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Hi, I am asking you 1-Because your a girl (no offense if that sounds mean at all) 2-Because your only a year older than me so I think you might be able to relate and 3-Because I've seen some of your advice and it's awsome.

Okay here's the deal:

I am a 14/m.I have liked a girl...her name is Jackie...for a very very long time. The problem is the one time I actually came out and said I liked her, things got extremely akward between us. I finally had to resort to lying(Yea, it was that bad) I told her that I was over her and that things were cool between us. However, I still REALLY like her. She is like my dream girl: GOREGOUS, funny, smart, awsome personality, everything a guy could ask for.

I get out of school on the 18th of May. Should I risk telling her before then or hang-on a while so when I do tell her things arent akward? I am in a tight spot here. I really hope you can help, but if you can't just say so please.

Thanks a ton,
Jeff

Hey sweetie. Alright, 1. No I didnt take it as offense lol I dont get mad easily lol. 2. You seem like a sweetheart. 3. I will totally try helping you!!

Alright.. here we go! lol.

You should tell her how you feel again and just tell her something like this...

Either in an email, note, on the phone, AIM/AOL, face - to - face..

"Jackie, You're every guys dream, everything about you I love.. And I know I told you once before that I like you, and then things got awkward between us.. and I hated it. So, I told you I didn't like you, so things could get back to how it was. But, truthfully, I don't want to hold this in anymore, I do like you and I always have, you're just amazing, you're gorgeous, funny, smart, awsome personality, everything a guy could ask for. And, I'm taking a chance here, maybe you do like me and we could start something and maybe you dont like me. If you don't like me, then I'll accept it and we'll move on from there and go back to how we were, but if you do like me, then you've just made me the happiest person..."

Just kind of go from there and you don't have to say exactly what I said.. but I'm giving you ideas and things to say. You seem like you know what you would want to say to her.. so I'm just trying to help you out. If you still need help, just post another comment in my inbox or leave your screen name or something. Because I really want to know where this goes.. I hope everything goes well for you.. you seem so sweet!!

xoxo Kourtney

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umm i am really small waisted/hipped for my size. i want to know some places where i can shop that are still trendy, but have sizes that fit me. i only have a 29 in. hip and im almost 15. please help! DO NOT SHUT DOWN THIS ACCOUNT!

Heyy sweetie. What size do you wear? I wear a zero. And I shop at like American Eagle, Hollister. You can try shopping at Forever 21 because they have really small sizes there. It just really depends on how you like to dress and what you consider trendy. But try looking at:

www.ae.com
www.hollisterco.com
www.forever21.com

And look at there chart sizes there. It always helps!! I hope this helps and if you still need help just send another message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok .. i made a pro and con list but it still doesnt help. i really like john but when we broke up, my dad found out some stuff that we did and told john never to talk to me again, so of course he hasnt. But now my dad says i can talk to him again. Its been like 6 months so i am very shy to talk to him. I know he used to have a girlfriend, but 3 days ago his dad told me he used to go out wtih this girl name cheyenne, so i dont know if they still go out or not. I am going to ask people and find out though. I like john wayyyyy better than billy, but after me adn john broke up, 3 people told me he cheated on me. So i got mitch to ask him about it a couple of weeks after we broke up and he told mitch that he didnt. I really want him back, but i dont even know if he still likes me. I want to talk to him tomorrow at church and just be like "hey .. its been a long time since we talked, hows it been going" but im too scared. I think he might not want to talk to me. What should i do?? please help me!!!!!

