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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






advice

Okay people I hang out with, just like companions are **joking** about me and its pissing me off.
They talk about my weight(yes im fat) my neck (which is black) and if they'd go out with me or not. Yeahh there guys. They also do it to my BBF Becky. But shes not fat and doesnt have a black neck... they said they'd go out with her if she was skinners blonde and has less achne. But the main person who does this is a gorrilla!
Im tired of it! I have anger management problems I dont know how to conduct my emotions in a good way and the next time he or any of them say something im gunna haul off and smack a HOE! They get all surprised when im upset.. and im tired of them acting like im not even there.
Ive tried breaking away, but they fucking fallow me! Just like moths to light!
Err anything would be good, because I dont want ISS..

Well, you definitely need to tell them that their comments are rude and inappropriate. Let them know if that is the best subject matter they can come up with to talk about women, best of luck to them in the dating game.
If you don't want to hang out with them, don't try to break away- DO. If they follow you, make sure it is damn clear to them that you DO NOT wish to be graced with their presence any longer.

Or, you can get them at their own game. You and Becky sit around and talk about them in the same manner. Maybe they will either A) get the point, or B) get lost.

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my boyfriend is amazing. weve been going out for four months, and hes already given me two expensive bracelets and bought me an $130 dollar jacket for no reason at all. he remembers every detail and cares about me like no tomorrow. he treats me like a princess and i just dont know what i can do for him. im really bad with gifts. any ideas?

Well, it isn't the price of the gift you give that matters, it is the thought you put behind it.
If you want to give him a gift, then think hard about what he likes and what you can do to make a gift about it. For example, if he likes Chinese food, cook him a Chinese dinner. If he likes a certain band, take him to their concert.

I'm sure that though the gifts he got for you were expensive in price, he probably thought long and hard about what he wanted to get you. Reason being because he wanted to.

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I have a crush on this boy at school hes in 2 of my classes. I think hes new because its the frist year i see him. Anyway hes like a football player and I dont even know his name. He quiet and sits al the way in the front. Any way so How do I talk to him? what do i do to catch his eye. We dont know or hang with the same people so none of our friend know each other. What can i do to get a conversation started with out looking like a complet fool.

You need to start out by finding out what his name even is. Otherwise, you are putting the buggy in front of the horse.
Start out with something like "Hi, my name is so and so. Just figured that since we share some classes we should at least have introductions." Let it go from there.

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God me and my mom dont agree on anything
Whenever were out together, we argue about everything. Even when she tries to be nice it seems like shes trying 2 make me feel bad. I just hate being around her. And its so horiable. Shes my mom fo gods sake. Wer not suposed 2 be like that. Wer suposed 2 agree on somthing. Anything involving any sort of opinion we fight about. She dosent agree with anything i think. It makes it so hard 2 be around her. Help me please. How do i fix this?
Shes unwilling to admit we have a problem. She just laughs and apologizes and tries 2 cover it up.

13/F btw

She needs to at least admit YOU have a problem and listen to your thoughts and feelings about it. You need to be straight up with her and say something like "Maybe WE don't have a problem, but I do, and we need to discuss this and try to work it out."

You are right, she is your mother. She doesn't have to agree with you, but she needs to at least give you the respect of listening to you.

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Recently i started dating a guy and i really like him problem is he also just told me he has hsv1 so now im freaking out waht ways can you catch hsv1? Sex? kissing? can you only catch it if the sore on his mouth is present?How about sex without a condom i enjoy it more without and im on the pill before i have sex i make the guy get tested..can i get it if we have sex without a condom even if its sores on his mouth only and when we do have sex there are no sores present? He says hes really careful and that he hardly gets them cause he takes care of himself so he wont see me when he has it. If sores arnt present can i get hsv1?

http://www.herpes.com/hsv1-2.html
You should read that link.
Better yet? You NEED to ask your doctor about this.

