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happiness
how can i be a happy person if:
i hate where i live
i dislike every person who lives here
i am a moody person and get annoyed very easily
i go on and off with friends, like ill not like them, except one of them, for a week, then get annoyed with that person, and switch off (etc.)
sometimes i dont like any of them
after broke up with my bf almost 3 months ago, i forgot how to be happy, even though im over him now
i couldnt change friends even if i wanted to. the transition wouldnt be worth it.
please teach me how to be happy. i cant make myself have a better outlook on life. it just doesnt work. ill have happy times, but it doesnt last for long.what do i do with myself? i liked it better before i faced the reality of life. last year i was oblivious now after my 5 month relationship, i cant find that same high spirited person i used to be. where did that person go? how can i be that person again? how do i stop my moodiness? i cant help it.
thanks;;
xhopeless
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If I were you I would start my decison to be happy by making every little thing count. Like say you really like umm french fries and tomarow your havin them think of the positives in your life. You could be im a dumpster eating garbge and sleeping on the street [without your french fries]. Also I would try to do things youve never done before make your life a adventure and vent threw a councler or on your computer. Try to breath in threw your nose and out threw your mouth when you have a MOODY moment so you can just think about what your doing at that very moment. Look at the positives and try to make some friends!
Hope this will help.
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Well, here is a really fantastic site that will brighten your outlook:
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Choose a "practice" to the right.
As for your friends; you could do without them. Your relationship with them is unstable and that could be hard to handle. Even if it means being a loner for a few days, distance yourself from them. You need to figure out who you've been and how to arrive at such a point. Doing so, is easier once you have some moments to yourself.
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try not to take this in a depressing way, but at some point, we all lose that "high spirited" person. And the one thing you could do to waste your time is to try chasing that person. Don't forget that as humans, we tend to exaggerate the past. The past is almost always remembered as "brighter, happier, and better" than it really was. As much as you'd hate the transition, the truth is that if you are so miserable where you are, you really have nothing to lose. I don't know you, or your friends, but from an outside perspective, logically, if these people aren't making you happy now, they probably never will. Re-evaluate. maybe the transition would be worth it.
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Honestly? We can't tell you how to be happy.
It really isn't that complicated of a concept. You need to stop focusing on all the negativity in your life, and start seeing the good.
You need to surround yourself with people who you're comfortable with, and people who make you feel good.
You could also try finding a hobby, a passion, something. For me, it's writing. It's a great way of expressing myself and letting everything out.
Start a blog, join a club, take up photography, paint pictures, write a book, go for a jog, just get up and DO something. Find that something.
Or, if none of what I'm saying helps, talk to somebody. Whether it be a friend, a parent, a sibling, or a guidance counslor. Talk to someone. Make a new friend, one you trust with virtually anything. Find somebody (not just anybody) who makes you smile. I know I made friends just recently with somebody, and he's someone I turn to when I'm feeling down. Find somebody that makes you smile, no matter how crappy or close to tears you are. I mean, I have more than just this friend (and you should have more than just this friend when you find him/her) But trust me, just knowing that someone is there, that someone cares about you, will make your life a little brighter.
I hope this helps, and if you ever want to talk to me (even though you don't know me or anything) I'm here.
-Laura. (15-f)
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Well nobody can teach you to be happy. Only you can. Maybe you should talk to somebody about it like a pyschologist. Think about the things that do make you happy in life and enforce them into your thoughts. Thins about what you really want in life and set some goals.
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No one can teach you to be happy; you have to figure that out yourself. Realize things aren't always going to go your way, you maybe stuck in situations at times that you don't like but thats not a reason to give up on life. I don't mean "give up on life" as if you want to end your life; I mean it like you can't find a reason to be happy anymore and you always feel like things are wrong.
You don't need to be in a relationship to feel content. I'm not a psychologists by any means but if you think you NEED to be in a relationship then maybe your self esteem needs some work. At this point you probably can't help where you're living or who you're living with so try to make the most of it. Avoid conflict with whoever your problem is with. Give in to things sometimes and pick your battles.
If you don't like your friends, go out and try to meet new people. Have a little fun...just not with drugs/alcohol. Meeting people around those situations isn't always the best. Just remember that life goes on and somethings we just have to accept because life isn't perfect. But life is wonderful, whether you feel like everything isn't right or not.
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