Okay.. so seems to me you REALLY like this John kid, don't worry about Billy then. Concentrate on John now. Don't be shy. When you see him at church, give him a big smile and walk up to him and be like "heyy.." and go from there. And when you guys are done, tell him to call you later. Don't be scared.. do it for you sake.. you really like him and I can tell. So go for it!! It's not like he'll turn around and walk away.. of course he'll talk to you!! Tell me how it goes.. and if you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok .. this might be a little confusing but im sorry! lets say im lydia and my sister is brittany. There are 3 guys involved in this. Lets say their names are billy, mitch, and john. Well i used to go out wiht john but we broke up like 5 months ago. Long story about us but to make it short, my dad didnt like him adn told him to never talk to me again. So of course he hasnt. Well now my dad said i can talk to john again, and i really want to because i still like him! billy and mitch are both of his friends. Well over last summer, mitch liked my sister, then when me and john broke up, mitch started liking me. Now mitch likes me and my sister. i like mitch, but not as a boyfriend, yet im jealous when he likes other girls. About billy, Billy likes me, but he doesnt know that i like him. The other day one of billy friends called me and said billy liked me and asked if i liked him. I said no even tho i do. Now billy thinks i dont like him, so he said he doesnt want to go out with me. He now says im hott and he likes me but doesnt want to go out with me. (because i said i didnt like him). Its all really confusing but i dont know what to do. Wednesday i am going to try to talk to billy and john but should i tell both of them i like them? I like john way more but i think john has a girlfriend. Please help the best you can. Any advise is welcome!! thanks so much!

Hey sweetie. Wow, you got yourself in a tough situation there!! But, I'll try my best to help you out =). Well, basically you told me you like the 2 of them and Mitch is well out of the picture. It's left with John and Billy. Billy seems like he doesnt know what he wants.. he should say he just likes you even if he wasn't sure you didn't like him. John, well you're not sure if he has a girlfriend. You should find that one out first before you do ANYTHING. But, don't tell both of the boys you like them because someone will get hurt at the end. You want to make this a clean situation and not a complicating hurtful kind of situation. Anyways, you should make a pros and cons of each of them and see which one comes out better. Like who would make you happier, who makes you laugh more, etc. I hope this helps and just follow your heart with this one, not which one is hotter. If you still need help, just post another message in my inbox!! Tell me how everything goes!!

xoxo Kourtney

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My friends all say I'm still skinny, but I have gained 5 pounds in two weeks! Ever since I had to stop competative cheerleading I can't seem to commit to a workout routine or a healthy eating plan! Help summers almost here!

Every night before you go to sleep, do some situps.. atleast 25 each night.. you want to do more.. EXCELLENT! Drink water, not as much junk food, if you're going to eat junk food, atleast don't eat as MUCH of it, little portions would be better. Don't eat like 10 meals a day, just calm down alittle bit on it. And if you really want to, go and run alittle bit. Once you start working out, you'll just get use to it every night. You just have to keep your mind to it and you'll be able to do it. But, don't stop eating (first of all thats not good to do), because then if you stop eating and then start at it once again, you'll gain more weight. So, make sure you eat!! I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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how do you get rid of a pimple? pleasee help!

AHH I hate pimples. You can try putting toothpaste on it to dry it out. Or if it already has a white head on it, try popping it, but be careful popping it. I use cream from a dermatalogist because my sister works at one, you can try going to them and they can give you cream or whatever. I hope this helps and if you need anything else just leave a message in my inbox!! Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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im havin alot of trouble letting go of my boyfriend i love him so much and i dont know what to do but i know we need to break up, i feel so bad like i cant eat or sleep and i dont want to see a doctor or anything i just dont know how to make myself feel better its so hard letting him go :( help

Aww sweetie! Maybe you two need to take a break? Would that make you feel better, if you two did that? Just try talking to him about it, he should understand. You can't put yourself through this, you need to sleep and eat sweetie and feel better. Just sit him down and be like "I love you a lot and I'm having a lot of trouble doing this. I can't even eat or sleep because I'm stressing over this so much. But I think we should take a break/breakup (whichever you decide)." Just say something like that. You need to do that because you really need to get better so nothing bad happens to you. If you need to talk about anything, just leave a message here! I hope this helps and good luck hun, tell me how it goes! EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY!

xoxo Kourtney

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i dont no wether my gf is ready for sex

Well, if you're comfortable talking to her about this.. then go ahead and just casually ask you. Just be like "You know I love you (idk if you gusy say that), and I just feel like I'm ready to have sex with you and I just want to tell you whenever you're ready I'm ready too" I mean don't push her into something she's not ready to do. Wait until she's ready to have sex. Just always remember to be safe!

xoxo Kourtney

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have you ever ditched or backstabbed a friend?

