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this guy who likes me (Kyle) and i like him well we haven't gotten into a relationship just yet! but there is a rumor that me and another guy (Mark) are going out! and when i see Kyle looking at me when i'm flirting with Mark! and that gets him upset. what do i do? and what if mark does ask me out?! what do i tell kyle?

Just talk to Kyle. Tell him the rumors aren't true. If Mark does ask you out you have to tell Kyle. But remember just because you go on a date with someone doesn't mean you two are girllfriend and boyfriend (unless you want to be!). If you really rather go with Kyle tell him that. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I just bought this really cute long sleeved, navy blue, button down shirt. It's adorable... but I do not know what pants to wear with it. I was thinking jeans, but then I thought that might be too much blue/ too dark. What would be the best color pants to wear with the shirt (I don't have khaki's). Thanks!

The jeans would be perfect. The second I read the part about not knowing the pants even before the not sure about jeans I thought it would be perfect. Really almost anything would match with that. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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Theres this guy I like and he just tried asking out this girl whos a grade ahead of us but he got turned down(plus if she said yes, this guy in her grade and his friends would have beat up "my guy". Now, all through the year. Ever since August, this boy has been flirtin with me and acting like he seriously likes me. We talk on the phone, chill together at school. We're almost always around each other when we're not in classes we don't have together. And whenever we are around each other, we always end up talking about something and everyone else in our group just talks amongst themselves. Well, last night, me and him were talking on the phone and he asked me who I wanted to go out with in our school. And I said, "I don't know. I have someone in mind. He's cute and sweet and funny and nice and..." and he said "Come on, stop talkin about me" and I laughed. Then he said, "But you know, a lot of people have been coming up to me telling me that you like me" and I was like "Ok, well you know a lot of people have been comin up to me telling me you like me" and he said(in a sarcastic tone that means the same as "duh") "No, really?" and so I was like "Yea" and well, I'm just wondering what you all think. I'm thinking hes liking me but I'm not too sure and I don't want to tell him I like him. At least not yet. I plan on calling him tonight and talking about it a bit more but, in the meantime I'd really appreciate any advice you all might have for me. Thanks.

Call him and say you want to talk about the conversationg from last night. Don't come right out and say that you like him just say something that would let him know you would go out with him if he asked. Drop a few hints. But if you're brave enough you should come out and say it. But if you're not brave enough you don't have to. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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I cried this morning, and I never cry. I haven`t cried in months so this was somewhat of a big deal and I almost killed myself but my friend calmed me down. I cut myself, I did it not because I wanted to hurt myself or was upset for any good reason just because I could, it's dumb I know. My mother hates me, like seriously unconditionally hates me and tries to ruin my life by thinking anything that makes me a bit happy is stupid or along the lines of stupidity. I can`t talk to her that`ll just make things worse, and I don`t want to bring my dad into this because he tells her everything. Why can`t my life be better?! What did I do?! xxOo

Talk to your school guidence consuler. That's why they are there. Ask them if they have a way to get your family into consuling. Also, if your mom hits you immedatly call the cops. For your cutting try putting a rumber band around your wrist and when you want to cut snap the ruber band to your wrist. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck!

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i had a bad day today i mean a REALLY bad day what should i do to cheer myself up? thanx!

Have a spa day for yourself, do yoga, watch your favorite movie, hang out with friends, eat chocalate (ONLY A FEW PIECES SO YOU DON'T GET FAT/SICK), write it down in a diary, or even just crying can sometimes help. I hope I hepled! ♥ good luck and be happy!

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there r 3 girls i like at my school, but they all have bfs already with no sign of breaking up, ive been really good friends with them for a while and have gone out with them in the past, i just really miss having a gf and im lookin for advice

ps-dont say look for other girls cuz every1 else at my school is too preppy and green

Look beyond the preppy and whatever the "green" apperance is. Yeah I'm a girl so I don't know what guys look for but a lot of relationships start from hate and then become more. I don't mean to be rude by saying look for someone else but you have to. There are other fish in the sea. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck EDIT I know you said don't look for other girls and i told you to and you gave me a one. WELL GET POVER YOURSELF THE WORLD DOESNT REVOLE AROUND YOU THEY'RE NOT GOING TO DUMP THEIR BF BECAUSE YOU WANT THEM TOO.....BUT I DIDNT WANT TO HURT YOUR FEELINGS WITH THE TRUTH BUT TOO LATE!!!

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I overheard one of my friends telling a boy how I had criend over what she oviously thought was nothing and laughing over it. Sometimes she runs away from some of her other friends (who are also my friends) and me with her bitchy friend, then pretends it was nothing and that Im over reacting. Then she is really friendly again.She has done this so many times now I secretly don't like her at all. However, she is really popular and I think if I stopped being her friend all my friends would still be with her as she has this way of making people side with her. I don't know what to do about it..(Sorry about the length).
Zoinatrobe.