No matter how good it feels without a condom, you should ALWAYS use one. Birth control or no. Condoms are the only things to protect you from STDs, and you should get yourself in the habit of practicing safe sex at all times.

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I have the biggest anxiety problems. Over the tiniest most stupidest things. Like, if I lose something in school, I won't stop thinking about it for like...ever. I don't know what to do. This worry thing is driving me insane..How can a person overcome it?

Read the information in this link.
It just may be helpful to you:
http://www.mothernature.com/Library/Bookshelf/Books/19/9.cfm

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14/f (Not Long)

I just met this guy in high school. We talk all the time in English class and thats about it. We have eachother on msn, and i do make an effort to talk to him but he only always has to go at that point. This conversation we had on msn today:

Me: What do we have for English hmwk?
Him: I dont know
Me: Didnt you copy it down?
Him: Nopee i didnt
Me: Okay, ill get it tomorrow
Him: Kayy byee
Me: Oh, are you leaving?
Him: Nope, i dont feel like talking anymore
Me: Ohhkay...bye...

He stayed on for about 10-15 minutes more. What did that mean? All answers are greatly appreciated.

To be honest, it seems to me, from the info provided, that he is not interested. :(
Either that, or he has no interest in holding a conversation about English assignments, and assumes that is all you want to talk about?

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for the physical fitness test in gym, i need to do at least 20 push-ups but i dont have good upper body strength. any at home tricks that i need no equipment for that will help greatly? thanks in advance!

Best thing you can do to get your body built up to do push ups, is... push ups.
Do them at home, a few a day, until your upper body strength is built up enough so that you can do 20 for your test.

Best tips you can get are from Evolution. He is a Certified Fitness trainer. If you don't hear from him, you can ask him in his inbox. Here is a link to his column:http://www.advicenators.com/column.php?u=Evolution

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Well, I started going out with this guy on Friday. I dumped him today, because the relationship was weak, and it felt strained. He was quite upset and very surprised when I dumped him, and he actually told me he wanted to go back out with me. But both of his best friends who I am very tight with told me he only went out with me because he felt bad, and they didn't say it unkindly, they told me because they felt I deserved to know. And I don't get it. If he didn't actually like me, then why was he so upset about me dumping him? And i dont know what I should say to him. He told me to think about going back out with him, and i told him I would think about it. I'm really confused. :( Help pleasee.

Well, you can't always trust his that his friends are telling you the truth.
If he only went out with you because he felt bad, he wouldn't be wanting you to get back together. In fact, if he was only dating you because he felt bad, he would have been relieved that you broke up. Correct?
Maybe they said that because they don't want you together? Maybe they are just jerks like that. In fact, sounds to me like they are.
Best bet? Tell him what his friends said. Let HIM tell you the truth of the matter.

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What is a good beginner sportbike? Who makes the most reliable bike (Honda, BMW, SUZUKI, YAMAHA, etc.). I would REALLY like a crotch rocket, but I'm not sure.

I can't tell you which would be a good beginner's bike, but I CAN tell you a crotch rocket is NOT it.
They are fast and dangerous, and should only be driven by experienced riders.
I know a guy who got one for a "beginner" and didn't make it very far down the road before he wrecked so bad he is very lucky to still be alive.
I know you want one, but wait a while on it. Make sure you get plenty of experience with a different sport bike before you jump on to a crotch rocket.
I hope someone will answer with what would be a good beginner's sport bike.

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My name is Ashley and I 16 years old. I live in Ohio. I have a 9 month old son. I want to get emanciapted and move in with my boyfriend and his grandmother but i need help. The law requires you to be married or inlisted in the arm forces. Marriage is a last resort. I am in love with my boyfriend i dont want to raise my son in my fathers home. My boyfriend and i were gonna get married when im 18 but i need to find away to move in with him please help!

The best thing you can do is seek legal advice from an attorney. They know all the laws and loop holes.
You can get free legal advice from your county attorney.

Honestly? If you are in love with your boyfriend, and plan to be married at 18 anyway, why is marriage a last resort?

