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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.

I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!

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I'm a songwriter and have written three or four songs. I would have written more but I have really high standards for how they sound. I know I probably won't be able to change the fact that I have high standards, but are there any tips for writing good lyrics?

What I think makes the best song, is really putting feelings into it. Writing it so that it provokes an emotion in people when they listen to it. Allowing people to relate to it, and know exactly what you mean. I also think you need something catchy, in it. Like, it's hard to explain...

Alright, I have an example of the feelings portion of my answer, have you ever heard the song "Six Feet Under The Stars" by All Time Low? If not, listen to it. The lyrics are just really good (in my opinion) not only for your question, but everybody whose trying to write songs and I think everyone has those feelings of not being good enough for somebody and wanting to impress somebody. The song just makes you remember a time you wanted so badly to impress somebody, and it provokes an emotion. See what I mean?

And what I said about the putting it in a catchy way, have you ever heard the song "If You Wanted A Song Written About You, All You Had To Do Was Ask" by Mayday Parade? Probably not, but the song has a PERFECT example of what I'm trying to say. During the song, there's a part that says:
"And you dropped the note, and we changed key.
You changed yourself and I changed me,
I really didn't see us singing through this.
Then you screamed the bridge and I cried the verse
and our chorus came out unrehearsed.
And you smiled the whole way through it,
I guess maybe that's what's worse."

The way they put that was just so catchy and I loved it, because they didn't just make the lyrics say something like: 'you gave up on me, I gave up on you, I didn't think we'd make it through this, but you were wrong." blah blah blah.

So bottom line, good songs (to me at least):
1. Provoke an emotion.
2. Put it in an interesting way.

Hope this Helps!

-Laura. (15-)

Hi, could someone please tell me how an ice rink can be improved as a business? or where i can find the information? like what can be done to increase profit/size/quality etc... I need it for a presentation :(

Any help would be greatly appreciated

Thanks

You could add things to the rink.
Like for example, a food court? Or a game room area with arcade style games.

You could also add a sound system to play music while people skate.

Or have themed skates, such as '50's skate night' where people dress up and you play only 50's music, etc.

Hope this helps!

-Laura. (15-f)

haha, ok maybe fierce isn't the word i'm looking for. well, i'm looking for a song that's tough, like, you don't need anyone/any guy or anything. just wondering, i don't have anything in mind, but i can't think of any songs like that at the moment. however, i was looking for something a little like rock/soft rock? if not, its cool, im into a ton of different varieties.

Well, I think I may have a few suggestions:

1. Misery Business- Paramore.
2. Hey Italy- Halifax.
3. Pretty Handsome Awkward- The Used.
4. Smile- Lily Allen.
5. This Is War- Flight 409.

-Laura. (15-f)

Ok so I really like this guys Dustin but everyone thinks he is a gigantac loser. I use to tease him too until I started hanging out with him. What should I do? If I told someone I liked Dustin I dont know what they would think! So any ideas of what I should do? All answers apreciated.

Honestly? Stop being shallow.

I mean, I'm sorry if that sounded rude, I didn't intend for it to be, but stop caring so much about other people's opinions on somebody else.
Others may think he's a 'loser' or something, but who cares? If YOU like him, and YOU want to hang out with him, who cares what the others say?

-Laura. (15-f)

There was this music video on Vh1 where the girl goes into a room and unpacks a box and then like the pictures come to life and shes on a boat in the water or something like that
and I forgot the singer and the name of the song,does anyone know what im talking about?

I don't know what song you're talking about, but I bet VH1 does!

http://www.vh1.com/music/videos/

-Laura. (15-f)

Where to get shirt on left? http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v152/thcbabe420/drunks-1.jpg

Hot Topic. They also have it in pink.

-Laura. (15-f)

I am very stressed out, in english class we have to type a 3-4 page essay and im realyl clueless about the topic which is : Relate to bill of rights. his example was Students should not have to stand up to recite the pledge of aliance because of their rights. but i honestly can not think of anything to write about and its due real soon. help please!

Well, I just took an American Government class and we had to do a project similar to yours.

