and have absolutey no shape.

I need a change of hairstyle, I definately want bangs. How should I get them cut?

Here's a bit of info on me to help you:
- I have dark brown hair, dark brown eyes and a fair complexion.
- My face is a little squarish. (I think its fat looking)
- I have a wide nose which I'd like to hide.
- I have long hair (to my boobs).
- I have to wash my hair every second day of it looks like I dipped my bangs in a bucket of oil.

Any pictures would be fantastic. Thanks to everyone who contributes.

I hide my nose too, so I know how you feel :) I have a nose with a bump in it so this is that my hair style is:

http://tinypic.com/usermedia.php?uo=nL9YxEDXPYovMlYRh%2BCLoQ%3D%3D

I cut my own bangs and cut them so they can cover the bump in my nose without going completely all over my face :) You sound like you have hair like me pretty much :) so, I'd suggest my hairstyle, or at least one the looks a tad like it, meaning:

keep your hair long and try not to tuck it behind your ears ever, since you have a wide face. Keeping your hair like that will make your face look longer and more slim :) and when you get bangs, be sure to tell the stylist (if you end up not doing them yourself) EXACTLY how long/short you want them! Stylist sometimes have a habit of going to short because they cut it right after they wash it when it's still wet. And when your hair dries, it's shorter because your hair is weighted down and looks longer when it's wet. So make sure you specify exactly what you want and don't be afraid to stop her if she's doing it wrong.

I wash my hair every other night. I wash it and then blowdry it to roughly the shape I want and then I sleep on it so it gains it's natural oils back while you sleep :) that way your hair won't look dry or washed out in the morning!

To avoid oily bangs, keep your face washed every morning and night and try not to touch your face/bangs, but, if you don't have time to take a quick shower and your bangs are oily, you can do a quick fix trick I use on the nights I fall asleep before I take a shower. Sprinkle a tad bit of baby powder on your brush (you can do it directly on your hair, but I recommend just on the brush because it will go all the way through and get every hair instead of just the top) then run it through your bangs and the baby powder will suck the oil right up for the time being :) Then I run my flat iron over them a bit to get whatever's left out so my bangs aren't white. You should probably experiment with this on a weekend day so if you mess up you don't have to go to school like that ;)

I hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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im looking for photography, art, symbolism pictures, or graphics, that really convay emotion. more specificly, something that has to do with beauty coming from the inside. and beauty being in the eye of the beholder. anyone know where i can find stuff like this online? like photobucket, or deviantart? links would be appreaciated, thanks =)

Deviantart is a GREAT place to find photographs with emotion, but the you have to see the inner beauty, because not everyone thinks the same things are beautiful. It should be something that touches you and inspires you in a subtle way :) I sometimes just go to deviantart and just rummage through the pictures just for fun :) there is some truly amazing stuff out there. Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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i have hair like the second girl in this picture
http://images.teamsugar.com/files/users/2/20652/35_2007/HairTeenChoice2007.jpg

except my bangs are different but i want mine like hers...like how hers curve a little so they dont cover he eye..itried blowdrying it that way but after like an hour it just goes back to being straight and in my face...how can i get them like hers?

You could use a curling iron a bit on the ends, but I do my hair like that sometimes and I take my flat iron and it's like I'm straightening my bangs, but you gradually curl your bangs towards you. Then they go like that :) Hope I helped!

-14/f Jessica

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16/f
well, lets call him 'george'
george is a really cute puerto rican kid thats in one of my classes at school. we dont have assigned seating but we sit next to each other in the same seats everyday. im really into art and i did his backpack for him and he loved it. and now he seems to flirt with me a lot but he has a girl. im really starting to like this kid.

but you see, he's kind of a 'gangster' or whatever the hell you'd call it. people usually classify me as a stoner white girl (you know, beach, surf, weird jewelry, crazy hair) and we're so different. and it seems like when hes with his friends he doesnt want to acknowledge me, but when we're together we always talk and stuff. i dont know what to do!

It sounds to me like this guy is a one-class friendship. Meaning you two have a good friendship in one of your classes because you don't have the pressure of either of you's friends around you so you don't have to act a certain way. I always hated these because it seemed so awkward anywhere else besides that one class because that's when you're both around your seperate friends and stuff. I think you're pretty much stuck in friend zone for now, until he decides to treat you otherwise in front of his friends. Sorry dude, I know how it feels trust me, I've been there :( I hope I helped out a bit

-jessica

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guys, but girls also.. what do you think are ways of a girl being a tease. what are some big ways and what are some minor ways? my friends say i am a tease but i just dont see it..15f

A tease is when a girl makes a guy THINK he's going to get some sexual pleasure from her, but she ends up not doing anything, thus letting the guy down big time.

A minor way of being a tease is just simple things like flirting with a guy (Hugging them, giggling a lot around them, touching them for random reasons, etc.) and not actually liking him and having no intention of dating him. This can sometimes be unintentional because some girls are just more comfortable around guys and see them more as friends the can play around with like girls.

