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Hi, I'm Emily. Call me Emily or Em, I prefer either. I have been a featured columnist 2 times now. After disabling my account I had about 3 years ago, a lot has happened which made me want to come back. I feel as though helping people with their problems, helps me solve mine, even if that doesn't make a lot of sense to any of you. Don't hesitate to ask me anything, I will answer fairly quickly depending on the question. If you want a hard-thought out answer, which is what I usually give, it may take a little longer- it benefits everyone in the long run.

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I need to make a video, probably under 5 minutes, that shows that I can sing, dance, and act. (I'd say the dancing is the least important and singing is probably the most important) I was wondering if anyone had ideas of what I could do to showcase the three talents.

Should I make three sections, one acting, one singing, and one dancing? Or should I do something where I'm singing, acting, and "dancing" (moving around) like a broadway type of scene?

Or is there a better idea? Any help would be great :)

definately go with the broadway. it shows that not only are you good at all 3, you can multitask and perform them even better while doing them at the same time. also, that way you can focus on the singing part more and the dancing part less. when if you did a three section piece, you would have to put the same amount of effort into all 3 things required. good luck!

Hi i need serious help!. I like this guy but i don't know how to tell him. He's so hot and sweet i don't know what to do i like so shy and kinda average for my looks. sometimes i feel ugly than others i feel beautiful what do i do

to be honest, i know exactly how your feeling, i feel the same way too. the guy i like texted me a lot and then we talked in person, and then started being mean to me. its like he thinks im ugly compared to everyone else.

dont think your ugly, be positive. no one else will think of you positive, unless you do first. the best thing to do is tell him. it will bother you until you want to go insane if you dont. just tell him, whats the worst that could happen? him say he doesnt like you? then hes a douchebag and not worth your time. you know your better than that.

What are some good ways to enhance hair growth?

ive looked into this a lot in the past, and unfortunetly there isnt much you can do to enhance your hair growth.

theres things you can take to make your hair healthier,which in the longrun will make it grow. but, it all depends on your herititary traits. if your parents hair never grew that long, yours probably wont either. everyone has a limit in which their hair will grow.

straighten in less and when you do, use straightening serum. straightening it on a high temperature makes it dry much quicker. blowdry it first, then straighten it on a lower setting.

Ok so i was watching the tyra show and it was gay for pay, so I looked up this guy who was on the show, his name was Kurt Wild, I watched a few videos of his, and now I find gay porn to be addicting I get orgasms by watching it, is this normal or no?

yes. everyone gets turned on in different ways. everyones different.

So I'm 15/f and my skin has been a little rough lately. I've always had very clear, soft skin. I use no makeup except concealer under my eyes. (I have dark circles) But lately, this school year, my skin has been getting weird for me. On my cheeks, I've been getting pimples and in between my eyebrows too. I don't have acne...not at all really, but I used to have such great skin and now it's getting worse. I use Aveeno Clear Complexion Cleanser at night, and in the morning I just wash with water. I use Fresh Soy Face Cream after I clean my face, but it gets me so aggravated! I want my soft, clear skin back. I'm a tan person. In the summer, my hair and skin thrives and everything is great. But, I'm in New york and it's a long, rough winter. My skin is dry and I rarely get any sun at all (I don't fake tan)..and I know it's not enough. I take fish oil vitamins and I eat healthy and exercise. But what is the issue here! I keep breaking out every week..if it's not one thing it's another. I don't know if I should try Proactiv, SkiniD, etc. because I'm guessing it's for people who have chronic acne. I know mine just might be the lack of sun and the winter conditions, but maybe using something for acne might make my skin almost flawless? If it's for serious cases wouldn't it make very mild cases much better? I'm really not sure..helllp! My skin is so important to me, and I'm completely dedicated to making it clear and healthy.