I think what your teacher wants you to do (though I'm not positive as I am NOT the teacher), is pick an amendment and then relate to it, using an example. Like the one he used, was that student's First Amendment rights say they have freedom of speech. This means that they shouldn't have to SAY the pledge because of the freedom of SPEECH. Get it? I mean, that's what I'm seeing it as.

One idea my group had for our project was:

- Newspapers in schools should not be filtered, because of the First Amendment (Freedom of speech, religion, and press)
Then we used cases that relate to it. I knew of a really good one but the name escapes me. I'm sure you could find examples on Google, though.

Or you can do something like, people should not be able to own guns (Second amendment) because of the misuse of guns. Then use examples, perhaps, of people who were shot wrongfully.

Your best bet if you still don't understand, though, is to ask your teacher. Just go in one day before class and ask him if he can better explain what he wants you to do and maybe help get you started.

Good Luck && Hope this helps =]

-Laura. (15-f)

what are some really great yet not too expensive perfumes that guys LOVE. my bf doesnt know what scents he likes and i kinda prefer sweet smells but i dont really care. i just want a smell that will drive him crazy! thank you so much! :)

Nollie from PacSun. I wear it and get compliments on it all the time ;]

-Laura. (15-f)

does anyone know where go get necklaces that have seperate wings on them, like either gold or silver? and are kinda small-ish?
like not as big as this:
http://www.pyramidcollection.com/images/P15447B.jpg

thankss!:]

I'd say to try Claire's and Forever 21.

-Laura. (15-f)

okay..high school classes can be very boring sometimes, as I'm sure you all know..and I suffer from..falling asleep during some of them.

I can't help it. Sometimes..even when I get like 10 hours of sleep, my eye lids still feel heavy..and they droop down..and I feel like sleeping. No matter what I do..clench my butt muscles, pump my veins, drink water..NOTHING works. what can I do to cure this? lol

Draw pictures. I'm serious. That's what I do. I have this extremely boring class, and I just doodle or read and it keeps me awake. Or, I agree with the person below who said go to the bathroom and splash cold water on your face. This way, not only are you waking up because of the water on your face, but you're up and moving and whatnot, too.

Or, try getting less than 10 hours of sleep. I read somewhere (in one of my mom's medical books not on the internet) that getting MORE sleep can cause reverse side affects. So, try getting like, 8 a night instead of 10 and see if that helps.

-Laura. (15-f)

i've been searching forever trying to find out 3 things that affect the population growth of either france or guatemala. i cannot find anything and i need help! i just need websites that could help me

-Laura. (15-f)

Are private school (over public) people more hardcore in terms of drugs, trouble, and sex or is it just a rumor? Any reasons why?

I think it depends. I know my school ( a public school) has A LOT of kids who drink (which I don't take part in) and A LOT of kids who use drugs (something I also do not take part in). I mean, it's sad to say, but I could probably name more people I know who drink than those who do not. I probably know more people who've told me stories about getting in trouble with the police, than those who tell me stories of good things, like passing a chemistry test. I find it sad, really, that that is what my school has succumb to. I mean, there are good people at my school (like my close friends and I), don't get me wrong, but there are just far too many people doing things they shouldn't.

Why this is, I don't know. Maybe because the private schools, like those that focux more on religion teach the kids more about not to doing destructive things like drink?

-Laura. (15-f)

Well every guy i date wants to have sex with me
but im really scared and want to wait till i find the right guy or im married and they dump me should i just give it up to them?

NO. Stay stronger sister.
That was about the lamest thing I've ever said, but I mean it. ;]

Don't do something just because a guy wants you to. Don't rush into something you're not comfortable with. I would dump these guys, because the one that's worth it, is one who respects you and your values and will wait until you are ready.

-Laura. (15-f)

how can i be a happy person if:

i hate where i live
i dislike every person who lives here
i am a moody person and get annoyed very easily
i go on and off with friends, like ill not like them, except one of them, for a week, then get annoyed with that person, and switch off (etc.)
sometimes i dont like any of them
after broke up with my bf almost 3 months ago, i forgot how to be happy, even though im over him now
i couldnt change friends even if i wanted to. the transition wouldnt be worth it.

please teach me how to be happy. i cant make myself have a better outlook on life. it just doesnt work. ill have happy times, but it doesnt last for long.what do i do with myself? i liked it better before i faced the reality of life. last year i was oblivious now after my 5 month relationship, i cant find that same high spirited person i used to be. where did that person go? how can i be that person again? how do i stop my moodiness? i cant help it.

thanks;;
xhopeless

Honestly? We can't tell you how to be happy.