You can also discuss with the attorney what you can do to have guardianship transfered to his grandmother, since you will be living with her if you live with him.

No matter what you do, your parents will surely have to sign consent, but only an attorney from Ohio can really tell you all of the little details, and which is the best way to approach this matter.


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will someone tell me britney spears e-mail adress?

Honestly? The only people who have her email address are probably family and friends. People she personally knows. The same people who she would give her phone number to.
I doubt you will find any of those folks who will be willing to just give it to you without knowing you. :(

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Hopefully I will be getting a tattoo in a few weeks. I really, really want it, so no lectures on, "Remember, this is a permanent choice." I'm pretty good at dealing with pain. (I got my nose pierced) I KNOW a tattoo will hurt somewhat but I don't want to feel like I'm dying. I want to get a small/medium sized rose on my calf. (leg) It could take an hour or more, and I definitely don't want to be in EXCRUCIATING pain for that long, but I really want the tattoo.

Has anyone gotten a tattoo? if so, could you describe what it feels like and how much it hurts?

No worries, I won't lecture you on anything. I heard it all before, myself. All I will say is don't put names on your body (exception being your children's name's) and make sure it isn't something you will hate in the future. But I wager you know all that already. :)

I got one on my shoulder blade. Mine took 35 minutes. It wasn't bad at all, but I can't tell you what it would be like on your calf.
I know at some points, she hit a more tender area that kinda hurt, but for the most part, it just felt like vibration going across my skin.

I just wish I would have brought a book along. I about went nuts having to sit still and do nothing for that period of time.
So, you may want to bring along a good book, magazine, or something to keep you entertained that doesn't require moving around. I wouldn't suggest taking something you have to listen to with ear phones, because they may have important things to say to you, or instructions you need to hear.

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Hi

I wrote up a query letter to be sent out to try to become a advice columnist. The rest is the hard part. Do I make up sample questions to accompany my query letter, or just write a column about what kind of advice on the field of expertise I am in, or what else?

As well, there are so many sample query letters out there? How do I know what is right?

Last, should I send it email, or snail mail?

Hope you can help! Thanks for listening!

Carrie from Canada!

Well, I don't know if I can be much help with all your questions, but regarding sample questions:
Do you have a column on this site? If you do, you can copy and paste the questions and your answers onto a letter to send. Or, if sending the info by email, you could just copy and paste your column link.

Nothing tells them more about the kind of advice you give than the actual advice you give.

If you don't have a column on this site, it is easy to get one by following this link: http://www.advicenators.com/register.php

I'm sorry, but that is the only question I know I can help with, but I hope it was helpful, and that someone else comes along who knows the answer to the rest of your questions. :)

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First I'll give you a brief description of my hair
Length: Just about 1mm above shoulders
Color: Dull Blondish brownish
Type: Frizzy/Wavy

ok i have wavy frizzy hair naturally and all the "controlling products that i use barely help, so please don't suggest anymore.
but i just need to know what are some ways to make hair look neat and pretty, it doesnt have to be like superstar but just something simple to do in about 30-50 minutes. straightening my hair because it my hair is about 5 layers thick and shoulder lenth straightening it usually takes 2 hrs!!
thanks and i know this can be a difficult question for my hair type.

I don't know if this is what you are looking for, but have you tried getting short layers?
My hair is just like yours. When I tie it in a ponytail, I can only get the hair tie to wrap around it twice, I have that much hair.
I don't style it with irons, because to do so takes a couple hours. I don't have that kind of time to spend on my hair, either.
BUT. If you got short layers (keeping your length, of course) your hair won't look like there is so much there.
My hair has a natural wave to it. It looked frizzy until I had short layers cut.
See, I just have so much hair on my head, that it was actually poofy, causing it to appear frizzy.
That is why all the controlling products didn't do a lick of good for me.
Bonus about these layers? My hair actually has a little more curl to it in the shorter layers. Extremely thick hair means extremely heavy hair- it weighs out your natural curl.
Now doing my hair is a snap. I towel dry, comb, add mousse, scrunch it a bit with my hands, and.... go. That's it. Done. 5 minutes or less. My hair looks good, healthy, and has enough curl to make it look like I actually put blood, sweat and tears into the job. ;D
Like I said, I don't know if that is what you are looking for, but that is what I had to do with mine in order to be able to do something with it, so thought I would at least tell you about it. :)

