|
breakups are never easy especially if youve been together for long
Heey. I'm 16 yrs old and a jr in HS. Ok so I met this really cool guy when I was in the 6th grade and we went out on and off throughout these years. Its crazy I know. We barely used to see eachother before but we recently got backtogether on november because he told me he loved me and I was the only one. So the last time we hung out was a week ago he took me to a resturant and we had a lot of fun. Then after that he never called me back. I called him lots of times and left him a text but he never wrote back. Then I called him on monday and he answered and told me that he had left his phone in his school and a lot of other excuses for why he didn't get to talk to we this whole week. So then I found out that he had blocked me from aim and he had an away message basicallytalking about a girl that he loves her smile and everytime he sees her it makes his day. I doubt it was about me. And then while we weren't talking that week he changed his mood on myspace to "in love" so anyway when we got to speak I told him to do what he wants to do(this was texting by the way) so I called him and he didn't answer so I texxted him back saying not to ignore my call and pick up but he didn't want to he just wanted to text. So then I said "do what you want to do because we were fine and then you got like this and before we tried it again you said that it wasn't going to be like last time but it is now" and he said "so its over I guess. I wasn't going to break up with you but that's the way you want it" so then all I could say was ok and he never wrote back after that. So I don't understand we were so good we spoke all the time and then we went down hill. And he doesn't even bother trying to talk to me. And before we started dating again he begged me to get back together with him like a million times. Btw we were on and off for like 3 yrs bbut this time he told me he was going to try his best and things will change. But I don't know what to do please give me advice. I've known him for so long its hard now to actually get over him for good and I'm extremly hurt. I know this was long so I'm sorry I'm really desperate. Thanks so much if you read all this.
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
Okay. Look this guy is bi-polar
or
he is a jerk who is playing with your feelings
or
a immature guy who doesnt know what he wants
Maybe you drove him away with calling him too much, i mean you kept on calling him for 1 week
and he isnt a man enough to answer your call he prefer texting dont ever go for guys like that
Sometimes people would tell you "to get over someone date someone else" maybe its true or maybe its not
so move on, dont talk to him, treat him like shit or more like treat hom how a guy like him should be treated
Or u can move on with dating someone else and better than him
Good luck
]
Okay, hun. This guy seems like he is playing with your emotions. I've had a boyfriend like that before. It was not worth it at the end.
I'm not saying all men are the same, but the majority are. No offense but texting is not communication, you need to feel comfortable talking to him in person.
Getting back to my point, so this boy isn't healthy for you, there are better men in the sea! Don't concentrate your time on this one guy that likes to go out with you, then ignores you, then begs for you.
Hope I helped dear :)
]
It sounds like he was unsure whether or not he was going to break up with you, and then when you confronted him about it he realized he had an excuse now and is trying to pin the breakup on you. I think you should just stay away from him for the time being. It's a hundred times harder to get over someone if you see/talk to them all the time. Also, try to move on and find someone new. I know it's hard, but the sooner, the better. Apparently this guy's already moved on, so you need to too. A warning though, chances are he will come back to you. At that point, it's completely your descision because none of us know or can tell you how to feel. If you want to take the risk of heartbreak again, go ahead. If not, find someone new. Hope I helped!
-Jessica 14/f
]
I would not be satisfied with the amount of information given, and I would personally (in your shoes) try to find a way to get him to talk to you face to face and ask him questions like "what the hell, what changed?"
It sounds like he is trying to avoid that like the plauge.
Send him a text that says "After all these years, you owe me a face to face breakup. Please find time to meet me" or something along those lines.
He's hiding from you, I have no idea why. If you can't let it go, try to find out. The relationship may well be over (I dont think you really want to date a guy who's this immature that he won't pick up a phone) but he owes you something of an explanation.
]
Im thinking that he really didnt want to break up with you. Send him a message on myspace and tell him how you're feeling. Communication is the key. But dont push it. Just tell him what you're feeling and leave it. Dont call or text till he replies.
Or if it seems like its too much work.... go find someone else.. You're young and you're not going to find the love of your life this early.
]
More Questions: |