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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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This girl I like told me that shes not interested in me, and she has done this several times. But she keeps acting like she does and says things all the time that make me think she does.
She says she loves me but shes not in love" with me. She told me that for my birthday coming up "I got you something special that your average female friend wouldn't get you if you know what I mean." and when we were talking on the phone I overheard her sister saying "you really have an obsession with him (my name) dont you?"
Then last night we stayed up talking and I told her I was upset, and she asked what I was upset about, and I said "nevermind it doesnt matter anyway" and she responded with "you do this to yourself."
I dont understand. She flirts with me all the time and says she always wants to spend time with me but in the end she says shes not interested in me. Why would someone do all that if they didnt like you? Its been like this for years.
Move on, Why are you sticking around giving someone attention when all they enjoy is the attention? You are wasting your time, She pretty much told you that.
Your life value should be more then focusing on someone who is all about getting attention. As long as you give it too her then it will never end and somewhere down the line you are going to burn yourself out. Meet someone who is worth while and won't spend years of your life leading you on.
Money is a key factor in the world today....when picking a guy should you pick one that can take care of you or should you pick one that is class b - works and makes ends
Meet, with no extras ?? Love is about equal from both - what's a women to do - any advice ??
Money doesn't buy love, Not at all
Not is only picking a guy for his money shallow but it's wrong. I firmly believe that when it comes to being with someone it's about loving them for who they are as a person. If you are picking a guy out for his money I am going to have to not just call it shallow as hell but it's not cool to be a gold digger. Put yourself in that situation, If a guy only wanted to date you for your money how exactly would you feel?... That ain't right and if that's your way of dating then maybe you shouldn't date at all.
I was using condom during vaginal sex, girl was riding on the top of me.
When she withdrawed vagina from penis, condom remained inside her vagina (I didnt see it from outside).
But she easily took condom from her vagina.
What is the probability that condom slipped off during sex, and not exactly during the moment of withdrawing vagina?
This question is important for me because of risk of getting HIV.
I'm not exactly sure what you are asking here but if the condom slipped off then there is a small possibility of contracting an STD as well as pregnancy. Like people always say nothing is ever 100% and even condoms don't always do it's job. If you feel more safe then you can always get tested.
i am a 13/f and i have had period for like 8 months now. i have tried tampons THOUSANDS of times!! i can never get it all the way in and it hurts!!!! and also if i wear a normal flow Always brand pad will people be able to see it through leggings or yoga pants?? HELP!!!!
If your periods are heavy then you could try using two pads. Sometimes tampons aren't for everyone and it shouldn't show through yoga pants but like I said if you feel more comfortable then wear two.
I a few months ago started watching porn which lead to masterbating. I also have cyber sex. I have seen dicks but only through pics and a video (live and not). I have masterbated with alot o things but never had a girl or guy like have sex or finger me or eat me out or butt sex. Am i a virgin?!?
Yes you are a virgin until you have sexual contact. Generally meaning sexual intercourse.
I am a 17 year old female. I am wondering how i can get rid of this build up of white, gooey stuff on my lips. I have a healthy diet, brush my teeth, stay hydrated, exfoliate my lips a few times a week with a warm wet towel, and I try never to lick my lips. I use the original chap stick brand and have tried others and I have also gone chap stick-less at times. This has been going on for as long as I can remember but is continually getting worse. I has become extremely embarrassing and unbearable in the last year. It's there when I talk to people and I can wipe it off with my nail but in highschool people notice. What can I do to prevent this?
White gooey stuff.....Hm
Have you gone to the doctors and been tested to see if you may possibly have oral thrush?
Does anyone have a list of the sears store that are closing?
I heard the news about the sears closings the other day but I can't find anyplace that says which ones are shutting down! I applied to one and have had two interviews, but I have another offer someplace else that I would take if my local sears store is closing.
Can anyone help me find out more about this?
This was just updated 20 hours ago on Yahoo. It's not the complete list but it's the most updated one I could find.
http://finance.yahoo.com/news/florida-hit-hardest-sears-store-220653249.html
do u pregnant by givin a blowjob and i was havin ma periods!