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If you was with your boyfriend like last week, and you guys madeout.. and you started getting a bump on your lip a few days later..like a coldsore? does that mean he's cheating on you? or he's not clean or something?
Well, I got one, I don't think it's one tho, cause I popped it and I think it's a pimple cause yeah, I don't know, I'm confused.


Is he cheating on me?

No. It doesn't mean he is cheating on you. It means either he has the virus and spread it to you, or you have the virus and it never made a sore until recently.
I've provided a link below full of information about cold sores:
http://www.answers.com/cold+sore?cat=health&gwp=11&method=3&ver=2.1.1.521

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is Jaslene from america's next top model deaf? my mom said she is, but i dont think she is. i've also heard shes a transsexual. is that true too?

I don't find anything saying she is deaf, nor transsexual. Anything is possible, but I doubt it is the case with her or it would be easily found searching the internet.
If she were deaf, I would bet my hat that I would be reading about that as well as that she is the first full Latina to win, and the second shortest to win.
Like I said, anything is possible, but I doubt these are anything more than rumors.

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I am begingin to do research on to become a Social Worker.I have 2 years of high school left, and i've always wanted ot be one, but I just don't know where to go to collage.I need to go somewhere in Ohio..What would I major in? That would help me decide alotSociology?medical transcriptionist?medical administrative assistant?I want a PHD.if that helps any?thanks, a lot.and don't answer if yuo "think that's teh answer" or you would suppose it is.i need theee answer.thanks everyone!

You should go to your school guidance councilor. A part of their job is to help you figure out what you need to do in order to pursue the career of your choice.
They want you to further your education, and they will help you find out which would be the best college for you, what classes you should major in, etc.
They will even help you find the funding, such as financial aide, student loans, student grants, etc, and they will help you apply for these things.
Basically, they can help you out in a way that suits your personal needs, rather than someone giving you suggestions based on what was best for theirs.
A lot of kids don't realize that is a part of the reason they are there, so they don't know to take advantage of their services. ;)

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Lately I've been really tired in the mornings. School started over a month ago and I can still barely keep myself awake in my first and second block classes...and it sometimes lasts until the end of the day. I go to sleep at about 11:30 and wake up at 6:15. I need to start waking up at 5:45 so I can work out in the mornings, but that'll be hard when I can barely keep my eyes open in the morning.

What's something that can keep me awake during school? Do those Vitamin B pills work? I need something that actually works and won't make me crash when it wears off. I hear that those energy drinks wear off quick and you feel really bad when that happens. It's not something I can fix with my diet because I eat healthy and I can't go to sleep earlier.

Any help would be greatly appeciated.

Actually, getting up and working out will do you wonders. Nothing gets the blood pumping first thing in the morning like exercise. That is the best thing you can do for yourself to get your motor going for the day.

Also, I read that eating an apple in the morning does more to wake you up and energize you than a cup of coffee. All natural and good for you, too. It is worth a shot, anyhow.

You can try energy pills and drinks, but they aren't good for your body. Also, you wouldn't want to become dependent on them.

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Michael Jackson is going to be on the cover of the Italian men magazine L'Uomo Vogue, I believe next month, and I reallllly want to get it. Does anyone know any stores that will sell it when it comes out?

I would wager, unless you live in Europe, that you will have to order a copy of the magazine via the internet.

I can't find where you can order it to be sent to you before hand (you may want to do further research into that) but you can buy back issues if you do a Google product search.

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