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i just turned 14 and in janurary or feburary i got my first period. now its april and i havent had it since, i know irreguar periods are normal but for this long?!?! (link)
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Yes this is normal-also because you are panicking about it therefore stressing, it's another reason for it not coming. If I were you, I'd wait another week and if you still haven't got it again then talk to your mum or a doctor. There are helpline numbers you can call if you don't want to speak to someone i person.
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In english class we're doing a project and we have to read it outloud. Last time when i was reading something outloud evry1 lauged at me! (Darn my squeeky voice) Anyways, i dunt want 2 read mine outloud! What should i do?? (link)
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Can you tape it or do it as a video? If you have to read it out loud can you show pictures on a slide projector as then you will be in the dark!
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I'm involoved with a married man and have been for two years now. We started out as just friends and the relatonship evolved.He's scared to leave his wife because they share two children together. I'm very much in love with him and want to be with him. Lately I've been feeling he's been wasting my time because he hasn't left her yet and I feel he never will. When I ask when will he leave or make a decision on leaving, he tells me he cant leave his kids with her and wants to know he could get full custody before he leaves. What should I do in this situatuion? HEEEELLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!! (link)
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You have to think about what he is doing to his wife. If he does leave her to be with you do you think you have 100% confidence he won't then cheat on you as well? If so then go for it but if youre not then tell him as you are making a huge decision. good luck
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ok im 15/f and i really like this guy! so that guy already knows cause 1 of my friends blabbed and he said i was pretty and all, but he hasn't asked me out! i talk to him whenever i can in class and stuff, but it doesn't seem to be working! oh ya, he's never had a gf before! how i do i get him to ask me out? pleaz help! (link)
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Well if he hasn't ever had a girlfriend before then no wonder he hasn't asked you out! He obviously thinks you are really pretty and is probably really nervous about what to do or say to you. Do you have enough guts to ask him out? Or even suggest something like you are goin to the cinema with a group if your friens, would he like to come with some of his friends? Good luck!
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I'm going on a school trip Wed-Fri. and I've got my period the heaviest it's ever been. It's like I have to change my pad every hour. I've never gotten cramps and now I have them really bad. During the trip we are going to make a couple rest stops off the bus. I can't put a pad in my pocket because it will be obvious..This is going to ruin my whole trip! I won't feel well and all my friends are going to have fun. I can't bring medicine either...it isn't allowed. I might have to wear a couple pads at once and like two pairs of underwear until I can quitely try to change it. Please help me get through this because I don't know what to do! I will remember this trip forever too. =/ (link)
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Will any of your friends have theirs too? If you need to take medicine for your cramps then the best thing is to talk to or get your mum to talk to a member of staff as you obviously need to take something otherwise you will have a really bad trip. Can you take a small bag of some sort and fit your pads in there? Wear a couple of pads if you want and if you buy ones specifically for night-time they will last longer. You have to think about your comfort. Wear as many pads and as many pairs of pants as you want because no one is going to know or find out! Just as long as you feel comfortable. Good Luck!
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I like this guy and we are already friends. I don't have many classes with him but I sit right behind him in the one class we do have. He always turns aroud at me and tries to make me laugh. I told one of my friends who hasn't told anyone. He's really cute but i don't want to tell him. It might ruin our friendship and i don't want anything like that to happen. I just really like him. Help, i'll rate low if you tell me to tell him because that won't get me anywhere (link)
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Can your friend find out it he fancies anyone at the moment? The best thing to do is to hang around more and try and incluse him in the things that you are doing - not just the two of you -like you and your friends and him and his. Is there a party you can organise or something? By becoming better friends with him you will find out more about eachother, become more relaxed around eachother and then you will find out if you truly like him and want to be with him, and by being with him you will probably be able to guess if he is feeling the same way through what he says to you, body language etc! Good Luck!
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okay ... you see lately my mom has been getting me all these babysitting jobs that i really dont want. i've asked her to stop and she has, but one mother wants my to babysit on a regular basis! she has three kids(2, 4 and 6) and i really cannot handle them. the middle child is pretty good, but the 2 year old cries a lot and the 6 year old is always being mean to the middle one and i cant take it! can someone please help me find a way to tell the mother i cant babysit for her regularly. thanks so much! (link)
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Think about the days when you would be prepared to babysit - be it once or twice a week. Call the lady up and give her the dates you are available so she can't ask you to do more. If you say yes to her all the time she will probably take advantage of the fact you are always free and probably ask you to babysit more - Good luck!
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does bronze tanning lotion stuff really work? i mean does it really make you look tan or does it turn your orange? and how many times do you have to put it on before you look tan? (link)
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Yes it really works but if you haven't used it before then only use a small bit first so you can see if you want to go darker or not - also if you are quite fair skinned. The best thing to do is exfoliate in the morning and moisturise your knees elbows and hands a few hours before applying. this will mean that your tan won't streak.
Put the tan on about an hour before you go to bed and it will develop during the night. In the morning see if you want to go darker and repeat the process without the exfoliation part. When you are happy with your tan, moisturise loads to keep it lasting and when you think it's fading apply again!