That's happened to me before too. I'm not going to use any names but there was this girl me and a lot of ymy friends hated and one of our friends still liked her. Anyway you should stop being her friend. But before you do explain to your other friends why you're doing this and that you still want to be friends with them just not her. If they don't like you even though you said that they're not real friends. Find some who don't care who you're friends with as long as you're a good friend. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck _EDIT- Well if you really want to stay friends with her then talk things out. I was loooking too much in the situation I had eith a girl like this. So if you guys were really close talk things out.

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Her, I'm having a a slumber party (10 girls) What should we do? ( we aren't allowed to invite guys over, cuz we're only 13)

Watch movies, do crafts, play games, go on the computer, watch TV, gossip (if you're the type), read magazines. If you want more ideas leave one in my inbox. ♥ good luck!

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I need help i have these very nice pink pants that i want to wear tomorrow to school...i'm going to match them with my white/pink phat farms i have...but the thing is that i dont know what color shirt to wear can you please help? would white be a good color? and if so would a gray/pink jacket go with it? thanks!!! respone ASAP! thanks agaiN!

Yes white would be a perfect color and the jacket would mtch to. ♥ good luck

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Hey Everybody!
My High School will be having a Sweethearts Dance in February, and the girls ask out the guys. Well, there's this guy I like and in the past we had our little trouble times, but I think he likes me again! I want to ask him, but I don't know how. So, do any of you know how I should ask him to the dance?

I know I have asked this question before, just a little reminder because I need to ask him, now! So if you have anymore ideas, tell me as soon as possible!!
Love you guys.
~MiSSc~

P.S.~ I wanna do something sweet for him since he's a sweet guy. I want to ask him out that involves a poem, chocolate (because he loves chocolate), or anything special or cool. So, Got any tips?

Drop a note into his locker that has a poem in it and at the end write something like I'll give you a kiss to let you know who I am. Then buy a big hersey's kiss and and give it to him but before you do put a card in the box that says will you be mine or something like that. I hope I helped! ♥ good luck

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does yoga help you lose weight?

Yep for yoga but I'm not sure about water...... EDIT yeah drinking water does help you loose weight.

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does anyone know how do put icons and things like that one our adive column? thanks a bunch

You upload a file from your computer. You go to profile settings and it says upload a picture. It has to be a gif* file though. I hope I helped! ♥ me

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I know Valentine's day isn't for a while, but I like to start stuff early so I'm ready. Well I wanted some ideas for what to get or do for my boyfriend of over more than a year! any suggestions? thanks

>>.*. So Inlove .*.

Get him candy. Something simple yet sweet. Just something that shows you care. I hope I helped! ♥ me

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Hey, can anyone tell me where you can get already made icons, like the pictures on Advicenators?? THANKS

If you want doll ones go to dollrock.com (sopme I made are there) or dollbuddieicons.com. EDIT or like everyone already said iconator... I made some there too!!!

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I always look at myself and see how not pretty I am. I hate it. Then I look around at all my friends..why do they get to be automatically pretty? No makeup for some--but still not ugly. I have kind of chubby cheeks but not huge. I have dark blonde, almost brown-ish straight hair a little past my shoulders. I'm sort of tan, but not much. My eyes are hazel, mostly green. If I go out or to school, I wear eyeliner and that's it. I also have a little bit of a belly. I really think I'm not pretty. I've never had a boyfriend, and maybe that's why? Any ideas for makeup that's not too drastic, that will make my face look better? If you have ANYTHING..please tell me.

First off you are not ugly and I wish I looked like you. Some boys care about the *perfect* looking girl which doesn't exist so they're full of crap if that's why they say no to you. Try some pale green eyeshadow to bring out your eyes. A light lip gloss and some mascarra (however you spell it) would work to. I hope I hepled!

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I'm inviting 4 of my best friends over for a small group gathering party. We're going to the movies, which'll take up like 4 hours.. But do you guys have anymore ideas.. Thanks XO

Go shopping after. I hope I helped!

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Please do not delete this question:
I looked @ your webpage and it was so cool! I lvoed it! Great Job! But i know where to get music for you page, but I dont know how to get it on my page. Please answer me! Thanks! :)

Just paste it to your profile. I hope I hepled!...you gave me a two!!!! rude...i told u what to do u paste it to your profile there's a code and you put it there!!!!!!! i hope i didn't help!!!....nevermind i hope i did help

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How do you make icons? I know that you have to make them on sites and stuff but i dont have animation shop so were do i get it nd what do i do? PLZ HELP ME!

Read this ----> http://forums.buddy4u.com/viewtopic.php?t=13299 . It will tell you everything you need to do for animated ones (if you scroll down) and will give you links to turtorials andwebsites. I hope I helped!

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ok, at my dads house my brother and sister constantly make fun of me. last night they kept calling me a pig, and a special ed. and they will pysically abuse me sometimes. and they call me "g" casue i listen to rap music. and they like sing a song about me eating all the time. they are really mean. and i don't do anthing to them, and i tell my dad and he sazys either, i start it or get over it, or say something back, but when i say something back he says i start it!! what do i do?? please help!

Tell your dad this is really bothering you. When your dad tells you it's your fault or get over it say no and make him stop and listen to what you have to say. If he wpn't listen write it down in a letter and give it to him. I hope I helped!

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