A major way of teasing is something like hinting to a guy you would do something with him and then changing your mind and deciding not too.

I wouldn't worry about it too much if your friends are calling you that. I remember when I was younger I would call my friend a tease because she was pretty and I didn't want here "taking up all the guys" (hahaha oh the mind of a 12 year old lol) because they would flirt with her. So, they could just be jealous of you, or it could be that you have a habit of unintentionally flirting with guys. So, just so you know, almost all of this is considered "flirtatious behavior":

-Laughing at everything a guy says, even if it's not funny.
-Pushing them or tripping them (playfully, of course)
-Over complimenting them (usually for guys flirting with girls though)
-batting eyelashes
-the way you dress (e.g. revealing clothes, too tight clothes, etc.)

So if you catch yourself doing that stuff around a guy, just remind yourself to stop :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica

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how do you give a hickey? like just a small one? ive tried before but nothing showed up on his neck and i dont want to suck too hard cause im afraid it will hurt him and i dont wanna make those embarrasing sucking noises...any advice?

Basically, you makeout with their neck. Haha. I've had a few hickeys in the past and all they do is suck on your neck. They suck on your skin and gently press down with their teeth, but don't bite them. Just make your teeth apply a little bit of pressure to their skin :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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Is it normal for kids not to like there parents relationships? because ever since my parents got divorced I haven't liked anyone that they have dated, they could be the nicest person ever and for some reason I just don't like them.. I just want my parents to get back together!


what should I do?

Yes, 100% completely normal. I used to feel the same way about my mom's boyfriends when she and my dad got divorced. Eventually, I guess I just grew out of it. The way I see it, if you don't bother the new guy/girl, they don't bother you, and your parent is happy, there's not really an issue. Basically, I'm not saying to ignore them, but you can't really do anything about it if your mom/dad truely cares about them and you want them to be happy. I'm sorry and I know it's tough, but just move on and everything will be a lot easier :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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i wanna do good in school but i also want to get a job so i could buy nice thing for myslef my dad said i canot get a job i want to look fresh and look like other kidz choach or guicc i am only 15

Ok, you probably won't like this answer, but I think you should wait until your 16 to get a job. A job is a LOT of work, and your dad's right to keep you from getting one if your grade's are low. I mean, if you get a minimum wage job now, you could flunk out of highschool, and not get a REAL paying job later. Plus, it takes away from your social life BIG TIME. Most minimum wage jobs just schedule you whenever, so they could interfere with your plans. If you want to do good in school, then do good in school. It's actually not as hard as it sounds. I used to be like failing all my classes until I just decided to do better and actually pay attention and turn in my work :) MUCH easier then it seems, my grades shot right up! I hope I helped!

-Jessica

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i'm wanting to learn guitar, but I'm left handed. is it possible for me to get a guitar and have people take the strings off and make it into a left handed guitar? and also do you know of any good instructional dvds that are specifically for left handed people on the acoustic guitar?
any other information regarding guitars would be appreciated.

Well first off, I would recommend starting on an acoustic because;

1) Most electric's bodies are shaped for right handers so you probably would be better off with an acoustic until you get good enough to invest in a left handed guitar.
2) Acoustic's strings are generally more difficult to press down on so if you get used to them first, it will make it easier to play any kind of guitar you want in the future.
3) It's cheaper because if you get an electric, you also have to buy an amp and whatever else comes with it.

So, go buy a good quality acoustic (My beginner guitar was a Delta, and it is good enough to still be my favorite today. I got it for about $80 at Ben&Jacks) and when you're at the store, ask them if they can restring it to fit your left hand instead. If not, it's rather easy to do it by yourself. Basically, you just take off the strings and then reverse them. I'm sure you can find some tutorials if you type it in on google about re-stringing a guitar.

Well, my brother's left handed and he just taught himself to play. I think when you first get it, it's easier to just play around and experiment with the different sounds you can make then it is to try and play certain songs. You should try to adjust to it before you start learning chords and tabs.

Basically, anything written for the guitar for right hand is just opposite left hand. I bet you could find a good tutorial on youtube if you really need one, but you could always just reverse the tablature.

Also, my favorite website for free tabs and chords is Ultimateguitar.com. It basically has just about any song you want to play haha :)

Hope I helped, if you have any additional questions, you can always email me at Neonconverse@gmail.com :)