It really isn't that complicated of a concept. You need to stop focusing on all the negativity in your life, and start seeing the good.
You need to surround yourself with people who you're comfortable with, and people who make you feel good.
You could also try finding a hobby, a passion, something. For me, it's writing. It's a great way of expressing myself and letting everything out.

Start a blog, join a club, take up photography, paint pictures, write a book, go for a jog, just get up and DO something. Find that something.

Or, if none of what I'm saying helps, talk to somebody. Whether it be a friend, a parent, a sibling, or a guidance counslor. Talk to someone. Make a new friend, one you trust with virtually anything. Find somebody (not just anybody) who makes you smile. I know I made friends just recently with somebody, and he's someone I turn to when I'm feeling down. Find somebody that makes you smile, no matter how crappy or close to tears you are. I mean, I have more than just this friend (and you should have more than just this friend when you find him/her) But trust me, just knowing that someone is there, that someone cares about you, will make your life a little brighter.
I hope this helps, and if you ever want to talk to me (even though you don't know me or anything) I'm here.

-Laura. (15-f)

where can i get some cute myspace layouts that hides my top friends list && hides my comments?? thanks 4 whoever helps.

You don't need a layout to hide top friends and comments. All you need are the codes.

But for some really cute layouts, here's a great site: www.myspace.com/dontchalayoutsx3
;]

-Laura. (15-f)

There is this girl in my English Class and I really like her, but just recently she got a boyfriend.
Now because I am also friends with her boyfriend, I feel guilty liking her. Is it still ok to talk to her, as friends?

Why wouldn't it be? As long as you're not majorly flirting with her and secretly scheming to break them up, it's perfectly fine.

-Laura. (15-f)

Okay i have a problem. I am in eigth grade and i only had one boyfriend more than a year ago. he wanted to hook up but i wasnt ready, but now i am and we broke up and i want a boyfriend! and i want someone i trust to hook up with, and i just want someone to hold me and i have really bad taste in guys, they're always jerks, so what do i do!!!

Don't rush into anything. I know you may feel like you 'need' a boyfriend, but really, relationships aren't all they're cracked up to be. And rushing into something will only end up with you getting hurt.

Second, if you DO decide to begin dating (or whatever you're calling it), find a good guy (obviously). What I mean, is don't just hook up with the first guy you meet. Don't hook up with a guy simply because he called you pretty or said nice things. Take your time finding somebody who makes you happy, who you can trust. Find a guy that you're comfortable with, and whose comfortable with you, too. Ya know?

Really, not having a boyfriend isn't a big deal. You're still young and you've got plenty of time left for guys.

-Laura. (15-f)

so on my ipod i always have the option "shuffle" on so that it just plays random songs. but ive noticed it always plays the same random songs and like months after i add a song i finally hear it and forget i ever had it on there because the "shuffle" just like ignored playing it.

does anyone know if there are any like secrets to getting the ipod to play ALL the songs not just shuffle the same frikin ones?

i have an ipod nano by the way.

I don't know if this will do anything, but when you open iTunes, click on 'Party Shuffle'.
Then, there's a box that says 'play higher rated songs more often'. Try unchecking it and see if that does anything.

I have that box unchecked, and when I 'shuffle' my songs, it never plays the same ones over and over.

*Also, make sure that in the box above where it says 'source', it says 'music' or whatever the title of your playlist with ALL of your songs in it is called.

-Laura. (15-f)

Ok so is just making scratches on your skin (not bleeding) unhealthy?

I'd say yes. Any type of destructive behavior (such as making scratches on your wrists) is unhealthy.

-Laura. (15-f)

13/f

ok is it un normal to still be a virgin or not hooked up yet for my age?

Yes. It's completely normal. Stay that way.

-Laura. (15-f)

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