No, not that I can recall or remember. See, I already have a trust problem with people, so I try not to ditch or backstab a friend because it's happened to me and it sucks really bad. Why do you ask?

xoxo Kourtney

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what does it taste like when u give heads?
is it lyk totally gross?

I've never done it, but I've heard that it is. If you want you can have your guy wear a flavored condom so it doesn't taste bad or make him pull it out before he cums. I hope this helps! If you need any more help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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my hair is straight already, but sometimes it flips on the ends. do you think it would be dumb if i got a straightener even though my hair is already straight?

NO!! It's not stupid at all! My hair is naturally straight and when I wake up late, I just straigten my hair to make it slit straight.. but if you do use a straightener just put some volume in your hair.. it'll look great! You don't have to worry about getting an expensive straightener either if you're hair is already straightened but don't get a WAY cheap one either haha! I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey
i'm a 16 year old gurl and i just recently started going out with one of my friends(gurl)and i dont know if i'm bi but i think i like her....anyways when i'm not with her i think about her but when i'm with her it feels odd and i dunno i just dont know how to act.....from what you here does this sound normal to you? and if i get anything like.....no its not normal cuz your with a gurl....i will give a very low rating anyways thx in advance to those who help!

Hey! No, it's normal to like a girl, some people are just like that! So, don't worry about that. But, you're probably feeling like this because you're just trying to get use to this whole thing because you're not use to going out with a girl. Do you know what I mean by that? Once you get use to knowing that you're going out with a girl, you'll feel more comfortable around her. So, when you're around her, just think as if you are when you're not around her (since you said you think about her all the time when you're not with her). You'll get use to the feeling of being BI I'm sure. It's just like if you had a b/f, like you have to get use to having a relationship with him. Do you know what I mean by all of this? I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok well me n my girl friend where watchin tv in her room and we started to mess around and the she gave me head and i fingerd her then i stuck my penis in her vga wit a condom can she b pregnat

No, she shouldn't be pregnant because you did use a condom, unless the condom broke, then there could be a chance that she's pregnant. But, since you used the condom and it didn't break, she shouldn't be pregnant. I hope this helps and if you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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ok so i use to get on this website hellz angels and get quotes and stuff but for some reason i cant open it... so do u have any other web sites that i can get quotes and talk on the message board and stuff...
xoxo me

Yea, that website hasn't been working for some reason lastely.

Try going to this website:
http://twisted-angel.cjb.net/

Or this one:
http://www.silent-suffering.net/forgotten-slippers/

I hope that one works for you. If it doesn't, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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Lose weight? I don't know how. I mean, i weight like really good, but by stomach is getting fatter than it usually is. I used to able to see my ribs! But now, I can barely see them!!

It's okay that you can't see your ribs, it doesnt mean that you're getting bigger. You don't want to look unhealthy. But, try going swimming, running, situps, eating healthier, drinking water, just stuff like that. You can also look through magazines (like YM, Teen people, etc..) and they always have ways to get healthier and lose weight! I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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my BMI is 16 - underweight. i am 14, 82 pounds, and 5'0. im NOT anorexic - dont want to be anorexic - have never been anorexic. or bulimic for that matter. all i want to do is be a healthy weight..and i dont know how to gain weight! help me please

Aww that's cute that you're little though! But, I'm sure you hate it huh? I'm sorry! But, you have a thing called High Metabolism (I think thats what it's called), it's where you can eat and eat and still won't gain weight. But, you should check with your doctor and see what you can do about that, because you can't really do anything about that, so you should see your doctor and see what he'll tell you! I'm sorry I can't really help you, but don't worry, NOTHING is wrong with you, I'm like that too though! So, don't worry!! =D I hope this makes you feel alittle bit better or whatever. If you need anything else, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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I haven't gotten a boyfriend yet (kinda sad, i know) and i don't know what im doing wrong. What do guys look for in a girl? Any tips?