P.S. any natural remedies would be great!

usually, stress brings acne, usually easily curable acne, so don't fret that your acne wont go away, because it will.

try not combining all those products. use the same one in the morning and afternoon. that can really wear your skin down and make it unhealthy. so many chemicals mixing with each other.

fishoil vitamins work wonders. i take them too. they take awhile to see results, usuallly a whole bottle of them. taking the fishoil improves the quality of your hair and skin as well.

being a girl relly sucks i would rather be a guy, i love to be outside and hang in the woods, I dont even want to have sex ever, it grosses me out i hve been in plenty relationships with men but i dont wanna have my period nd i hate having boobs and having to do my hair all of the time is this normal????

i dont think you hate being a girl, you just hate the responsibilities of it, and the things that come with being a girl.

sex grosses a lot of people out, and some people wait until they're married to have it. dont be so concerned about that.

a lot of girls like the woods, thats a unisex trait, meaning, boys and girls can like it. there isnt a rule saying only boys can like this, and only girls can like that.

all girls hate having their period. ill bet you not one girl on her enjoys having her period. with the cramps and pmsing, no one can enjoy that. the boobs thing, i like my boobs. do you not like them because you are concerned about what boys think of them? do you want them bigger/smaller? do you think boys judge you on how big they are? thats a common reason not to like your boobs.

i think y9u'll be fine, just find your inner self and tell yourself you dont want to change. besides, its expensive and very painful.

A close relative ended her life a few months ago after struggling with chronic pain and depression.
Losing her was one of the hardest things I've ever had to deal with in my sixteen years of life.

I find myself a little lost at times, and feel as though there's no one I can really talk to about it.
Every now and then, I'll think that I'm okay, that everything's fine, but it's not. I go back to four months ago, that feeling of hopelessness and I just break down again and cry. I cry for my cousin, and I cry for the rest of her family that she left behind.

But I have to cry in secret. I feel ridiculous. Why?

Is it strange of me to still feel like this after four months? I feel like my parents get annoyed with me when I bring it up to them, so I don't.
When I'm not doing anything, my mind instantly wanders to her, and I'm constantly looking at her Facebook page even though I know she's not actually there anymore.

I get scared sometimes too about losing another relative or a friend. Anytime someone says "Ugh, I'm so depressed", I get angry. Because they don't even know the meaning of that word. But I have to be secretive about it, because I feel like everyone expects that I've already moved on from it. But it's hard. I'm struggling.

If I ever bring her up to talk about with a friend, they change the subject very quickly or else don't say anything at all. And they change the subject to these trivial things that don't matter.

And I can't talk to my extended family either because I feel like they think I don't have any major reason to be so sad about it. Because I've never been that close to any of them. But I was close to the one I lost. :(

lets just start off saying, you have every right to feel the way you do, and dont let anyone tell you different or that its wrong to feel like that, its not.

its not strange, let me repeat it, NOT strange, not one bit, to still feel like this after quite some time. when my grandmother died 2 years ago, i was in grief for about a year, and it really took a toll on me because a month after she died, i had my bat mitzvah, a big responsibility that i had to undertake. i got through it, and my family was there to help me through every part of it. so, please please please talk to your parents. i promise you, your parents WILL NOT get annoyed with you if you talk with them about it. they want you to feel better, and sometimes talking about it is really the key to getting "better". ask them to take you to the cemetery where she is buried so you can spend a little time there. im sure they wouldnt mind at all.

you have every right to get mad at your friends for saying that, because your right, they dont know what depressed feels like you do. tell them how you feel, and if they're real friends, they will take your feelings into consideration. they might change the subject because they dont know how to help you. they dont know what to say to make you feel better. and they might be afraid to say something that might offend you by accident.

Today I heard that you can set your phone to say "Message from (name)" when you get a text. How do you do that? I have AT&T, a LG Neon. Thanks.

i have also heard that, but unfortunetly, i only think it's possible with the iPhone 3G. my friend's does that, and i think its an application. too bad all phones cant do that.. :(

ok i dont know if i am a lesbian cuz i like lookin at other girls and i want to have sex with another girl but how can i tell if that girl is a lesbian and i love looking at girls boobs i want to suck on them so bad but i also like guys. also if you have sex with another girl can you get pregnant thanks email me a redsclub80531001@aol.com thanks so much i need your help please answer

you may be "bisexual" and theres nothign wrong with that, its just what you like, and its perfectly normal, and dont let anyone tell you otherwise. its different, and everyone is different than everyone else.

just like the person below me said, right now, you are "bi-curious" because you know you like men, but aren't quite sure if you like women yet, you may need to experiment first to see if its your thing.

no, you cannot get pregnant from having sex with another woman, because theres no penis penatrating the vagina. there isnt any sperm.