-Jessica 14/f

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Heey. I'm 16 yrs old and a jr in HS. Ok so I met this really cool guy when I was in the 6th grade and we went out on and off throughout these years. Its crazy I know. We barely used to see eachother before but we recently got backtogether on november because he told me he loved me and I was the only one. So the last time we hung out was a week ago he took me to a resturant and we had a lot of fun. Then after that he never called me back. I called him lots of times and left him a text but he never wrote back. Then I called him on monday and he answered and told me that he had left his phone in his school and a lot of other excuses for why he didn't get to talk to we this whole week. So then I found out that he had blocked me from aim and he had an away message basicallytalking about a girl that he loves her smile and everytime he sees her it makes his day. I doubt it was about me. And then while we weren't talking that week he changed his mood on myspace to "in love" so anyway when we got to speak I told him to do what he wants to do(this was texting by the way) so I called him and he didn't answer so I texxted him back saying not to ignore my call and pick up but he didn't want to he just wanted to text. So then I said "do what you want to do because we were fine and then you got like this and before we tried it again you said that it wasn't going to be like last time but it is now" and he said "so its over I guess. I wasn't going to break up with you but that's the way you want it" so then all I could say was ok and he never wrote back after that. So I don't understand we were so good we spoke all the time and then we went down hill. And he doesn't even bother trying to talk to me. And before we started dating again he begged me to get back together with him like a million times. Btw we were on and off for like 3 yrs bbut this time he told me he was going to try his best and things will change. But I don't know what to do please give me advice. I've known him for so long its hard now to actually get over him for good and I'm extremly hurt. I know this was long so I'm sorry I'm really desperate. Thanks so much if you read all this.

It sounds like he was unsure whether or not he was going to break up with you, and then when you confronted him about it he realized he had an excuse now and is trying to pin the breakup on you. I think you should just stay away from him for the time being. It's a hundred times harder to get over someone if you see/talk to them all the time. Also, try to move on and find someone new. I know it's hard, but the sooner, the better. Apparently this guy's already moved on, so you need to too. A warning though, chances are he will come back to you. At that point, it's completely your descision because none of us know or can tell you how to feel. If you want to take the risk of heartbreak again, go ahead. If not, find someone new. Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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me and my boyfriend don't really hang out outside of school. like only a couple times we have. well my question is how can I get it so he comes over to my house or to get him to invite me to his house? we've been going out for a month on the 24th. and I just wish we could hang out outside of school cause all couples are supposed to do that! well thankyou in advance!

Just invite him over to your house. Be like "Hey you want to come over friday? We can order pizza or something and watch a movie?" and eventually if you invite him over a couple of times, he should get the drift and invite you over. If not, just say something like "Hey why don't I ever come over to your house?"
Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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so im 17. i was going out with my boyfriend for 6 months then we broke up and got back together 6 months later after 14 months of being together in a great relationship, he just ended it cause we were arugeing. were still "friends" & we have hooked up a few times (sex) i really want to get back together with him but im not sure how he feels he says he doesnt wanna but i no he loves me and i think he just might need time. i dont wanna go to anyone else or forget about him just yet i still think there might be a chance to get him backk... ADIVCE PLEASE!

Well first off, if he says he doesn't want to get back together right now, you'll have to listen to him. You have no solid proof that he means otherwise, and pushing it might push him away. Just stay as close of a friend to him as possible because then you'll be the one he thinks about all the time and he'll eventually realize that you're the one for him :) So just stay put for now, but if you must say something about it, just try to bring up how cool your relationship was a while ago and how much you liked him. Kind of try to get him to remember all those good times and it might rekindel[sp?] the fire :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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A long time ago, when I was six, (Very long time!) I got hit in the mouth with a golf club, and I got 10 stitches, 5 on the outside, and 5 on the inside of my mouth. I lost TONS of blood. Ever since, I've been freaked out at the very mention of golf. Is this normal? And how do I get over this?

Yes it's normal. Almost everyone is haunted by a fear that originated in the past. How do you get over it? You just have to realize that things happen when you're younger because you aren't as coordinated as you are now. Over time, the fear will eventually wear away as you realize that the chances of that happening are slim. Plus, obviously the accident wasn't bad enough to kill you, considering you are alive and, I assume, perfectly healthy today. So even if it did happen again, you'd heal and be fine again :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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I'm in 9th Grade, and I'm unsure of who I am. There's the very smart side of me, the kind, helpful, selfless side of me, the sarcastic witty side of me, and the social side of me. I never know which to be, and my parents are always telling me how "I act weird around my friends" and "this isn't the girl I know." I just want to be me! Help!

Simple: you're all of those!
First of all, no one ever decides who they really are in 9th grade. You're young, you should be having fun without having to decipher your personalities. Second, don't take what your parents say bad. Everyone acts different around their friends then they do their parents. They're completely different people and you may enjoy both of them, just in different ways. You are you right now, you don't need to fake yourself for others :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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So i don't get to see my boyfriend very much but we will be together all summer. I want to make this summer different and do fun things i've never done before with him. For example, i think it'd be fun to go to a drive-in movie and outdoor concerts. But that's all i can really think of. Anything will help. Thanks!

You could;
-have a picnic
-take a road trip with him
-go to the beach/any other body of water around xD
-go to a carnival or amusement park with him
-have a cookout at one of you guy's house and invite friends/family/whoever
-throw a party
-if it's a rainy day, you could invite him over and you two can just chill and watch movies all day

That's all I could think of off the top of my head :) Hope I helped!

-Jessica 14/f

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