How old are you? It's okay that you havent had a boyfriend yet! Nothin is wrong with you at all!! But, you just have to be yourself, I mean you wouldn't want to be someone you're not. You just have to flirt with guys and show them that you're interested, I'm sure they would do the same thing if they're interested in you. You just have to talk to them (not saying you don't) and be yourself. Once you do those, you should be good! Just think positive about yourself, don't put yourself down. I'm sure you're a great girl and any guy would be lucky to have you! I hope this helps and if you need anymore help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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I am 19 years old and have been seeing a girl for 2 and a half years. We recently broke up over christmas but have still been seeing each other because we get on really well as friends. I put my cards on the table so to speak and told her how i feel that i still love her and i want her back. She replied im still in love with you but i dont want to be in a relationship at the moment. When we see each other i keep on saying to her that i will get her back and she agrees with me she says we need time apart. Which i am willing to do if it means i get another chance becasue i really do care about her so much. The only thing i am scared of is there is another lad on the scene whos she assures me they are not seeing each other and just friends which i beleve, but im scared that when we are having our time apart she ends up having feelings for this lad and i wont get her back at all. What is the best way to go about trying to get her back? We went to the pictures lastight and it was goin brilliant then her phone went off and it was a text msg off this lad and her attitude towards me totally changed!

Aww wow 2 years! That's good! There's no way her feelings can just go away after that long! That's 2 years! But, that's good that you are comfortable around each other to tell each other how you feel and you might have to do that again to tell her how you feel about this girl who is telling you things. But, what I think is that this girl like you and is trying to get you away from her and by telling your ex g/f bad things about you, it will change her feelings toward you. But, that's just what I think! But, I'll help you out on what to say to your ex g/f (soon to be girlfriend!!! =D) Okay, just be like "We were together for 2 years and that's a lot to share with someone. You know I still care about you and I'm still in love with you! But, you say you are too, which is GREAT!, but you say you don't want a relationship right now.. When will you be ready to have one with me..? And the reason I sat you down is because I got told that you are talking to someone else, but is only "just friends" I need to know if you guys are or if I'm just wasting my time..." Just say something like that and how you feel and ask her what you want to know. I hope this helps and good luck hun! Tell me how it goes! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox!

xoxo Kourtney

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I have been going out with my boyfriend for almost 2 months now, which isnt much, but his birthday is coming up very soon and i dont kno what to get him. What do i get?

Well, what is your boyfriend into? Like if he's really into music, get him a t-shirt with his favorite band on there and then a CD he doesnt have. Ugh, well hmm.. I could help you wayyyy better if you told me what your boyfriend was like or into or whatever. So, if you just leave a message in my inbox with that info. I would love to try to help you out!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I never really wear make-up, because I don't think it looks good on me at all. Does anyone know of any colors I should be using or colors that would look good on me? I have black hair and brown eyes, and I have very white skin.

Try using like light eyeshadows, go for the natural look. You could try using like light pink, anything light would look great! And try using like a brown mascara and you could also curl your eyelashes if you want.. anyone can do that! And just use clear lipgloss, don't use any bronzer or blush. If you need coverup, go right ahead, just get the right color. If you're still having trouble, usually they help you in magazines, like what color would look best on your skin color! Try looking through like YM or Seventeen, any of those magazines! I hope this helps and good luck hun! If you still need help, just post a message in my inbox.

xoxo Kourtney

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