I usually have a coldsore every winter and I never thought anything big about it until recently. I read that cold sores are actually a strain of herpes virus and that you can spread it to other people. I also read something about spreading it to someone's lips by kissing them or...on their genitals if you give them head or eat them out! I don't want to give my boyfriend herpes on his dick though and I've been giving him head for weeks now! So, if you have cold sores on your mouth when giving oral sex, can your partner really contract genital herpes? What should I do if I've put him at risk? Should we both see a doctor about this herpes thing?!

yes, cold sores are a form of herpes, and they are VERY contagious if you don't treat them correctly and let them stay there. so to answer the question, yes, you can give your boyfriend genital herpes. i would suggest stopping the oral sex for now, until your coldsores are gone.

I know this is probably going to be to vague for some people but for those people who are COOL and know what cool looks like, can you help me by giving me tips on making pictures cool? Poses and stuff to do with like a photo editor and stuff? All my friend's myspace pix look the same same poses same places and I want my photos on facebook and myspace to look really cool!

i dont know if this is cool enough for you, but i like taking pictures with funky outfits on and with neon colors, then using picnik and enhancing all the colors to make the neon colors really stand out.

take a picture in front of a pretty background, and then enhance the background.

pretend your a model, get your friend to take pictures of you and make them "model like." its fun, and the pictures really turn out cool.

i have ben haveing black brown discharge for nearly a week and it smells very bad. im 16 and a virgin. i looked online and it says its for pregnant people, im not pregnant. i have no pattern in periods, never have. but im also highly anemic if that could have anything to do with it? i dont want to go to a gyno so what could be wrong?

no one can really tell you what it is other than a doctor, especially a gyno. they are experienced in this type of field and youll get more of an answer than on an advice site.

Hi. I'm 15, female. I have been watching the Olympics since they started and it really got me thinking. These people are my age, well 1 or 2 years older, and here I am not motivated just sitting on my couch. I want to go out and do something with my life. I mean, I do things, like sledding when it snows, I make some of my own clothing but I feel like I'm in the house to much. I mean, I read about Shaun White, whom I now love, and he is outside all day everyday, his mom said she barely sees him because he is outside all the time doing something. I want to be like that but I don't know what to do. I can't skateboard, or roller skate, considering it's winter time but what should I do? I want to get motivated, go outside and find something I love so I can finally say "I do __ and that is my passion." So can you guys just name things to help me get motivated and things I can do outside for long periods of time getting active? I want to make my parents proud, I know I have a 1 in 10000 chance of making it to the Olympics but I want to be proud of myself going out and finding something I LOVE to do, something that I come home from school, do my homework and run outside to say I'll be doing for the rest of the night. Please don't give me the "You're only 15, you have a while to find something you love doing." because in reality, I don't. Please help and God Bless.

its very mature to realize that you need to fix the ways your used too. even though its winter, you can still do lots of things that you love to do.

first things first, find out about any clubs or sports being held at your school, they are really fun and you make a lot of new friends who you can hangout with when your feeling like your home alone on the couch again, dont be afraid to ask people to hangout, its a good time.

sign up for a gym membership, most gyms have indoor and outdoor pools to swim in, you could start swimming and be in the 2024 olympics if you really wanted (; if you dont think youll go a lot, just go a few times and pay as you go.

try an indoor sport. like me, i play indoor soccer and i love it. im not necessarily the best player, but i love it and every game i play, i get better and better. even if your not good at something, try it, you might like it and you might be good at it.

go jogging outside when it gets a little warmer, or just bundle up with lots of layers and go for runs, its a great stress reliever and makes you in much better shape to do anything you want.

I have a question, last weekend I was turned on by a video I was watching it was a movie and too gay guys were having anal I got so turned on I had an orgasm. Is this normal????

yes, its normal. people get turned on in many different ways, everyones different.

I think I love my best friend his name is alex he has a girlfriend they have been together for two years but I can't help it I don't know what to do

this may not be what you want to hear, especially from a complete stranger, but someone has to do it.

if you guys are bestfriends, theres probably a good reason for it. you guys wouldnt work out as a couple because you guys are just too close and just know too much about one another. everybody has that relationship, its not just you, so dont ever think that.

yet, sometimes there are those rare exceptions. sometimes, bestfriends are the perfect solemates for people. they can act themselves around them, and they know everything about them, they're easy to please, and they've known each other for quite some time, so the relationship is just easier then starting out from "scratch" with someone you dont have a closer bond with.

wait to talk it out, maybe when him and his girlfriend arent so serious.

