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i dont want to like her anymore... i feel like hell, i want to forget
you may remember me from a week or so ago posting tons of questions :/ anyway ill make this one short. the girl that i have liked for the past month or so now really doesnt want a relationship with me, after i asked her what she wanted from me she answered with "Freindship". its happening just like it was with my best freind (whos a girl lol) she in love with another guy and sh changes her MSN name alot revolving around this guy. iv allready said that its none of my buisnss who she likes so im not saying anything... even when i do get jelous and realisation kicks in that its going no were. i'v decided that i dont want to like her like this anymore... but my mind tells me diffrently... who do i forget?? i dont want to be like this anymore i hate it. i know your going to say keep yourself busy do somthing different, i do tons of things snowboarding, skateboarding, drawing, college work loadsa stuff. but when it gets to the point were i have nothing to focus on i think of her... when i go to bed memories dance around of the day before and how happy i was just to sit next to her and pass notes in that lesson or how happy i was when i said goodbye see you tommorow and knowing that i would see her tommorow. its getting me down, i didnt like being lonley before with no one to love and no one to love me back but it seems i still am lonley.. in a one sided love were only i care so much for her... and then her for another... i felt lost before but it was a better than feeling this.
turns out this wasnt so short.. i just had to get it off my chest, thanks for your answers
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Well, first I'm going to tell you a short story :) once, way back in about 6th grade, I had this insanely huge crush on this perfect guy. He was my world but we were best friends. Everyone always teased me about liking him and I hated that and I knew he just liked me as a friend. So one night I was sitting there thinking about him and I began to think with my left side of my brain, the logical side. I thought about why I liked him and how it would look if we dated and so on and so on. I decided I didn't want to like him anymore. I don't know how I did it, I just thought over and over "I don't like him" and I even fell asleep chanting that in my head and then when I woke up, the spark was gone.
Now, I know this little 6th grade crush probably doesn't compare that well to your relationship, but it does have a moral: You can always change your own mind so do what makes you happy.
Obviously, this girl is killing you inside. And obviously, you're looking for some happiness in your life. Dude, I think you need some time off of her. If not mentally yet, physically. Go out with some guy friends. If you don't have any, make some :) go out, be free, check out hot girls, meet girls at parties. You've been so focused in on this one girl, you've been hidden from the outside world and now you don't know what to do. As much as it might kill you, you'll need to move on. No matter how long it takes. If you find yourself thinking about her, go hang out with one of your guy buddies and talk guy stuff and get your mind off her for a while :) better yet, talk about her to your guy friends. If you're heartbroken over a girl, your guy friends can cheer you up because 9 times out of 10, they'll agree with everything you say about this girl if you feel like just being mad and ranting about her. They're there to cheer you up.
*The reason I keep saying guy friends is because, unless you're bisexual, you can't go off and fall in love with one of them. I mean, relationships are based on trust. If you trust someone, you feel a deep connection towards them, and that's usually the start of another relationship. So it wouldn't be that great if you fell for another girl because of this girl and everything happened again right?
So, take some time off from her and go live life :) goodluck buddy! Hope I helped!
-Jessica
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