If you do get streaks, nail varnish remover is good at removing them!
Good Luck!
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sorry i didn't know where to put this so i just put it here .. well a few weeks ago i found out that i was pregnant. i decided that im going to have the baby but the problem is that i have an eating disorder. i know it's probably bad for the baby but i've been doing it for so long that i can't stop. Does anyone know how badly it can hurt the baby or what it can do to it?
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It will harm the baby because you will not be giving it the right vitamins and nutrients it needs to grow and survive. You have to start thinking that you are now in charge of somebody who is totally relying on you to survive and look after them. If you don't go and see a doctor or help then your baby will have problems and can easily be born handicapped or with other disalbilities.
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I hate myself and want to die. There is no way out. There is no definite answer to anything so how can you ever be right? Why do my friends always want to know what i am thinking when they dont care, they dont listen so why ask. Counsellors get PAID to listen to you. no one will remember me a year from my death. Anti depressants leave you numb and emotionless. Doctors dont issue sleeping pills coz I am a depressant but I cant SLEEP all i do is stare into senseless nothing seeing nothing but black shadows. The only releif is a razor blade and salt. Nothing will ever get better i will have this hopeless feeling of nothingness and desperation for somekind of peace of mind which i wont get. Things will always be the same and then ill die anyway. Im a selfish ugly fat bitch and the only way out is death. nothing can help me. im searching for a solution to get past my pathetic problems asides from counsellors, therapy, rehab, cutting, not cutting, anti depressants the only thing i can think of to a solution is death. no will will ever be able to stop this drowning feeling (link)
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Why do you think you are an ugly fat bitch? The reason you feel like this is a build up of so many emotions and problems that never get sorted out and you just fall deeper and deeper into depression. You don't know me and I live on the other side of the world from you. If you want to tell me your problems I will listen. I promise it does help to talk
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if you have sex (and your a girl) and you have a physical. you know what the look down there so see if everything is alright. can see tell just from looking that you have had sex? and how (link)
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They will not be able to tell if you have had sex. Everyone keeps saying they can tell because your hymen will have broken - well if you use tampons your hymen will have already broken. Your hymen can break just by going horse-back riding! Don't worry!
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I am a mother of four and none of my children will eat vegetables or fruit. The oldest is 13 and the youngest 7. I fed them vegetables and fruit in baby food as yound children, but they just don't like it now. I was the same as a child and so I didn't push them. However, while they're not unhealthy, I'd like them to start eating at least a bit more healthily, what with all this stuff going around about overweight kids and cholestrol, etc etc etc. So, my question is: does anyone have any recipies or ideas to make fruit and vegetables tasty and fun?
Also, my thirteen-year-old just got braces and can't eat anything hard for a few days, so I was wondering if it would be safe for to eat baby food? I know it has nothing added to it but I was just wondering if it was OK for a 13 year old to eat that and only that (obviously with drinks, and different varieties of the food) for three or four days?
Also, my friend has suggested using baby food or vegetable pureè as pasta sauces. Do you think this would work?
Thanks,
-Mum-To-Four (link)
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You could cut the vegetables and fruit into fun shapes like stars, hearts etc. You can make a fruit animal by taking a cucumber and sticking cocktail sticks into them with bits of fruit stuck on the end. Do they like spaghetti bolognaise? If so then make it for them but puree other vegetables into it like carrots, peas etc
I've heard of people making omelettes with vegetables in them such as mushrooms, courgette etc but she put a drop of organic food colouring into the mixture to turn them fun colours such as blue!!
You could use bribes-what is their favourite food? Or sweets? If you tell them to eat a certain fruit or amount of vegetables you can reward them with a sweet or magazine.
As for your daughter, I used to have braces and things like spaghetti, pasta etc is fine but don't let her eat things like apples. Cut down on fizzy drinks as well.
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What do you think about these baby names:
Mattilynn Nicole
Jake Ryan
Zachary Daniel
Rylee Elizabeth
Twin girls :
Ashlynn
Joshlynn (link)
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Not too sure about Mattilyn! But that's just my view - the others are nice though! Have you tries looking up the meanings of names? That is a good way of making a decision about a name!
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hey my lips are always dry and i dont know why. i have to lick them all the time to keep them wet. they arent chapt so i dont need chap stick, but what should i do? i rate high (link)
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Use Vaseline - it's the best thing for them! If its windy outside or if you have the heating on in your house your lips will dry out because they don't have enough moisturiser in them to keep moist. But don't lick them as they will dry out quicker!
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I am soo confused I cant figure it out...how would you know if ur bi or straight bc i thought i was straight but now im trying to find out bc i dont think its wrong to be bi and theirs nothing wrong w kissing another girl to me that is so please answer back ill rate also (link)
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You can kiss whoever you want! It's not wrong to be bi and there's nothing wrong with kissing another girl. Most people go through a phase of wanting to or thinking about what it would be like to kiss somebody of the same sex. There is nothing wrong with that. If you want to then go for it-it usually takes this for you to realise what you like, don't like and what you prefer.