17/f and 16/m
my boyfriend and i have been going out for 8 months.. technically 9, and we havent done anything sexual. i mean, we have made out and hes felt me up but we havent gone farther than that. im waiting until im older to have sex, preferably married or engaged and he wants to wait too.
but heres the thing, when people ask me if ive had sex yet, and i say no.. they act all surprised and are like, WHY NOT?!! ITS BEEN 8 MONTHS, THATS SO LONG!!
even my parents think ive done sexual things with my boyfriend, and i HAVENT. ive never done anything sexual with anyone. why doesnt anyone believe me? and also, i get honesty box messages on facebook that say, "i dont know why your boyfriend is still with you if you havent given it up to him yet." [from boys]
am i not normal? i dont care if i am or not, its not going to change my mind on having sex or doing other sexual things, but i dont know. any advice or anything would be helpful, thanks.

your very wise for choosing to wait to have sex, you are both still young, and its YOUR relationship, no one elses, your the ones who control what happens, no one else. 8 months...or 2 years, its doesnt matter, its still sex, and sex can be dangerous, you do it when your ready, not because people are making fun of you for it.

with that being said, you are PERFECTLY, let me repeat that, PERFECTLY normal. just because you havent had sex, doesnt make you less or more normal than anyone else. yeah, you might get made fun of for it, and if people come up to you, you dont need to say anything, just ignore it and walk away, they'll eventually stop. and if it doesnt, just tell them it bothers you and to stop, theres no harm in sticking up for yourself right? im glad all of this doesnt change your mind, your very strong, and very wise. if it doesnt bother you or your boyfriend, it shouldnt matter to anyone else, and if it does, screw them.

I know that this isn't a health forum or anything but if anyone knows anything on the topic, that'd be great. I have a freckle (it's been there FOREVER since I was little) it's in between two of my toes (on the toe next to my pinky toe) its brown, but I saw a tiny dark spot on it.. it's like dark brown. It's a very small portion but could it be skin cancer or anything serious? I know freckles aren't usually skin cancer but any advice?

like the person below said, it could be many things, because your toes do rub together. keep an eye on it, and it the spot doesn't go away or gets bigger, see a doctor right away. have you done anything in the past that would trigger skin cancer? such as tanning at a salon, or not using sunblock everytime your at the beach, or using it, and not reapplying? these are things to think about. if your concerned, see a doctor.

does anybody have the pantech impact from at&t [pink and white one]
i really need a new phone, and i was wondering if this one was any good.. like texting and everything. i know it has the conversation texting, and i dont really like that.. but any feedback [negative and positive] would be great! thanks!

i dont have it, but my close friend does, and im also thinking of getting it. i dont like conversation texting that much either, so thats a negative in my opinion. the camera quality is fabulous, and is very clear. texting is very easy, and the touch screen on the front is easy and only requires a little touch, you don't need to pound on it for the screen to go.

explain why an athlete would need more calories than a person who leads a "sedentary" lifestyle

an athlete burns more calories, quicker, which means they need more calories to make them less hungary.

I'm fourteen. My boyfriend is sixteen. We've been dating for about three and a half months.

He has mono...

Mono can last like five months or longer... Am I really supposed to not kiss my boyfriend for five months???? :( please help.

it is in fact called the kissing disease. DO NOT kiss him. i repeat, DO NOT kiss him. yeah, youll be sad for awhile, but it will be worth the waiting so you dont get sick also. it happened to my bestfriend and her boyfriend, except she was the one with mono, but didnt know she had it, she gave it to her boyfriend.

on another note, only rare and severe cases of mono last 5 months or longer. usually you only feel it for about 2 weeks, sometimes even one, then you're ready to go back to school. after you get over the tiredness and all you want to do is sleep phase, you cant participate in sports for 6-8 weeks, but again, thats only with the rare and severe cases, because the spleen can explode, and thats very deadly. tell your boyfriend to be careful! after 2 weeks, id say your safe to kiss him again, but be cautious, make sure he goes to the doctor to make sure its gone. but, after you have had mono even once, it stays in your body, it just isnt active.

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