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Fiance and in-law problems...
I'm 23/f. He's 25/m.
I'm engaged to this awesome guy and I have always gotten along with his family. There have been recent changes in our life and we decided not to tell his parents till it was the right time and place.
The couple of days ago, they asked a question very related to that recent change and I accidentally let it slip. They asked more questions about the issue and I answered, thinking I was answering correctly.
When they left, my fiance called me a liar and told me I lied straight in his parents' faces because apparently I had answered their questions wrong. I did not know I was answering it wrong, at all. I now feel terrible because my fiance tells me I ruined everyone's Christmas and holiday.
His father now is angry with me because I "lied". I was not lying, at least not intentionally. I was merely giving the wrong answer while thinking it was right. My fiance is furious now, especially that I accidentally let the info slip, and he will barely speak with me and I don't know what to do or how to fix this.
I need to mend things asap. I have tried apologizing, I have tried doing everything in my power, even giving it time. This is the third day and I do not want it to continue further... What should I do?
Thanks in advance.
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I agree with Zane; you are being a little vague here on what the problem is. What you said and whether what you said was the truth, as you know it to be or knew it to be at the time; or why you fiance called you a liar.
Having this information would help us formulate a specific answer to your problem. A general answer to your problem is what you have already tried; that is to apologize to all concerned. Try apologizing again, this time if your were not the first time, be more specific in why you said what you said.
You might say that their questions were so specific you felt compelled to answer as you did for whatever reasons you did. You felt their questions were so specific that they realized something had changed and....
I wish I could be of more help. Lack of information hampers my/our ability in formulating a better answer.
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This is difficult to say as their is some information missing. How long have you been dating, Engaged, What is your relationship like with his parents and exactly what do you mean by lying?
The reason I'm responding to what you've written is you may want to sit down and explain that you were put on the spot and are sorry for upsetting your fiance. Apologize to his family and tell them that there was a misunderstanding and you would never do anything to hurt them intentionally and if they still want to know then be truthful to them.
If your fiance is not willing to listen to you nor forgive you then you may want to rethink it over before walking down the isle and making a big mistake.
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