I suggest you start reading more on pregnancy...
If you do not know whether you can/can't get pregnant from giving a blow job then you obviously shouldn't be having any sort of sex at all.
18/f
I used to watch porn on occasion but now I've noticed that I've been wanting to watch it more often. I just feel dirty about it. Should I feel ashamed?
There is nothing wrong with watching porn at all, In fact it's completely normal.
A lot of women watch porn they just do not admit to it. It's most definitely not something to be ashamed of.
Hey,
okay so me and my ex broke up over a year ago.
Since then he went back to his ex,then broke up again. Then got another gf and split up. Now he fancies some other girl.
However, we met up the other day at college and he seemed into me. But on fb it's obvious he likes this new girl. Basically there is an agreement we are 'friends' and he gave me a christmas card.
Should I delete him off facebook? Because basically I keep on getting hurt-but then I don't want to look like a cow :/
Any advice much appriciated :)
It's entirely up to you but from what you've posted, The guy isn't about getting down to business with just one person. If you want an opinion I would remove him and keep it at that not only does he not sound serious but don't let yourself be another doormat he can wipe his feet onto whenever he pleases.
It's up too you but the golden rule of not befriending exes isn't so bad!
I heard on the news that sears and k-mart are closing a bunch of stores, but which stores are going to close?
Does anyone know the locations that sears and kmart are going to close? Like a list of stores that are closing or something?
Also! If I have a sears credit card does that mean that my sears card won't be any good anymore?
What about sears or Kmart gift cards? Are the gift cards still good even if you bought them at a store that is going to close?
Thank you!
Here is the list for Kmart
http://retailtrafficmag.com/news/retail_kmart_store_closings/
As for Sears, I heard they aren't sure what ones are closing at this time.
As for gift cards, As long as they are open I'm sure it would be just fine. If the store is out of business then your Sears credit card would be no good.
I'm 23/f. He's 25/m.
I'm engaged to this awesome guy and I have always gotten along with his family. There have been recent changes in our life and we decided not to tell his parents till it was the right time and place.
The couple of days ago, they asked a question very related to that recent change and I accidentally let it slip. They asked more questions about the issue and I answered, thinking I was answering correctly.
When they left, my fiance called me a liar and told me I lied straight in his parents' faces because apparently I had answered their questions wrong. I did not know I was answering it wrong, at all. I now feel terrible because my fiance tells me I ruined everyone's Christmas and holiday.
His father now is angry with me because I "lied". I was not lying, at least not intentionally. I was merely giving the wrong answer while thinking it was right. My fiance is furious now, especially that I accidentally let the info slip, and he will barely speak with me and I don't know what to do or how to fix this.
I need to mend things asap. I have tried apologizing, I have tried doing everything in my power, even giving it time. This is the third day and I do not want it to continue further... What should I do?
Thanks in advance.
This is difficult to say as their is some information missing. How long have you been dating, Engaged, What is your relationship like with his parents and exactly what do you mean by lying?
The reason I'm responding to what you've written is you may want to sit down and explain that you were put on the spot and are sorry for upsetting your fiance. Apologize to his family and tell them that there was a misunderstanding and you would never do anything to hurt them intentionally and if they still want to know then be truthful to them.
If your fiance is not willing to listen to you nor forgive you then you may want to rethink it over before walking down the isle and making a big mistake.
so my boyfriend and me have been going out for 5 months now. and we never fight its great. cause were both really chill :) .... but .... :( **iam 16 years old btw. (female)
(now i kknow this is going to sound bad please dont judge it just happen.... i feel aweful and i regret it but please dont judge with what i am about to say.)