You will get a lot of people who will be against it and make a big thing about it but they are sometimes the ones who are thinking exactly the same as you but are too afraid to act on their feelings.
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everyone keeps tellin me i don't need to lose weight but i still feel i need to. does anyone know of someway to find average weight for height? (link)
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You need to calculate your BMI (Body Mass Index). If you type it into a search engine you will find out. If you are 18.5 or below you are underweight, 18.5-24.9 you are at a normal weight and anything above is overweight.
A lot of people who think they need to lose weight actually don't - what they do need to do is to tone up. Not only will this shift the bits you hate (Tummy, thighs etc) but it will also give your body new definition and a much more flattering appearance. If you don't mind running then go running for 25 minutes a day and within just a week you will notice a difference. If you don't like running then try a pilates class or get a pilates book which shows you they excercises step by step.
Also drink 2litres of water a day - you feel so much better I promise!
Let me know if you need any more advice and good luck!
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What do I do if my mother thinks my boyfriend is opinionated and is not sure he is right for me?
Signed,
Bored in LA (link)
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Hello Bored in LA,
Mothers are very protective especially over daughters (and even more so if you are a first child????)
Have you asked her why she doesn't like him other than the fact he is opnionated? Explain to her that everyone has a right to their own opinion and it's better to voice that than sitting in the corner and not saying a word!
Being a mother she probably imagined you with a particular type of guy and she is probably saying this to you because she doesn't want to see you get hurt. What you have to do is explain to her that he makes you happy and why he makes you happy. Everyone has different tastes in men but the more she tells you she's not sure she likes him the more she will push you away.
You have a right to go out with whoever you want and for whatever reasons. She has to understand that. You say she said she's not sure he is right for you. Has she said why? And thinking about it - does she know him well like you do?
If she's only met him a couple of times she will only be judging him on first impressions which overall show nothing about somebody's real personality.
As long as you let her know these things she should start to understand.
Good luck!!
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well I am a 19 year old female who has been in a relationship with a guy for 4 years. I feel i am insecure about myself and constantly feel myself feeling and thinking that i am not as pretty as the girls that he sees. I have become controlling because i tell him he cant look at other girls and he can not have girl friends. I feel if he loves me like he says he does then why does he need to talk to other girls. I do not like him to work with pretty girls because i am afraid that he will flirt with them and not tell me. I get angry when he stares at other girls. We are constntly fighting. Is this all my fault. How can i stop being so scared that he is going to leave me for someone better. Even though everyday he says he wont i still get scared. And when i even see a pretty girl i say she is ugly so he wontlook . i know we care and love eachother so much . i do not want us to fight we are getting married soon please help my problem stop (link)
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First of all, you have to realise that, out of all the girls in the whole wide world, he has chosen to be with you. He is only human though and of course he will stare at other girls, all guys do. Girls stare at guys and I'm sure you do, not because they are necessarily good looking but because its just natural to do so. If he was going to cheat on you or even think about it then you wouldn't be getting married. You really have to try and stop being like this because in the long-run you are pushing him away and he might just get fed up of being shouted at the whole time. Make an effort with your clothes and hair and makeup which will make you feel more confident.
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I have been going out with my boyfriend for 3 years and I live with him now. Well, he wants a kid really bad and I told him no because I'm almost 20 and we both work at MAC. And, MAC doesn't really pay us good. And obviously, you need money to have a kid. I'm on BC and have been for like 8 months and somehow I lost my pills. I'm organized, and I dont misplace things hardly ever and I think my boyfriend stole them. I'm getting more pills tomorrow but I just KNOW my boyfriend stole them! He hasint talked to me in two days because I accused him of stealing them. Why does he want a freaking kid so bad!? I dont want to break up with him, its been 3 years and I dont want to throw our relationship away. But what can I say to him to get his mind off kids!!! (link)
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When it comes down to it, he has to realise what a huge reponsibility having a child is and I don't think he realises this. If you have a child you are creating someone who will be totally dependant on you both and it will change your life forever.He can't realise that you can't have a baby just like that and if you do think how much more you will be going through (pregnancy, the birth, morning sickness). You need to let him know that you should both be stable enough workwise as well as relationshipwise before you bring a child into the world. Have you got any friends who have young children or babies? If so ask them if you can babysit them for a day or two and leave him with the child to see how he copes. He is behaving like a spoilt child by taking away your pills because he isn't getting what he wants
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I'm a teen girl going through puberty and my private has losened up. I never had sex before so it couldn't have "stretched" that way. Also, around the edges of the viginia it's turning a dark tan color. What is this and is it normal? Also, are there any exercises i can do to tighten it up?
thnx so much, i really need your help! (link)
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This is what happens to every girl and you have nothing to worry about. You can't do anything to tighten it up but there are pelvic floor excercises to tighten your pelvic floor muscles where you hold the muscles you use to stop yourself peeing and hold them for about 20 seconds and do it about 5 times a day. Please don't think this is only happening to you. It happens to everybody and it totally normal so don't worry!
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