--> so i really do love and care for him and he tells me he feels the same way. but his personality is always humor not to serious just likes to joke and have fun which i dont mind i find it amusing :p and im kinda the same so it works great. but last night i was sleeping over at his friends house with him and we were all in his friends bed. (me, my boyfriend and his friend) and were all pretty close haha but jokingly to piss off / amuse his friend as a joke me and my boyfriend started having sex. in the bed. and his friend lying right there (dont judge i know it sounds bad) but to be honest i only do this stuff cause he tells me to and i just wanna make him happy. i will admit im kinda whipped. but anyways so then as a joke he told his friend to join in. and hes always joked about 3 some. / sharing me (jokingly) and we had something like this happen before but not that bad just kiss. (same guy) as a dare. with him there. and so anyways he kept telling me to. and they both kept telling me to and to be honest i felt really pressured. and so i gave in. at first it was like jokingly i let him fuck me. :( with my boyfriend right there in the bed. and i just did it cause i felt pressured to by them. and my boyfriend just laughed at first and made little comments. then lied there and \"slept\" per say but i know he was awake but i dont know why i let his friend keep going. i honestly just didnt know what to say i wanted it to stop but i didnt have the guts to stop him. i was frozzeen. i didnt enjoy his friend at all i just wanted to be with my boyfriend. :( anyways i think this time it made him mad. cause he left the room. got up and walked out. and i was left there with his friend . and his friends like i think he cares this time... im like well then why did he tell me to? :( ugh!!! anyways i got up and left to and went to the couch away from them both and just cried all night. think im stupid and just fucked up how could i let this happen. now hes mad :/ which isnt what i wanted i really love and care for him i just wanted to make him happy. not mad. i did what he said i went along with his joke. and anyways his friend told me this ....
\"yeah he never admits to liking you and or any of his girlfriends and he wont ever admit it to us cause he just is hiding his emotions but i can tell as his bestfriend he really does care and like you cause of what he got you for christmas and the fact that what we just did effected him (it apparently never effected him in the past) but he must really like you cause he never spends money on his girlfriends and in the past hes onlydated a girl about a month or two and they fight all the time and we have been together 5 (almost 6) months and no fighting. and the fact he is moody and u effect his moods shows he cares.
(but the next morning he just walked by and left the house. he didnt say goodbye or anything to me....)
so basically im just asking. was last nights incident proof that he cares about me cause it effected him to see me with another guy? cause it never used to effect him apparently when he had a 3some in the past. and is what his friend saying true? or did i just fuck up and loose a guy i really care about :( i dont know what to do. or should i dump him cause he is treating me like a trophy and has no respect for me? :/ :( like i dont know what to think anymore. i do not want to loose him though cause all our friends are the same. i just dont know if im being treated like a trophy and used. or if he really cares and hes just starting to show it. please help :( sorry for it being so long :/
I'm going to tell you how it is
You fell under the influence, If someone was pressuring you then you should of NEVER allowed it to happen. You regret it, That is exactly why you were up crying because you feel guilty and you knew it was the wrong thing to do.
Sometimes no matter how close someone is with someone joking should only be taken so far before it gets out of hand. Maybe at first your boyfriend thought it was a joke, Maybe he second guesses his actions and is blaming you? Perhaps he realizes that sometimes jokes can turn into a big problem. Yes, It's a problem. Despite someone's interest a threesome can really mess with peoples feelings both mentally and emotionally. You are only sixteen and you've put yourself in a situation that not even most adults are able to handle. For the future I would watch just how much you joke around and what you joke about, You've been pressured and pretty much taken advantage of by both your boyfriends friend and your boyfriend. If you want my honest opinion I would probably move on and find someone who will not pressure you. Pressuring someone is NOT love and it is a very disrespectful thing to do. You may care for this boy but to tell you the truth someone who cares about someone does not pressure them. All 3 of you were wrong, Your boyfriend disrespected you and so didn't his friend. Take what happened as a lesson learned and make your 2012 a clean slate with someone who is worth your time in a respectful way that you should be treated and if someone ever pressures you again I hope you think before you act.
really nice jacket that I bought from the store has a broken zipper, how much will it cost to be fixed?
I bought a nice jacket and I dont want to take it back to the store because they dont have any more, but the zipper is broke when I zip it up it zips and breaks. Where can I go to get it fixed and how much will it cost?
Take it too a seamstress shouldn't cost no more then 15-20 bucks.
My guy friend was trying to hook me up with his friend, so we all went out and i asked my friend what he thought and he said, i was alright looking but was too innocent, what does that even mean? please help! and what do you recommend i do for the future?
I recommend you ignore him because by his statement I'm assuming he meant sexually innocent. I think you should find someone who isn't judgmental and perverted and respects you despite what you may be.
Quotes for people talking behind my back?
One quote I really enjoy
"If you are talking behind my back then you are in a perfect position to kiss my ass!" lol
So I was wondering if someone can get addicted to meth(through smoking it) if they had been using it for two days straight.
It is certainly possible, I wouldn't mess around with it.
i am a 13 year old female and i am curious of my female friends bodies. i mean i am curious about if they have pubic hair or big boobs so i peek when they are changing clothes and such. does this mean im a lesbian? because i have crushes on boys and think they are hot but sometimes feel an urge to kiss my friends if are faces are close together.does this mean i am bi or lesbian or just curious??
please no mean answers :) thanks!
Perfectly normal
You are young and are developing. If you look at your friends that does not make you a lesbian or bisexual. Many young teenagers are curious and this isn't unusual.
Lesbian defines someone who is sexually attracted to women or has sexual relationships with women. Not someone who is curiously checking out their bodies to see how one develops.
Don't be ashamed, There is nothing wrong with being curious.
well, me and this guy have been like close friends for a while, im 13 and he's 16, he asked me out on a date and i dont know wiether to go or not, there is a couple who are going to be there but im going to be sitting next to him and i think there gonna be sitting somewhere else in the pictures(movies), i was thinking of going but he said we could always munch(snog) if im up for it, i havent agreed to go of anything yet, but he says that he likes me and everything, should i go or not?(oh i do like him back but im wondering what yous think about it) and my bestfriend thinks i should because he is such a lovley guy and very good looking, its just the slight age gap?
In many states a 16 year old dating a 13 year old is illegal. You may like to think there is a "slight" age gap but at your age a 3 year age difference IS a big deal. Many older teens these days like to date people a few years younger because as much as he may appear to be gentlemen like what the hell is doing trying to date a 13 year old? No offense to you but you are young and vulnerable and I'm sure him being the older one is well aware of that fact. Skip it
The guy is too old for you and someone who is 16 shouldn't be looking to date someone so young.
Hi all... Here it is I have been with a guy for 6 years,recently just got engaged. We have has issues around drinking but they were never addressed I always looked past it - finally I have met someone else and decided to call it quits - this guy is wonderful I actually thought he was my soulmate. He takes care of me and life with him would be so different and stress free financially. Since I called it quits now my finance or whatever he shall be called at this time has decided he wants to change, not drink , be affectionate what I have always wanted. He always has a little 5 year old who I have. Know since infancy. Looking on some advice here ... Do guys ever really change , The new guy is head over heals for me and weI think deep down we r soulmates. Not sure what to do from here go and try living an awesome life or stay here out of guilt bcuz he is trying - also financial stability is ok. Please give advice ! I want to get married and have a
Child soon and now it'll be put off even longer ! When I am with my finance I feel nothing anymore but I feel if I tried I could make it work- I just don't wsnt to make the wrong decision..
Sounds like the guy is trying to guilt trip you, While it is certainly possible for people to change the question you really should be asking yourself is did he try to change at all in the course of 6 years that you were with him?
If I were in your shoes, I'd be considering the fact that he has had 6 years to shape up his ways and he didn't. I think the guy is jealous and is trying to manipulate his way back to you. Really, If you are happy with the guy you are with now there is no point in turning back. I personally would say stick with the guy you have now. If you felt nothing when you were with him then apparently over the course of time you've learned to move on. Don't let him guilt trip you as nobody knows the guy better than you and I'd imagine after 6 years you would already know the answer to your question. Move on and be happy with your life don't take 3 steps backwards.